Ray Cole, 69, and his Moroccan lover Jamal Wald Nass, 22, whom he had met on Facebook six months earlier, were arrested in Marrakech for suspected homosexual acts and each given a four month sentence. Cole’s best guess is that the concierge at the hotel he was staying tipped off police.
He’s been released early following international outcry, and described the traumatic experience in detail to The Independent.
“This guy came up and started to drag Jamal away – physically. He was a policeman in plain clothes. He took Jamal by the arm and said, ‘You’re coming with me’ in Arabic,” he said.
The officer then turned to Mr Cole. “He said, ‘How do you know him? What’s he got to do with you?’ I said, ‘He’s staying with me.’ “Then things got nasty. He pushed me away and warned, ‘Either you go or you’ll end up in the van with him.’ Jamal was really frightened, I couldn’t leave him. He said, ‘Go to the van, give your name and address and we’ll let your friend go’…. I was pushed into the van.”
Mr Cole said the police had “trashed” their apartment as they looked for “evidence of an illicit relationship”.
“Straight away [there was] the insinuation that we were homosexual,” he said. “They [the police] said, ‘We’ve got religion here. You’re filth and scum.’ They did their best to humiliate us.
“They went through everything – even my PayPal account. My personal life was examined forensically. It’s horrible. You just feel naked. They can do whatever they like. It’s a total police state.”
He said in prison there was “screaming and banging on the bars and doors” constantly.
“We were taken downstairs and put in holding cells. They were hell on Earth,” he said. “The stench from the toilet will live with me for ever… I was put in a cell that would later hold 50 or 60 people,” Mr Cole said.
“The police sergeant came in and announced [to everyone] that I was a tourist who’d come to Marrakech to prey on young men.”
He said he was “terrified” and feared none of his relatives knew where he was. “I found out since that my family thought I was dead,” he said.
However his fellow inmates tried to help calm him down and brought him food. “They were so kind I can’t tell you….” he said.
Mr Cole was officially released on health grounds on 7 October. Mr Nass was freed shortly afterwards, pending an appeal.
“If we’re not careful his life there is ruined,” Mr Cole said, adding that he planned to help Mr Nass get asylum in the UK.
“Meeting Jamal has been the best thing that’s happened to me in years – even though I ended up going to hell for him I’d go back to hell for him,” he said. “I’ve discussed the age difference; he says he doesn’t think about it and nor do I. The only problem is in other people’s minds.”
aliengod
What an idiot. You don’t go to a third world muslim country to pick up an escort that you met on Facebook without expecting to get caught. He’s lucky that a short jail sentence is all he got. Hell… I’m scared to travel to Arkansas, let alone Morocco!
Trippy
The media really needs to do a better job when highlighting the dangers of traveling to certain parts of the world if the traveler is gay or lesbian. Everyone knows how naughty the Russian govt is towards LGBT folks, but you rarely ever hear anyone in the media warning gays and lesbians not to travel to Muslim countries. It’s not PC to do that. The threat is very real, and can (literally) result in life-in-prison or worse.
reallygoodthings
I want to know the name of the hotel.
Hermes
@aliengod: Morrocco is supposed to be a tourist haven.
Several comments though — aliengod — stop being a douche — although you demonstrate your own level of paranoia in saying you are afraid to travel to Arkansas. Obviously its a bit more than an escort if he is still trying to help the boy. Good for them, if they can both look beyond age I think they have positive things to offer each other.
Hermes
alterego1980
@Trippy: I have to disagree with you. The Muslim religious states’ oppression against most people, including gays is well documented and reported to the point where it should be common knowledge. I feel that this guy was taking a direct risk deliberately acting against the recommendations of the state department and the laws of that country.
swimguy80
A good reference for gay travelers is the Spartacus Gay Travel Index that has countries ranked by how gay friendly or unfriendly it is.
http://www.spartacusworld.com/gaytravelindex.pdf
JerseyMike
Looking for dick in a Muslim country… lol.. REALY?? And he is surprised they locked his azz up.
vive
@alterego1980, the State Department is in the U.S., not in the U.K.
Lots of Europeans visit Morocco and gay liaisons with locals there are common. These guys were just unlucky. As Hermes said, stop being douches and blaming the victims.
@aliengod, @alterego1980, @Trippy, you are so wrapped up in your r@cist assumptions that the local guy who is also affected by this doesn’t even exist for you.
Maude
In the sixties, I was invited to dinner by 2 elderly men I didn’t know, but I went as a guest of a friend I was seeing at the time………………The two men were celebrating the fact that they bought a house in Morocco, and were going there to live “next month”.
The moved there, and about a year later my friend got a post card asking him to send money because one of the two was dying in a filthy hospital, and if you don’t have money, you don’t get proper attention.
All my friend said was, I warned them, and so did everybody else.
