Justin Adrian is a high school social sciences teacher and Shawnee City Councilman from Shawnee, Kansas. Or rather, he was until he hooked up with a student last month in his classroom during school hours.
According to recently released court documents, Adrian and the student first connected on Grindr on September 6. They quickly recognized one another and continued chatting on the app and on Snapchat.
The conversations became “sexual in nature” and on September 7, the two met in Adrian’s classroom at Olathe East High School for a hookup during the middle of the school day.
Adrian locked the door and the two allegedly engaged in a sexual act. After they were finished, Adrian gave the student a pass so he wouldn’t be marked tardy to his next class then ushered him out through a back door of the classroom.
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The student was 18 and of the age of legal consent; however, it is against the law for teachers to engage in sexual behavior with students at their school.
When the student’s parents learned about what happened, they contacted school officials. When questioned by administrators, Adrian confessed to everything and was immediately fired.
He also resigned from his post on the Shawnee City Council.
Adrian was arrested but has since been released from custody after the judge in his case reduced his bond from $250,000 to $50,000. He is facing one felony charge of unlawful sexual relations. If convicted, he could spend over two and a half years in prison.
Adrian is due back in court on November 7.
tham
Hmmm…I have a real hard time criminalizing acts between two consenting adults.
To me, this should fall under the lewd acts in a public place.Yes they should not have had sex in a public place…but felony charge of unlawful sexual relations…
that seems like…it just seems wrong to me.
JED08
Agreed.
HereIAm
This shameless teacher should have stopped all communication with this young guy after he found out the young guy was a student. What if the student was under 18? Who in the right mind would seduce an 18-year-old, anyway?
orrine
It’s done to prevent from someone in power to force sex onto a student. He could have sex with any other 18 year old student but not with ones in his high school
spacecadet
Um, no. Who in their right mind has sex in with one of their students in the classroom of the school they work at in the middle of a school day? A stupid idiot, that’s who. If they had just waited until they were off school grounds it wouldn’t even be an issue. So yes, he deserves to be fully prosecuted.
QueerTruth
Nope. Sorry. The teacher is taking advance of his position of power. It’s wrong on so many levels. He gave him a tardy pass- gag! No excuse. That man has ZERO business teaching or working with youth. Period.
robert_rupp
Agree isn’t stupid as much at fault. He’s an adult responsible for his actions
TimothyBeauchamp
That teacher looks rather young, so I doubt the age difference was that great, as well. The student was 18 – an adult. Had he been any younger then yea, but I’m thinking this is overkill. I bet if the teacher had been a woman, and the student 18 then there wouldn’t have raised hell over it.
tennisteacher2
A GOOD attorney might get the FELONY charge downgraded…but rest assure he’s FINISHED in that town…I’m sure Kansas has yanked his teaching credentials by now, his career might be salvageable within time elsewhere. The moral to this story is; Know when you should keep it ZIPPED…
davey14
Well, he is(was) a social science teacher. It’s just he took the social part too literally.
stanhope
The teacher is a fairly hot piece….that he would, of all of the options, choose a student and then in the classroom is stupid of epic proportions. He deserves to be fired…jail time NO.
1898
@TimothyBeauchamp I disagree. In my state there was a recent case involving a female teacher and an 18 year old male student. The teacher was fired and probably won’t be able to teach anywhere ever again.
Dave4445
His right to teach should be taken away, even a criminal charge of some kind because of his position of authority, but felony sex? That would mean being on a sex offender registry, time in jail, for having sex with a consenting adult. A life in ruins. Treated no different than a violent rapist. That’s not right imo.
Xzamilloh
This was my fantasy when I was in high school. Not mad at all lol
Smith David
O.M.G I hate to admit it. But, this was one of my fantasies in school as well. It was my very hot high school English teacher. Jesus his body.
orfunnyhaha
I’m guilty of reading these stories then checking out the teacher to see if they are hot. Total fantasy.
TimothyBeauchamp
I had sex with a basketball coach when I was legal age and it didn’t hurt me one bit. Had I been younger than 18 then yea… but I wasn’t and I was ready for it!
Rock-N-RollHS
Totally. Could have been considered extracurricular activity and mentoring! lol
stanhope
There was this hot teacher that all of the jocks called sissy and more..he had the hottest ass….i would have tapped that and would have refused to be witness against him so they could not prosecute for lack of evidence unless they took a dna swab of his culo. ?
