Last month we heard about a married straight man trying to decide if he should divulge his gay porn past to his wife of 18 years. We’re pretty sure he’s going to keep it a secret.
Now from the depths of Reddit comes the reverse scenario — a 19-year-old married straight man boy who is strongly considering gay porn as a viable revenue stream. His wife “likes the idea.”
He explains that, “We both come from not-well-off families. I have a decent job, but we only make enough to cover bills…We discussed a few ways to get more income, and decided this wasn’t the worst idea.”
“It doesn’t bother her because it’s with guys, strange as that sounds,” he adds. “She says it’s because ‘she can’t give me what a guy can.'”
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Many a commenter’s curiosity was piqued by the original poster’s willingness to go gay-for-pay so openly.
Here’s how he responded to their questions:
Have you had sex with men before?
No, I have not. I did a little bit of experimenting/flirting in high school but it never led to anything sexual with another guy. The thought of it doesn’t bother me though.
Is it really that easy to just decide to be a porn star and start getting paid?
Becoming one isn’t exactly easy, but I believe I have a decent chance. I’m a smaller build with an above average dick, fairly attractive, flexible, and have no gag reflex. I may not be able to get into the business, but I’m going to try.
You ever consider what your parents might think? or if you ever have children what they might think? “My dad sucks dick for a living.” Just doesn’t have a good ring to it, you know?
Why would I care what my parents think? They’re pieces of shit. And even if they weren’t, this isn’t their decision.
I also don’t plan on this being the only thing I do for the rest of my life. It’s not a permanent job for most people. If I do have kids, they’ll have to find out on their own that I did porn. It’s not like I’m bringing them to take your child to work day.
Have you guys watched gay porn before?
Yes, we’ve both watched gay porn, but not together.
Are you sure this isn’t just a way for you to fuck dudes? Not that there’s anything wrong with that.
Actually I left the choice ultimately up to her. I said that if at any time she is uncomfortable with it, I would quit. I’m not repulsed by the thought of having sex with guys, but I also have no problem with just sleeping with my wife for the rest of my life either. I did marry her, after all.
BritAus
How does he know he doesn’t have a gag reflex?? Bananas are one thing …..
Oda Mae Brown
Sex is sex, by all means, have it all and get paid. Do you man! I approve this message.
Jifu Wen
Reddit… I got to say his performance is wonderful.
MisterDemand
So hes bisexual. Not straight. The default position of the male bisexual in a heterosexual relathship is always “i’m straight”. How they square that will wanting to have sex with men, ill never know.
Daggerman
…sleazy c***t? I find it repulsive and ridiculous that there are so many so called straight men in the closet!–this is another pathetic attempt at proving they’re so fucking hetero–you wouldn’t believe the amount and types of boys that demanded I sucked their dicks in school…
J.r. Graff
This is probably a cover for a new episode of TLC’s “My Husbands Not Gay”.
Giancarlo85
Reddit… smells like BS.
Bob LaBlah
“She says it’s because ‘she can’t give me what a guy can.’”
Did she ever hear about that thing called a strap-on……….on second thought never mind.
That little hillbilly who offered Justin Bieber two million dollars to do a shoot has a girlfriend whom I’m to understand is on the set while he is getting banged and double penetrated. I wonder if she straps on a Bam………..again, never mind.
Nikkidane
He’s bisexual. Not straight.
Mike G
Here we go again…
What is so difficult to understand about the difference between a man who is attracted (romantically and/or sexually) to other men, and one who is not? The former first is “straight” by any rational definition of the word, the latter, gay or bi, depending on whether or not he’s also attracted to women.
Simply being “willing” to engage in sexual behavior with a person of the same sex doesn’t make you “gay or bi.” After all, I’ve never heard of anyone cleaning sewers out of curiosity, or as a hobby, but there are, obviously, plenty of people who do it for a living. People who are grossed out or disgusted to the point of aversion with the thought of having sex with people of the same or opposite sex are not simply “exclusively straight” or “exclusively gay,” they are emotionally disturbed individuals who would probably benefit from psychotherapy.
