A viral TikTok video has been making the rounds on social media. It features a young gay man, probably in his late teens or early 20s, talking to his mom about the super hot guy he’s chatting with online.
The son tells his mom the guy is 6’4 and that he “can’t wait to get my sh*t wrecked” by him.
Without looking up from her iPad, Mom responds, “So you are a bottom?”
(Clearly they’ve had this discussion before.)
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When the son insists that no, “I am not a bottom,” his mother looks straight into the camera and, without batting an eye, says, “Bullsh*t.”
She continues, “Have you ever done anything for anybody else? No. You’re a taker.”
Watch.
MOM OF THE YEAR pic.twitter.com/s2Rp95In4O
— @DCHomos (@DCHomos) November 29, 2019
controversial2019
This is disgusting.
No matter how close one is with one’s parents, to talk about being ‘done’ by someone (and with language as crass as ‘wrecked’), really exposes his immaturity.
Cam
Except that seems to be the relationship he has with his mother. Interesting you didn’t attack her for her part in the conversation.
pharaon.em.joe
You clearly have issues. His mom is his friend. Your mom is obviously not your friend. You wouldn’t understand.
ShiningSex
I’ve talked openly with my mom about sex and she’s done the same. She’s been supportive of me since I was 12 years old. Now I am in my late 40s and still have open conversations with her. It’s not disgusting. At least SHE TALKS TO HER SON.
OzJosh
I not only agree that it’s an inappropriate way to talk to your mother, but talking about sex in terms of getting “wrecked” or “destroyed” is pretty off too. It’s just not a healthy, positive approach to sex, even if it’s used jokingly. At the very least, it’s a total turn-off to some, so I wish gay guys would just stop doing it.
MISTERJETT
i would not have this conversation with my mother.
Itsonlythetruth
Somebody took too many bitchie and catty pills today. There nothing disgusting about a parent and child no matter what age talking openly about anything.
CityguyUSA
I find the whole “wrecked” commentary disturbing because it suggests that gay males can’t enjoy sex without being taken advantage of or abused or degraded however you want to look at it. It’s all about self-worth and self-esteem. The very same reason that most males can’t even post a picture without filtering it.
I personally think the filters make people look worse because of the distortions in skin color and extra elbows and a triangle shape sticking out of someone’s backside all to get 6-pack abs or a chest that goes out instead of in, square shoulders instead of drooping shoulders, brow lines, reshaped noses and on and on it goes.
I find it interesting that they see this as being different than catfishing except it has some vague illusion that it started with their body no matter that it doesn’t look like them anymore. They look at these images as they post them and say. “wow, that looks good,” except it doesn’t, it looks like you took someone’s picture and added your head. I’m talking about the head on their shoulders I wouldn’t even want to get into who’s penis is attached to who but it will make for some interesting DHS biometrics.
Most of these guys are spending their lives in the gym and it’s only making them feel worse about who they are so some 6′ 4″ guy can “wreck them”. That’s the reality of the gym is to get laid straight or gay. If you’re lucky you might get to have sex at the gym saving hours of cruising. I often wonder what is the return on the investment? How much money do they spend in fees, lotions, potions on maxing their body’s potential only to have to filter it to get a heart on IG to get an offer to meet up? What do they spend on their bodies for 20 minutes of sex with their faces shoved into a urinal?
We’ve all seen the amateur video where the first-time bottom gets a huge penis shoved into them and is screaming from the pain trying to get away but his partner is in control and he’s “wrecking” him. In just a few minutes that bottom has subconsciously reinforced his self-esteem to a new low. He knows what sex feels like now, his only frame of reference and so he expects it to continue with him getting wrecked, learning to tolerate the pain. If he gets wrecked enough he eventually won’t enjoy sex without getting wrecked handing over all his power to others. It’s all just a matter of the encounters he has and how they come at him. He may never know that it doesn’t have to hurt to be loved or touched. As he gets older and lonelier the more willing he is to give up what little esteem remains.
His only form of support in life was a mother that criticized. She told him over the years that he was “a taker”, “a bottom” a feeder, worthless, her internalized rage at him for being gay?
Oranos
I’d have to agree with you. Controversial. Somewhat.
The conversation does show some boundary issues, and for those who have a smart comeback, listen to the last thing she says to him: “Have you ever done anything FOR ANYONE. NO. YOU’RE A TAKER.” That is NOT a mom being a friend, for those who think that conversation was cool. She was not joking when she said the last part. I think some of you are reading a buddy/buddy thing into this. Mom had a little disgust thing going on there at the end. The dynamic of “friends” doesn’t change into that tone she used at the end.