Tony1129
I was mine as well and I made sure to make good on it. Never at school but off property. I never regreated it. Two high school teachers, one professor and now a Dean. This happened because I wanted it to happen, no one forced or preyed on me.
billygfa
I believe that if you are in “power” over someone, especially a teacher, minister, etc this is good policy. Beyond high school its different but there are too many idiots out there who will take advantage.
queerty02
A good policy, but not a good law. Prison time for consensual sex is crazy.
robert_rupp
Like. Let’s say Brett ?
PretenderNX01
I’m not sure how I feel about jail time over it but he should definitely be fired.
Teachers and college profs, bosses etc have too much power over people and most places forbid you from dating underlings for that reason.
I don’t know, a high school student can’t of been 18 for too long. It’s a weird situation. Of course lewd acts in public places can get you jail time so he violated that law.
Greg
a high school student can’t of been 18 for too long?
Trekbike
I was 18 years old two months before I started my senior year in high school. I was plenty old enough to suck dick. I’m just disappointed it never happened.
jpcolter
That student got lucky. There should be nothing wrong with consenting adults, which both are, from having any sort of relationship they want.
spacecadet
Nope. Not on school grounds you don’t.
bowlingbutch
Wonder if the teacher thinks those few minutes of sex were worth losing 2 jobs. I agree it was a fantasy I also had as a student but I wouldn’t have bragged about it. Teacher needed to go by rules until that person was no longer a student/
Paco
How did the parents find out? Did the 18 year old student change his mind about it afterwards and ran to his parents with tears in his eyes?
The teacher should have used better judgement about where to hookup with the consenting adult student.
batesmotel
Yeah, I wondered that too. They always tell or someone always gets caught. They should’ve just met somewhere off school grounds. Not worth losing your yearly salary and having a criminal record on top of that. Personally this is a bit much. I can understand the firing, but not the arrest.
breal
Consenting? He was a teacher, the other a student. In school, outta school. It doesn’t matter. It’s someone abusing their position. The arrest may seem a little excessive but may serve as a deterrence.
robert_rupp
Wouldn’t think that an 18 year old who’s ballsy enough to
Have sex with teacher tells his folks. My guess would be they checked his phone or over heard something
Greg
The story didn’t say that the student was in any of the teacher’s classes. If he wasn’t, then there’s no abuse of power.
Johnny46
Complete BS. Too bad the teacher’s really cute
Tombear
I’d love to tap some of that hairy, bearded teacher ass!
mossolbtraf
This is standard law in most western countries. It removes the grey area between authority figures and their charges. The teacher knew better, and should have kept his horniness in check.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I personally don’t understand why some teachers keep on doing this to themselves; if the person you’re having sex with lives with their parents, and is a student of yours, just leave them alone. I have never been so horny that I cant think straight like gawd dayum.
I love the bit about they met on sept 6 and the conversation turned sexual on sept 7…..you dont say really?????
PretenderNX01
On Grindr, I’m surprised it took a full day. LOL.
chris_clb614
Strike one: sex with a student, regardless of the age
Strike two: sex with a student during school hours
Strike three: see strike one
Even if it were state law, the most this teacher deserves is the loss of a job.
batesmotel
How on Earth did the parents find out? And what difference would that make if the kid was of legal age. This seems a little outrageous. We know this is not the first teacher student sexual connection, but at least this time the kid was of legal age. So they did it in the classroom. Did someone catch them or did the little brat open his big mouth.
Vince
I was thinking the same thing myself. At 18 he’s practically out of the house as it is. The parents shouldn’t be that involved in his sexual life at that point.
Trekbike
Don’t forget the whole thing took place in radical Christianity Kansas, home of the homophobes. I’m sure his parents upon hearing what happened had to immediately run him to church to get an exorcism and Re-baptism or all of them would go up in flames.
JamJewel
Something we are not considering: maybe he’s still in school at 18 because he is…. the nicest, politically correct way I can think to say it…. dumb. Which could explain how/why he let the cat out of the bag and ratted out the teacher if the experience made him feel….. “grungy!” Good grief! But I had to go there.
Especially because other media reported that Adrian asked the student to meet him at a nearby Target on September 6th, but the student declined and he persisted several other times until agreeing to meet him in the classroom…. somewhere the kid felt safe, I would imagine.
lauraspencer
My question is how did the parents find out? Did the 18 year old go home and tell his parents as if he were a victim?
breal
He should have lost his job, he’s a teacher and the other one is a student. There’s an unequal balance of power. Just another creep trying to use his position to get sex. I’m glad he lost his job, lost his city council seat and I hope more shame and embarrassment come to him. It will make others think twice about doing the same thing.
queerty02
@breal Not fair to characterize the teacher of being a “creep” “using his position.” Do you think he threatened to fail the kid if he didn’t hook up? Unlikely. The teacher is young and attractive. The kid was probably very horny. The missing part of the story is why it didn’t remain a secret.
tjack47
See, a teacher that stupid teaching kids. Thanks, Betsy Devos. What an idiot. Still, both were of age and the student consented. He should’ve lost his job and resigned the city council, which he did. Since no one saw the sex, how is it a lewd act? I thought there had to be a witness to that? Only because he confessed, but still? I don’t see this as criminal at all. Stupid, yes.
