This just in: Perez Hilton may or may not be asexual. He’s not sure. And neither are we.
On the eve of National Coming Out Day, the 41-year-old blogger released a video this week about sexual identity in which he wrongly conflates asexuality and abstinence and then laughs about it before going back and forth on whether or not he might be ace.
“I need to confess to you all something that I have been struggling with,” a teary-eyed Perez begins seemingly in earnest. “It’s been really heavy on my heart and I wasn’t sure if coming out about it was the right thing to do, but I need to let you know that… I am asexual.”
“That’s clearly not my choice,” he continues, before pausing for a moment and then suddenly bursting into laughter. “I mean, I’m joking, but I’m kinda not joking. I don’t know. I’m not asexual.”
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After wiping away his crocodile tears, he goes on a brief rant about Trisha Paytas, a YouTuber who came under fire recently for problematic remarks she made about being transgender, then returns to talking about being asexual.
“I have not had sexual-ness, this is true, this is depressing, it’s why I’m asexual,” Perez continues, “I have not had sexual-ness with anybody since February of 2016. Almost four years now! Wow.”
Perez, who appears to be confusing asexuality with abstinence, says he’s “OK” with not having sex with anyone because he’s “asexual with myself … 5.5 days a week.”
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A 2016 study out of the University of British Columbia and published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior determined that asexuality meets most of the criteria for classification as a distinct sexual orientation.
Here’s a handy infographic by The Trevor Project that explains what asexuality is and isn’t. (Note: asexuality isn’t simply being abstinent, celibate, or unable to find a partner.)
“I’m perfectly fine being asexual,” Perez says. “Am I really asexual? I am! Or not. Maybe I’m trying to tell myself I’m not asexual because I am.”
Watch. Or don’t.
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yea he looks like an old wrinkled man
wellinmysoul
I believe his asexuality is a product of his circumstances…
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max_isenberg
1. External circonstances cannot change ones sexuality
2. He seems to be confused as to what asexuality is. Most if not all of what he saying about being ace is inaccurate…
wellinmysoul
perhaps i should have said “a product of this opportunities”.
Paco
You are involuntarily celibate, Perez.
WashDrySpin
a gay Incel
max_isenberg
No such thing as incel… Its a literal oxymoron…
justgeo
Why can’t you just let this POS die?????
Tombear
The only persons sex life I’m interested in is my husbands!
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He won’t admit no one wants to have sex with him , so he’s now asexual…. :-p
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max_isenberg
Asexual doesnt mean no sex…like you, he doesnt understand what that actually means… Regardless, even among allosexuals (non Asexuals) sex is not a universal like, want, or need nor is there anything wrong with that
wellinmysoul
you too?
frenchjr25
He knows better. Not sure why he’d put out such a video knowing he’s using the wrong term. And no, if you are asexual you are not going to be “asexual with myself … 5.5 days a week.”
And I love how he’s so amazed that he hasn’t “had sexual-ness” with anyone since February 2016. What does that even mean?
Yooper
Did anyone make it through the first 30 seconds of the video? What the hell. Its anyone that tortured of a soul? This guy needs to step away from the camera and get some serious therapy. It’s easy to say “just shoot me” if I am anywhere near this dicks state of mind, though I don’t want to be considered uncaring. That said, just shoot me.
ElPillo
I lasted maybe 10 after speeding forward. Why would anyone care? Why would I care? Wait, I don’t.
Esscourt
Ask me if I give a shit…. wait—hold on…. just a few more seconds…. NOPE, I DON’T!!!!!!!!!!
sanfranca1
Perez Hilton: PLEASE go away!
JED08
No, I won’t even start this video, and if he thinks that bearded face looks good, it doesn’t, it looks awful, no wonder no one wants to hit that, which is the real problem that he’s trying to address.
max_isenberg
Except that asexual doesnt mean no sex…
That said, he doesnt seem to know that eithet since nearly everyting he said about being ace is inaccurate…
JackKirby
Is he relevant? Did I miss a meeting?
Michael1500
How does this person continually pop up in the media? How does a dud like him get to where he is? I’m sure some idiot will defend him, but for the life of me, I just don’t get it. At best, he’s mentally unbalanced, and just latches on to various subjects in which nobody gives a rat’s ass—- like whether he’s asexual?? Good lord.
Garth
Geez . Love showing the world your illiteracy ?
IanHunter
Remember that short period of time he lost weight, got in shape, dressed well, and looked hot? What happened? He aged badly?