The fantasy of a fabulously wealthy person falling head-over-heels in love with you and whisking you off to a new life free of financial burdens has its obvious appeals.
But in reality, like most things, it’s a hell of a lot more complicated than that.
Setting aside the crushing defeatism that comes with choosing an overflowing bank account over an overflowing soul, there are a million little details that might make this dream of luxury start to sound like a golden prison.
Yet there will always be someone out there willing to sign on the dotted line for all the wrong reasons.
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
Take, for instance, this self-professed straight 24-year-old who recently took to Reddit to answer questions about his planned marriage to a wealthy 51-year-old man. “I’m in it for the money,” he wrote, “and he knows that. I have no interest in a relationship with a woman, so I figure why not.”
Yikes. Where to begin?
Do you have sex with each other?
Yes, we have sex.
Do you engage in one night stands with women?
Yeah, I can still hook up with women just so long as I don’t bring any home with me. So either at their place or a hotel or something.
What’s the point of getting married without a romantic connection?
You’d have to ask him I guess, since I’d ask what’s the point of a romantic connection in the first place. FWIW I kind of fake one for him, although he knows I’m faking.
Are you the top or bottom?
Usually I bottom but sometimes he wants me to fuck him.
The original poster says his sugar daddy is worth upwards of $11 million, and that he’ll be the sole inheritor.
But many point out that 51 isn’t exactly old, and what happens when they break up twenty years from now and he’s left penniless, some of the best years of his life signed away on an iffy-at-best bet to get rich?
One curious mind covered all the bases:
Do you swallow? Would he be considered handsome by other gay guys his age? Do you worry that you may get too old for him and he’ll divorce you for a newer model?
Also, are you ok fucking a guy and being married for the next 40 years of your life (in the case he lives to 90) for the final payout?
Yeah, I swallow if he finishes in my mouth. I’d guess he looks alright for his age but I don’t think most younger gay dudes would be throwing themselves at him (although who knows, the younger-older thing seems to be kind of a thing for gay dudes). He actually seems to be more about the “relationship” than just having sex with younger dude so I’m not too worried about that.
Yeah, I’m pretty okay with it. Plus I don’t have to work now and I can afford to buy whatever I want (or rather he can afford to buy whatever I want).
Another commenter shared a similar experience, making us wonder how often people are getting Anna-Nicole’d out there.
Seeing as the decision-making part of the brain doesn’t fully develop until age 25, we expect this story won’t conclude exactly like this young man hopes it will.
Kyle DeBlasio
He is not str8…. Getting it in the ass and swallowing at least make him Bi
Jerome Robertson
str8 no bi yes, dude your dick getting fucked and swallowing cum and you still want to be consider str8
pjm1
The younger guys should make sure they do not
sign a prenup or at least if they do — a “generous” prenup.
Even without a prenup, they should consult
an attorney who can advise them of the laws (think, divorce, alimony,
property rights, etc) in their particular state.
If they do sign a prenup, they should have their own independent
attorney review it. Independence is key to proper advice for both
parties.
David LeMaire
Hope he’s left out if the will, without his knowledge.
Rodney Church
Say whaaat now?!! C’mon dude, be fo’ realz
Captain Obvious
Another lame fantasy from Reddit… and about worshipping straight guys again. Wouldn’t expect anything less from idiots on the internet.
Pablo Maine
whore
Andy Herbert
I don’t think this makes him bisexual. If he was seeking men on the side along with women, then I would consider him as bisexual. He makes no mention of seeking other men. Money is a powerful tool, and one will can go great lengths to acquire money. If he is smart, he’ll set up a personal bank account and divert some of that money for his future.
sportsguy1983
Sounds like an onion story
Lawayne Williamson
Relax everyone he is just Gay For Pay. Hell If a Sugar Mama wanted to take care of me, I could do it, but have my studs on the side.
Curtispsf
I call CLICK BAIT.
Mario Francisco Garcia
If this is what’s going for “gay news” we’re in trouble
James Connelly
Then he is not str8
MacAdvisor
“what happens when they break up twenty years from now and he’s left penniless,”
The divorce laws of every state provide lifetime spousal support for marriages that last twenty years or longer, so the younger man would not be left penniless. One of the major reasons for the fight for marriage equality was access to the divorce systems to end our relationships. If the two merely live together, then the economically disadvantaged party has little recourse (even Marvin actions are very hard to prove). Once married for two decades, the economically disadvantaged party will simply not be left without resources. In community property states, while sole and separate property remains just that, couple all to often intermingle resources and use community assets, such as wages to support separate property, such that the community gains an interest. Baring some really horrible prenup, this boy should be just fine after 20 years.