Onecaddy13
Betsy DeVoss has absolutely nothing to do with this or does anyone else. If you need to blame someone, blame the two consulting adults for their stupid ways of thinking and not waiting until they were off the grounds . It was going to happen anyway, Their raging hormones took over their heads and couldn’t wait. So don’t blame Betsy, that’s ludicrous. THEY ARE ADULTS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trekbike
My question is why and the hell would anyone bring up Betsy DeVos or appear as though they’re standing up for the bitch!! She’s been a horrific nightmare for the American education system.
KevInSD
Another story of happiness and fulfillment from the world of promiscuity!
Onecaddy13
So right!!!!
Vince
Too bad your mom didn’t know how to work that coat hanger the right way.
frankcar1965
Please eat rat poison.
OrchidIslander
Brand em and judge em without even knowing em.
Such a lofty and desirable place.
Does looking down your nose at others get in the way of the view from up there?
buzzy58
I agree that it was a stupid act to engage in sex in the classroom but all that should have happened was him losing his job. There is no need for criminal charges. They were both legal. How many times have we heard about straight people getting it on at work? Hundreds!!!!!!! So why is this so different.
As a former teacher, I can understand the attraction and thrill of doing it at work, but I have always had the common sense not to act on it. Being a high school teacher, you see so many damn hot and sexy guys and sometimes your mind wanders and wonders how it would be like to see these guys naked and sucking off these hot guys. BUT it is just a fantasy. Remember that.
HereIAm
However you try to justify your disgusting and sinister fantasy, it is absolutely wrong, black and white wrong. There is no gray area here. Glad you didn’t act upon it.
Rock-N-RollHS
@HereIAm, you are clearly not much fun to be around. It’s ok. You can let go. . .
Vince
Did straightnnarrow get her posting privileges revoked?
Hussain-TheCanadian
@ Vince
Yeah she hasnt posted in couple of days Ms thang……..oh my gawd you don’t think she might of visited the Saudi embassy do you????
Vince
Queerty scrubbed all of her comments on the Prep post because she once again went overboard. So HereIam is the next troll name I guess.
Toofie
Yes, the use of the word sinister is a dead giveaway that a name change happened.
Reasonable
He should not of done it on school property, but the 18 year-old could have been the aggressor. He obviously was looking for a hookup if he was on grindr and was no choir-boy.
PinkoOfTheGange
Most of the single guys in the local gay choir are on the apps.
But the teacher is the authoritarian to any student no matter what the age.
Nibiru10x
Oh Justin Adrian, how could you do this to your husband? Did he know you were cheating on him? Or were you both in an open marriage? I get older men being into young barely legal boys, but in your high school really? I’m so hurt and disappointed in you.
mshole
I agree that this is not a criminal act just based on the laws regarding consent, plus this student was on Grindr so he wasn’t completely innocent. The teacher does deserve to lose his job and his city council position for doing it in the school and having sex with a student period. I would remove the criminal charges and fine him for stupidity, tackiness and using the wrong head to think with!
Onecaddy13
I so agree. The parents can’t put their 18 year old in time out. But what they can do is take the phone away if they purchased it. He’ll just buy another and continue looking for hookups. He’s an adult. And if he was on Grindr, he was Caliente and ready for action.
Lacuevaman
adrian is a f*ing idiot. a hard dick has no conscious but his handling of it all puts him in the superstupid class. he’ll soon get all the dick he wants…maybe not the way he wants…. idiot!
tennisteacher2
I agree…What in the HELL was he thinking…Both couldn’t contain themselves long enough to wait after school and go somewhere in PRIVATE off school grounds… I feel bad for the HUMILIATION both will be subjected to….Perhaps a GOOD attorney can get the felony charge reduced, the kid was of LEGAL age…Other than that he’s FINISHED in that town…
Young Timer
The only law broken was a teacher having sex with a student on campus.
If he’d waited to have sex with the kid at his home or if they’d done it in a hotel room, this would not have been a story.