But it’s good he isn’t going through the “how-do-I-tell-my-parents-that-I’m-gay” speech that so many gay men dreaded, it seems. The other stuff….nah, mom was being insulting.
mikey54
My mom was my bestest friend! I could tell her anything and she would listen to me and voice her concerns. She knew i was gay before i fully came out to her when i was 13 or 14, and even approved of my then high school boyfriend! She always told me to never hide who i was and i have lived my life as she told me to do! Yes at first it was awkward to talk to her but we were a very open family. When someone has a great relationship with their mothers and they support you the way my mom did this gay life was not so hard to get through! It is bad when not all gay men have a relationship with their mothers the way this young man and even myself had with their mothers, because they could be a very good sounding board and give the best advice! That young mans mother I applaud for being so open and caring enough to accept him for who he is, when other mothers and fathers throw their kids out in the cold just for being gay! Yes i agree she deserves the mother of the year award!
Creamsicle
We’ve gone through the looking glass and now gay people are telling each other that their families are not valid because it doesn’t conform to traditional roles.
The world is pretty wild these days.
wikidBSTN
Your mother and your father should not be your “friend”. The whole world can be your friend. But your parents are two special people with a special relationship with you and that is of a parent/child and it entails an interaction that involves much more than friendship.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
He’s taking being comfortable discussing his being Gay and his Mom’s comple acceptable a bit too far…..
ShiningSex
Sounds like it was all in fun. No harm. get over it.
maleficent
PWWO does not have the capacity “to get over” anything…. he’s an idiot, ignorant fool.
Kangol2
They appear to have a good relationship, and she’s clearly fully accepting of his desire to get his “sh!t wrecked,” so what’s the big deal? She did read him for his immaturity and entitlement beautifully too.
Chrisk
That would be way too taboo for me and my mom but then again were a product of our times. Talking about sex and even being gay was just never talked about. It’s a different world were living in for sure. My sister in law talks like this to her kids and they’re perfectly normal. This is a good thing folks.
Jaroslaw
Chris K – obviously part of this can be an issue for older folks, of which i’m one. But accepting your child’s orientation, making sure they understand basic sex education, VD, prevention etc is far cry from this conversation. I do not see any reason for this. It certainly wasn’t what I was expecting from the headline as you can see below in my other comment.
ShiningSex
I came out to my parents at 12. I am now in my late 40s and still have a great and open relationship with them. We have discussed sex or joked about it. No big deal. It’s great to have parents like that. Not many do.
xanadude
To each their own, but you are not taking into account this is for Tik Tok — chances are the entire thing was “scripted” ahead of time.
ShiningSex
doesn’t seem scripted. if it is, so what. it was entertaining.
Smith David
This made me smile. I am happy they are so comfortable with each other. I couldn’t even imagine(nor would I want to) talking to my mother about such things. My lovely precious mommy. I love my mom so much. Even though she won’t ever fully embrace my gay 🙂
Darsithis
That was awesome!
My mother was similar. She had a loose mouth when it came to sex and a very dirty mind (which I inherited). She would knock on my door when I had a boyfriend over and yell “sex police” and just up and enter. It was pretty annoying then but as I got older I found it funny.
OzJosh
Just because you learned to find it funny does not stop it being wildly inappropriate.
stevieboy3362
Heh. Some of us don’t have the luxury of being that open with our moms and families. I couldn’t. I’m already judged by them for everything else so why would I open myself up for censure? Cool that others have that kind of a relationship. I just can’t fathom it.
PrinceofPrussia
Having not had kids till I was in my 30’s, I couldn’t imagine my kids using that kind of language with me. But so many moms, and SINGLE moms, can be pregnant in their teens, and the moms and kids basically grow up TOGETHER, rather than the mom growing up, then the child following. So when parents and kids are so close in age, that is probably a bi-product of such a relationship. Not trying to be judgmental, just saying it’s a possibility.
Creamsicle
She looks like she’s in her 40s and he appears to be 18-21. She may have had him young by today’s standards (millenials and gen-Z are delaying marriage and children due to the rising cost of living and 40 years of suppressed wage growth), but it was not uncommon for many women to have children in their early 20s in the past.
Marcell
Lol, growing up a Jehovah’s Witness, seeing interaction like this helps me see just how far we’ve come. While some may consider it poor taste to discuss sexual conquests with ones parental figure, we can’t quite help putting our own autobiography in someone else’s story. Looking through this boys lens he has obviously grown up with a very different life. Even being able to pretty much order sex online and not go out and meet the old fashioned way. Speaking for myself, I’m a little jealous of the closeness they have and find myself celebrating for this truly accepted youth. Maybe he won’t grow up to be so judgemental and uptight. Cheers to Mom trying to be so accepting.