Had Liberace actually married Scott Thorson, he would not have been able to toss his boytoy aside so easily.
Ronnyboy
Damn. That’s my fantasy too. Marrying some hot young stud. I’m in my 50’s too and not at all attracted to guy around my own age. I’m not rich by any means but you can’t help who or what your attracted to either.
Alex Soejarto
The second coming of Liberace?
Glücklich
Fantasy? Sounds more like a nightmare.
Streamciter
Yes, marrying him and knowing that you’re his sole existing heir does provide some security that being some old man’s “boytoy” when you have nowhere else to go doesn’t. Personally I moved in with a wealthier older man who gave me a lot of promises when I was 24; when I was 31 he died and left everything to someone else, and I found myself homeless and sick. But I’m not straight and I did have genuine feelings for him. Personally, I DON’T wish that on anyone.
Giancarlo85
Let’s stop posting these fake fantasies.
Stephen Mole
What self-centered tosh. Get some important news.
Chris Vogel
This all sounds very heterosexual. As for spousal benefits, they can be much more generous than noted above, depending on the statutes of the state or province in which they reside. For marriages, they come into play immediately, and include maintenance/support payments and a legal requirement (commonly included in a “Dower Act” or the like, for 50% of the deceased’s estate). For common-law relationships they can commence immediately (if the relationship is registered, where possible) or after two or three years living together “as if married”, for which there are tests such as being “held out” as spouses, sleeping in the same bed, having joint financial accounts, and the like. The kicker, though, is what it is that gets divided: the wealth accumulated during the relationship, which might not be much in a short term. There are exceptions, too, to what is deemed divisible marital property. For example, a gift to, or an inheritance received by, one of the parties, are normally excluded from the division. The wealth eligible for division of both parties are pooled (on paper) and then divided equally between them.
Lindoro Almaviva
Good for Ken Mehlman. At least he will not be spending his nights alone.
paul dorian lord fredine
sounds like he found an alternative to gufundme. if true it just sounds like he’s a lazy fuck (no pun intended, i think) and would probably fuck a goat if there was money involved.
Joshua Greenberg
To each their own……. Its not our place to judge who people love or judge how they live their lives…
[email protected]
Good for them.
Sidney Davies
Why is this news? This isn’t news.
Gary Hecklinger
Ok then he is not Straight helllllloooooo
Jimmy Lee
Prenup??
skilos
If he’s so proud….what’s his name and where’s his picture???
OhHellNo
Keep in mind that this is the internet, so he’s probably a 40-year-old virgin in his parents’ basement making the whole thing up.
Patrick Healey
I think he’s no better than a crack whore and soulless to boot. At 51 the sugar daddies not very old. If I was the sugar daddy I would worry at some point a house hold accident might happen like his tooth brush explodes! Quicker inheritance and if double indemnity accident insurance proceeds.
Arcamenel
He’s not bisexual. Stop equating the ability to have sex with a certain gender to sexual orientation. I’m as gay as they come but I’m sure if I was horny enough I could get the job done with a woman. He also says he bottoms mostly so it’s not like he has to put in much work on his end.
As long as both don’t have any misconceptions about their “relationship” then I don’t see anything wrong with this.
Tim Bruns
Frankly, who cares?! Women have done this with men for centuries.
Desert Boy
He’s straight and he swallows? I’m confused? How many hetero men swallow?
Nancy Le
Joseph Nguyen
Fvk847
who cares.
Billy Budd
He needs to have a good prenup and to stop swallowing.
DeserTBoB
TOTALLY AND TRULY DISGUSTING!
greyhound1954
The girl can’t help it.
Bisexual-Transwoman
How is this guy actually hetero? He’s either bisexual or gay.
connorlarkin19
Pure fabrication–NYT’s journalism a la Jayson Blair. Dupes, read the article full of gossip and no facts. Why are readers so full of drama and naifs?
Marvellis1
The young man is bi and sell. Many gay prostitutes claim heterosexuality, and many tricks are lonely older gay men. This has been going on since Roman times and is well documented in literature. Good luck to them both, they are doing it on the up and up.
Kevin B
Whatever gets you through the night! It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks if you are okay with everything. Hopefully, a few years of it doesn’t leave you feeling empty and things end on a sour note.