Seems like most of the comments are condemning him for having sex with the student at school because that’s where the law was broken.
So who among us haven’t dared to do the nasty in a public or semi-public place?
In a school, a Walmart restroom, in the restroom in the bar, the woods, along a trail, behind a tree, in a car, riding in a car, in the weeds along a beach, on a balcony, in bus stations, airports, college restrooms, in school classrooms and restrooms, in dirty bookstores, through glory holes, in trees for crying out loud….. shall I go on?
Most gay men have always had this thing about the risky thrill of getting away with sex in public places… the thrill of being discovered.
The risk has plagued gay men for decades, busted thousands of them, and psychologists still don’t understand why many gay men prefer sex in public places.
Until there is a genuine, psychological answer to that, we shouldn’t be too judgmental in this situation.
In the meantime…. where have YOU have sex in public?
Onecaddy13
Agreeeeeddd!!!!!!!
queerty02
No the law states that teachers and students at the same school can’t have sex anywhere. If either the teacher or student had changed schools, then they could have sex on or off school grounds, without breaking the law. Except that, having sex in public is obviously breaking a *different* law, and likely against school policy.
PinkoOfTheGange
Me.
It just isn’t something I ever understood the trill of.
And coming of age in a liberal area in the late 70 early 80’s, the furtiveness wasn’t required. Maybe it is some late baby boomer privilege.
It is one of the few things that I “druther” wouldn’t go on. To much downside for the community.
Get your freak on, just don’t scare the horses.
Just my take, but you did ask 🙂
Onecaddy13
I have to respond to Orrin. Who was forced? The student went willingly and also engaged. Would it have been different if it was off school grounds. Both are of the content age and are allowed to do and think as adults. I do agree that it should have not been done on school grounds. The penalty is a bit harsh and he wouldn’t be jailed if it was at a private residence. Come on people, you were young once and you know how raging hormones are in men and women. Don’t be sticks in the mud!!!! Relax, not everyone is an angel and as per previous comments, they were both the age of convent in their state.
tennisteacher2
His teaching career might be salvageable in time…I hope he can get a GOOD attorney that can probably get the FELONY charge reduced…, but thanks to his bad judgment, he’s FINISHED in that town…I feel bad for the HUMILIATION that both will have to face, but this could have been avoided…On a side note: How did the parents find out, snooping through his messages perhaps or did someone spill it…
Mike_M
If the teacher had been female, there would likely have been no fine, no perp walk or public mug shots and the student would be told how lucky he was to have someone older “show him the ropes”. The huge double standard between male and female teachers engaging in sex with students remains.
At the same time, he really should have had better sense. But since it is Kansas and a completely ultra right wing state and this is two males, I’m sure he will be doing a long sentence.
PretenderNX01
LOL, like no women get arrested for having sex with students? Just do a google search.
Rock-N-RollHS
So many serious, literally minded social justice warriors on this thread. Glad I don’t live in their worlds. I do feel bad for the teach and student though. But what a hot scenario. Unfortunately the arrest and publicity will “traumatize” the “kid.” Sad, just, sad. A huuuuuge miscarriage of justice. [Hands spread wide here]
daver01
If it is illegal in Kansas or, indeed, the USA in general, for a teacher to engage in a sexual relationship with a student, whether straight or gay, then he should have know better and should be prosecuted. But you have to wonder, given the fact that the student was 18, and therefore an adult, why he himself was willing to proceed knowing full well that anything he and this teacher got up to could only have one result if anyone found out – the teacher would lose his job, face imprisonment or both.
That said, and like some others, I would be interested in knowing how the student’s parents found out. For example, if they checked his computer or cellphone, you have to ask why, when this would have been an invasion of his privacy? I also wonder if the teacher had been a woman, would the parents have reported it?
Or is it simply that this student’s parents don’t like the idea that their son is gay and are trying, perhaps, to blame Justin Adrian for “turning” him?
remyshields
For me, it was always my Italian teachers…in college it was Luigi…years later, brushing up at The New School, it was Antonio…Good Lord, it was fun going to class
87frc37h
If you had done anything when them, and it happened in Kansas, they could be in jail now. It doesn’t matter if its college or else. Rediculous Kansas Laws!
Polaro
Always a bad idea to have sex at work. Never a good idea to bang a subordinate or student. This is proof.
