Straight Guys Confess To Doing Gay Things When Stoned

o-MAN-SMOKING-WEED-facebookIt all started with a Reddit thread titled: “Weed makes me temporary gay. Anyone else?”

The post was published earlier this month by Reddit user throwaway15935745625, an allegedly straight male stoner who wrote:

I’m quite a hardcore pothead but I quit at some months of high intensity studying. I feel very attracted to girls and not at all to men when sober, but when I get high I just want a big cock to suck and a man who fucks the shit out of me.

Anyone else happens to have the same effects? Just curiosity, not that it really bothers me since I’m still attracted to girls while high, but I sometimes feel wierded by male friends whith [sic] whom I don’t usually feel attracted to.

Naturally, the post sparked a big reaction among Reddit users. Over 120 people responded to the inquiry, with their replies ranging from sincere and helpful to hilariously stupid.

“Sexuality isn’t just black and white,” LitteringgAnd wrote. “Nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to the same sex at different times in your life.”

“Sexuality isn’t binary,” gwvent added. “People tend to fall somewhere on a spectrum. It’s totally normal to be curious and want to experiment. Maybe being high just makes you more open to the idea?”

“My circle calls this Highsexualism,” PapaTua chimed in, “You sir, are possibly a highsexual.”

Suspected Kabbalist shoebotm suggested that perhaps the man’s ego is to blame:

Maybe it’s the boundaries of your Ego dissolving when you’ve reached that ‘transcendent’ state, so your guard is down an your ‘true’ self rears it’s head. I’d be curious to how this would work with LSD, I’ve had friends come out or reveal/discover those feelings while tripping.

Then there was this pearl of wisdom from someone by the name of Photonomicron:

Occasionally wanting to suck a dick when blasted out of your mind doesn’t make you “gay”, but go for it if you want. If you sobered up and then felt the urge to curl up in a burly man’s chest and be held by his big muscled arms until the world passes where it’s safe and warm and have some kisses on the cheek and THEN suck his dick, that’s a better sign that you’re truly homosexual. Either way, do what thou will and don’t feel any need to assign labels to yourself or formulate an explanation story for others.

Realizing one is sexually attracted to members of one’s sex whilst high on drugs isn’t as uncommon as you might think, according to Brainstream420: “A good friend of mine realized he was bisexual while on acid.”

“Weed seems to break down some barriers for me,” fearachieved concurred. “I definitely explore my latent ‘gay side’ while high… I’ve only stuck things up my butt while high.”

“[D]rugs of pretty much any kind make me very horny,” cbarrett1989 confessed. “[M]ost of the time I’ll fuck my fiance but sometimes I have to jerk it so I think about the guys I’ve been with. No big deal bro, do what feels good. That’s what I do.”

It sounds as though throwaway15935745625 may have followed this advice because afterwards he amended his original post to include the following post script:

After that happened for a few time [sic] I decided to have sex with a guy. Maybe its because I’m just 19 and he was like 23 but I felt so grossed that I couldn’t go beyond oral sex.

So there you have it, fellas. Sometimes straight guys get high and think about doing gay things, then they log onto Reddit and talk about it.

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    Anyone else detecting a pattern here? Idee fixe?

  • Billy Budd

    It just brings out what is already there, latent.

  • QJ201

    I’ve never been offered a BJ when getting stoned with straight guys. Maybe I’m just not lucky.

  • jason smeds

    Well, sexuality CAN be black or white, especially for gay people. The gay identity is a higher hill to climb than the straight identity, and is usually reached despite resistance from society and the norms it imposes.

    However, for many straight-identifying guys, sexuality is NOT black and white. Most straight-identifying guys assume the straight identity because there is no resistance from society in choosing to assume that identity, and thus there is no hill to climb. The straight identity is thus often a DEFAULT identity arrived at automatically but not necessarily reflecting the true nature of straight-identifying male sexuality.

    I’ve known straight-identifying men who experimented with men when they were high.

  • NoCagada

    Oh, wait til the right wing gets a hold of this…but then, I have buttfucked married rightwingers when they weren’t high

  • Mikah

    When he gets high,he’s liberated from his homophobic mentality.

  • Tackle

    What’s up with Queerty’s obsession with straight guys and how they think, act/ react ,feel. and respond about gays and gay sex? This is like the 7th story about the minds/ actions of straight guys towatds all things gay, within two weeks.

    Is what straight guys think really that important to some gays? It almost seems that some in the community are looking for straight validation and acceptance…

  • jockjack5


    Excellent point(s)!!!

    WTF (Why The Fuck) does Queerty keep running all these straight-guy-focused stories?

    I come here for GAY news and stories! Lately, as Tackle correctly points out, we have been inundated with this crap. It’s almost like reading People Magazine and boring as hell.

  • jockjack5

    Now, concerning the interesting aspect of this article, namely, the effects of marijuana on sexual behavior.

    Pot has ALWAYS made me horny as hell. Always!

