They say coming out is an ongoing process — and that must be especially true if you have to keep telling people the same big news over and over again. the same person the same news over and over again.
That’s the predicament Megan Gail Yeo faces each time she sees her grandmother.
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At first, Yeo was impressed and highly pleased by her grandma’s reaction.
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“She was so thrilled,” she says.
Encouraged by her grandma’s reaction, the next time she brought her girlfriend over so that the two could meet.
“It was really beautiful to have this really strong woman who is my grandmother meet this wonderful, strong woman who is my partner,” Yeo says.
“And that was really special to me that they knew each other.”
But around this time, Megan’s grandma began to display typical signs of Alzheimer’s: she kept forgetting Megan was gay and started asking if she’d met any “nice boys.”
I take a deep breath, and I’m like, ‘No, I’m gay, I’m dating a woman, her name is Erika, you’ve met her, I’m really happy, I really like being who I am. This is just who I am.’”
At the very least, her grandma keeps reacting positively.
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“‘Oh, that’s great,” she says. “That’s great. I’m so glad you just, you know, you found a way to be happy with yourself.”
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ErikO
Sometimes that happens with older people, and people who have Alzheimer’s and dementia. I hope they find a cure for them.
Or in my case I would see a TS/TG woman in a bar and she was not old, but had some mental issue and I would have to introduce myself to her each and every time I saw her even though we would see each other at our local LGBT bar a few weekends in a month.
Eye of the Beholder
She should move her girlfriend in? Funny grandma didn’t “forget” about enforcing hetero normativity with all her “Alzheimer’s”.
Eye of the Beholder
Grandma: Is she still here?
Lesbian: Well I had to move her in to help me take care of you Grandma. You may not know this, but you’re getting worse and worse all the time.
ErikO
@Eye of the Beholder: Do you even know anyone who has Alzheimer’s? They’re not selective in their memory loss, and they don’t do things on purpose or to be mean, bigoted, etc. Maybe someday you will get it and see what it’s like.
bebop beep
@Eye of the Beholder: Where are you getting this subtext from? She says her grandmother is supportive, did you even read the actual article?
Eye of the Beholder
@ErikO: I wasn’t implying she was being selective at all. Maybe you’re being selective with your intellect tho. So to hear you tell it homophobia doesn’t even exist? Interesting theory. Shut the fu-k now. You’re a bothering who-e.
Eye of the Beholder
@bebop beep: Maybe YOU should read the article AND watch the video.
Grandma with Alzheimer’s is awesome about hearing the news that her granddaughter is a lesbian in a relationship except for the fact that she keeps conveniently forgetting about it just to press her out for a more hetero-normative choice. Did you conveniently forget that the teen said grandma keeps asking if she’s “dating any nice guys”?
Here’s the question you should all start asking yourself: But if her granddaughter started dating a man would grandma suddenly remember THAT relationship lol?
Eye of the Beholder
You all may have a point about being more mindful of jokes about Alzheimer’s sufferers, but if you’re going to miss the point of what I’m writing in the first place then there’s your intellect in a nutshell.
I wasn’t implying grandma was being selective at all, and atleast I did watch the video.
bebop beep
@Eye of the Beholder: You literally DID say that grandma was being selective. You said,@Eye of the Beholder: “Funny grandma didn’t “forget” about enforcing hetero normativity with all her “Alzheimer’s”.”
bebop beep
@Eye of the Beholder: You clearly didn’t watch the whole video, because the granddaughter even says how wonderful it is ON THE OCCASIONS WHERE GRANDMA SUDDENLY DOES REMEMBER toward the end. Go to 5:35 in the video to hear her talk about it.
It’s really quite moving to hear the grandmother’s thoughts on love and how accepting she is of her granddaughter finding love with another woman. Alzheimer’s is a tough disease to deal with, and little moments of remembering like that are priceless.
Eye of the Beholder
@bebop beep: Forget in quotation marks. I think this is the end of our correspondence. Your insistence on trolling me with unintelligence on numerous articles now is weak. I finally saw the totality of how you keep flirting with me with stupid arguments that always drastically miss the point.
Eye of the Beholder
@bebop beep: “You clearly didn’t watch the whole video”
I’m the only who put the video into context so nice try troll. Mad because I forced you into finally watching the video yourself troll? Now you’re just grasping at straws. Nothing you wrote disproves anything except whether you have the logic to understand a joke when you read one. You continued to write unintelligent sludge thinking the totality of the article was in the written aspects of it.
“Where are you getting this subtext from? She says her grandmother is supportive, did you even read the actual article?”
Look familiar? Mad because I keep handing you your effeminate a– you ra-ist queen?
bebop beep
@Eye of the Beholder: I’d love to hear your explanation of why you project your own assumptions that the grandmother is purposely forgetting that her granddaughter is gay. Even if the granddaughter was straight and had a boyfriend, the Alzheimer’s would indeed still cause her to forget it. Do you perhaps not understand what Alzheimer’s is?
Not sure which straws you think I’m grasping at, you can listen to the granddaughter say it herself at 5:35 in the video.
Eye of the Beholder
@bebop beep: Deflective? A Hillary supporter I take it.
First you trolled me with: “Where are you getting this subtext from? She says her grandmother is supportive, did you even read the actual article?” All that nonsense, because you trusted that all of the information you needed to comment troll me was in the article and not the video. Then you got mad when I called you out on that thereby forcing you to watch the video yourself. You are sad and laughable.
Then you took a ErikO’s comment out of context hoping to desperately fashion a “win” for yourself (somehow someway) that way but typically your own unintelligence got in the way. The point ErikO was making was sufferers of Alzheimer’s don’t have THE ABILITY to be selective with their memory loss. He missed the joke I was making but then you missed the serious point HE was making. How do you get to be so stupid? You’re “losing” quite a bit here. Hmmm, but I’m not so finished with you yet hunty.
Then I made mention of the fact that you may just not understand a joke when you read one, and so now you’re asking what straws a loser like YOU could be grasping at by trolling me desperately for “a win” with your ill-fashioned arguments. Well grasp this queen: Ever since I caught your effeminate ass trying to rac-stly paint Asian queers with effeminacy hoping they would fight your effeminacy battles for you you’ve been trolling my name wherever you see it all over Queerty. Thought I didn’t notice? Mad about my posterity queen? So how about you stop pretending that you don’t know sh-t, because everytime you’ve stick your foot in your mouth just to play dumb afterwards it was duly noted.
Oh, and since you have a penchant for dodging bullets allow me to reprint this for your ra-ist ass: I think this is the end of our correspondence. Your insistence on trolling me with unintelligence on numerous articles now is weak. I finally saw the totality of how you keep flirting with me with stupid arguments that always drastically miss the point.
Funny how you missed that, and proved me right again in the process. Your turn queen. Rebuttal?
Eye of the Beholder
stuck*