Bible thumpers have been warning everyone for years that this would happen. Now, their prophecy is finally coming true.
Gayness is spreading across the world, but it’s hitting the U.K. especially hard. A recent survey conducted by YouGov found that 49 percent of Brits between the ages of 18-24 identify as something other than “100 percent heterosexual” when asked to plot themselves on Alfred Kinsey’s sexuality scale.
Related: Why Straight Men Are Acting Way More Gay Than Ever Before
Researchers spoke to a total of 1,632 people ranging from 18 years to 60+ years in age. Of that number, younger people reported being the most sexually fluid. Less than half of 18-to-24-year-olds said they consider themselves completely straight, compared to 43 percent who said they are bisexual. Meanwhile, 89 percent of respondents over 60 said they are either completely straight or completely gay.
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Researchers also found that almost a quarter of respondents between 18 and 39 years of age reported having had at least one homosexual experience, compared to just nine percent of those over the age of 60.
Related: Five Reasons Every Straight Man Should Go Gay At Least Once Or Five Times
Interestingly, more men reported having had a gay experience than women. One fifth of males, compared to 14 percent of females, said they had partaken in a sexual experience with someone of their same sex.
So what does this all mean exactly?
“More than anything,” Will Dahlgreen, a data journalist at YouGov, said, “it indicates an increasingly open minded approach to sexuality.”
Related: More And More Straight Guys Are Giving Each Other “Bro-Jobs”
h/t: The Independent
Bernard Galeano
How about stop labeling everything, maybe they’re bi, or gay or don’t care ether way
Curty
Aren’t these so called straight people bi or were closeted gays. You CAN’T turn gay! Just like I can’t turn straight. We can repress own sexuality but we can’t turn anything we aren’t! Queerty is a rather nutjob site on the other end of the spectrum.
Alex Goodman
Wes Cannon
Jaime-Arturo Rodriguez Luevano
I really hate articles like these. It fuels the idea that men just wake up on day and decide to be gay. It’s not a choice! If these guys are fooling around then they are not truly straight. They are bisexual or closeted. I don’t need to experiment with a woman to confirm my sexuality.
Ron Loftus
just open your mind. don’t b-rate.
Sidney Davies
You can’t “go gay” you’re born gay.
Simon Easter
How can you just go gay? What a load of old bollocks!
Dennis Maloney Jr.
These magazines make it seem gayness is somekind of fashion statement.
Gerald GeeLocke Panuthos
Oh please. Just stop it.
Ash Hickerson
â??More than anything,â? Will Dahlgreen, a data journalist at YouGov, said, â??it indicates an increasingly open minded approach to sexuality.â?
Danny Ray
The reason why is because they were ‘NEVER STRAIGHT’ to begin with!!! Nuff Said!!!
Ash Hickerson
fluidity of sexuality…about time. let them see what they like or dislike vice going with a standard label that pigeonholes them.
Peter Fantacone
What!?
Rob Laughlin
Going gay or just experimenting and not minding gay sex? There’s a difference. Sexuality is fluid. A gay man prefers men. An experimenter may not mind men but prob prefers women.
I agree with another commenter. Articles like this make it seem like one day you wake up and choose to be gay. Just doesnt work that way.
But if they need a bro job, I’m free.
Gene Touchet
God’s birth control.ð???
BJ McFrisky
Oh give me a fucking break.
What’s with Queerty’s obsession with “straight” men “going gay”?
Hang it up—they’re just not into you. Or me. Or other guys. It’s wishful thinking of the most pathetic sort.
Adam Shift Change Hrincevich
What a stupid story. Really?!? You don’t just “go gay” if you are straight. This website loses more and more people every day because of ridiculous “news reporting” like this.
Lee Lifeson-Peart
Click baiting utter bollocks….
Chuck Price
They weren’t straight to begin with.
Roberto Diego Enzo Hache
Eff off already…they were not straight to begin with…..
Scott Groves
You CANT go gay!!!! How stupid! Straight guys can have sex with a guy, or can be bi sexual… But you can’t “go gay”! Really!!!!
SpunkyBunks
Were these surveys conducted at gloryholes?
AxelDC
Why are you calling guys who have sex with men “straight”? That strikes me as more than a little big homophobic.
If you (a man) have sex with men but not women, you are gay. If you have sex with women and men, you are bi. Only if you only have sex with women are you straight. Sure, occasionally experimenting is one thing, but regular sexual partners of your same sex means you are not straight.
Harold Powell
LOL then they were not straight to begin with.
Brian L. Moore
If a man totally enjoys being with a woman, and then decides he want to experiment sexually with men, then he may live as a gay man. But he is not gay, he is bisexual! He can decide happily to live either way, gay or straight! That is the definition of bisexual pure and simple! As a gay man I cannot decide to live romantically with a woman, because it would make me miserable and unhappy. Most human beings are bisexual to one degree or another….I have always believed that the next coming out would the “B” in our LGBT community.
youarekiddingme
I think, finally, (I hope) more guys are finally finding it ok to say that they have been having same-sex attractions, where previously it was so taboo that they wouldn’t admit it even in anonymous surveys.
I’ve always believed the numbers were artificially skewed low when it came to LGBT population in general. Maybe we will START to get some more accuare information (especially with this younger generation).
Scott Haltom
Maybe they are trying to find out what the fuss is about and if it as bad as the “Church” claims. The “church” may be driving it to an extent.
Stache99
Yup and it’s an age when experimentation has always been the thing to do. Older people think about sex allot less often so that makes sense too.
Thor2015
Queerty get you life together and stop trying to prove the conservative right correct by making everything gay. These are straight guys who had an encounter or two with homosexuality. I ate a vegan meal one and loved it but im not vegan. Even if they choose to continue such acts with men, that makes them bisexual at the least. Thanks for adding to bisexual erasure. Bastards.
