Historically, living as an out and proud gay person has come with its fair share of hardship, and those challenges haven’t vanished entirely.
But if you can manage, as many do, to carve out a space in the world where you’re surrounded by those who accept you for who you are, being gay can be, for lack of a better word, pretty fabulous.
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Below, guys on Whisper share what they perceive to be the best perks of playing for the gay team:
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No head games just sex when ad where you want, sweethearts.
Gary Duffy
Joshua have a read of these
Glücklich
The friend who introduced me to my husband, very wise and experienced, once said his life is so much more interesting *because* he’s gay. I concur. I know I wouldn’t have had the adventures I’ve had were I straight.
One caveat: you still deal with “family crap” even if your family isn’t related by blood or marriage.
Billy Budd
Women want security and commitment. Men want to fuck and be happy fucking.
Matt Achine
As usual, there’s a sea of white faces posted to underscore this drivel. I guess anybody who doesn’t look like them is made miserable by their sexuality.
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@Billy Budd: Sweetheart you are preaching to the Queer.
Clayton Rogers
It’s not all rainbows and unicorns guys
Realitycheck
@Glücklich: ha ha ha I hear you, family will aw\lways be there and not always in a constructive way…
Black Pegasus
Another bullshtt article sponsored by one of Queerty’s paid advertisers. Whisper is a stupid app for bored 12yr old girls and anti social men over 40.
Tobi
@Clayton Rogers: “It’s not all rainbows and unicorns guys.” Damn.
Paco
@Billy Budd: Speak for yourself. Some of us do think about securing a future with someone we love.
Sweetie Pie
Not dealing with bitches with PMS once a month is priceless too
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@Sweetie Pie: Ohhh god honey that would be the worst
Nathaniel J. Shafou
Jonathan Bray
Robert Guillermo Hernandez
HURRY UP …. Get in with us … WATER WILL GET cold …PLAY HIDE THE SOAP …
Glücklich
@Realitycheck:
God forbid you get crazy in-laws, too. Mine aren’t crazy but they are friggin’ hot mess express.
throwslikeagirl
I agree with everyone’s positive comments. Here’s another: some Native Americans call us “twin-spirits”, because we embody traits of both the masculine and the feminine. We’re considered special in a blessed way because we can see things from both perspectives and have good qualities of both genders.
Here’s a cute one: we get better service in restaurants because we’re known a s good tippers–especially if the server’s gay. Here’s to an appetizer, dessert or special glass of wine on the house!
Mack
@Glücklich: I agree about the family. My “ex-mother-in-law” pretty much was responsible for our break up. His mother and father move into our house and she decided it was her and everybody had to do what she said.
Sloane Glover
* and white
Benet Leigh
Rub-a-dub-dub! Never let others control your life. Enjoy the perks of the life you have!
Scrufff
I’m a friendly affable guy i’ve always had a way with friends and have been blessed with some truly wonderful friends in my life.
Now 53 years old in my middle ages, i’m made a number of straight male friends, both through work place and otherwise. I can’t even begin to tell you how many of these guys have told me that they don’t have any male friends and think that i’m so lucky being gay and having opportunity to develop nonsexual relationships with other men. to hear it from them… that being a straight male is hard to make true friendship bonds. there’s too much competition: job status, trophy wife status, better cars, more money, athletic sporting abilities etc. through there interactions with me, they’ve observed that us gay guys have gay male friends and we’re actually enjoying our friendships.
My best friend is straight, we’ve know each other since high school. after high school he joined the Army and has made his way up rank. Now we’re middle aged and he’s married with two kids and lives on the opposite coast from me. but when we chat he opens up we’ll talk for hours on end and he always says how happy he is for our friendship because other than me, he has no one he can really talk to. we’ve never had sex, we are just friends, and although i have many intense platonic friendships with other gay guys, my straight friend feels that HE only has one, me.
Thomas Brendel
The boring family crap? I have a family and my kids aren’t boring… Whoever said that sure is missing out.
