Tamar Braxton has always been a tepid LGBTQ ally. But over the weekend she let it be known that her support for the community is about as real as her heavily-mascaraed lashes.
On Saturday, the singer made a “public service announcement” on her Instagram page warning women that if their boyfriends “don’t touch” them in more than three or four days, then clearly they’re gay.
“Truth is ladies that these dudes out here really do be gay!” Toni Braxton’s 42-year-old baby sister ranted. “It ain’t enough money, beauty, hair, babies in the world to keep them!! They want D**K!! Periodt!!”
She continued, “It’s nothing wrong with you, but they will find EVERY reason in the world to make u not good enough!! If he lays with you for 3, 4, 10 days and he don’t touch u, it’s NOT YOU!! HE WANT A MAN!! And that’s on my momma.”
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That’s quite a bold statement from someone whose singing career has literally been kept afloat by performing dance songs at Pride events and guest judging on RuPaul’s Drag Race.
The post has since vanished from Braxton’s Instagram page, but a screen grab of it has been making the rounds on social media.
It’s unclear what sparked Braxton to go off on her homophobic tirade, but some believe it might have something to do with her rumored break up with boyfriend David Adefeso. Still, Twitter wasn’t having any of it.
Tamar Braxton is the example of a “fag hag” who benefits off of gay culture but secretly despises the community
— D A S H ? (@iamkingdash) November 11, 2019
So, Tamar Braxton posted on Robyn Fenty’s innanet that if a man is not interested or isn’t in the mood to have sex with his woman, he’s really just gay and rather have dick?!?
Giiiiiiiirrrrl…… pic.twitter.com/jc4OZF0TIi
— Anita Faker (@MovesLikeRoy) November 11, 2019
Man fuck #TamarBraxton without mimicking gay men she wouldn’t have a personality and without gay men she wouldn’t have a damn career. pic.twitter.com/BdPQkcqxR4
— Jay Kentrell (@THEE_Kentrell) November 11, 2019
I seriously wish #TamarBraxton would just sing and not talk…..
— CATEGORY IS BUTCH QUEEN REALNESS (@Gmcgruder) November 11, 2019
Tamar Braxton is doing what a lot of girls do when processing rejection.
"He must be gay"
Maybe you sex is trash and he's no longer into you sexually.
— ? (@NotEmekka) November 11, 2019
I told Tamar Braxton her comment about gay men was insensitive. I also said now I can see why she got kicked off The Real… and then she blocked me… pic.twitter.com/kkR6ymrNYq
— Jordan Stewart (@jordann_stewart) November 11, 2019
The gag is, without the gays Tamar Braxton would not have a personality.
— you’re my chick-fil-A (@itsKAROMEL) November 11, 2019
I saw something homophobic Tamar Braxton posted.
I would pretend to be outraged but it’s Tamar. pic.twitter.com/sso2KKFNrX
— ceasë (@ceetron) November 11, 2019
So Tamar Braxton doesnt want that guaranteed pride month checks huh, hate to see it
— Justice for Atlantis: the lost empire (@MeanChristian) November 11, 2019
So sick of straight women like Tamar Braxton using homosexuality as a weapon just because a man doesn’t want them.
Stay getting cheated on by other women, yet always finding a way to blame gay man.
— Preston Mitchum (@PrestonMitchum) November 11, 2019
drmiller
Stupid, ignorant, and dumb as hell but… I don’t see how this is homophobic; I don’t find this offensive. For those of you who do, I’m curious as to why. I understand that just because a straight man isn’t in the mood for a few days, does not make him gay (gay men can also have cyclical sex drives). But this isn’t outright offensive. It’s just stupid haha.
ShiningSex
SHE’S JUST AN IDIOT. I DON’T GET WHY ANYONE LIKES HER ANYWAYS. WHO LIKES PEOPLE WITH ATTITUDE AND LIKES TO FIGHT ALL OF THE TIME. A WASTE OF TIME.
TheMarc
Agreed
hkgjefe1
100% agree
Smith David
Child cheese! This is just Tamar being Tamar. Don’t mind her folks. She’s off her meds again.
ShiningSex
WHO LIKES THAT OLD UGLY HAG ANYWAYS? GET SOME TASTE PEOPLE
Curtispsf
Please stop SHOUTING!
tjack47
Who?
Hdtex
Nobody ‘HO
Catholicslutbox
Dat grammer tho.
