nonsexual identity

TELL QUEERTY: Do Asexuals Have It Harder Than GLBTs?


Is it time to add the letter “A” to LGBTQ? Because a new sexual class keeping making its way out of the closet: the asexuals.

Men and women who simply have zero interest in sticking phallic objects into orifices are here, and they aren’t queer — well, not always, ’cause plenty of asexuals still have romantic relationships. Just no sex.

They’re not looking for “special rights,” just “respect in a sex-obsessed culture,” notes the SF Chronicle. They’re talking to you, Abercrombie & Fitch marketing department.

But men and women who have no sexual desire do have an umbrella organization, as all demographics do. It’s called the Asexual Visibility and Education Network, founded nine years ago by 27-year-old grad student David Jay, which as far as we can tell is not a dating service. (Speaking of: Anyone know a decent asexual hook-up dating site?) You might know Jay from when Tucker Carlson made fun of him on MSNBC, or when the New York Times covered this trend four years ago.

With the mainstreaming of a whole new sexual identity — namely, a group of people who, you could argue, have none — it’s time to play the “Who has it the hardest in life?” game.

When it comes to LGBTs, we’d argue gays and lesbians get off the easiest (“mainstream” society is starting to accept them!), followed by bisexuals (some still consider them a joke!) and then transgender folks (when you’re most often referred to as a “shemale,” you can imagine the stigmatization).

Where would you put the “As”? Especially when you’ve got folks like Johns Hopkins University’s director of the Center for Sexual Health and Medicine, Dr. Leonard R. Derogatis, saying things like: “Sex is a natural drive, as natural as the drive for sustenance and water to survive. It’s a little difficult to judge these folks as normal.”