Charlie in Charge
Sounds like they deserve each other.
Smashnut
It has happened to me but I couldn’t do it.the man was old this was about 2 yrs ago I was 28.he wasn’t super rich but I didn’t wouldn’t have to work and I am gay but what’s the point if I wasn’t in love.i would of had a very nice house,money,rv (lol),trips around the country.he was “top but never got hard (between us;)he couldn’t put down the pipe/needle) also wanted sex parties eveey weekend.another reason I didn’t do it,I couldn’t marry over night and get everything signed to my name.
Rick Holtz
They both sound like a couple of douchebags.
Martin Barry
Sign me up
Joseph Huffman
Congratulations and the best of life to you both ….. =^..^=
Roger Honeycutt
He ain’t straight
Brian
Women marry men for their money all the time. Do you think that 25 year old women in Hollywood marry 80 year old producers for the sex? Give me a break. Look at the late Anna Nicole Smith – she married some old geyser for the sex….yeah, right.
I don’t see you gay guys criticizing these women. Maybe you’ve got double standards.
Face it – the person with the least sexual desire in a relationship is the person who is usually in it for the money. The other person in that relationship is in it for the sex. Can’t you see that?
In this article, we have a perfect example of this: the straight-identifying guy (the one with the least sexual desire) is in it for the money whereas his sugar daddy is in it for the sex.
McShane
@Brian:
Anna Nicole Smith, did not marry Old Faithful. Go home Jason, you’re drunk.
Giancarlo85
@Arcamenel: Um, that’s assuming the story is true, and considering its source… it’s about as likely as pink unicorns existing.
Lookyloo
@Kyle DeBlasio: @Jerome Robertson: How does swallowing or bottoming equate to being gay? You don’t have to be romantically or physically attracted to someone to swallow their cum or allow their dick in your ass.
I’d say it’s far easier to suck a dick and bottom if you’re straight – than it would be to top or get hard for a bj. Now, getting sexually aroused naturally for gay sex MIGHT be a sign of homo or bisexuality… but being a willing/paid orifice is proof of nothing.
Giancarlo85
Um why the fantasies about straight men having gay sex? That’s how many on here are like. They want straight men to have sex with them.
David Dewberry
Cheers to the happy couple
NoCagada
@Andy Herbert: Sophomoric at best. There are plenty of married men who have sex with many men on the side and don’t chase after other women.
Brian
You don’t need to be aroused to be a bottom. A bottom can simply spread his cheeks. It’s the top who has to be aroused.
The unaroused bottom is a seller. He is selling himself for money. It’s purely a financial transaction.
Thus, a man does not need to be at all attracted or turned on by the top. If he’s simply in it for the money, he spreads his cheeks and that’s that.
Why do you think female prostitutes can have sex with 20 different men in one day? Women do not have the strong, constant sex drives of men. The only reason that female prostitutes are having sex is because it’s a sale.
It’s all about the sale – don’t ever forget that.
Billy Budd
This kind of relationship is ABUNDANT in the straight world. Why shouldn’t it exist in the gay world? Think about it for a minute.
Giancarlo85
@Brian: Wow. How nice. You don’t need to be aroused or turn-out to be a bottom… just let the top be aroused. Some one sided shit. I wonder if you ever had a relationship let alone having sex.
And excellent job on labeling all bottoms as prostitutes. You’re an idiot.
Jay Fisher
That’s called bi sexual
jwtraveler
I don’t know if I believe this story, but if it’s true, why should I, or anyone, care what two consenting adults do? It’s a new twist on an old theme, but it’s their business and no one else’s.
Brian
@jwtraveler: I also don’t care if these are two consenting adults. However, I would care if they started distorting the truth about their relationship – ie if the younger man was saying how much in love he was when in fact it was purely a financial arrangement.
martinbakman
$11 million is fabulously wealthy?
The fabulously wealthy would consider these 2 trailer trash. Sounds like they are.
footwork61
@Kyle DeBlasio: Straight or gay isn’t what you do. It’s whom you love. There are plenty shipboard or prison hookups between people who don’t love each other, but are using (or being used) by each other.
Brian
I believe that the younger man is completely attracted to women. He has no desire for sex with men. However, he isn’t having sex with a man because he desires him. He’s having sex with a man because he wants something from the man – ie money.
Spreading your ass cheeks doesn’t require arousal. It simply requires that you put your hands where your ass is and use a little elbow grease.