Donston
More than anything the statement is just wrong. She might be speaking from some personal experience and bitterness. But you can’t speak for all. Maybe he’s fvcking another chick. Maybe he’s losing his sex drive in general or dealing with erectile dysfunctional. Maybe he’s just not all that into you specifically. Furthermore, we continue equating “gay” to being scared to touch women (for apparently just a few days) and merely preferring dick. That continues to lead to people seeing “gay” as something basic and one-note and purely sexual. And it places sexual and hetero-normal pressures on men. But yes, Tamar’s connection to the “queer community” has always been about promotion and over-the top queens working for her and kissing her ass. I wouldn’t say that statement is homophobic or anti-gay though.
dmanhart
Agreed. It does sound more like she is butt hurt over her breakup with her boyfriend. I suspect her boyfriend came out to her as gay. lol
It is bitterness she is expressing, not homophobia.
boymikefl
Those comments were directed at straight men. The anti-gay sh*t is used against straight & gay. I think it affects them more than us, unless your under 20. We’re used to it but, this one was for the straights. What’s good for the goose…
Donston
It does end up directly effecting “gays”. If you want to talk about dudes being real with themselves and their partners and not manipulating folks- that’s one thing. But that shallow, accusatory perspective just urges “straight” men to be homophobic. It urges men to not keep it real about their dimensions and/or fluidity. It makes people feel as if they need to perform certain acts in order to “prove” something. And it completely dismisses the romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum and overall preferences. It has the exact of opposite effect she’s aiming for. What she’s saying just leads to more manipulation, homophobia and gay shame.
chupacabra
pure trash
Donston
(Another one of my long, essay-like posts. srry.)
So many men still have the tendency of hiding behind identities and/or behaviors instead of keeping it entirely real and being 100% themselves. That means that women still ultimately hold most of the weight and the power when it comes to sexual and identity politics. And that’s even the case for homosexuals/gays/males who are homo-romantic/men with overall homo ambitions and contentment.
I’ve heard women flat-out say that they purposely date men who are homophobic or who are uncomfortable with “gayness” because they want to avoid men who are not entirely straight/heterosexual in every way. I’ve heard many women say that a guy needs to be completely, entirely inherently hetero and never have had a single experience with a dude in order for them to consider dating them. The hypocrisy is that many of those women have had experiences with females and some have unabashed attractions to females. This perspective is somewhat driven by male homophobia, but most of it is insecurity. Perhaps the guy Tamar was with does indeed have overall same-sex preferences and might have dated her mainly out of clout-chasing and/or a having a semi-famous beard. But that doesn’t reflect everyone.
Not only does that perspective put greater pressure on “straight” guys to constantly prove their supposed straightness and always be sexually aggressive towards women, it has a trickling effect on “queers”. It can help incite internalized homophobia and insecurities in homosexual males because they’re not at all sexually interested in women but feel pressure to sexually engage with women for fear of being deemed misogynistic or seen as a “basic faag” or for the need to “subversive”. It causes men with overall homo-leaning passions, affections and relationship ambitions/contentment to be self-conscious about whatever feelings they have for women and feel the need to constantly remind people how not homo or “gay” they are. It keeps people from understanding and acknowledging the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, relationship spectrum. It helps support straight/hetero-leaning worship and superiority. And it traps overall hetero-leaning men in a cycle of deception and causes them to shield their dimensions. A lot of how males present themselves is still very much driven by females no matter their identity, lifestyle, where they fit on the overall spectrum, their relationship ambitions. And plenty of females are aware they have this power. So, I don’t think her rant was particularly homophobic or anti-gay. But these types of perspectives do have wide-ranging damage.
CanadianGuy62
Am I bothered? No, I am not. I don’t usually take guidance from someone who doesn’t know how to construct a proper sentence.
It aint enough money…do be gay…it’s nothing wrong with you (shouldn’t that be “witch chu,” BTW?)…he want a man.
Why would anyone listen to what this person has to say?!
jonasalden
She’s stupid, we already knew that. But homophobic? Check your dictionaries, especially with the down-low narrative rife throughout the African-American community.
Cam
Or…..he’s just not that into you.
ClarkAlan
I think her comment is rude and a little homophobic. She is clearly using the term “gay” in a derisive manner. She might as well have said “something’s wrong with your man” if he doesn’t touch you for more than 72 hours.
cwaigy
What a two faced back stabbing talentless bitch. She is only famous because of her sister. Strip her of her fag hag titles and privileges