I don’t think he sent a dime.
We broke off our relation ship soon after that, but not because of that.
I haven’t thought of them in years…..I think they were very brave, but also very foolish.
enlightenone
@JerseyMike: Now I know why I comment on this blog religiously though I comment on a number of blogs, many of them professional ones in my field. You made my day, Jersey Mike! Disclaimer: The “Spartacus Gay Travel Index,” along with the travel location’s website can be invaluable, especially for solo gay travelers.
ethan_hines
Never fails, if the country is a muslim country no matter where in the world it is HOMOPHOBIC. It’s time this so called “religion of peace” evolves.
ParkerSparx
The first thing you should always do is check other country’s laws and customs.
The UK gov’s. travelling abroad website specifically states that homosexuality is a criminal offence in Morocco. Even heterosexual couples that are unmarried can be denied a room together. You definitely don’t want to be caught w/any drugs. Even a little pot can get you a severe fine and possible jail time.
Was this the first trip out of the country for this guy ? Maybe if these guys desire a relationship, he can get him out of Morocco.
gaytourist
A lot of uninformed comments about Morocco here I’m afraid. Prosecution for homosexual acts is very rare in Morocco and almost always involves either (a) an adult with a minor or (b) overt behaviour so flagrant that it offends the public. If Morocco prosecuted homosexuality practically the entire male population would be in jail because gay sex is the national sport. The rule about sex in Morocco is very simple: You can do anything you like, but keep it PRIVATE. In this case the pair behaved in a way that caused several complaints to the police, so they were arrested and (brieflyl) imprisoned. It’s only because this case is so RARE that it was reported at all. Many hundreds of western gays live permanently in Morocco and thousands more visit every year, with no problem at all.
Just because a country is muslim doesn’t mean that gay sex isn’t rampant there and unofficially tolerated. Boys and men turn to each other because women aren’t available, and their behaviour is generally overlooked as long as its not too obvious. The pashtuns of Afganistan and Pakistan are the keenest gay pedophiles in the whole world. The shopping malls of Saudi Arabia and the gulf states are full of teen boys cruising each other after school. Morocco is one of the most homoerotic countries on earth….but it’s all about discretion.
Lance Mullholland
I’m thinking “Midnight Express” – the 1978 film starring Brad Davis.
Yes, it involved drug smuggling and was set in Turkey, but it got my complete and total attention as a kid.
Wherever you can hear the call to prayer from a minaret, or where soldiers guard the local gas stations (Mexico), I’m gonna be on my best behavior should the uncontrollable urge hit me to travel to these countries with the odd butt plug or copy of the ADVOCATE in my luggage.
Trippy
@vive: Yeah, you go with that.
vive
@Maude: “…a year later my friend got a post card asking him to send money because one of the two was dying in a filthy hospital, … I don’t think he sent a dime. We broke off our relationship soon after that, but not because of that.”
That was not a reason to break off the friendship? What’s wrong with you?
Stenar
If you’re an American and/or European couple staying in Morocco, they won’t bother you. If you’re meeting someone local, you’ll definitely get harassed. Especially, if the guy you’re hooking up with is young enough to be your grandson.
LadyL
@gaytourist: Discretion?? Don’t you mean it’s all about denial? So long as you’re suitably “straight acting,” and there are never, under any circumstances, any PDAs, and no one admits to anything, then everything is cool? Is that how it works?
But what if you aren’t a tourist but actually live in one of these countries? What if you’re sick of a lifetime of always having to hide? And living in fear of, say, being blackmailed by a coworker or employer or neighbor (or a vengeful ex) who threatens to hand you and your lover over to the cops unless you… (fill in the blank).
Or what if it’s simply that you aren’t capable of hiding even if you wanted to? How do effeminate men survive such an oppressive and hypocritical environment? (And where does this leave women? Do anyone even bother to discuss what gay women face in these places?)
All this talk about how terribly “homoerotic” Muslim countries are doesn’t mean squat if everyone is living under a cloud of fear.
Trippy
@LadyL: well said
Paco
@LadyL: Thank you. Agreed!
DarkZephyr
There is some shocking hate being posted under this article. I hope everything works out for those two.
mcdfishfilla
I was in Morocco with my boyfriend three months ago. No problems what so ever. When you travel you must respect the culture. Homosexuality isn’t accepted their so we respected their culture by not displaying it. Have some common sense when you travel and show some respect. This idiot deserve everything that happened to him.
Saint Law
@mcdfishfilla: “Homosexuality isn’t accepted their (sic) so we respected their culture by not displaying it.”
Who is this ‘their’? Ray Cole was locked in a confined space with between fifty and sixty men. By his own account none of them displayed any prejudice toward him – quite the opposite – despite being informed by the guards he had “come to prey on young men.”
