Woody Cook is a model and the son of DJ/producer Fatboy Slim and British TV personality Zoe Ball. In a candid new interview with Boys by Girls magazine, he opens up about his sexuality.
“I am bisexual,” 18-year-old Cook says. “It’s something I’ve known for three years. I always felt, growing up, that I had all these thoughts and I just shook it off.”
Cook says he realized he was bi after a girl he had a crush on told him she was gay:
One day I was at a party, and there was this girl I really liked who said: “It’s a shame you’re not a girl, I’m only really into girls. It’s great being gay.” And I said; “Yeah, I’m gay too, I’m bisexual.” I just said it as a laugh at the time, but then the next day I woke up and thought: “Why did I say that?” And then, the more I thought about it I thought; “Oh my god, that explains everything!”
He calls it a “miracle moment.”
“My entire life had been really conflicted, and I suddenly realized that was it,” he says.
Asked whether he’s more into girls or boys, Cook says it changes, literally, by the day:
One day I feel it’s completely girls, and another day I could be thinking about guys. I don’t know if it’s a gay time of the month, haha. But it changes day to day. It’s very fluid. Love is love, you can be who you want and love who you want. That’s my viewpoint.
He says that he hopes by coming out and speaking openly about his sexuality, he can be a role model for others.
“I want people to feel like it’s okay being themselves,” he says. “I’d love for my impact to be that more people have a good time. We’re only here once, so you’ve got to make it as good as you can.”
Donston
Sometimes it does seem like a reach when it comes to who gets highlighted for coming out. Even if Fatboy Slim himself had come out it would barely be article worthy. But I never want to down anyone who is sharing who they are and opening up.
Based off of what he’s saying it seems his “homo side” is mostly about fun, hook ups and partying for right now, which is cool, especially at that young of age. And yes, fluidity is real people. There are some people who feel heterosexual then bisexual, bisexual then heterosexual, bisexual then homosexual. There are people who develop or lose some attractions or arousals or interests in certain people over a span of time. Telling people to “be what that want to be” does feed the anti-gay and the “homosexuality isn’t real” crowd. But there are indeed many people who have dimensions in their romantic, sexual, emotional, relationship spectrum, and many of those people ultimately only truly feel gay or straight despite their quirks and dimensions. That is what that is.
GentlemanCaller
I firmly agree with you that sexuality is fluid and in some cases situational. However, it’s also true that for most folks it’s a more binary situation, and one based deeply and intrinsically in who they are, biologically and psychologically. But celebrating stories of young men who express their homosexual side as a “feeling” that is very much of the moment and generally frivolous does (as you say) directly feed those who would insist that ALL non-heterosexuality is choice-driven and psycho/emotional, and not a natural biological state. That makes this all very difficult, because on the one had we should celebrate everyone, but on the other hand the very act of embracing a broad spectrum of seemingly choice-driven sexuality strengthens our opponents’ case, and our opponents are becoming more not less powerful–at the moment, at least.
Donston
It’s a complicated debate. Yes, this young man in another year or two may say he’s actually straight or gay or that he’s not “bi” but just has an “open mind”. On the other hand, I’d randomly argue that about 40% of people do experience some type of fluidity within the romantic, sexual, emotional, relationship spectrum in their lifetime. Do you really think all these men who come out as “gay” after dating women for years or being married to a woman for years and having babies are all homosexual and have always lacked any time of attractions/feelings towards females? Yes, heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality are intrinsic and life-long for a good deal of people. But the focus should less on trying to “prove” orientation and more on promoting honesty, self-understanding, self-worth and being with and loving who you truly want to be with and love. There are many people (particularly famous people) who identify as gay but aren’t really homosexual. A lot of gay and straight identifying people see themselves as “gay” or “straight” because of their persistent and most fulfilling romantic, sexual, emotional, affection, relationship passions and contentment. It’s not particularly about being homo or hetero. This is where a lot of the “be who you want to be” talk comes from. But people do often need to clarify and give nuance and weight to the discussion instead of just throwing out basic and sometimes problematic phrases.
Accepting that everyone is different, everyone has their own sense of self and their own identity that they feel bests fits them- that’s really where we need to get to.
frankcar1965
Queer as a picnic basket, as my brother always says. Bisexual really, whatever, who’s next to come out as “bisexual”?
Donston
Being effeminate and twinky doesn’t equate to being homosexual. Just like being “manly” or “masculine” doesn’t equate to being heterosexual or bisexual. These types of stereotypes is partially why people feel they can’t be genuinely honest about themselves, partially why toxic masculinity is a thing, partially why internalized homophobia and resentment towards having same-sex romantic/relationship preferences and contentment is still a thing, and why so many see “gay” as limiting, one-dimensional, de-humanizing and/or emasculating.
He’s still super young. He may eventually embrace a gay identity despite apparently not being homosexual. He may not. That’s up to him. Hell, in another couple of years he may say he’s not particularly bi or that into dudes and is only seriously interested in dated chicks. You never know. But unless this site keeps posting about him I doubt many will be checking for updates.
justgeo
And this is important because????????? Content is more and more just AIR. Find some meat!!!!!!! I don’t mean your flaccid ‘Goods’ either. Why does this rag exist. More and more repeat tired content. If that’s all you got find something inspiring more than a west coast so-called phyc.
domen8r
Perhaps u may want to “get off the rag” yourself and find another publication with editing that does not induce personal tirades. No good reason for yr polluting the air u abhor here, making us all *cough cough* suffer yr bile.
paul dorian lord fredine
then why do you keep coming here…or are you only happy when you can find something to be upset about and turn you into a raging bitch-queen? just leave. few here would miss your hissy-fits.
Ashke113
Give it a few months then he’ll “come out as full on gay” saying he was afraid to disappoint his parents or didn’t wan’t to ruin his *career* as a model……and as usual Queerty thinks this lame story about yet one more so-called bifluidnotsurestraightgaybutisinghisgaysideasareasontoparty is something important to post about.
johnnymcmxxx
Another demi-famous Gay boy easing into his truth by claiming to be Bi. Alright gurl.
Donston
You probably mean “semi famous”. And I’m not sure that he even fits under that description. Merely being the son of a producer who was popular about 20 years ago doesn’t really equate to any level of fame… until you come out the closet.
It is true that people do frequently keep their distance from “gay” for ego, sociological, “confusion” and career purposes. And there are people who are actively trying to nullify the “gay identity” and pretty much push the idea that unless you are 100% conventionally homosexual from a sexual, romantic, affection, emotion and relationship standpoint you should never attach yourself to “gay”. And that makes me uncomfortable. However, I do understand dimensions, fluidity and individual sense of self. While sarcastic, dismissive people like you are partially why some people are scared to say they’re “gay” even if they know they have overall same-sex preferences and only really want to be with someone of their gender.
Vince
Easy to make fun of but it is the rite of passage for most of us.
M K
He’s actually only “bi” until he finally comes out as “gay”…. Stepping stone to be more easily accepted by others (and himself).
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Agreed, while there are true Bi-sexuals, for young kids declaration of Bi is like testing the waters.
Kinda like Gay with training wheels :-p
nitejonboy
He’s cute, I’d shag him.