Clark35
@Jaime-Arturo Rodriguez Luevano: Exactly, they’re bisexual, or even gay; but just coming out or accepting their sexuality.
@Brian L. Moore: Well said, some gay men do force themselves to live and have sex with women though but that’s because they are closeted, in denial, or some of my gay male friends said how at first they did not know they were gay as a young adult but they realized it when they had sex with a woman since they realized after having sex with a woman that they’re simply not sexually attracted to women at all. I am bisexual and I’m glad you are not biphobic the way some people are here on this site.
Celtic
At one time in human history, both men and women had sex mates of the same gender while also being in what we now call a “binary” relationship. Religion, sad to say, kinda f**ked that up for everyone. It is quite natural and normal for some men to want to enjoy sex with another man, but not necessarily exclusively. Europeans look at us “Yanks” cross-eyed over this, because of many Euro men (West Europe) are quite comfortable switch hitting when the thrill drives them.
Paul Cameron, the right wing psycho guru some years ago remarked that if a straight man had gay sex even once, he might never want to have straight sex again? HUH? That says more about Cameron than it does about men, straight or gay. I have been happily gay for 47 years, having had sex with a few women while in college and then ending up with a man I loved for a very long time. For me, sex with women was mechanical; not emotional. Sex with men has been like showers of fireworks. Each to his own. We really must stop psychoanalyzing human sexual behavior and go with our own flow.
Clark35
@AxelDC: Exactly it’s homophobic and biphobic but we can expect that BS from queerty. Sexuality is more about who you are attracted to. I know gay men who have had sex with women and even married them; but they’re not bisexual since they’ve never had any sexual attraction to women or anyone of the female gender/sex.
DaveNY
@Bernard Galeano: Amen! The gay guys who claim that you have to be 100% gay or 100% straight and anything in between in some lie or cop-out are obnoxious and blinkered (and probably more than a few are as insecure about their own gayness as homophobes are about their straightness)! The bottom line is it doesn’t matter how much of our sexuality is genetic, how much is influenced by environment, or even if there’s “choice” in it! What we do with other consenting adults is no one else’s business or judgment and shouldn’t affect our humanity or rights.
Buying into the whole western bright-line categorization is just playing on the terms of the Mike Huckabees of the world. What does it matter if being gay WERE a “choice” or not? If I chose to be gay, why would that mean abridging my rights is in any way acceptable?
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Honey Boo Boo is the tutelary spirit presiding over Queerty and her writ shalt run!
“errybody’s a ‘lil bit gay”
Praise be the sacred Sketti Butter and Ketchup
Mr-DJ
@Curty: ABSOLUTELY! Exactly what I signed in to say – but you’ve done it for me!
Loyd Hawkins
Back in the 1950’s, Kinsey’s report on male sexuality shocked people because it theorized that very few people are 100% heterosexual or 100% homosexual, that most of us are on a spectrum between the two. Sounds like Kinsey got it right.
Carwyn Rhys Williams
Lily McCann oops
Cam
Queerty seems set on continually running these articles about “Straight” guys maybe deciding to try gay sex but still calling them straight.
This is the same B.S. homophobia that used to be taught to kids “Oh, if you ever did anything gay, it doesn’t mean you are gay, it’s probably just a phase.”
Did it ever occur to anybody that the main reason it SEEMS like more and more people are trying gay sex, is because more and more people aren’t afraid to admit it.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
Clickbait catnip for self-haters…and yet here I am :/
Paul Sakajian
thats what im gonna do find a straight guy they are more decent
Bob Pattinson
Personally – and without any proof – I believe most males are bisexual to a greater or lesser extent. As homosexuality moves out of the shadows and into the mainstream, more men are prepared to “give it a go” than would have been the case when being gay attracted universal opprobrium.
GayEGO
Being gay is more than just having sex, there are a lot of emotions and feelings that go along with it. But, let’s stop labeling people and let them figure themselves out. We have had enough of others, like in religious institutions, trying to tell us who we should be, which is just wrong.
Thor2015
@GayEGO: Amen.
Arcamenel
It bothers me how many gay guys are on the “if you fool around with a guy you are gay” bandwagon. I am a gold star gay but even if I had sex with 1000 women I’d still be gay. Sexuality is more than just who you have sex with. Isn’t that the same reasoning the right uses.
Lestar
When there isn’t any news out there, Queerty writers should just sit still and suck their thumbs until something comes up and stop searching,and condoning this nonsense. These stupid surveys are just that…’stupid surveys’
Keely Bruce
I’d like to see the natural counter article to this which, if we are following the assumption that most people are neither entirely gay nor straight, would read something like ‘survey finds more gay men are going straight, and they’re liking it!’.
Brian Heaphy
Lisa Kelly
Tom Olenio
And counting…
“Studies suggest 75 percent of bonobo sex is nonreproductive and that nearly all bonobos are bisexual. “
Stache99
@Arcamenel: You’d be bisexual.
Atldeuce
She is clearly Muslim since they are ruled by their religions. She should be deported. In the meantime a “writ of mandamus” can be obtained to require an official to perform their job. Refusal could result in a contempt citation and possible jail. She could fast in jail until her heart is content. If she fasted 6 months or so she might get back into her size 22 prom dress. Her date ( first cuzin’ ) told her she looked purdy in it.
malepiano
If there’s any truth to this it all undoubtedly one of the reasons is that straight men are getting fed up with the treatment they get from women! Marriage rates are rapidly dropping and a major reason is that men are screwed big time in marriage to women and they are getting sick of it! Marriage and in most cases even a relationship with a women is a raw deal for men. Men are looked at as nothing more than meal tickets and doormats by women. The sex part of it isn’t looking as good as it once did. Anonymous, occasional and non-committal sex with a women is a much better deal. If there is any truth to this and it becomes a bigger issue it will have more women worried! MGTOW forever!!!