Tarutaru
Uhhh I have a problem with sex being illegal. Rape is one thing, exposing yourself in public is another, but the act of sex itself cannot be unlawful. I draw the line there.
masterwill7
Seriously??? Only in America!!! In Europe you will get fired, but going to jail for sexual engagement between two consenting adults is just ridiculous!!! These parents are crazy too!
dannysax
Remember the Police song “Don’t Stand So Close to Me”? About this same thing, but the instigator was the student. Who know that it wasn’t the student’s idea to do it in the classroom. I also remember the porn movie “The Bigger the Better” with student Rick Donovan having classroom sex with his horny teacher. I agree it’s a fantasy for a lot of guys. I was an English teacher and had an absolutely gorgeous hot 17 yo student in one of my classes, and I had to discipline myself not to look at him too much, but nothing else was envisioned, except in my fantasy world at home. Actually I had one of the girls in my class hit on me a few times, and it did make me uncomfortable. Remember this is Kansas, the home of bigots like Fred Phelps. A felony for consensual sex is way overboard, and a public lewdness charge should have been the rule- class B misdemeanor. The scandal would lose the teacher his jobs without the harsh sentence. In Europe this would be a no-brainer, but the lack of sex-positivity in this “pioneer” country will never allow the authorities to loosen up that much.
dannysax
Regarding how the parents found out, it’s hard to believe the 18yo would have told them. What daver01 said may be the case- parents didn’t like son being gay, so they meddled in his phone and discovered the exchange and the planned hookup. Or the student may have boasted to one of his friends, and that one may have accidentally said something to his parents, etc. Who knows, but it is an unfortunate ending to a risky plan.
southernboicharm1
Lemme first begin with, TEACHERS WHO HAVE SEXUAL RELATIONS OR ANYONE IN AUTHORITY USING THEIR POWER FOR SEXUAL ADVANTAGE IS WRONG… but, in this case u have to take in the facts.
This student was above the age of legal consent. Also we don’t know the age of the teacher (for those saying or implying that there’s a huge age gap between them) and whether or not his admission and being fired is already punishment enough.
The student was 18 and clearly knew what he was doing being on Grindr and then on Snapchat. Also by not knowing the age of the teacher we cannot say if he “took advantage” of the student Bc they could very well be close in age. Also, I believe that since the teacher was fired because of this I agree with another user’s comment saying that this should fall under the indecent acts in public and not as a felony.
Sam6969
First, why aren’t there any sources mentioned in this article? There are details I did not find elsewhere.
As to the main point raised in the comments, answering the question of legal sexual intercourse between teachers and adult students is quite arbitrary, as not all states in the US have the same views on that matter.
It seems indeed teachers can legally have sex with students over 18 (and sometimes 17) in Illinois, New Jersey, Kentucky, Minnesota, New Hampshire, New Mexico or Vermont.
Source: www . ageofconsent . net / states / new-mexico
Too bad for this teacher he does not live in one of these states or this sexual intercourse did not take place (at his home) before 2007 (in shawnee, Kansas)…
Legislation varies across space and time.
Celtic
Quote: It is against the law for teachers to engage in sexual behavior with students at their school. End quote.
Unless I am missing something here, it is not the gay sex. It is the fact the teacher had sex with a student ON SCHOOL PREMISES. There is an old, old saying: Do not shit where you eat.
Sam6969
That’s why I asked for the exact sources of this Queerty article.
In Kansas legislation, article 55-sex offenses, it reads:
“21-5512.?Unlawful sexual relations. (a) Unlawful sexual relations is engaging in consensual sexual intercourse, lewd fondling or touching, or sodomy with a person who is not married to the offender if:
“(9) the offender is a teacher or other person in a position of authority and the person with whom the offender is engaging in consensual sexual intercourse, lewd fondling or touching, or sodomy is a person 16 years of age or older who is a student enrolled at the school where the offender is employed. If the offender is the parent of the student, the provisions of subsection (b) of K.S.A. 2012 Supp. 21-5604, and amendments thereto, shall apply, not this subsection;”
It means that it is the main crime in this case, not specifically the fact it was committed in the school premises (but we lack details).
PinkoOfTheGange
It is a student registered at the school that the teacher teaches at.
The “on school grounds” is just salacious frosting.
joe
i work at a university and we are expressly forbidden to have any type of personal relationship with a student and our student are 18 and up. this guy is an idiot, then again it was Kansas so he probably hadn’t been laid since he moved there, still go beat off, thats still not a good enough reason to do something like this…
queerty02
Would you go to jail if you had a relationship with a freshman?