    I have noticed several passing references about smoking pot on a few of the videos at Helix, so apparently many of those gorgeous twinks like sex while stoned as well.

    I remember once as a gay college freshman, we had a Sunday afternoon get-together at a married students house. We were all stoned on some killer weed, and I got so horny that I actually had sex with the hosts wife. She very deliberately seduced me (she was stoned too) and it was some of the hottest sex I have ever had. AND I WAS GAY!!

  • demented

    So they’re actually bisexual. Most people who identify as straight or gay actually are. Not really shocking.

  • psdesertrat

    So, how many gay people want to have straight sex when stoned ?

  • Allessio77

    After 3 or 4 drinks, my straight bud would always want to wrestle.

  • AxelDC

    Sorry, but getting stoned or drunk doesn’t make you gay. It reduces your inhibitions and allows whatever same sex desires exist to come out.

  • TrueWords

    His original comment was NOTHING more than gay bait…to garner attention…nothing truthful contained about it…also I would never get with someone drunk or otherwise as so they can use diminished capacity and win the GAY PANIC case…

  • mgkbus

    @psdesertrat: Eeeeewwwww!

  • stonrdude

    Sorry, I never want to have str8 sex when stoned. I want gay sex and plenty of it. Never enough gay sex when stoned!

  • polarisfashion

    I once bagged a so called straight guy when he was drunk. He turned out to be a jerk so I never hung out with him again. He messaged me a few times afterwards but I just wasn’t interested.

  • Chris

    So from this article I can only infer that I must be stoned all the time…..

  • AlliterationAddict

    Oh, good. For a moment there, I thought I might have to go without my weekly reminder from Queerty that sometimes straight guys do gay things.

  • aliengod

    Enough with these “straight guy” stories. A straight guy doesn’t do “gay things”. This is ridiculous.

  • Ridpathos

    Why not? I’m 100% gay, but when I’m drunk I fantasize about having sex with hot women. *shrug*


    @Ridpathos: LOL. The kind of comment that puts a glow in the heart of every reparative therapist! O_O

  • SteveDenver

    “Temporary Gay” while stoned? What a lovely thought.
    Just one more reason LEGAL MARIJUANA IN COLORADO is awesome!

  • enlightenone

    @TrueWords: “… would never get with someone drunk or otherwise as so they can use diminished capacity and win the GAY PANIC case…”

    Sadly there are too many gay guys w/low self worth. Competent therapy can help, but they rather spend their money on drugs, fashion, and trips to Fire Island!

  • enlightenone

    @Tackle: Sadly there are too many gay guys w/low self worth, this includes Queerty writers, etc.

  • enlightenone

    @Tackle: Queerty contributors remind me of Jonathan on the “gay” series Looking!

  • Mack

    Free pot to straight guys!!!!!!!!

  • Captain Obvious

    Another lame article about how straight guys are secretly gay.

  • DistingueTraces

    Since gay guys never create “straight” fantasy personas online, this Reddit thread is totally believable, and is in no way just a circle jerk of gay guys trying to delude themselves by misleading one another.

  • Sluggo2007

    A “straight” guy will try anything as long as he thinks nobody will find out. I’ve had sex with MANY married men. It was just sex and nothing else. They enjoy getting and giving BJ’s just as much as we do.

  • jmmartin

    You may recall that, years ago, I think the 60s or 70s, a think tank study came to the conclusion that using marijuana leads to the “effeminization” of the male. My thought at the time was, Gee, that would be nice. Of course I thought it ridiculous. (On the other hand, maybe Seth Rogen and James Franco really are an item.)

  • Captain Obvious

    @jmmartin: I think Rogen could do way better.

  • enlightenone

    @Sluggo2007: …”They enjoy getting and giving BJ’s just as much as we do.”

    That would make them “BISEXUAL” married men; an no, they don’t need to be “high” to do so!

    “”It was just sex and nothing else.”

    Doubt if their wives would agree or a guy you were dating or in a relationship not knowing the slut that you are!

  • Curtispsf

    @psdesertrat: If by have straight sex, you include sucking or fucking or getting sucked/fucked by a straight GUY…my answer is YES…if he’s cool and relatively attracting.

    That no more makes me straight then it makes him gay.

  • misterhollywood

    I thought the post was kind of interesting. I respect that some folks disagree but I will say the story grabbed my interest. My own sense is that the reddit posts validate the reality that many men have sex with other men. They may not identify as gay but mess around with other guys all the same. Isn’t this why the acronym “MSM” became so popular a few years back?

  • Sluggo2007

    @enlightenone: Excuse me, you self-righteous moron, but shouldn’t you be in church reading your bible rather than reading this blog? Go polish your halo or something.

  • enlightenone

    @Sluggo2007: “…you self-righteous moron, but shouldn’t you be in church reading your bible rather than reading this blog?”

    Don’t need to go to church or read a book titled “The Bible” to be RIGHT that you are a moron to the contrary!

  • Eclatant

    The Bible says that if a man lies with another man he should be stoned.

    I guess we know what that really means now.

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