Markajv
All I did was read the headline and I thought “It’s not that Straight guys are TURNING Gay it’s that gay men are now feeling more comfortable in the world and with themselves and can stop lying to themselves so their will be more men and women coming our of the closet” To be honest this is a GOOD thing. The #1 group in the United States catching HIV are straight women. (My. Dr. and I talked about this once) There are so many married men out there hooking up with guys on the side through Grindr, Craigslist, “Hot Spots” etc. and a lot are catching STD’s and bringing it home to their wives. Sad but true.
Markajv
@malepiano: A lot of “Straight” men marry to hide their “Homosexuality” So really a lot of Women are being screwed over.
Markajv
@Paul Sakajian: Oh no they aren’t!
gaym50ish
The survey was legitimate, but this article goes way out on a limb in stating that “more and more straight guys are going gay.” That statement fuels the notion that being gay is a choice, which it isn’t, and that it’s increasing, which it isn’t.
The six-point Kinsey scale was a way of illustrating that sexuality is more complex than the terms “gay,” “straight” and “bi” would imply. But, wherever we are on that scale, we did not CHOOSE to be there, just as those few people at the extreme ends of the scale did not choose to be totally gay or totally straight. Sexuality is not “fluid,” although one’s sexual BEHAVIOR may vary.
And, bear in mind that most of these surveys don’t get specific enough in their questions to really draw any relevant conclusions. For example, when they say a fifth of men “had at least one homosexual experience,” what does that really mean? That they got a blowjob from a guy (maybe a priest) when they were a horny teenager? How is that “a homosexual experience”? In some cultures, anal sex is not considered “a homosexual experience” as long as you’re the top.
It would be more relevant to ask about “attraction” rather than behavior.
Brian N Cobb
I had no idea that was a choice. All this time, a lot of people have been suffering internally with who they are when they could have just decided to ungay themselves! Idiots!
Msb Stevens
They maybe admitting gay feelings but they are not straight.
Robert Small
I think I know why! Love who you love, that makes you bi sexual but you tend to enjoy sex more with one or the other. You just don’t become gay you are born that way!
Mark Dylan Price
I don’t know why I follow this page the articles are so crap it should be embarrassed to be called gay
da90027
I’m getting tired of all these straight guy stories I couldn’t care less about a straight guy I want a guy that knows what he wants me to do and enjoys every inch of it…LMFAO!
Celtic
A man after my own HARD!!
Sansacro
@Curty: So you are 100% gay, like many men are 100% straight. People are all different. (The horrors!) Personally, I’m gay, but I have been sexually attracted to women. It was contextual.
Sansacro
@Danny Ray: Gay people are a minority. A lot more people have bisexual feelings at some point in their lives. But most of these people live “straight” lives because it is the “norm” and simply easier. Personally, gay or straight as an identity makes no sense to me.
skilos
No body that is straight, turns gay. They were gay to start with, and are only giving in to their life long, surpressed feelings/urges.
jwtraveler
Many years ago I had a boyfriend who was a politically vocal vegetarian. But sometimes he liked to eat meat. If I mentioned this contradiction to him, he said it was his business and he could eat what he wanted. I agreed, but I maintained that if he liked to eat meat, he shouldn’t call himself a vegetarian.
Ladbrook
Most gay men can point to one or two heterosexual experiences in our past. Mine came in high school. Big deal. It didn’t make me a committed bisexual or a closeted heterosexual. Like most teenagers, I was horny so I took what was offered… and I knew, even then, that I was gay.
So why is it so hard to believe that straight guys can look back and remember a moment when (at 14 or 16 or 19) they messed around with another guy? I can point to several teenaged males I messed around with in high school who were and are still authentically straight. I can also point to a couple of straight men I know today who, when doing threesomes, enjoy MMF as much as they do MFF. SO WHAT???
Just accept the fact that sexuality is highly complex and be glad that we have finally entered an age in which straight adults feel comfortable acknowledging what they did a few times “back in the day.” We ALL know that straight guys mess around as teenagers. We can ALL point to at least one person who did that. At least now they are willing to admit it.
Samantha Saxena
Ohh so true, i woke up today and changed my sexual preferences. Life Menu- Select Sexual Preference-Gay-Selected. GTFO stupid content writers.
Peter Rock Favazza
I can only contribute here by letting you guys know I have had consensual sex with several, if not many straight men under various circumstances. I tried to remember how many but I stopped counting after 20. The common denominator went mostly like this, “Hey I’m straight but I’d let you suck my dick if you wanted to because I’m horny or my girlfriend is out of town or my girlfriend doesn’t like to give head or she is no good at it”, you know stuff like that….” which invariably led to other things. Also although they would do it, they didn’t want to talk about it after. You know, Just Do It!
Deondré R Parker
Jody Cameron
If they are ‘going gay’ then they were not straight to begin with. Bi at the most.
Bubbleandsqueal
Because only a man truly knows what a man likes
nocibur61739
@Adam Shift Change Hrincevich: If Queerty is losing so many ppl, then why are you reading, posting and still here? Gender is never 100% str8 OR gay. We all fall somewhere inbetween the gray area as Kinsley stated. Some just do not play on their feelings as much as others due to stigma, enviromental factors, social constraint, religion, parental upbringing etc… Sexual preference CAN change for SOME ppl. BUT, it is an inherent born factor. I should know because I WAS born this way.
nocibur61739
@DaveNY: BRAVO! I couldn’t have stated it any better! I DO, however, want to empathize your quote of “Who’s business IS it anyways!?”
nocibur61739
@Lestar: Well, it IS a choice to be here. BUT, not a choice to be gay. If certain individuals do not care for these articles like the ones who do, feel free to leave,(Us alone)… We enjoy Queerty and ones negativity is not doing anyone [any] good. Thanks!
