If your response to the “top or bottom” question would be “N/A,” this one’s for you: A Reddit user in the r/gay subreddit recently shared a mantra for vers guys around the world.
“A pancake ain’t done ’til it’s been flipped on both sides,” the post reads.
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Some hardline tops and bottoms objected to the post. “I’ve done both, and I only like one side,” one wrote. “Sorry.”
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Another quipped: “Well, I’m not a pancake, I’m a pizza, and you don’t flip a pizza.”
But others heartily concurred with the post. “As someone famous once said, ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,’” one Reddit user wrote.
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Meanwhile, another commenter pointed out the analogy isn’t entirely apt, since you shouldn’t flip pancakes as often as you might flip in bed. “OK, but seriously, folks who complain their pancakes are tough, only flip them once and don’t flip them too early!” the commenter wrote.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
I prefer to identify as a middle……
bonbon
So tops and bottoms aren’t “done”?
Creamsicle
How about just being sex-positive without knocking each other down?
You like topping? Awesome. You like bottoming? Awesome. You like both? Awesome. You don’t care for penetrative sex? Awesome.
We have to sort through a lot of shame and stigma before we’re ready to just enjoy sex with other men. Let’s not add unnecessary and unhelpful stigma from our own.
If someone doesn’t like the kind of sex that you like, then just don’t have sex with them!
Crystix
Hear Hear!