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STUDY: Gays And Lesbians Look For Same Things In Partners As Straights

Dating site Match.com surveyed some 5,000 unattached folks for its second-annual Single In America Study. It’s actually a more in-depth analysis than your usual “Do you like long walks on the beach?” questionnaire, with a wide range of topics covered.

Drs. Laura Berman and Helen Fisher discovered the busted economy hasn’t killed people’s dating lives—40% of those surveyed would date someone who was unemployed.

In the realm of politics, the study found 53% of conservative Republicans routinely achieve orgasm during sex, compared to 40% of liberal Democrats (Well, that’s because they’re only focused on their own pleasure.) But those same Republicans have also had the least amount of sex in the past year.

When it comes to gays and lesbians, at least on paper, we’re attracted to the same qualities in a partner as heterosexuals:

Gays and lesbians are equally likely to seek a partner with a similar level of education (29% of heterosexuals, 23% of gay men and 31% of lesbians); has a successful career (33% of heterosexuals, 30% of gays, 28% of lesbians); is physically attractive to them (73% of heterosexuals, 75% of gays, 70% of lesbians); has a sense of humor (83% of heterosexuals, 82% of gays, 89% and lesbians) and who is confident and self-assured (74% of heterosexuals, 73% of gays, and 73% of lesbians).

Also, perhaps not surprisingly, gay men appear to be more romantic—or maybe naive—than straight dudes: Match found that gay men were almost 10% more likely to believe in love at first sight and 14% more likely to say they’ve experienced it.

The survey is interesting and all, but next time we’d like to see them include some more questions specific to the LGBT community. Like:

*Would you date someone with the same name as you?

*Would you date a partner who was significantly better looking than you?

*Would you date someone who was closeted?

*Would you date someone who dated your ex?

Enquiring minds wanna know!

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17 Comments

  • Jim Hlavac

    Amazing that it took a study to show what we’ve known all along, and heteros rarely believe.

  • Geri

    More questions specific to the LGBT community???

    Match dot com are monosexist morons who don’t give you the option of identifying as anything other than straight or gay/lesbian.

    When I last checked they don’t allow bisexual profiles on their website.

  • the crustybastard

    THIS JUST IN: Gay people are, indeed, people.

  • Chris

    If this study was about LGBT people why are only gay men and lesbians only mentioned in the study?

    Then again a lot of gay men and lesbians love to pretend that bisexuals and trans people don’t exist, or that they shouldn’t be a part of the BGLT community or included in studies about the LGBT community.

  • bbg372

    @Geri: Then you have not checked recently, because I was matched with a biseuxal man and his profile lists that he is seeking to date men and women.

  • Gay Bacon

    @Chris The article didn’t say the study was specific to the LGBT community but rather “STUDY: Gays And Lesbians Look For Same Things In Partners As Straights”, GAYS AND LESBIANS… Geeze dude, take a political breather for a second and enjoy reading an article.

    Okcupid has done other similar studies about preferences. Here’s an interesting one that I find a little sad but true. The article is about how Race affects your chances of getting a reply on okcupid and race preference. The topic has been discussed in my sociology and psychology courses and got lots of emotional responses but the numbers speak for themselves…

    Heteros:
    http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/

    Homos:
    http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/same-sex-data-race-reply/

  • Gay Bacon

    oh yeah, in case you hate numbers and want to skip to the conclusion of the ^^^ articles…people, on average, are racist and prefer their own kind lol…

  • QJ201

    This is the best Queerty can come up with? Really? I’ve had more interesting conversations about this over cocktails.

    Would you date someone with a penis smaller than yours?

    Would you date someone with a “non-negotiable” sexual “preference” (e.g., strict top, strict top)?

    Would you date someone into BDSM?

    And f*cking duh, Would you date someone whose HIV status was different than yours?

  • Mike UK

    @QJ201: wrote:And f*cking duh, Would you date someone whose HIV status was different than yours? yes and I do!

  • MikeE

    @QJ201: very soon they will report on a study that proves that Gays and Lesbians require oxygen to survive… amazing, just like straight people. They have the facts and figures to prove it.

  • Geri

    @bbg372: If that’s true then that’s good news but their sign up page still asks you questions that show absolutely no recognition of the existence of any identities other than male or female and straight or gay – at least that is the case with the UK version of their website.

  • Geri

    @Gay Bacon: Those OK Cupid statistics you’ve linked to for “Homos” have, in addition to data for different racial groups, a breakdown for Bi Females, Gay Females, Bi Males & Gay Males. And yet the analysis classifies all the bi and gay females as lesbians and all the bi and gay men as gay men despite the FACT that their data clearly shows that the majority of respondents are Bi identified not Gay identified. More than 11,000 bisexual respondents than homosexual respondents!

    This means your response to Chris is almost certainly incorrect as match dot con probably classified many bisexuals as gays and lesbians as well when they did this survey.

  • TASTEY GOODIES

    Wow! Imagine that! Rainbow people wanting true love, commitment, honesty and loyalty! “In total fecitious voice.” Maybe, yes, no, maybe to the 4 querries stated in the article.

  • Daez

    @Gay Bacon: Going by those charts, if not dating outside your own race is a form of racism then it seems to show that blacks are indeed more racists than whites. However, since dating outside your own race IS NOT racism, the reports just indicate personal preference and nothing more.

  • Scott

    You can ask straight people too the question about dating someone with the same name:
    Alex
    Chris
    Robin
    Kyle
    Taylor
    Michael
    Paris
    Carey

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