Celtic
Frankly, I enjoy Queerty. I agree with you. If they don’t like it, STFU or move on down the road, hombre.
malepiano
@Markajv: If a women can’t figure out that her groom to be is a gay man in the closet, that’s here problem! Many women prefer gay men anyway because there is no sex involved and they can dominate, mother and manipulate the gay boy(s)in their lives! Plus the gay boy(s)will always continually tell them how fabulous they look lol!
nocibur61739
@Bubbleandsqueal: Right ON!
Marcus A. Moutra
Here we go again -_- they weren’t straight to begin with it’s called LGBT do you not see the B in it for BISEXUAL if not gay.
Gary Harryman
Nature makes humans like snowflakes – no two alike.
In spite of that fact, we humans love to create simplistic labels and categories so we can “understand”, choose sides, argue, and prohibit. We think we need labels and boxes so we can feel like we have control.
Nature makes humans and their sexuality unique. If we look at the evidence, evidently there are as many ways of being sexual as there are ways of being human times days. So, if there are 7.2 billion people on this planet today, that means there are 7.2 billion ways to be human and 7.2 billion ways for humans to be sexual – today. Potentially, that means tomorrow there will be 7.2 billion other ways for those humans to be human and to be sexual. Nature creates all of that awesome potential for humans to express their individuality to insure survival of the species and evolutionary progress, and yet simplistic Regressive minds want to force all 7.2 billion people to be the same and to have sex only one way – their way.
As Caitlyn Jenner says – “Accept one another; we’re all different, and that’s a good thing.”
And tomorrow we’ll all be different again!
mike51295
See, damn gay marriage, not everyone wants to be gay. ;-D
Melissa Sanders Giger
You mean coming out.
mike51295
Sorry typo – NOW
Celtic
Fact, many straight men enjoy taking it up the ass as much as a gay does. However, most wives or girlfriends are not into the dildo up the anus thing for their man. The best alternative: a gay top or a gay who has an awesome toy collection. Let the games begin!!!
Chris Tan
If more and more straight guys are going gay, why are the gay guys still a minority? Why isn’t there a town or city in this world where ALL the residents are gays???????????? I want to move there!
Bo Cash
This is the dumbest article I have ever read in my life…. wow….
DutchGay
I guess straight guys can be curious too to find out “what if…” and with the right person / friend… they might try something labeled “gay” out of curiousity. Nothing wrong with that. It’s a [one time] “gay experience” and nothing more than that. You can’t say if you like something or not if you never tried. And even if a guy likes it but absolutely prefers girls there’s no reason to label someone “Bi”. As said before by other posters; get rid of the labels. Labels are for products, not for people.
eyesnowopen
This point has likely been made, but a “straight guy” having a sexual encounter with another guy does not necessarily make either gay. It could be that they are just curious. I’m gay as gay as the day is long, but I sometimes wonder what it would be like to have sex with a woman. I don’t know that I would actually do it, but I think about. I agree with others, you don’t wake up one day and decide to be gay or straight for that matter.
Billy Budd
Beautiful article and Fabulous research.
Yuri San
welcome to the family…the more…happier world.
tommiej
The headline is a bit inflammatory – however the survey still has merits. Kinsey figured out a long time ago that sexuality is sliding scale. Very few people are either “completely homosexual or completely hetero”. Most of us have had some experience with both sexes.
It’s been that way for as long as there have been humans on the earth. What’s changing is the societal stigma is being removed from sexual fluidity. Saying that the men are either closeted or bi is much too narrow. I know of gay men who have occasionally had sex with their female friends. Does that mean those men are suddenly closeted straights?
Also the age range of the men surveyed is something to consider. The younger generation is much less concerned about sex and gender labels. Which is refreshing to see.
At some point we will reach a point where no one will really care or even notice. People will just be people and be free of societal labels.
passingthru
Wow, there are a lot of very harsh, critical and narrow minded comments here. I think that the article is informative and interesting. In reality, there is a lot of variety out there. Hey, I’ve had sex with women; it’s fun and interesting. But I’m not bisexual. I’ve been around a while and what I know is that passion only burns in me for men. I only fall in love with men. Yes, I’ve “gone straight” more than a few times. But I’m GAY. It’s not confusing for me. I think that it’s great if some straight men are more free to share intimate experiences with their buddies. Good for everybody!
youarekiddingme
@tommiej:
Excellent points…
The point about the generational issue is very valid and hopefully, as you say, we will reach a point where sexuality or who you find sexually attractive at any given point won’t even matter!
Osman Akkurt
You don’t go gay, you’re born. With the accepting society every person openly embraces its true self – sexual orientation more liberally.
Giancarlo85
They aren’t straight to begin with. Rather bisexual. Just another bait and click article. This article is ridiculous and some of the the comments show the typical gay guys wanting straight men.
Damich
Queerty why feed the ignorance? People don’t turn gay or straight. They are something and choose to let that something show or not. The times we live allow a safe place so all the colors are showing more but they were always there. Rethink your message and avoid the a absurd sensational saturation already.
PalmSpringsBro
@Sidney Davies: Who made you the gay expert? Listen up, you can become gay. Most people don’t know they’re gay to they try it. So for you to sit there and type you can’t become gay you’re born it is hysterical. I was not born gay, I dated girls through high school, now 25 I let some guy mess with me and I over thought it afterwards made me start becoming more and more curious about trying other things, I became obsessed with the idea of going all the way and when I finally did I never looked back at women. Females even became unattractive to me, so yes you can become gay.
Giancarlo85
@PalmSpringsBro: You can’t even write clearly. What kind of stimulants do you use? Do you know what a bisexual is? No, people can’t become gay. Stop to think you know everything.
billforsyth
The survey seems to suggest that more younger British men will at some stage or other in their lives have sex with other men . This does not mean that they are gay or bi although some will be. It suggests that as society increasingly regards being gay as no big deal some men will have casual sex with other men in the way they might with women . There really has been something of a seismic shift in attitudes to sexuality in the UK over the past twenty or so years . Of course having sex with someone is not always the same as loving them or even wanting to see them again .
bottom250
I am not surprised I am with 4 or 5 “straight” men a week sweethearts.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: “Straight”… uh huh.