87frc37h
@queerty02 You would in Kansas if someone found out and wanted to use it against you.
startenout
He’s 33, if that matters, but as a teacher, I have to say that there are hundreds…well, it Kansas, so maybe dozens… of men to sleep with 18 and up that do not go to the school where you’re a teacher. You know the law. We all know the law. He made a choice to flout that law on school grounds during school time, and there should be legal repercussions. Sorry it isn’t the popular opinion.
Robothedestroyer
Kid was not underage, teacher from what I gather had nothing held over the student except making sure he didnt get a tardy- which was a chill thing to do! Most of my hookups wont even give me a glass of water…
Teach was cute too! Hell my highschool self would had banged his brains out and narry told a soul.
I think the charges are way way out of proportion. I hope they don’t try to toss jim onto the sex offender list. I dont think he’s a preditor at all. Just a young guy who watched 1 too many pornos.
Sam6969
I agree mistakes in this country seem to lead often to (too) severe cumulative punishments (legal, social, professional). I chose the word: “mistake” on purpose to designate those so called “crimes”, which are in fact causing little or no damage to the people involved, in the first place, while the heavy punishments cause, them, terrible damages to the two “lovers”. Admittedly, it still has to be proved in this case, but likely not much as other two consenting adults (one of them being a teacher and the other a student in another school).
Brgod
Best comment on here! Totally agree with you!
ek76
Fired – yes, 100% justifiable. Most high schools and colleges have policies stating repercussions for teachers engaging in sex or relationships with students.
Arrested – I’m not sure. I don’t think I agree with an arrest since the student was 18. Also, to emphasize a double standard – Kansas is one of two states where kids as young as 10 can be tried as adults. I’m not saying under 18 is ok, but the young man was 18.
His name and picture on national blogs in cuffs? – very sad for everyone involved. I hope he gets his life back together after this.
am
I always thought it’s illegal in the States to install Grindr if you’re under 21. Or is it only in States where the age of consent is 21?
Anyway, what about the student. What was HIS motive for both having sex with the teacher and mostly for telling his parents about it? He’s not an innocent victim of harassment or something, he wasn’t forced to have sex with the teacher, but probably had his pleasure too. Will he be expelled from the school for having sex on campus? I just love how it’s always a part of the narrative in all those stories.
Sam6969
I think the system deals poorly with that kind of situation. It is binary, forceful and it could do much better without harming people unnecessarily in its search for justice and prevention.
Sam6969
sorry I did not want to put that comment here 😉
surreal33
Yes Mr Adrian should have been fired. Should he go to jail for giving head in classroom absolutely NOT. Losing his job was enough.
waspybear
no question
he is/was a TEACHER
that should indicate some sense… and acceptance of his responsibility
if you have to give your sex partner a hall pass afterwards, you know damned well that you are not in the right
and if you cannot pay the fine, dont do the crime
another silly man thinking with his tiny head instead of the one with a brain
Jaroslaw
waspy – yes, it was not a bright thing to do. But I would suggest such a rule shouldn’t be in the first place. A reprimand or a couple days off work for being stupid but not firing the guy. Jail is absurd. Rules are made by those in power, not always for the benefit of those governed. And you realize laws have changed over time AND that Congress is exempt from many of the rules they make for US!!!
Alfy
This boy I dated once used to have sex with his teacher in high school (when he was 16). We dated and got an apartment together when he was 19 and I was 25 (we met at and went to the same college) and some cops came by to question him and get a statement because that particular teacher and another elementary school teacher were busted hooking up with trading multiple boys (even way younger than 16) and the guy I was with was the only one over 18 at the time. They are both still in jail AFAIK. The guy dumped me for an older man shortly after. He’s 38 now and a teacher himself.
HereIAm
Sounds like everyone involved is where they are supposed to be now.
Patsy Stoned 75
Life is not a porn set, quayne.
Geeker
Dumbass
M K
So this happened last month, so September…. The beginning of the school year.
And this student is already 18…. Yeah, he’s the sharpest tool in the shed…. NOT. There’s no surprise this happened with him….
inbama
Sad to see gay men sound like doctrinaire sex-hating feminists.
If this 18 year old is a victim, he is most likely a victim of his parents.
Fool that he is, nothing in this story suggests that this teacher was abusing his power to force a student to have sex, so reciting that cliche about unequal power is irrelevant. Lose his job and license – of course. But imprisonment? Waste of taxpayer dollars.
