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Is it OK to sleep with your cheating ex’s brother…. if he’s hot?

Is it OK to sleep with your cheating ex’s brother…. if he’s hot? That’s what a young man named Tom from Mablethorpe, England wants to know. So he’s written into The Gay UK for advice.

Tom writes:

I’ve been flirting with my ex’s brother for a few weeks via Grindr after my ex and I broke up about a month ago. I caught him cheating on me with some guys. We were together for 2 years and were about to move in with each other.

This already sounds like a disaster in the making.

Related: Man Contemplates Sleeping With Cheating Ex’s Brother In An Act Of Revenge

Tom continues:

I’m heartbroken by it, but also infuriated and feel like he needs to be taught a lesson. I’ve been chatting with his brother who is also gay and he seems to be fairly up for a meet and muck about… He knows that we’ve split.

Now Tom is wondering if it’s OK to meet up with him “to have a bit of fun?”

Four different relationship experts at The Gay UK weighed in on Tom’s dilemma. Their advice was all pretty much the same: A resounding hell-to-the-N-O-no!

“You obviously aren’t interested in your ex’s brother, you just want to use it as revenge and that is not good,” one expert writes.

“I get that this has really hurt you but there is something called Karma,” another adds.

What do you think? Is it OK to sleep with your cheating ex’s brother…. if he’s hot? Share your thoughts in the comments section…

Related: Wife Enacts Ultimate Act Of Revenge On Husband Who Slept With The Male Gardener

h/t: The Gay UK

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  • RIGay

    There is a difference between “Revenge Sex” and “Tapping the Ex’s hot brother for a bit of fun”.

    There is no statute of limitations to say “You must wait x months before…” – if you think the relationship ended, then move on. And if moving on means to the next sibling over, so what?

    He might just be that “Mr. Right”.

    • Heywood Jablowme

      I agree, I don’t see what the big deal is.

      I should probably add, I have actually done this. LOL. The relationship with the Older Bro had already fizzled out (yeah, he was a bit of a tramp) and totally unbeknownst to me, the Younger Bro had a crush on me all along, so we went out a few times & had fun.

      I really don’t see what the worry is here, unless our pal Mr. Gremore is assuming that any Bro #1 in such a situation is going to be an irrational maniac. There’s no reason to assume that.

    • Eclatant

      “I’m heartbroken by it, but also infuriated and *feel like he needs to be taught a lesson.*”

      You did read that, right? Sounds pretty darn like revenge to me.

  • Sturzl1967

    If he’s hot? What if he’s average? Don’t understand why they had to add that at the end of the headline.

  • Paco

    He sounds like a messy drama queen. The ex’s brother needs to run or risk being used as a pawn to hurt his brother for someone’s petty revenge.

  • Alan down in Florida

    Isn’t this the storyline to every other episode of the Jerry Springer Show?

  • StupidBoy

    If you hooked up via Grindr, but just happened to know he was your ex’s brother, then it’s fair game. He just happens to feel vindication for it, but obviously they had some connection, or there would be no hookup.

  • Josh447

    It would keep him tied into the drama. Unless everyone is above board, which they aren’t. The bro he tricks with could also get hurt. Best to move on to greener pastures, free of steaming cow pies.

  • gary69mike

    Hell yeah! Especially if he’s hot!!!

  • chris33133

    No worse (and no better) than straights who date/marry their ex’s sibling. Sometimes these things work out; sometimes they don’t.

  • Bob LaBlah

    As soon as I saw Grindr I stopped reading.

  • Hussain-TheCanadian

    I would lend him my hand cuffs.; on a more important note, who is that fine man in the pic?

  • HMFan

    Ex’s, brothers, revenge… sounds like a recipe for disaster. If you GENUINELY like his brother and he GENUINELY likes you (or even if all you want to do is hook up), well okay then. But if you’re trying to get back at your ex and/or teach him a lesson, just remember that karma can work in mysterious ways and doesn’t always deal in the same currency. So rather than focusing on something negative and trying to hurt someone else, why not let the universe worry about that and you go along your merry way? Worry about YOU.

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