And if you’ve been with that many, you ought to know condoms aren’t 100%. Man how gross. Your comments make my stomach turn.
Evji108
As long as they’re horny, I D care what they say they are (or aren’t). Labels are for losers. Really confident men don’t give a flying fuck what you people think.
mujerado
@Curty: No of course you can’t “turn” gay, but you can try it out to see if you like it, just like a gay guy can try sex with a woman. A sexual experience of any kind doesn’t change you. Don’t be so concerned about what to call someone. Call him by his name and let him worry (or not!) about his sexuality.
jason smeds
By opting into homosexual behavior, men in general can assert their superiority over women. Keep in mind this very important point: the curtailing of male sexual options is one of the methods that women use to keep men under their thumbs.
If a man says to the woman he loves that he can opt into sex with his buddies, it completely takes away her power personally and it also takes away the power of women in general. I’m not saying that he should cheat on her but the mere possibility of opting in – even if he doesn’t intend to – is enough to send waves of fear through a woman’s body.
Homophobia against male homosexuality has largely been part of women’s gender war against men in general.
ashton7326
@Giancarlo85: its all bull most comments i believe are planted
ashton7326
@jason smeds< are afraid of women aren't you
youarekiddingme
@ashton7326:
No, he got out of the home again and is off his meds
Erik Weiss
Ryan Whitlock
Clark35
@Loyd Hawkins: The Kinsey reports did not claim that. People who have never read them or who do not understand them think they did though; but all the studies and scale did was just show the various ways people can be bisexual, and Kinsey and his researchers never claimed that most people are bisexual and that very few people are heterosexual or gay/lesbian.
Dinodogstar
So i read on a few posts, the ideal that we not ‘label’ people. That is fine and noble, but it denies the reality of what being lgbt is. We DO label people, and it’s because that’s a sign of recognition of who they are; to not accept someone’s identity, especially when we are aware that that identity of being lgbt means we have not achieved equality and tolerance. We JUST BARELY were allowed to participate in same-gender marriages, a right we should have not even had to have ‘granted’ to us, and former lgbt protections in Republican-controlled states are being ERASED and countered with new special laws, ‘Religious Freedom” laws, that allow a legally-acceptable right to violate other’s civil rights, solely based on that person’s particular opinion. My late mother was a full Cherokee Indian, and I am aware of how that identity has been both hated and wishfully erased; we can and should see other different people AS WHO THEY ARE, not being ‘color blind’ or dismissive, but coming at the idea of diversity as a good and valid, valuable thing to honor and appreciate. And I am in and from St. Louis- think “Ferguson”- so I have seen firsthand how racial ‘labels’ can affect whether or not a person is treated and respected fairly and justly. When we get to a place where People-of-Color can feel not targeted by law enforcement, when two gay people can walk down the streets of St. Louis holding hands and not get attacked or killed, and transgender people are treated as they choose to self-identify, without being made the joke or the chosen person to be hunted down, THEN, and only then, can we come to allow all people to then be called simply, equally human.
This man, Keegan Hirst did not just choose either acceptable option, as if being a gay man and being a straight man are considered both acceptable and equal lives to lead. Mr. Hirst made that point well, that he did NOT accept or want to acknowledge his homosexuality, because it was not okay to do so, and not acceptable or appreciated to be a gay man. He made the important point, that he felt he had no other option. And it makes me deeply sad for his wife, who was not completely respected as a worthy equal person, who’s life became part of the lie this man was living. This is not the 1950s, and THERE IS much more acceptance and tolerance for a twenty-something “Millennials” today. I do not hold him to be a mean or deceptive user, per se, as he was only being who and what he felt he was EXPECTED to be. I wish that no one had to suffer here, and her pain is legitimate and worthy of being heard and understood. This situation is one most every gay guy is very much the usual, and I myself dated and.. to present myself as being who i was supposed to be. And I regret if, in my egotistical desire to be seen in a celebrated status of heterosexuality, I regret if I hurt or may have used s person and harmed them, for my choices. Again, most LGBT people do fight their sexuality for years, decades, or their whole lifetime, and one day that will hopefully not be the case. Mr. Hirst was just an other, former oppressed victim of the heterosexist norm that Western societies demand adherence to.
The African-American. lesbian poet said these words I think are very worth hearing:
“It is not our differences that divide us, but our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences.
Craig Dunkerton
For a sensible article discussing the research go over to BiNet, think they even had links to the source. This article and headline just makes a complete hash of it.
Janet Mcnulty
Don,T like this!
Dinodogstar
@Dinodogstar: @Dinodogstar: I posted my brilliant and genius comment for the “Rugby Star Comes Out”, here, in what now reads as a very dumb and sad desperation to get my words to be heard..!!! Color me *embarrassed*….Thank God, I did not use my real name, that’d be even more pathetic.. Peace.
Greg
@Arcamenel: Most gay guys are raised to be heterosexual and before they realize they are gay, they might have lots of sex with women. Because that’s what they were supposed to do. So you might have had sex with a lot of women, and be gay, or bi, but straight guys who have sex with other guys are no longer straight. They are bi, at the least.
Greg
@PalmSpringsBro: That means you were latent homosexual. You were gay all along, but you didn’t know it. A person can’t turn gay. You’re not the exception.
Jordan Walker
They aren’t going gay, they’re dropping a lie lmao fuckin really ?
Evji108
@jason smeds: You have a good point. Being able to satisfy your horny needs with men weakens the pussy power. I have noticed while watching cams in chat rooms like Chaturbate, that the women get furious when a hot guy pays attention to the men and not the women, they get all nasty and insulting, like it’s their god-given right to get the man they want. It’s hilarious.
