QUESTION: How Old Were You When You Lost Your Virginity?

An item in Jezebel pondered whether it was becoming more common for people to lose their virginity later—in their twenties, instead of their mid-to-late teens. Of course writer Katie J.M. Baker was talking more broadly about straight people—she cites TV shows like Girls and Underemployed and books like Cora Carmack’s chic-lit deflowering novel Losing It—but it got us wondering about when gays and lesbians are giving it up for the first time.

Our culture is evolving so fast that the stereotype of a queerling first experimenting in college is hopelessly outdated. Kids are coming out as tweens and sometimes engaging in sex before they can drive. Others are waiting years to engage in sex—whether by choice or because of discomfort with their sexuality.

So wherever you were, however old you were—whether it was hot and steamy or clammy and regrettable—we want to hear your story.

How old were you when you lost your virginity?

Of course, when you’re talking about gays and lesbians, you have to define what you mean by “virginity,” and by proxy, what you mean by sex.

Rather than come up with some catch-all definition, we’re going to leave it up to you: How old were you when you felt like you lost your virginity. Whether that was the first time you had an orgasm with another person, had oral sex or engaged in mutual masturbation. Or went for the whole enchilada.

Share your special moment in the comments section below.