Brian
The younger man has NO desire for sex with men. But that is COMPLETELY different from saying that he doesn’t WANT to have sex with men. Wanting and desiring can be mutually exclusive.
For example, I want to go to the bank to pay my credit card debt, but I have no desire to do so.
Giancarlo85
@Brian: You can believe whatever you want, Smeds… doesn’t make it reality. You’re just an idiot that’s all.
KerryB
A ‘straight’ man marrying a gay man is an abomination!
Verlaine
I’ve been the “Provider” for a number of younger men, with an age difference from 4 years to 30 years, over the last 40 years. The length of these relationships ranged from a few days to 9 years. I heard a lot about “co-dependent” relationships, and I guess some were.
But there are a lot of smart, cute, poor and hard-working young men in the world, some just need a little help, and they can be very appreciative of time, knowledge, protection and gifts. It was not always money and goods, sometimes it was employment or shelter and privilege. But they needed it, and the nice man provided it.
We all get one life so why not enjoy it in the most fabulous way we can? I am very attracted to some young men and I might enjoy their company. I am willing to share and care. I’ve always been the older guy who was a little better off.
Joshua
@Brian: just cause he says he has no desire doesn’t make it true plus he may just not have desire for this man. I bet there aren’t so many women. He would be miserable taking a dick up his butt and sucking for so long if he wasn’t at least bi
DutchGay
So the older guy hired a full-time “Gay for pay” prostitute. One can afford it while the other is willing to…. uh…. ‘take it’.
Seattleguy
I find it a very practical arrangement. They both are getting what they want and the manipulation is up front and out in the open. AS another poster mentioned, women have done it for eons. My personal fantasy is to be so loaded I could pay college tuition for about a dozen jock college students in exchange for services rendered plus private orgies for viewing. I would want bi boys who could get into it and how I liked as people.My own Sean Cody harem as it were.
Seattleguy
“Who I like as people” it should read.
jag4313
I’ve known of 2 people that actually went through this. They were the “young, pretty arm-piece” of these older rich men. One of them got dumped for a younger version after just 3 years and the other one is still working out to this day. Although both guys do identify as gay.
Brian
A man who takes a dick up his butt doesn’t need to be aroused at all. He only has to provide the hole. A hole doesn’t need to be aroused.
How do you think lesbians have been having sex with men for thousands of years? If a lesbian is defined as a woman who is exclusively attracted to women, it doesn’t prevent her from providing her hole to a male. As I said above, a hole doesn’t need to be aroused.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of dopey molls out there who can’t put logical thought processes together.
Giancarlo85
@Brian: Logical thought processes? You don’t seem to possess any. You Neanderthal… What century do you live in? Your ideas of sex shows your true colors, Jason smeds. You have no clue what you are talking about.
Ladbrook
This whole scenario (if true) sounds positively Roman in concept. Wealthy Roman leaders used to “adopt” distant relatives as “sons” for the sake of inheritance and the transfer of power. I don’t know how sexual these relationships were in general, but I’m sure that some of them involved May-Sept romances. This young man may be spreading his legs for his “husband,” but it sounds more like an father/son arrangement more than an actual marriage.
That being said, if I were a young straight guy, I might be willing to have sex with another man for money if I were hungry enough, but I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t marry a guy in exchange for support. That’s insane, and it tells me that the young guy is both bisexual and crazy. That husband of his might want to sleep with one eye open. I don’t think he’ll live to see 70, much less 90.
aidanbh
The article asks, “What happens when they break up in twenty years time and he’s left penniless?” Haven’t you heard of divorce laws? If the State allows for a marriage in the first place, it certainly allows for a settlement.
Jos Callinet
There are probably many reasons why this young guy has chosen to cast his lot with the older man. The easy money is an obvious one — but usually there are more than a few additional less-obvious reasons why he’d go this route.
There is something “settling for” about this arrangement that strikes me – namely, the lovelessness involved. The young guy has said he has no interest in long-term romantic relationships with either sex. To me, he’s “going through the motions” to get the one sure payoff he wants – the financial security which the older man is providing him.
In actuality, the young dude has taken on no more nor less than a full-time job. The job’s offering pretty good pay (if not long-term security) in exchange for putting up with sexual activities he otherwise has no real taste or desire for. I hope the homosexual activities he has to endure aren’t nauseating him – that would be a pretty hefty price to pay.