Clark35
@PalmSpringsBro: You were in denial or did not know you were gay. I know a few gay men that have told me how they’ve had sex with women in highschool and college because they did not know they were gay, sex with men was not an option for them then as this was long before the internet and they were too young for bars, and they said how sex with women to them just showed them how they’re not sexually attracted to women or the female gender at all.
martinbakman
@jason smeds: The other part of women’s gender war has been to lure gay men to go shopping, thus denying straight men the chance to opt in to some of their own basket shoppin’ for a little rumpy-rumpy.
Giancarlo85
I never seen someone so afraid of women as Jason Smeds. He especially fears women in positions of power because they exercise control over his insignificant and pathetic life.
Evji108
@Janet Mcnulty: hahhahaha
Evji108
@Curty: You can’t turn gay, but a lot of straight guys would fuck anything that is warm blooded and moves. I fooled around with a number of guys in high school and middle school, they were not, nor ever will be Gay. Why is that so hard to understand. They identify as straight, they will get there dicks sucked by a dude. Or Fuck a hole in a tree, or the slaggy cougar next door.
Thor2015
@Evji108: thats what I’ve been saying. A hole is hole when you’re horny. Thats why fleshlights exist.
Evji108
@Chris Tan: Try Wilton Manors in Fort Lauderdale Florida, thats as gay as it gets for a whole town.
Alan Alabata
They were always gay…. it was hidden from them because they believed societies pressures to conform
Jean-Claude Poulin
Humans are very sensual/sexual creatures by nature.The kinsey scale is the example of that.The gay/straight/bi labels were created in the mid 1800s.Those labels plus religious intimidation and social pressure has prevented many men and women from being their natural sexual selves for 100 years. So now we are learning more and more about the human psyche and exposing the bullshit that has permeated our society for so long so yes the young people are beginning to be themselves and its a great thing. Its about time!
Timothy Downes
Amen to that
Patutai Toki
LOL the article summarises the findings by stating that it shows younger people are more open minded to sexuality being fluid, not one day I woke up and hey girlfriend I’m gay!!! People please.
Markajv
I said it before – This is a really “Bait and Click” headline that’s great for the conservative and far Right. – It’s like a Dr. Ben Carson statement “Because a lot of people who go into prison go into prison straight — and when they come out, they’re gay. So, did something happen while they were in there? Ask yourself that question,” said Carson, a former head of pediatric neurosurgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital.”
Personally I dated girls in high school, I had sex with Girls also. I actually was teased and called “Fag” in school and, yes, I did find some attraction in Guys. But I only ever acted on it twice and it was like glory hole BJ’s. At that time though I actually liked having a GF. (I am still friends to this day.) It wasn’t until I was 21 that I “Came Out” which was easy as hell but the “Gay” lifestyle was not for me at all! I always felt judged, or looked down upon because I wasn’t “Hot” – Although everyone called me “Handsome” I would go to Pride events and actually be appalled at the way a lot of people acted in public. It was exactly like what I saw on the news as a “Stereotype” So for years I would go to these things or to bars that catered to those “Hot” guys and I would say to myself “I have never been in a straight bar where people felt the need to take off half their clothes” “I have never gone to a Festival or Event mainly with straight people where they are walking around half naked in Public and in some case actually having sex on the street in public while people watched” I was really weirded out. How does that convey “Pride”? So now because of my feelings about the community I am then called a “Self Hating Fag” and “Bitter” HUH? Just because I did not like that scene it made me that? It’s bad enough for “Gay” people to come out and then be rejected by family and friends but when the community, you thought, was going to be the place for you. Is not at all like you expected. you’re like “Where the hell do I fit in?”. Anyway—-It took a lot of soul searching and being cheated on with any BF I had that I just gave up. Stopped going to “Gay” establishments. Just hung out with my Stright friends, who accepted me for me. I honestly was made to feel that something was wrong with me. I am happy to say that today, as far as my sexuality goes I have come to the realization that I am Asexual. I am attracted to women and men equally but I am not sexually attracted to them. The good thing about this is that I am now comfortable being anywhere, in any situation, because I feel no pressure to look, or act a certain way. Also when I hear Men are pigs, I just agree. Gay, Straight, Bi etc. It’s how we are built. I mean I know I have been in my life at times. Anyway I am really ranting. Point is you can’t turn Gay.You do not choose it. I would have never chosen the path I went on knowing what hell it was. I say You Do You Boo! and….Be Nice To People,
COINCIDENCE that this came out as a story yesterday also?? http://www.attn.com/stories/2766/straight-men-gay-sex
itsmyhusbandandme
It’s called sleeping around.
Jean-Paul
itsmyhusbandandme.wordpress.com
Sluggo2007
People just don’t “go gay.” You are what you are (born that way). That being said, I have never met a straight man who would refuse a blowjob from either sex.
dbmyers
@youarekiddingme: I totally agree . . . about the skewing of polls . . . . and about the under self-reporting. I’ll bet that, when we can finally get honest statistics, we will find that sexuality, from exclusively straight to exclusively gay will end up being a “bell curve” graph, where the largest number of subjects are in the middle of the continuum, with diminishing numbers as you move toward either extreme. Which would mean a lot of bisexuals with varying degrees of preference, who are now willing to admit it. So it’s not a question of people “turning gay” or bi, its more of an increased willingness by larger number of persons, to admit their feelings and/or sexual history (at least in an anonymous survey).
silveroracle
You don’t just choose to be gay or bi. You are born that way.
connorlarkin19
@Bernard Galeano: Please get educated and get updated, See http://www.webmd.com/sex/news/20060918/many-straight-men-have-gay-sex.
You are limiting yourself emotionally and ghettoizing your social potential. Stop the Us v Them. Even paranoids can have enemies. The article is not about gays having relationships with Rev Money Mike Huckabee or Rick Santorum but the subjective and particular of sexual experience(s).