That being said, with respect to this particular guy, who’s still quite young and notes that he “did a little bit of experimenting/flirting in high school,” he might in fact be bi assuming as I do that he married his wife because he was attracted to her and enjoys having sex with her. The fact that “ha[s] no problem with just sleeping with my wife for the rest of my life either” doesn’t change that, it just means he’s happy/willing to be monogamous…
Realitycheck
@Mike G:
You are taking this a bit too far, I am gay, I knew it when I was a little kid and I was already
attracted to men and I have never, ever experienced any sexual desire for any woman,
and I have seen some incredibly attractive women, but no sexual desire.
And guess what, I would be extremely disturbed if I was forced to have sex with a woman,
and that is not a mental problem as you define it, but simply part of my being 100% gay.
Of course, I do not find it disgusting when a straight man has sex with a woman, it is an
expression of love, but I want no part of it………because I am gay.
dustashed
I am gay but i have slept with a few women before. And even though i consider myself 100% gay right now, i am not repulsed at the thought of having sex with a woman. Should i be in a situation where i need to do it, i would. Therefore its not hard for me to imagine the opposite could be true for this guy.
I consider myself gay but wouldn’t have any problems having sex with a girl if i need to. He considers himself straight but is considering having sex with a guy on cam for cash.
dustashed
Realitycheck
Maybe you would be disturbed if you were forced to have sex with a woman, I wouldn’t. Everyone’s experience is different. I consider myself 100% gay but if i would absolutely have to have sex with a girl, i’d just think… Ohh well a hole is a hole
Bauhaus
@Mike G:
You bring up some interesting points about sexuality. For me, arousal, attraction, desire, and the ability to bond are essential to my sexual identity. Although I’m aroused and attracted to both men and women, find both sexually gratifying, I’m not able to bond romantically with women, nor do I seek them out sexually. Even though I have had very good sexual relationships with women, I’m gay.
Robert Joseph Mastronardi
Huh, the way he answered questions seems legit. Go for it dude, Im all about small guys with big dicks lol
SteveDenver
He says he doesn’t plan on doing this for the rest of his life, but it sounds as if he thinks once he stops doing porn, porn stops doing him. The truth: porn lingers and for a lot of people it reappears and can affect their life forever.
Alan down in Florida
All this shows is how lazy the younger generation has gotten. They want more money than their McJobs can pay and it’s easier to have sex for cash than to go out and better themselves so that they can qualify for better paying jobs.
[email protected]
Good for them. I admire them for having the nerve to live their lives on their own terms. I wish them much success.
jwtraveler
@[email protected]: I’m with you. I don’t know how true this story is, but all of the answers seem very sensible and reasonable even if the questions aren’t.
I grew up with parents who were always certain that they knew exactly the right thing for me to do in life. It took me a VERY long time to learn to say (and believe): “I don’t care what you think. It’s MY life and I’ll live it the way I want to.” I’m in my 50s and I’m still dealing with this. Good for this guy for learning it at 19.
Billy Budd
It is BS. I am sure it is BS. Ignore it, forget it, it isn’t true.
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Frank Croix
Straight my ass
Trevor Kramer
Latent gay. Give me a break.
Saint Law
@Alan down in Florida: As far as ‘bettering’ oneself goes, the US has the lowest social mobility in the developed world.
You’re from Florida, so of course we should expect stupid, but did it never cross your mind how the younger generation’s laziness coincided with the collapse of the economy?
Saint Law
@jwtraveler: Your parents were right.
Clark35
Yeah like this guy is actually hetero/straight. LMAO. queerty is obsessing about closeted bi and gay men again as usual. If a guy is really hetero/straight he’s not going to do or consider doing gay porns.
billforsyth
Every time the subject of gay for pay is raised it inevitably is followed by the assertion that the gay for pay individual must be bisexual why ?. Do prostitutes have to be nymphomaniacs or have at least have a high sex drive in order to have sex with people for money .