Bryanbami
I don’t think its fair to say lose his license as well. We don’t know the circumstances leading up to the hook-up. Sure lose his job, he broke the school code of ethics. But how do you know Mr 18 year old wasn’t sending him dick and ass pix and sexting him until the end of the lesson getting him worked up? How many other undersge guys are on Grindr at the school he worked at that he passed specifically because they were underage? All we know is it was consentual sex between adults who had been chatting and sexting for a few days and it happened at his work place. The issue is his work place is a school and the one consenting adult is a student. Until those chats and sexts are read. Can’t really judge
Bryanbami
Firstly they are both consenting adults. Secondly, lewd acts in a public place? The doors were locked that takes the public issue off the table because locked doors equal privacy. Thirdly they were chatting and sexting on two chat apps for several days before they actually had sex. The 18 year old could have gone to his parents and said my teacher is harrassing me or someone at the school if that was the case so the whole argument that the teacher was someone with power over him doesn’t fly. And lastly the teacher doesn’t look that old.
Honestly maybe this guy should lose his job for breaking the code of conduct but there should be no legal proceedings at all. Honestly sounds like either the parents aren’t accepting that their son is gay and are playing the teacher is a predator card or the family is going to try milk the situation for attention or money from the teacher
At the end of the day many many many people gay or straight have wanted to jump their hot teachers, even when they were underage. Be grateful they were consenting adults
JessPH
Fired? Yes.
Jailes? Hell no!
America should stop incarcerating people for harmless crimes like this. Jeez
Bryanbami
Another question is…. Was their relationship just a chat sex hook up type thing or were they getting serious?
Im very interested to see where this goes
*10 years later they married*
podesta7
Regardless of being consenting adults, teachers have a duty of care which was broken here. Besides hooking up with someone at work during work hours is unethical and just not classy..
surfpenis
Hot. I wonder who blew who.
Redieagle
So, if the Student is 18? Then why isn’t he being charged as Well???
He is in fact 50% involved yet nothing will be done to him.
Redieagle
So, if the Student is 18? Then why isn’t he being charged as Well???
He is in fact 50% involved yet nothing will be done to him.
Satman_99
Good point.
timtonruben359
Sorry, but this teacher is a complete idiot and obviously lacks any sense of judgement. I was a teacher for 12 years and there are boundaries you never, ever cross with a student. Your relationship is meant to be professional at all times. You are not your student’s friend, your are a figure of authority. Yes, there are some circumstances where might closer to a student but there are is always a limit. I don’t care if the student was the age of consent or not. When I was teaching, we were discouraged from even physically touching a student unless it was a medical emergency that required first aid.
The common sense thing would have been to block the student on Gridnr the moment he recognized him or at the very least just told the student “thanks for the message but I can’t chat with you.” But going on with the student and then engaging in some kind of sexual activity AT THE SCHOOL, this idiot deserves anything he gets.
Sam6969
First, acting like an “idiot” does not mean the person is an idiot. It is not necessary to be insulting, particularly if you do not know personally this man.
It is always easier for people to judge others based on the so called “common sense” (which by the way can vary across place and time) or whatever objective reference they think relevant, as if a human being was always pure objectivity, including themselves. Only AIs are entitled to this position.
I think it’s important to remain empathetic and remember that even good people can commit mistakes, when we comment on people we do not know going through difficult times. This teacher did not commit any major crime and writing something like: “this idiot deserves anything he gets” sounds to me quite disproportionate and insensitive.
Satman_99
I don’t take issue with the teacher being fired but my problem is that a felony should be used for the most violent crimes like murder.
Jaroslaw
Satman – if this guy should be fired, what should happen to people who have multiple children by multiple partners and have to be on welfare to take care of them? I’m not talking about people who lose their jobs or get disabled. I’m talking about people who can’t even begin to take care of the children and never could. Research shows fatherless households and poverty raise a lot more criminals than intact families.
crashnburn121
Consequences. I’ll admit that I wanted to score with one of my teachers in high school, but I wasn’t serious.
Satman_99
The only person I was certain was gay in my school was a freshman class teacher who seemed shy and quite and as a senior I was an office assistant who picked up attendance slips during one of my periods. I actually left a note in this teacher’s mailbox but I never followed up. I wished I had. I requested he wear a red shirt two days from delivering the note and sure enough he did. I basically wanted someone I could talk to. Sorry but in a way I’m jealous of this student.
battyboy
Ridiculous. Meanwhile in states up and down the country kids can get married at 13
Nibiru10x
All this and no one has questioned the fact the man just celebrated his wedding anniversary this week with his husband. What was he thinking? Did the husband know he had a thing for his high school students? Did he know his husband was on Grndr? This is horrendous all around!
Brgod
So they are still together? They might be a couple that has an open relationship. Not sure though if I could stay with someone that got themselves in a kettle of worms quite like this – this is an extreme situation on all levels!