Chord Savage
sexual is sliding scared.
bottom250
@Giancarlo85: Honey, I find your attitude very icky.
bottom250
@jason smeds: Hugs Baby I am proud to have men in me an not to be into gross women.
Dave084
As usual sexual acts are equated with sexual orientation. Many “straight” men can have sex with men strictly as an act of physical pleasure. Sexual orientation goes far deeper and deal with who you bond or “fall in love with” on an intimate, emotional level. To the bible thumpers that differentiation will make no difference though.
Markajv
I have had this happen to me several times but never acted on it, because, well, I thought it was weird. After high school- I was about 17-18 and had friends over to my house to swim and drink and it was late and everyone was leaving except for a good friend of mines older brother. We were both drunk and were watching a movie called “The Betsy” and he kept bringing up that someone who was in it was gay. over and over. I knew what he was doing. Trying to bait me. When I didn’t fall for it he kinda got angry and told me to take him home. I did. Well he was so embarrassed that I was going to tell his sister that he told people I came onto him. Asshat!! Just a couple years ago I had neighbors who were like fresh outta college and we all shared a common backyard. (College boys are GROSS btw! Ugh Girls need to get some self respect and not go home to these dirty slobs no matter how good looking they are) One particular drunk night I went into my apt and this dude came in and I was watching something on tv and he starts saying “I could really use a blow job” Must of said it 5 times. I ignored him. Again. Not falling for it. I was open and honest with my neighbors but that doesn’t mean I am gonna suck their dicks when they are horny. It’s a weird position to be in and I am sure a lot of guys would have done it….but….I like to think I had a little dignity. So I feel some str8 guys have experimented or want to.
Homo Erectus
@Markajv: Damn – I’m glad I never had any “dignity”!
This is nothing new. When I was late teens / early 20s I was happy to suck off all the “straight” guys.
Yum.
Markajv
@Homo Erectus: Hi, I am sorry you took offense to the way I handle myself. This was not about ME not doing it. It was about straight guys who do it. “This is nothing new” To who? Everyone knows this? I am glad you had fun when you were younger. Peace.
AxelDC
@Cam: No homo!
Jacob Doty
I just saved a bunch of money by switching to gay
enlightenone
@Ash Hickerson: Many of us who fought to not have our “label” criminalized or pathologies don’t appreciate the naiveté/ignorance of those, especially gay/bi men who don’t get that we are not talking about shoes (“standard label”), but rather BIOLOGY that predetermines our sexual ORIENTATION. Their is no biological design that values “sexual fluidity” it’s a made up LABEL to enjoy the fruits/benefits of homosexual sex w/o giving up heterosexual privileges, and there are many still!!!!!
enlightenone
@Rob Laughlin: “…But if they need a bro job, I’m free.”
Whores are free! Makes sense.
enlightenone
@Clark35: “…I am bisexual and I’m glad you are not biphobic the way some people are here on this site.”
Smart and bi can be so sexy!
maxdadmark
Another bullshit article, another reason to quit receiving posts from Queerty, apparantly an entertainment site, not to be taken seriously.
Homo Erectus
@Markajv: I just think you’re looking at it the wrong way. Your straight friends were being flattering. They thought you might be fun to play around with and experiment with, and at some level they thought you were cute. Seriously, that’s pretty damn flattering.
No, I’m not the type who obsesses over straight guys, per se (the way certain Queerty writers do, lol), but in your story you are talking about guys who were already your friends. Which makes your story pretty sad. For some reason you seem intent on seeing your straight friends as exploitative. Do the facts really bear this out? I don’t see that.
Also, with your talk of “dignity” – this is not a minor point – you seem to think that sucking c0ck is inherently degrading? C0cksucking is a hell of a lot of fun! You should try it sometime. (Btw, practice helps.)
Lighten up.
Markajv
@Homo Erectus: Are you friggin nuts?. – FIRST off where you got “They thought you might be fun to play around with and experiment with”(Because I am an object for them to get their rocks off?) and “you seem to think that sucking c0ck is inherently degrading?” I have no idea. As far as my dignity goes. I did NOT want to be the “Gay” neighbor that when the horny drunk boys needed BJ’s I was the go to guy, Um because I am not a slut and would never let anyone think that just because I was gay that I wanted to suck them off. That’s totally fucked up. This site and these comments are opposite of what I would assume the “Gay Community” wouldamd should be. There only seems to be that one time of the year where everyone act’s like a family, then it’s back to being dickwads.
Homo Erectus
@Markajv: Oh, I see, you’re one of those. Another utopian prude who wants to rearrange the entire gay community in his own stick-up-his-butt image. Your last comment veers dangerously close to Self-Hating Homophobia territory. Realize that gay men are just fine the way we ARE. We don’t need YOUR approval and we don’t have to change just because you stomp your feet and demand it and type a lot.
Your utopian project is pointless, so you’re harmless enough to the rest of us. But not to you, maybe. You sound pretty young, and the next 20 or 30 years of endless frustration will make you bitter. The sooner you switch to the Mind Your Own Business default, the better for you.
ashton7326
IM HAPPY THATS WHAT GAY means . IM straight I do have gay friends .Thanks for letting me post my 2 sense.
Giancarlo85
@bottom250: Riding every guy you can find and possibly doing it bareback too is an icky attitude. Why don’t you have more respect for yourself?
Celtic
I learned long ago it is not my place to moralize other men about the sex practices, safe or bb. It may be “icky” to you, but obviously it is not icky for bottom250. It seems you are the one who does not respect him. You are not his parent, and you cannot discern that he lacks self-respect because of his own personal choice to fuck raw.