He was arrested because he tried to prevent the arrest of Jamal Wald Vass who was arrested for talking to him. How is this not showing “respect.”
“This idiot deserve everything that happened to him.”
And that young Moroccan – did he deserve what happened to him? Released from prison after Cole and his family publicised his fate, he is now living they know not where under an assumed name because of the fear his family might find out why he was arrested.
I hope that you and your doubtless equally stuck-up boyfriend excite some official scrutiny on your next trawl through the Muslim world and that you both enjoy the hospitality of its penal system, you useless, prating shitwit.
mcdfishfilla
@Saint Law: And God Bless you too Hahahahahah
mcdfishfilla
Point is…you’re 50+ traveling to a muslim country to meet up with someone. Use common sense and read up on the laws and protect yourself like a normal human being. Think with your brain not your dick and you’ll do just fine. There are 7 billion plus people in the world and not everyone is going to like you, trust you, or even respect you, but you can at least respect the law of the land when you travel. Common Sense @ Saint Law “shitwit”…now I sound like you…someone with an IQ of a 5 year old little girl.
Cobalt Blue
The old brit queen with 69 y. o. dieing for younger marrocan dick of 22 y. o. that was possible interested on the sugar daddy’s wallet. Half a century between them! And then both acted as two big marys for the marrocan police ( wich I think is in the same lavel of any criminal ). All this happening in a third muslin country… I’ll be astaunded if nothing would happen.
petensfo
Marrakesh is actually pretty gay… but Morocco is a kingdom. The police will follow you and keep you on lists for all kinds of reasons.
I may deny myself, but I prefer to travel where I know I won’t be harassed. As for the age thing… why didn’t he have the young man travel to visit him in Britain? Love is grand but he wouldn’t money-transfer airfare so they could explore their relation in a safe place, eh?
I’ve also spent a lot of time in Mexico and each time I’ve met, often older gays that tried to explain to me that younger guys were happy to have their attention. Nothing to do with poverty… nope.
Sansacro
@Cobalt Blue: “I’ll be astaunded if nothing would happen.” I’ll chew on that for awhile.
Otherwise, a fair amount ignorance here. Morocco has a long history as a gay tourist destination, which is why many gay men travel there. Read up on W. Burroughs and P. Bowles, et al. I imagine there is more to the story than being relayed, although the age difference might have played a role. Nonetheless, believe it or not CB, intergenerational attraction does exist, and it isn’t always mercenary, but based on any number of psychological and erotic dynamics. Nothing wrong with it if both parties are consenting adults. Personally, the diversity of other people’s sex lives don’t bother me at all, as I’m totally cool with my own.
Doughosier
God, I hope when I’m 69 I’m not still chasing 22 year olds!
Maude
@vive:
….but not wholly because of that………satisfied?
Saint Law
@mcdfishfilla: Reading up on the local laws would not have protected him, because he wasn’t arrested for being in breach of them.
Cole wasn’t actually officially arrested, he was told all he had to do to secure Vass’s release was to go over to the officers driving the van in which Vass was being held and give his name and address. Where up on he was forced in to the van and taken to the station where he was held on charges that were never actually formulated to him in English. Whatever those charges were they were trumped up after the fact and on the basis of a ‘lewd’ picture found on his phone of himself.
So again you’re wrong.
Why you’re so stung by my characterisation of you as shit-wit is perplexing. It cant be the first time you’ve been told you’re stupid and your opinions are worthless, surely?
gaytourist
@LadyL: “Discretion” means just that. In Morocco straight couples are expected to behave with discretion too. You wont see Moroccan men and women holding hands in public for example. That doesn’t mean they are in “denial” about being straight. It just means that in Morocco there are different standards than in the UK for what you can do in public. And no, gay Moroccans and the many gay expats who happily live there are NOT in fear of being blackmailed or arrested if the police find out they are gay. Apart from a few nutters such as you would find anywhere, Moroccans couldnt care less if you are gay. Just stay away from minors and don’t go groping locals in public — and that applies whether you are gay or straight — and you won’t have any problems at all.
spencer87
@Cobalt Blue: First thing that came to mind was DESPERATION.It’s pathetic.
andy0529
Really……There’s a ton of Caribbean/European country’s you can’t go too much less a Muslim country….use a guide book or the internet, why put yourself in danger. As for the haters …..No I will never go the Caribbean, Mexico and certain states again, I prefer not to hide while on vacation
Ogre Magi
I HATE MUSLIMS
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
“Ray Cole, 69, and his Moroccan lover Jamal Wald Nass, 22”
MEMO TO QUEERTY: You need to enable the auto correct feature. Cause “lover” should have been changed to “rent boy”…………..
vive
@Maude, sorry, I was in a bad mood when I wrote that. Yes. I think you did the right thing.
BlogShag
I cant imagine anyone having a sexual act with that fugly. That’s just grotesque