Nibiru10x
Yea they are still together. And you’re right, probably is an open marriage. And the kid opened up to his mom, that’s who reported the incident.
Brgod
Wowza!!!! This is quite the story and very shocking! Reading some of the comments above, I too wonder why or how the 18 yr old student relayed the details of this sexual encounter with the teacher to his parents. Did he panic because he felt guilty, scared, ashamed of his encounter?? So many questions and its all a guessing game as to how everything escalated to this point. But I do agree it should never have happened in a classroom environment, and the teacher should of had the brains and professionalism to realize that it is completely wrong to do what he did.
87frc37h
For a crime to have occurred, there needs to be an ‘injured party’ (a person who has suffered loss or trauma).
All I see here before charges were filed was two guys with smiles on their faces, and after charges filed, Mr. Adrian has clearly suffered loss and trauma.
Police regularly kill innocent people, and get paid time off. Have some perspective.
Jaroslaw
Great perspective 87frc37h. Although having read in great detail the background of the “innocent” police victims, the most you can say in a majority is the victim wasn’t innocent that particular moment! or there is a lot left out to make the story sensational.
Steve10304
He couldn’t do what every other self respecting gay man would’ve done!! Wait till after class and banged him in the backseat of his car OFF of school grounds! Pretty damn stupid for someone that’s supposed to be an educator!!
Steve10304
Are the classrooms video monitored, I’d like to see the proof!!!
Billysees
Me, oh my………the lust of the flesh……….and the dumb things it can do.
tham
Although, through it all…the real moral of the story is….
DON’T open Grindr at work…it doesn’t end well.
salumbre
Kansas laws are draconian and medieval, which is why the guy is facing a felony charge. And most gay people in Kansas towns are deeply in the closet, hence the classroom encounter. I’m pretty sure it wasn’t even about the thrills. Kansas is sadly stuck in the 50s.
salumbre
That said, he had no business hooking up with a student in the school he worked at, let alone having sex in his own classroom. You don’t sh*t where you eat.
Jaroslaw
I am a bit surprised at the large number of negative comments on this site. I liked the comment above by the guy who said police kill innocent people every day – this was consensual sex between adults for crying out loud!!!!!! In a sex-positive society, there wouldn’t be a stupid rule about having sex on school property. Or at least if appropriate precautions were taken which seems to be the case here, it should be some sort of reprimand, not firing or jail. I can’t believe this 18 year old had to tell his mother, which is how this whole mess got started. Likewise, it wasn’t prudent for the teacher to have sex with a student. Perhaps he is nice looking, and used to getting what he wants and he was bored? (trying to figure out why he would take the risk of having sex with a student).
fucqueerty
Read the law. Google ksa 21-5512
“the offender is a teacher or other person in a position of authority and the person with whom the offender is engaging in consensual sexual intercourse, lewd fondling or touching, or sodomy is a person 16 years of age or older who is a student enrolled at the school where the offender is employed.”
So do you see where this is limited to highschool? I don’t! In Kansas, if a 40 year old professor dates a 50 year old student at the same college, 2 years in jail.
That’s the Kansas Legislature. Stay out of the underpants of consenting adults.
And while the student is 18, several people here have implied that they’re only barely legal. Well guess what. That porn in everyone’s internet history this morning is ‘barely legal’ too. Barely means IS. So by a day or a decade it’s no different. And in Kansas, the age of consent is 16, not 18. Though Grindr’s Terms of Service specify 18.
I think it’s tacky to screw at work, but plenty of people do. And you show me any highschool senior who hasn’t fantasized at least once about screwing a teacher and I’ll show you a liar.
Consenting adult texts his teacher, then goes to his teacher’s room to show his junk to the teacher and teacher goes to jail? This is complete nonsense.
Walker
Whenever I see a headline like this on Queerty it’s a lot of fun predicting how many people will come out to defend the creeper. Always double points if he’s even remotely conventionally attractive. Because the only way you can signal sex positivity anymore is to argue that basic ethics are irrelevant. Who cares about balance of power? Why do we even have rules about sexual harassment? I should be able to take a dick on my desk at work, who’s it harming? (Other than the poor minimum wage housekeeper who has to clean up, of course, but f**k her, right?)
Two things I wonder about all the people saying “Age of consent! Age of consent!” Does it bother you in the least that a 30-something guy who is obviously attracted to teenagers somehow gravitated to one of three professions that grants the most access to them? (The other two being clergyman and coach.) And if he looked like Harvey Weinstein would you be talking about how unjust his treatment is?