Billy Budd
@Scrufff: Yes, Scruff, it is the same with me. My best friend, Danilo (Dan) is also straight. He now lives in another state and we talk to each other not frequently but regularly. We have a deep, true friendship, an unconditional brotherly love that has never died. He likes to talk to me about his girls, his work, his family. He feels totally safe with me and he knows he can count on me. I have other (gay) male friends but none of them is special like Dan is.
AtticusBennett
i LOOOOOOOOVE being gay.
i love that i get to live a life by my own rules, i love that i have had friendships and lovers and the deepest bonds with my Brothers in Culture; embodying physical and emotional intimacy, trust, love, affection and a cast-iron bond.
i love that i’m an active part of a living culture that proves that “the way things are” is nothing but a transient myth that can, and WILL, be transcended and reshaped.
i would never, ever, want to be straight. being gay is the biggest gift.
SonOfKings
We get a free show in the gym locker room.
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@SonOfKings: ohhhh god yes and sometimes it because more
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becomes
Billy Budd
@bottom250: Bottom250, have you had sex in the locker room? That is amazing. How did you manage to do it? Did anybody appear when you were doing it with the guy? Do you know how many porn movies take place in the locker room? It is a major gay fantasy, to fuck in the locker room…
martinbakman
Yes, being gay is one big fvcking advantage after the other.
The world is my oyster. I just need to remember to watch my back in certain neighborhoods, and several countries, and find some way to deal with the spiritual abuse of organized religion, and the legacy of legals abuses from various government entities, and the day to day ignorance when dealing with doctors, lawyers, co-workers, the news media, sports figures, and so on…
Yes gotta love being gay, even though Queery can’t seem to keep their mind of of straight boys, I know that gay boyz are where it’s at.
James Broad
PMSL are you serious? So sleeping around, watching chick flicks and sharing wardrobes are perks? As for: “the best part of being gay is the community honestly. I feel like when I’m surrounded by other gay people there’s less prejudice because our life experiences can be so similar”…I’ve never encountered a community so hostile and divided towards its own people. We expect acceptance and respect from our straight counterparts, but can’t even uphold those values in our own community. We still have a long way to go.
Stached1
@James Broad: LMAO very true. I agree with you about the so called LGBT community as we love to eat our own and put each other down instead of accepting each other and working together.
stadacona
Don’t forget HIV, syphilis, bitter bitchy queens, and anal cancer.
Glücklich
@Stached1:
Gay or straight, I’m an equal opportunity putter-downer when it’s warranted but I’ve found it more effective, more withering, and less effort to let folks make fools of themselves and smile while shaking my head.
Good thing I read your comment first before replying to stadacona, “But enough about you,” so as not to appear to put him or her down.
Claire Patzman
Ben Raffel
robho3
Oh here’s some more deep thought— so stupid
Walter Chumley
These are terrible. Sexist and terrible.
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@Billy Budd: Ohhh sweetheart. Yes you go into a change room or a bathroom stall and men and their way with me.
Sluggo2007
I love being gay because I can’t stand the female mentality. There’s a reason they’re called c*nts.
GC1985
Another fake whisper article and the usual sources parroting about how wonderful it is. So wonderful that we are under constant assault by an entire political party in this country that labels us as deviants. So wonderful hate crimes are still on the rise against us as a violent reaction to changes in society. So wonderful that STDs and HIV are still spreading rapidly in our community and all we can talk about is messing around in a lockerroom. Go to the bedroom please. That is dangerously unsanitary. And I doubt you would take condoms to a lockerroom for some spontaneous interaction.
And it is lovely how some are saying gay men only want sex and are unwilling and incapable of having a relationship. Or even a family. Thanks for perpetuating stereotypes. I know a gay couple who has been monogamous for thirty years and adopted several children who were left in the system. But I suppose that is just plain boring and lame right?
