Dave Tyson is a person trainer from Virginia and he has a message for the world–friends, family, and anyone who will listen: He’s a submissive bottom and he’s not ashamed to say it!
Dave made the big reveal on his Instagram page. He uploaded three images. The first was a disclaimer to his family warning them to “proceed with caution” if they wanted to swipe right:
The next two images were of Dave in his jockstrap, one of which is a little too risque for us to share on our site:
In the caption, Dave explains how growing up “I wasn’t allowed to be loving cause that meant I was weak! Black men don’t ask other men for hugs! We are tough and don’t deal with feelings and emotions.”
This caused him to stay closeted for many years. “But in the end who I really am came out!” he writes. “I’m gay and I love being gay but it didn’t stop there.”
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Dave goes on to explain that people expected him to be “the aggressor, the top, dominant at that”, but the truth is, he’s none of those things.
“Topping’s cool but it doesn’t do it for me,” he says. “I am a proud submissive bottom and I refuse to be ashamed of that any longer!”
He continues: “If you think cause I like a good pounding and being dominated makes me less of a man! My hustle and ambition says otherwise! If you think it makes me soft! Google me, yeah you can dot com me!”
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“The message! Recreate yourself! Embrace who you are and not what others want or say you should be! Don’t miss living your best life trying to live life like someone else!”
“I’m a proud black gay male! Yes I’m masculine, and muscular,” Dave says. “Now some of you may say, ‘What the hell do these pics have to do with anything?’ Well, these pics are a big f*ck you to what family friends or society say I should be!”
“And an amen to who I was destined to be!”
Armiya
Wow Graham! Weren’t you once voted (considering your output here, it’s a shocker) the best writer in San Francisco without a book?
Armiya
To add. It seems like the only time what passes here for being newsworthy, is if one of your *cough* ‘writers’ decides finding someone practically naked on an IG page does something people do every day. There are amazing people every day doing something with their clothes on, but since everyone on staff there is myopic in their tastes …
frankcar1965
Really Sherlock? This is Queerty, not fine literature, what do you think they would write? This is People magazine for Gays.
Armiya
Awww how sweet! The “best writer in San Francisco without a book” basically writes tabloid trash. And yep, “Sherlock” we get to comment on how valid or vapid it is. I wouldn’t say writing for People magazine would be something to be proud of.
Vince
Somewhat confusing but good for him.
troyfight
^Vince, to guys like me who get rock hard (at work) wanting to plow guys like this (morning noon and night)…it’s not confusing at all.
Vince
Yes but do you bring it up to your family?
troyfight
^Vince, would you bring it up to yours?
Kangol
Very good for Mr. Tyson! He’s gorgeous, he’s owning his sexuality and desires, and he’s happy and proud of who he is. I think it’s great. I would only say that I really wish people would make racial, gendered and class generalizations, like black men don’t ___ or all Latinos ___ etc. but I realize he’s speaking from his experience and truth, so I won’t criticize him.
projo
Why would anyone feel the need to let the world know that? TMI and no one cares. I’m thinking it must be a joke, no?
mhoffman953
@projo
Agreed. I could understand if he just came out and said he’s gay, but why the need to let his family know he’s a “submissive bottom”? Why stop there? Why not just let his family know if he swallows, if he likes cut / uncut, if he’s taken a fist before, etc. Seems like way too much info
Vince
Ha. Reminds me of this scene..
https://youtu.be/AOXQTr_3IVw?t=2
mhoffman953
Also, as I viewed his post on Instagram, he doesn’t have much of an ass. You’d think a muscular, black guy who claims he’s a submissive bottom would have a big ass, but it looks like a pancake
Zambos271
I was disappointed. I was expecting Chris Hatton or Dallas Wade size butt.
Kangol
@mhoffman953, once again, you’re stereotyping and verging on racist. Just cut it out, please.
davidjohng
It may be TMI but my read is that he wants to dispel gender stereotyping especially as he experiences it in his community. Homophobia can be intense there especially any drop of behavior that is associated with the feminine. I’ve known black gay men who cannot even hug. That rigid gender conditioning has consequences for everyone really and it makes me very difficult for gay men to accept and love themselves. I congratulate him.
mhoffman953
@Kangol
I didn’t say anything verging on racist. I don’t think you know what “racist” even means. Racist means that one views one race superior to another. If someone wants to brag about being a submissive bottom and proceeds to show off his ass, there should be something to grab onto there. The main question though is, do you agree that his ass is flat?
nitejonboy
Good for you man, you take that pounding!!!
CastleSF
It’s OK to be proud of one’s race or sexuality but this unhinged rebel hell bent on embarrassing his family had to reveal his bedroom sexual preference to the world to attract attention. A self indulgent attention whore is proud of something most decent gays would prefer to keep private and he doesn’t care one iota about the embarrassment he has brought to his family and relatives.
Queerzy
^^^^
Hey everybody, this guy is THE authority for what “decent gays” would do. Someone give him a querty article already!,
Oh wait, no-one cares what your pearl clutching def’n of decent is.
Jack Meoff
Look at me! Look at me! Look at me! Look at me! Look at me! Look at me!
frankcar1965
How classy for him to come out in Instagram. This social media crap is really too much. Now we see that Facebook has aided and abetted Trump and the Russians. Social media needs to stop.