I, personally, would find this arrangement humiliating and debasing. Even a very large sum of money and financial freedom would not be worth my selling my soul down the river for. But the young guy evidently doesn’t object too strongly to the (I assume) distasteful tasks he has to perform on the older man in exchange for his monetary reward – so what’s a little sacrifice of personal dignity?
In any case, who are we to judge? Both men are adults; both have (I assume) entered into this arrangement of their own free will with no coercion involved. How this “marriage” works out over the long term for both remains to be seen.
Jos Callinet
@ Ladbrook: I agree – the older guy may have no idea of (or have an unconscious wish for) the danger the younger guy could pose. You have pointed out another side to this story which should not be overlooked – the hidden possibility that the young guy could be very dangerous.
Quingcess
ON the whole gay/straight thing the boy can call himself whatever he wants.No one has the right to call him anything else. Only he can identify himself. If people started throwing names and labels for y’all you would not appreciate it. YOU DON’T DECIDE HIS SEXUALITY.
On the marriage, he can do whatever he wants. He is an adult after all and he seems to know exactly what he wants. He is aware of the consequences. All of you should sit down.
This article makes everything sound bad. it is biased.
NJjoe
Whatever floats your boat…
Giancarlo85
So much talk about a REDDIT article. Consider the source guys.
François Lestage
Pas guay mais a l’argent
Oona Gorman
Well. Best of luck. Keep your day job.
stranded
I don’t think this is deplorable at all. For those who believe in the romanticized idea of marriage, then i can see how this can be insulting. For me, though i will fight for the right to get married, it doesn’t yet mean anything that special. Good luck to this kid. I don’t judge sex workers, so why would i judge him for entering a marriage for money? Especially since he’s being honest with his sugar daddy. These are two consenting adults. No one is being fooled. I will say that he better make sure to have a good lawyer read the prenuptial agreement. When shit hits the fan (which it will), you know the one getting the better deal is the sugar daddy. Make sure nothing gets taken away if you cheat or impregnate a girl, or if you want to leave the marriage, make sure you get paid.
As far as his sexuality goes. I don’t think swallowing or bottoming is any sort of proof that he’s even bisexual. Sexual preference comes from the act of desiring not consenting. We don’t know what their sex is like. If he’s getting off then, yeah, he’s bi at least, if he’s going through the motion then he’s just a sex worker getting through a job and thinking about that Porsche.
MJ Silva
I call bullshit.
Paco
@Giancarlo85: It was on Reddit, so it must be true.
Mikah
Well,they have an understanding.It’s their relationship.If he wants to buy a boy toy then that’s on him,it’s not just women marrying for the riches anymore lol,and lets not forget about the sugar mamas out there paying for dick nowadays.Lol
tallfithndsmsxy1
To each his own. But It’s really sad that this “gay” man won’t get to enjoy “true love” from someone that will love him for him and not love his money and just think he “looks alright” and someone that emotionally detaches themselves from him. But the nerve of this peon assuming that he’s going to OUTLIVE the man and the money is just going to pour in. Since he’s on record he better hope the guy dies of natural causes, cause his motives are already questionable. Furthermore Swallowing and getting fxx’d in the ass made you LESS straight the day you agreed to have sexual intercourse with another man. Straight up full of shit is what he is. And who’s to say he doesn’t die before the gay man. A RICH gay man at that can live a looooooong time. And I pray he lives till he’s 80 which will then make this bastard 54. And then he will find himself being a sugar-daddy. And last time I checked women don’t screw rich men for fun.. and better yet he may meet his younger self (a gay man) ready to fuck and swallow his ass into the grave… but again to each his own if a man wants to buy a lover and he’s content with it.. God bless him. But karma will be waiting
jwtraveler
@Brian: Why do you care? How does it affect you? You’re not marrying him, are you?
BlogShag
Another bisexual (they scare me the most) fuckin’ freaks. Or he is a manipulative hustler who really is straight
BlogShag
This is sooo stupid. How in the world does this guy think he is straight?? It’s called BISEXUAL, you doofus. Or maybe the Queerty editor just has his head up his ass again as usual.
meghanada
I clicked on Queerty today just to see if they would have an entry about straight guys. And voilà.
mz.sam
He’s politically incorrect and as ‘Queer as a three dollar bill’….but mainly densely in denial.
felchapo
My name is frank doe,i’m gay!!! i need of a good looking and loving guy who can make me feel more like a man,one who will take me way out of this world with just a touch.long lasting relationship….here is my kik:felchapo or email:[email protected]