GC1985
@Matt Achine: Absolutely. If you are Latino, black or Asian and LGBT you are treated as someone’s secret fetish and cast off from the rest of the community. Thanks for posting these queerty. You still demonstrate how our community still drives division.
alanballs
Are you kidding GC1985? Is racial discrimination that bad in the USA? I’m a caucasian US-American (well, a mix of American Indian and Irish), living/working in Asia. My long-term partner is a young and gorgeous Asian man, whom I adore beyond words. From my (vast) experience with Asian men, I’ve found them to be sexy, passionate, gorgeous, smart, considerate, great at making love, and did I mention sexy?
GC1985
@Sluggo2007: Wow such an awesome attitude. Guys like you are better off keeping your mouths shut and not damaging our community. Keep in mind women are the key reason why we have even a chance at equality. Heterosexual men certainly aren’t.
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@Sluggo2007: Ohhhh honey that is why they come for Queens like me.
joe
well i’m glad some guys are having fun with it, it’s been pretty much of a drag and a slog my entire life. i guess you could say more like a tax or better yet a curse. the stress of growing up different and all that energy day after day after day i had to use to fit in. the extra tax of dealing with co workers, family and friends, the never ending having to tell every new person you meet, never knowing what their reactions will be, or thinking maybe its just better to say i never met the right woman…so good for all of you that had it work out for you. its not that nice or easy for a lot of us though..
Ron Russell
With water shortage due to the great drought in CA these guys are saving water… good for them.
Sweetie Pie
@stadacona: Thanks for the reminder…we`ll learn from your experience
joe
@stadacona: now why did you have to go and ruin all these posts with your truth..
AdamNichols
Some of these are just that they have an excuse to be free of certain social stigmas, which is kind of sad. It’s sad that straight men can’t do certain things like express emotion freely, being excited about a chick-flick, being unique or different without the fear of society giving you crap for that.
GC1985
@bottom250: Nothing is more than skin deep for you.
TLSIII
@martinbakman: A-MEN!
TLSIII
@James Broad: Thank you, it isn’t a rainbow coalition that some like to think it is… maybe the White people in the gay community think so, but ask the minorities in the gay community if they REALLY feel the love of their fellows. I know I don’t…
Wilberforce
Another simple-minded puff piece to amuse the masses.
There’s actually good and bad to being gay.
I like the cultural items, like the witty slang, dancing, drama and the arts, to name a few.
There’s also a lot of bad. The internalized homophobia and self-destructiveness, which prevent us from stopping HIV, an easy task that should have been done thirty years ago. Instead we are treated to a regular dose of self-hating queens explaining that condoms just don’t work for them, or any of the thousand and one excuses to act like a-holes.
There’s also the bigotry, the obsession with looks and bodies over brains and kindness and character.
Having figured out that neither part will change in my lifetime, I’ve pretty much given up on mainstream gay culture.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I think we are the envy of every straight man when it comes to talking to woman; the way we talk to woman and the range of topics and honesty is unmatched.
Even with straight men, I can a have a conversation they cannot have with their “bros”
Doughosier
If you’re young and acceptable in the looks department, it’s a great life. The problems is, we all get older. Our tribe doesn’t respect or even like older folks. Without families, we are going to have some seriously lonely seniors in the future.
dave07652
Much easier to get laid, especially if you’re good looking. Guys don’t care how much money you make like women do.
Jon Freytag
i agree
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@GC1985: Nothing more than balls deep
onthemark
@Doughosier: “Our tribe doesn’t respect or even like older folks. Without families, we are going to have some seriously lonely seniors in the future.”
??? – As long as you have (non-sexual) gay male friends in youth and mid-life, they will get older at the exact same rate. Seriously, do the math, it’s really true.
I understand the worries about being un-coupled late in life but there’s never any guarantee about that: the bf may die first (hey a lot of us have been thru that already, some multiple times). Finding non-sexual friends is easier to do anyway.
Daggerman
…oh dear we’ve got so far to go…we have to tolerate the crappy majority because we’re the great minority…RELIGION has conditioned peoples minds so wrongly throughout history…if only we could understand the facts of life and NOT just follow the weak and destructive designed truth which is on offer.