I am not an American and I find this reluctance to acknowledge that some people, men and women can regard sex as a commodity like any other without being reprehensible or immoral rather strange in a country which is perhaps the home of free market capitalism .A man working in a factory doesn’t necessarily have to love his job or have a natural affinity for it I imagine that like many others he works for the pay.
Jonty Coppersmith
This guy wants to do it, and no one can convince me that he is 100% straight. I do not believe that men who are completely heterosexual would suck dick or get fucked. They might allow a guy to give them a blow job, but that’s about as far as it would go. I’m a Kinsey 6, totally gay, and would be incapable of doing it with a woman even for money.
Joe Payer
Well rehearsed
CarrollAP
@MisterDemand: I have seen his videos. Kurt is not straight. He is a good bottom.
CarrollAP
@CarrollAP: He is also not married but engaged, cute as a button; I would do him.
Mark Holbert
Straight for gay porn, whatever…
jwtraveler
@Saint Law: I’m sure that was intended as an insult, but it was pretty lame. What’s wrong? Are you losing your edge?
Clark35
@Jonty Coppersmith: Exactly.
AlexM123
Some of you people are so unbelievable. Having sex for money is just that; sex for money. Hell, if straight porn paid as much as gay porn I would give it a go, and I have ZERO sexual attraction to males. It seems that so many of you are still very insecure of your own sexuality that you have to bash everyone that is. The more of these comments I read the more I like Russel’s comments…
enlightenone
@dustashed: “…but if i would absolutely have to have sex with a girl,”
He DOESN’T “absolutely have to!” Marriage isn’t just about himself or his wife that’s why it’s for mature, responsible ADULTS, there are licenses, vows, witnesses, etc. He does need counseling.
enlightenone
@SteveDenver: “…The truth: porn lingers and for a lot of people it reappears and can affect their life forever.”
Such a little detail is overlooked or not considered in the least. Having strangers’ nut splatted on your “straight” face and in his butt for the world to see forever and your/his friends, CHILDREN. parents, co-workers, perspective interviewers for JOBS that pay more a a few hundred bucks, potential next partner, etc., etc., etc.
enlightenone
@jwtraveler: “I’m in my 50s and I’m still dealing with this. Good for this guy for learning it at 19.”
Neither one of you have learned much. None of us know who this KID is. More than likely abused and/or neglected as a child! For 50, what’s your excuse?
enlightenone
@AlexM123: “Some of you people are so unbelievable.”
And you are just the realist? “Sex for money”/PORN, especially for a 19 yr old, married, ditsy wife has consequences not compensated by a few dollars in the now!
Ron Parsons
Ok, how does he know he has no gag reflex unless he’s tried? ð???
Realitycheck
@dustashed:
LOL, that is true, to each one is own and it is all I was trying to say,
I don’t think is wrong for people to be able or not to be able to have
sex with either the same or opposite sex.
And I do not believe for one second it has anything to do with any
mental disease, as @Mike G suggested,
it is just part of the extremely complex range of
sexuality that makes us humans what we are.
Realitycheck
@enlightenone:
Counseling can only help people capable of learning, lots of
emotionally underdeveloped people or with low IQ out there,
they cannot grow up, and cannot go past their own barriers,
or worse do not have even have the capacity of understanding…
Assuming this story is true, you are most likely dealing with
either some one that would do anything to survive, no judgement here,
we all need to eat and we know nothing about their reality and condition.
Or a couple of stupid kids and make no mistake a stupid young person
can only become a stupid older person, because he/she doesn’t have the
capacity to learn from his own experiences.
I wish I did have that “magic wand” to make everybody, smart, good people,
happy, healthy and good looking.
Bob LaBlah
@Alan down in Florida: “All this shows is how lazy the younger generation has gotten. They want more money than their McJobs can pay and it’s easier to have sex for cash than to go out and better themselves so that they can qualify for better paying jobs.”
I went out last night and that topic (how lazy todays youth are) came up at the local “watering hole”. I am assuming (from reading your past posts) that you are like me, over the big 5-0, and armed with that thing called common sense, which seems to be missing in todays youth.