Grandolphrz
I think because he used the word “shit” made the mom think he’s a bottom. I would have told him to clean himself out before so there’s no shit to wreck. I think they are a little too comfortable with each other if the son tells his mom that. She doesn’t want to hear that. Also for the kid to use the word “shit” while talking to his mom is sort of inappropriate. He can use other words to express himself. He’s not talking to one of his punk friends. I don’t know what the mom means by has he ever done anything for anybody else. Huh?
jimmypalmieri
I love their relationship. the rest of you are jealous and bitter if you have to slam it.
ShiningSex
Hilarious!!! At least she’s not a hateful parent like so many
dali
I disagree, pharaon.em.joe. Parents are not their children’s friends as children are not their parent’s friends. Never!
intherealworld
Some people need to lighten up a little! He obviously said things to get a reaction from his mom.
Oranos
And CityGuy, too.
The concept to tenderness is one you don’t see much in the straight world, much less the gay one . I’m talking America here, not other countries that are older, and have an established culture (at least 1,000 years old). America is still a developing nation in that respect, given how much certain people dislike other groups.
So, it’s not surprising that the mindset of young guys is to find a guy who’ll” wreck ’em”. Of course, the culture (gay) supports the language among that generation (how many older guys do you see saying they want a guy to wreck them? Not many), so until it goes out of fashion…
But yes, with all the mindless porn sites (no faces attached to the bodies, just disconnected body parts ), and quick hookup connections, yes, this is not a surprise as to how he’s looking at a guy. He don’t want parity, someone he can relate to. He fantasizes about some guy throwing him over his shoulder and having his way with him (I think that’s part of ‘wrecking’). He’s pretty young, so I expect that kind of talk from younger guys. Hey, the brain doesn’t even mature in a man until 26. That’s why we get into such stupid stuff in our 20s.
That mom, though….whew….
Alfy
My ex used to tell his mom everything.. he would be talking to his mom on the phone and he’s telling her how many times he banged me last night and I’m just cringing. Maybe it’s an only child thing? Also I notice my latino friends were way open about nudity and masturbation growing up, like no problem if sister or parents walk in on them or anything, just keep on going.
batesmotel
It’s cool she’s great with the gays, but this is too close for comfort talking about being pounded, blown, shredded with your mother as a son. Talk about that with your friends and maybe even your siblings, but your parent is just off. As a parent I’d never want to hear about my kids telling me how they want to be pounded hard by a man or a woman. Go do it, you don’t need to be that detailed.
sunnyjay666
Just glad they didn’t need ‘our permission’ to have that conversation. end of story.
Chrisk
The problem some of you have with this kid and his mom says nothing much about them other the being open about their lives but volumes about you.
Hillers
Cute and funny, and it’s great that she’s at the ready when he tries to shock her.
Tombear
This dates me: I was discussing freshness with my mother the other day and………..
Creamsicle
I’m really amused by all the gay men here trying to invalidate another family’s dynamic. This guy is lucky enough to have a mom who embraces and loves him and doesn’t make him feel like gay culture is a big disgusting secret world. This is very similar to the dynamic embraced by many Chosen Families of gay people who form their own communities as adults, but somehow it’s inappropriate because she gave birth to him?
Treat women like people, instead of insisting that all sense of humor must die as soon as a woman gives birth. I thought gay men enjoyed quick-witted and unflappable women.
michel_banen
Wow, never imagined a viral TikTok video would ignite so many comments. So this was todays hype….. next……
stephen driscoll
Could it be that by “wrecked” this kid is talking about wrestling? It’s common usage by gay wrestlers who enjoy being dominated.
rbernard
Never could I ever have a conversation like that with my mother, my Roman Catholic mother.
She had really really a rough enough time finding out my college roommate was more to me than a roommate.
Forty one years later, I still have that roommate, who is more than a roommate and mother has fallen for him too…
Time heals all wounds.
queerty02
This is gross tbh. Children and parents aren’t supposed to talk about their sex lives. That’s just weird. It has nothing to do with homophobia.
fab0497
Mother of the year lol
Doug
Her son is a babe. I’d love to wreck his s***.
yaletownman
What is disturbing to me isn’t the conversation between mother and son but what the mother implied about being a bottom.
Her son may very well be a selfish little prick but to equate being a bottom with being a taker and never doing anything for others is disturbing to me. It’s reinforcing stereotypes and shaming by telling those that take that position they are less than and of a particular moral character. It’s actually a carryover originally rooted in misogynistic thinking.
nmarkwb
My God. Talk about being mosey.
nmarkwb
Ummm No. I would never be able to say “Get my Shit Wrecked” in front of my parents. I’m 49. Even when I was in my 20’s I would never have done that. Ha! ? Ha! ? Ha! ? Ha! ? Ha! ? Ha! ?. I’m out but there are just some things that one does not discuss with your Mom.