Kitt Katt
To damn funny!! I woke up as a cat, still a cat!!
bottom250
@Celtic: Ohhh thank you Sweety your kind words have brought me to tears.
etseq
Yougov is really more of a marketing company than a professional polling firm – the only scientifically legitimate survey work in the UK is done by the government and some universities. So in the US it would be less Pew and more Zogby, with virtually no quality control over the design of the questions and reliance on cheap internet surveys with low response rates and little attempt at a representative sample.
This particular “survey” doesn’t pass the laugh test, especially the meaningless claim that half of UK youth are “non-heterosexual” (no legit sexuality study would ever be so heterocentric as to lump such a broad range of identities into one binary description) was based on a really bad screening question that prompted for a kinsey number (which is meaningless to most people and leads to guessing). Since the Kinsey scale is range it is similar to other likert scales, which prime respondents to to skew responses towards a median, you can’t reliably use it as a proxy for orientation categories. Even then, the only shift was in the 0-1 kinsey range, which is just as likely a statistical blip than any useful shift in self-identified orientation, desire or behavior.
Hate to be debbie downer but the gold standard in population surveys in the UK is the British Social Attitudes Survey and like the GSS in the US, the percentages for sexual orientation, same sex behavior and same sex desire have all remained fairly stable over the 30 or so years – 2-4%/6-8%/8-12% for each category, with some slight variations.
Zenguy
@Bernard Galeano:
Everyone has primary intrinsic sexually attraction. Just because they might occasionally cross the line doesn’t mean that primary orientation has changed.
Some see it as a black and white issue – straight or gay, But there are shades of gray in between. Human bonding has a complexity that needs to be recognized.
LibraOracle
Actually nobody’s really straight or gay,in fact everyone is both,it switches to one side at puberty but it may switch again later on,humans are just too ignorant to understand how sexuality really works in the brain.
Nahald
Why not ? Only a guy knows how it is to be a guy, feel like a guy, and know how the other guys bodies work. Women will never understand that.
Vicki
As so many commenters stated I hate these kind of articles because it really does sound like one’s sexuality is chosen. And the number of women who admit to trying it out is skewed. Perhaps in the UK girls are different but trust and believe very few girls in the good old U S of A get out of high school and/or especially college without kissing a girl and liking it.
gayjim1969
“Homophobia against male homosexuality has largely been part of women’s gender war against men in general.”
I wonder how heterosexual male homophobia fits into your women’s gender war, exactly there, smeda.
Marky
@gaym50ish: “Sexuality is not “fluid,” although one’s sexual BEHAVIOR may vary.” <– This
Marky
@connorlarkin19: Those are closeted bisexual men who want to maintain the “straight” label for the status and the image. That’s it. They are superficial, selfish people.
liliks
straight men don’t have sex with other men . those who do that are either secretely gay or bisexual . It’s very dangerous to write articles like this , some people will actually believe that there are gay men out there going around and turning straight men gay and they will want to beat them up . check your info : straight men are attracted to women only , bisexual men are attracted to both and gay men are exclusively attracted to men . bye
Stopurcrying
What is sexy? Who is considered to be good looking and who isn’t? In my parent’s day, many of the women that were considered to be attractive then, are considered to be fat today.
So we accept that fact that attractiveness is a matter of environment, culture in other words .. it’s learned or influenced.
Fetishes are also learned behavior or a result of influences or issues one goes through in life: Foot fetishes, humiliation, domination etc.
So why is there a need to demand that sexual preference is not a learned behavior? One word, acceptance.
If one is born that way, then no one can judge the attraction as being unnatural, immoral or that it is not normal.
The simple fact is, little kids do not have sexual desires. We know this to be true because a red flag of child abuse is a child acting out in a sexual way.
This is the harm in introducing sexuality at younger and younger ages. It introduces a lifestyle, a sexual preference before the child is capable of understanding what is being discussed.
So how would a young child with no hormones roaming around in their bodies yet, internalize a teacher telling them: “If it feels good, do it”. “It’s okay to have feelings for your best friend (of the same gender). Give it a try and if you like it, that means you are gay or bi”.
Well here lies the problem. These little kids do not have a reason to be fooling around. However, the body is the body and stimuli still has a pleasant feeling and reward.
So in effect, the government is encouraging experimentation. At such a young age, most people’s friends are often of the same gender. So it is not unreasonable to believe that little Johny has strong warm fuzzy feelings towards his best friend Bobby. These however are not “sexual” feelings. These are nothing more than the feeling good friends have with one anther. Being young and inexperienced, they are not old enough or experienced enough to make the distinction.
So when a teacher or authority figure is telling them that it is normal to have these “attractions” for someone of the same gender. That they should try it, maybe they’ll like it and that’s okay. And then that child is getting the stimuli and reward of the encouraged behavior, what do you think is going to happen?
So the answer to the question is yes! Yes our culture is in fact encouraging if not creating a sexually fluid society.
I understand that one can argue whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. But if one needs to LIE about what is going on, I believe it’s a dead giveaway that that person believes it’s a bad thing, otherwise why lie?
There are many studies that have analyzed the reward benefits of sexual stimuli and how the body rewards whatever the stimuli that brought about the pleasure. Many of these studies have focused on internet porn and the effect it has had on interpersonal sexual activity. Basically, why more and more people are not having sex today. They seem to prefer the computer and the studies are suggesting it has to do with the repetitiveness of reward to the computer stimuli.
Once again, it doesn’t take much of a stretch to see how this could be applied to young kids, who have been encouraged to experiment with their best friends. And since males are much more likely to desire sex than girls, it only stands to reason that males are going to be much more susceptible to this than females.
Stopurcrying
@Stopurcrying:
By the way, that is also the problem with referring to homosexual sex or heterosexual sex as “love”. Love is not sex nor is sex love. I love my mom, but I don’t desire to have sex with her.
So when little kids, again with no hormones raging through their bodies yet, hears an authority figure make the comment that the feeling or desire to be with someone is sexual and sexual is a strong feeling of closeness to another .. it is very easy for a child with no life experience to confuse one for the other.