Six Tips For Getting Your Man In The Mood

Whether you are in a long-term relationship, practice serial monogamy or simply like playing the field, getting in the mood with your beau of the choice can sometimes be a challenge. So we’ve teamed up with our friends at the AdamMale’s online store, along with the store’s resident sex expert Dr. Kat, to put together pointers for how to re-light the fire.

“Men love to be seduced,” Dr. Kat says. “Turning the tables on him can make him feel wanted and attractive–while you get to experience your own, more active, erotic energy in a very powerful way.”

Scroll do for six tips for getting outrageous sex…

Surprise him with a unexpected date

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When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, it’s easy to slip into a routine. Try switching things up every once in a while with a spontaneous date someplace completely unexpected. “Show him that you are up to the challenge by listening to him and getting ideas about what might ring his bell,” Dr. Kat suggests. “It could be catered box seats for hockey or taking him to a strip club for an erotic lap dance. Let him give you ideas and then let your imagination run wild.”

Feed him watermelon

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A 2011 study published by Urology found that watermelon can help improve a man’s sexual performance. Citrulline is an amino acid found in high concentrations of watermelon juice and is believed to help increase blood flow to the penis as well as boost libido. On top of that, watermelon is packed with Vitamin C, and at just 71 calories per serving, it’s a sexy, guilt-free snack.

Sext him at work

Surprise your man in the middle of his work day with a naughty text message, preferably when he’s in a meeting or on a conference call. Let him know that you’re thinking about him in that sexy suit and tie you are going to remove the minute he returns home. “There is power in erotic dialogue,” Dr. Kat says, “and if you use it even sparingly, it will probably pepper his fantasies for a long time to come.”

Douse your apartment in vanilla-scented everything (candles, incense, sprays, oils, etc.)

Vanilla-Beans-Closeup-iStockVanilla has long been considered a natural aphrodisiac for men. Beginning as early as the 1700s, physicians have recommended it to male patients as a libido enhancer. It’s sweet, powdery aroma has a euphoric effect that stimulates the mojo.

Set a romantic mood


Some smooth, sultry tunes paired with soft candlelight is one of the easiest ways to inspire romance. Music also has the added benefit of drowning out any thumping, squeaking, banging, or “ooooh-baby-yeah”-ing that your roommates or neighbors might otherwise overhear, the low lighting is great for hiding the fact that you were too lazy to vacuum before your man came over. Plus you know exactly what to do with the hot excess wax. “Be a little bold,” Dr. Kat encourages. “Find that part within yourself that loves to be playful and flirty. Role play with yourself with what a great lover you are.”

Grab the massage oil

61Lpc38vcoL._SY355_Who doesn’t love a good erotic massage? Or even a mediocre one, for that matter. AdamMale’s bestselling Uberlube Luxury Lube doubles as both a massage oil and a super slick personal lubricant so that once the rubdown heats up, you can take your explorations even deeper. Plus the smooth sleek glass bottle keeps the evening classy!

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