R. Kelly’s ex-girlfriend Lisa Van Allen recently sat down with DJ Vlad to talk about her experiences with the mired R&B singer and things quickly took a homophobic turn.
In the interview, Van Allen talks openly about her sexual experiences with Kelly, explaining in graphic detail what happened during their bedroom romps, and using them to raise questions about his sexual orientation.
“He likes dildos,” she recalls. “I know he likes fingers in the butt with him on all fours. You going in and he’s throwing it back at you.”
“I know that’s a little graphic, but that’s what he does.”
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Asked whether she ever used a strap-on with Kelly, Van Allen says no, she only ever used a dildo on him.
“He does like penetration,” she affirms.
When Vlad goes on to mention Dominique Gardner, one of R. Kelly’s accusers who has been described by some as “butch,” “boyish,” and a “tomboy”, Van Allen admits that it has caused her to question whether the singer might also be into boys.
“It’s not farfetched if you like things in your butt,” she says, then laughs.
Now, let’s stop right there for a moment.
We can hardly believe we’re about to defend R. Kelly, but… Just because a guy enjoys a little backdoor play doesn’t mean he’s gay or bisexual. In fact, numerous articles and studies have found that many straight-identifying men enjoy receiving anal penetration from their female partners.
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Suggesting a man is gay or bisexual simply because enjoys having his butt touched is ridiculous and, frankly, homophobic, as it implies he is somehow interior and should be judged and ridiculed for it.
And, in this particular case, it’s also not helpful.
The story surrounding R. Kelly is very serious and very sad. Throwing out unfounded accusations of homosexuality or bisexuality only serves to detract from claims made by real victims of abuse.
Chicago prosecutors charged Kelly with 10 counts of aggravated criminal sexual abuse on February 22. The singer has repeatedly denied any wrongdoing.
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radiooutmike
That’s the REAL horror? That he might be gay, because he likes anal penetration? There’ s so much wrong going on.
QueerTruth
“The story surrounding R. Kelly is very serious and very sad. Throwing out unfounded accusations of homosexuality or bisexuality only serves to detract from claims made by real victims of abuse.”
Yes, I agree, so then why are you writing this “scandalous article”?
kamirX
The level of homophobia in the black community never ceases to amaze me. Any man, gay or straight, is capable of experiencing sexual pleasure through stimulation of his anus. It has nothing to do with his sexual orientation. And of course, not all gay men enjoy being penetrated, so that fact that RK might again says nothing about his sexual orientation. This was simply a cheap effort to denigrate him by insinuating he’s homosexual.
Greg
Women always open their mouths and talk like that. They’re so vindictive. She’s bitter because he dumped her.
Donston
There’s actually several women who have been involved with Kelly who, at some point, suggested that he’s into dudes to whatever capacity. She’s hardly the first. One has even suggested that he had a legit boyfriend. While there are plenty of guys who bottom for dudes, sees themselves as straight/bi/bi-curious/queer/whatever and don’t really have much general attraction, passion, romantic affections, relationship contentment towards men and only look to legit date women. It’s not at all unusual stuff. It’s a complicated topic mainly because of Kelly himself but also because everyone has their own thing going own as far as their sexuality and the romantic, sexual, emotional, relationship aspects of their orientation. It also brings up uncomfortable topics like sexual abuse, paraphilia and what all these identities really mean. Of course, this woman comes off as generally short-sighted when it comes to the nuances of sexuality and orientation.
Saps48
“…as it implies he is somehow ‘interior’ and should be judged and ridiculed for it.”
Well, that IS where the dildo goes, right…?
Pistolo
With these things there’s always the subtle implication that perhaps if he were out of the closet, he wouldn’t rape women. That sounds forward thinking but it really is just putting the onus on homosexuality and homosexual acts.
MAYBE he’s just a monster who’s heterosexual? And likes anal play? Is that possible? Yes it is.
Donston
There’s been years worth of rumors about Kelly hooking up with dudes and having secret boyfriends. And she’s hardly the first female who has messed around with Kelly that has suggested he might be into guys. But even if he were homosexual/homo-leaning/homo-romantic/gay (which I highly doubt he is) claiming that he would have been just fine if he was only able to be out is a cheap cop-out. Megalomaniac predators like Kelly aren’t interested in freedom or being able to openly be with the person they love and want to share a life with. They’re interested in manipulating people, dominating people and attaining/keeping power.
Jack Meoff
You can’t fix stupid.
Jared MacBride
Did I really read the words “unfounded accusations of homosexuality” and a gay website?
DCguy
Well then she must be into bestiality because those tracks are made of horsehair.
Seriously, the guy is credibly accused of child rape and she thinks “Oh, lets bring up something WORSE and insinuate he’s gay”???
Billy Budd
I define gays as people who feel attracted to beautiful men. I define straight as guys who feel attracted to beautiful women. If you masturbate thinking of a girl, then you are straight, no matter how many times the girl has fingered you or fu*ked you.
rand503
I would just add that men who feel attracted to beautiful lesbians makes them straight too.
Greg
If R Kelly is gay, then he wouldn’t have done anything to those girls, right?
paul dorian lord fredine
tempted to agree but then there’s the possibility he’s doing something to girls in order to prove something to himself, i.e. he’s in denial. personally, i think he’s just a pig and a creep and will do just about anything to get his rocks off. never let him pet sit for you.
rocmond
This article is hypocritical. If it isn’t helpful, why are you writing it? Sensationalism at its best.
Doug
People keep leaving out the fact that R. Kelly and members of his family have admitted that he was sexually abused as a child by both male and females. It’s common for that abuse to be acted out later in a person’s sex life, and when it is, it’s usually done in a warped or exaggerated way.
ruffmarine
Lisa Van Allen obviously has an ax to grind and enjoys the publicity and being in the public’s eye. I am not standing up for R Kelly but just because you like anal penetration does not automatically make one gay. I am a gay man and I had a straight friend I played with once because he was exploring and I used my toys on him, we had a great close time, but he is now married and has three kids and was appreciative that I helped open a door he wanted to explore. We are still great friends but I would never make implications about his sexuality just because he explored prostate stimulation! I just think it’s wrong for her to come out when she doesn’t really know the story for real.
dinard38
I wouldn’t be surprised at all if he hooked up with dudes. The guy comes off as a sex addict, and sex addicts are not discrimitive. But that’s beside the point, which is that he’s accused of having sex with underage girls.