As I said last night at the “meeting room” todays 19-25 year old does not remember the day when there was NO cell phone, dvd/cd player, color cable ready tv nor being at the mercy of having to listen to at least five minutes of news on the local radio station. They don’t know when video games had to be played at an arcade……..really, need I go on?
With Apple coming out every two or three months with the latest “toy” to walk down the street and look and feel important while costing right at half a months rent (and lets not even factor in how much it costs to stay connected with it) they have grown up in a world where four or five hundred dollars ain’t nothing to them as long as they get instant gratification from it. That was why about a year or so ago I vehemently defended the guy from Sesame Street when it was learned he had sex with “kids” online who, for some reason or other, thought no one out there would question as to whether or not they KNEW or didn’t know what they were doing with themselves for MONEY. No, I am not buying that shit that he molested them and it took YEARS for them to realize what they HAD contributed to for no other reason than greed. Or should I say “easy” money.
I laugh every time I get called an old queen who couldn’t do no better in life than drive an eighteen wheeler for a living because (when the laughter, taunts..what ever finally die down) I fire back with this REALITY: Not only did I retire from my $60k plus per year job with FULL benefits I was also the one who delivered the toilet paper you use to wipe your ass. Imagine if I were late with the delivery and you were out of it. Lastly, YOU are NOT going to be as lucky, junior. That response shuts ALL of them up. And quick. I really wish you could be there to see the blank stares when the reality of what I said hits home.
Starting around 2005 the internet has turned so many young boys into virtual prostitutes I actually have looked at many when I have to go to the mall or out walking the dog in the park and wondered to myself “why does that face look familiar”. But I keep walking. I do not understand why people would want to pay to watch what is now practically free on the internet. That being sex. This story, if true (which based on the site it came from I seriously doubt) reads more like a kid who got married to soon and still doesn’t know if he prefers a hole or a pole, if you get my drift. Nineteen years old is still in the child department as far as I am concerned. The reality of “what he sticks in my ass he’s putting in your mouth” hasn’t hit this girlfriend/wife of his yet. They are putting too much faith in condoms if you asked me.
bigrawtop
As a porn watcher, I don’t want to see a guy who’s “acting” or faking it. I want to see authentic pleasure. Hire guys with experience who are the real thing.
enlightenone
@Realitycheck: Fortunately, no “magic wand” needed nor do you have to be “smart, good people,happy, healthy and good looking to not make poor life decisions. Therapy/counseling can assess for capability to survive and even thrive without resorting to choices that can have dire consequences in the immediate future, though doing porn, same-sex porn (for a “straight” married teenager/KID, may seem to be the “only choice!”
Mike Battaglia
Wow, really performing in adult films? Set the bar a little lower. Lol.
jwtraveler
@enlightenNOone: That’s all speculation and supposition. You know absolutely nothing about this guy, or anything else apparently,
enlightenone
@jwtraveler: “That’s all speculation and supposition….”
Most comments are!
Clearly, you don’t know me either, so saying I “know absolutely nothing about this guy, or anything else apparently,” is also “speculation and supposition” to have you tell it.
Continue to make your “?knowledgeable?” comments and I’ll make mine!
Tebn
Straight (monosexual) guys couldn’t have satisfactory sex with a man, it’s impossible. Heterosexual and heterogamous are not the same thing. He is a bisexual man and he is heterogamous, as most bisexual people.
ripzippysf
It appears he is bisexual. And that being said, bisexuality is still the big secret in this country. So, he can get paid to have sex with men open and honestly with his wife and fill the void. It seems to be his way of being honest to a certain point. And I came to this from his comment about not having a gag reflex. Where else are you going to find this out without trying? And there is nothing wrong with any of this. It would be nice if he were totally honest with her but, he is in a class of many men that do the same thing. Taking money for it means he is just doing it to make ends meet. It takes the pressure off the reality that he likes men and women. And he may very well prefer women. Many gay men cannot understand this because we are just and black and white on the issue as straight people are (not all of us but, many). You are either gay or straight… that is not the case.