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Queerty‘s New Year’s Resolutions For: 20- and 30-Somethings

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Following yesterday’s New Year’s Resolutions suggestions for teens and tweens, today we turn our attention to one rung up the age bracket: the 20- and 30-somethings. Often seen at exclusive lounge openings, hosting dinner parties for friends, and crisscrossing the nation in search of the latest protest or cause to volunteer for, this group of adult young people isn’t off the hook for ways to self-improve. Of course, we don’t have all the answers; help us out with some of your own tips for this group.

Give monogamy a try. Or, give multiple partners a try. At this stage in life, it’s possible you’ve maintained an ordered way of doing things in your romantic life: slutting it up, or bouncing from one relationship to the next. But might we note: the grass is always greener. If you’ve never been one for long-term relationships, or always been the type to remain chaste until the 34th date, try giving the other strategy a go. That doesn’t mean get married tomorrow, or turn yourself into a cum dumpster over the weekend. But if you keep thinking “this isn’t working,” you’re probably right.

Maintain some privacy. Not everything is meant to uploaded to Facebook. Yes, we understand, you got drunk in college. A lot. And maybe you are still getting drunk on most days ending in -y. But the whole world, and future employers, don’t need to see it. There’s something sexier about not knowing what you did last night because we read it on Twitter and actually have to, like, ask what you’re doing this weekend.

Volunteer. No way you’re getting off with the “I can’t find anywhere to lend a hand.” Whether it’s a LGBT youth mentoring group or an AIDS foundation looking for an accounting whiz, your skill set is needed dearly. Whether it’s a few hours a week or a few hours a month, the most valuable thing you can donate is time. The upside? Volunteering is actually not a selfless act; you’ll benefit too.

Let it go. Some of us are BITCHES! We hold grudges for no reason. We judge our friends for minor social infractions we’ve committed ourselves. Know how to lower your anxiety level? Forgive! Forget! Quit being such a bitch about everything. This one is especially reserved for those of you who are reading this and didn’t realize this one is actually about you.

Save money. You don’t have to eat every meal out, or grab the latest Alexander McQueen. If you’ve got an income of any sort, there’s enough there to put away even a small fraction. Call it a Rainy Day Fund or The Wedding Fund or, oh we don’t know, My Freakin’ Future, but put a few bucks away and don’t touch it. You’re at the point in your life where terms like 401k and IRA shouldn’t cause a blank stare. Debt is so unfashionable.

Call your mother. Really.