A waitress at the Dash-In restaurant in Fort Wayne, Indiana has taken her experience with anti-gay harassment to the web.
Michelle Crider posted a video to her Facebook feed on Tuesday, sharing a story about serving two unruly customers. “It’s just one of those tables that didn’t want to be bothered, is what I thought,” Crider says in the video. “So I served them and the guy said he’d take the check, I gave it to them and they were in and out.” When she returned to pick up the check, Crider got more than she expected. “I waited a little while to go pick up the check and to my surprise he wrote ‘I don’t tip f*gs.'”
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Throughout the video, Crider remains calm, expressing pity rather than outrage for her disrespectful customers. “I just can’t wrap my head around it,” she says. “Why did you feel the need, sir, to write that on there? If you don’t like gay people…that’s whatever…but to say something like that? I’m a mother. I work my butt off, sir, to pay my bills, to put my son into a good school and pay that tuition.”
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Crider goes on to further express her pity. “I don’t know what happened to you in your life to make you such a miserable person sir,” she adds, “but I feel very sorry for you.” She then adds that her co-workers and the Dash-In staff provided her with nothing but support, including a bouquet of flowers.
“You didn’t win,” Crider declares. “You’re the coward.” As a final needle, she adds one last clarification. “Try to understand what it is that you’re saying. I’m not a fag. I’m a d*ke.”
Sing it, sister.
@DmitriyR
To tell the truth i DO NOT realy understand the reasons to write anti-gay, anti-black, anti-white, anti-girl, anti-man and other anti -… thoughts on checks, napkins or smt like that. Really don’t understand
Juanjo
Sadly, there are people who do this. There are also so-called religious people who have these little fake $20.00 bills where the back side is a religious message. They like to leave these instead of a tip. People can be douchebags.
gymmuscleboy
@DmitryR Virtually nobody understands it. Despite the amplification provided by outlets, it is an incredibly rare phenomenon. However, we hear about it very often because it is used politically. Stories like this drive political allegiance, just look at the comments about Jussie Smollett – it was used as an opportunity to smear Trump and his supporters. I don’t know if this story is fake, but Queerty’s interests clearly go beyond serving gay people, so I take any stories like this with a grain of salt.
Patsy Stoned 75
Publish their names. Make it worthwhile.
Paulie P
she can’t they paid with cash. not a cc that would have their names.
SnakeyJ
More and more these stories are being proven to be hoaxes. In think people want the attention just like Jussie Smollett.
Gaymikey1960
I live in fort Wayne and I know Michelle, this is not fake this is true and it really happened! Why would you compare her with jussie smollett! Yes what he did was wrong and he will pay for what he did, crying wolf like he did don’t help protecting LGBTQ community’s safe from hate crimes when gays do what he did! But to compare every gay man and woman to Smollett is totally and completely wrong!
SnakeyJ
Not just because of Jussie, that’s the latest example. But a few other “receipt” hate crimes have been proven to be fake. And how do you know it’s true? Just because she said so? Unless you saw the customer write it on the receipt then you don’t know for sure.
iamru2
Sorry sister not buying your pity party attempt.
Brian
A gay website really doesn’t know how to spell d y ke?
Also, people get fired for putting this kind of stuff online, true or not, polite or not, as it usually brings all sorts of unwanted attention to the business. Hopefully she got the owner’s permission.
OzJosh
It should be abundantly clear by now that Queerty has no gay sensibility whatsoever. And mistakes like this rather confirm my theory that it’s run by a group of exploitative straights who are merely cobbling together any gay content they can find.
Brian
Heh, you may be right. They spelled Malcolm X wrong in a different article. You would think with as woke as they seem to think they are, that would be hard to pass by without notice from anyone before it got published.
xiphoid76
Unfortunately most of these stories end up being false. People seeking attention. I hate that my mind immediately goes there, but it does.
Dwight
Yeah, hate to say it but it’s true. Sometimes the person paying for the meal lets another member of the party get the tip. In those cases I write “cash” on the charge slip so the wait staff can’t take the receipt with a blank tip amount and claim it was done to them.
PoetDaddy
It makes me ill that so many members of the LGBTQ community find it so easy to attack our own members. Instead of giving our OWN the benefit of the doubt, they attack, attack, attack. It’s just nasty. Be supportive, be neutral, but don’t rush to be the first queen to jump on the attack band wagon.
Brian
Timing is everything
IAMBROWN
I LOVE her and I wanna be her friend. I truly believe that those guys are cowards. Write on a bill and then walk away? Really? Really? But this woman has class and integrity. Something those guys are lacking.
Doug
Love her speech, she sounds like someone I’d like to know.
thomes
so. I want to express sympathy if something like this actually happened.
But the last two stories like this, one an anti-gay note on a receipt to a lesbian server, and one a anti-Muslim note to a Muslim server ended up being hoaxes.
Both of them ended up apologizing in very public ways.
This may be true, but lets not reporr it as if it were Conclusively proven. Do better
Brian
If only we had a cautionary tale that illustrated the problems with this kind of blind faith reporting to push an agenda.
truthseeker
@thomes
I agree. These stories with notes on receipts have happened a lot and some are hoaxes to gain money and some are true.
Just like that guy who bought a cake at Whole Foods and claimed they wrote “f@g” on it. That turned out to be a hoax as well and the guy wrote it himself when they learned that Whole Foods doesn’t use the color icing he used
Nothing wrong with asking questions first
CobraPowers
This has happened before, didn’t it? And the woman who reported this had happened got a fundme and thousands in donations. And then turned out to be a hoax *inserts thinking emoji*
justyouandi
There have been a lot of stories just like this one that has turned out to be a hoax.
So, ….. I wonder …
Paulie P
she is not asking for anything so why are people thinking its a hoax… she made a statement. i work for a loving to support myself and my son and what you did will not change what i do. and hopes the person is not raising a child who shares his views.
jrh311
She’s asking for attention and that’s all people need sometimes.
Gaymikey1960
Gays who are calling this a hoax must be Trump ass kissers (I call them Trumpettes) you want to sit there behind your moniters and start flapping your gums with a lot of one sided blindfold’s on and have your bigoted views heard! I am from Fort Wayne where this happened, I know the waitress Michelle Crider and this did happen it’s not fake news or a hoax the trumpettes are calling it!
CobraPowers
And what do you call the Gays who support the anti American, pro open borders, pro socialist, anti family, anti Christian agenda? Satan’s little helpers? That would be honest. Some of us still have morals and values, some of us still have critical thinking and reasoning, some of us have seen these cases before and don’t fall for them so easily.
jrh311
Actually Trump supporters buy all the BS he spouts; they’re not ones for critical thinking. Now considering the numerous hoaxes identical to this situation, it is only logical to withhold belief. Not everyone is writing it off, but unfortunately, nowadays, you have to be somewhat skeptical. Plus, it doesn’t seem like people here know this woman like you do.
Virpilosus
I am saddened and disheartened by the plethora of very negative comments in this string about Ms. Crider. She shared a story and asked only to be heard… she deserves at least respect …and sympathy.
Invader7
If this is true, the so-called “christian” a-hole customers are SPINELESS cowards. They rarely confront people to their face. Because the cowards are small,pathetic, wretched , weak, scared, paranoid ,DELUDED, mentally unstable douche bags. I’d tell them to drop DEAD !!!!
Daltxman
How did they know she was a lesbian? Most of the women in Indiana look like lesbians.