The white LGBT community just don’t get it. They honestly believe that “discrimination is discrimination,” when it comes to, well, discrimination. Let me explain. The other day I went into shock at the horror of having my name plastered underneath the heading “Our Own Worst Enemy,” of which Queerty was also named as public enemy #1. The post was written by Bilerico.com’s contributor Phil Reese. This was in reference to a press release that I sent out recanting my organization the Gays United Network’s support of the 2010 Campaign and aligning it with the 2012 Campaign.
It was sensationalism from the get-to when Mr. Reese started out his article with “Yesterday, Towleroad unveiled a massive roster of A-list supporters for the National Equality March.” Looking over the “A-List,” we can see that most of the endorsers are white–disappointing but true. And this is proof positive the people of color heterosexual community will see the LGBT community’s fight for its civil rights as, largely, a fight for white people’s benefits.
I went into rage and engaged with Phil in the comments section of that post. Subsequently, one of his friends came to his rescue and wrote, “I cannot even imagine trying to compare who was/is discriminated against more or worse. How does anyone else know that the way they were discriminated against hurt them more than the way I was. Of course there are the big issues out there. The major events that happen. But when we are essentially working towards the same goals how can we waste time fighting with those on our side?”
Now I see it clearly why the people of color LGBTs have thrown in the towel and say, “Fuck it, I quit the movement.” Now I see why the disenfranchised don’t become more involved in the LGBT movement’s fight for our civil rights. We’re frustrated with being shut out, discredited and slandered when we attempt to speak up and represent the interest of the people of color LGBT community. Now I see that it’s fruitless because they just don’t understand that their white privilege has prevented them from having empathy or compassion concerning discrimination the people of color LGBTs have endured even within the LGBT community.
They honestly believe that they understand the pain of discrimination that the people of color endures as a result of the color of their skin because they have suffered the same discrimination as a result of their sexual orientation. They’ve ignored completely the plight of their people of color counterparts that are experiencing a double-whammy concerning their oppression within the LGBT community because of the color of their skin. It’s outrageous for them to simply say, “Well, we’re all fighting the same fight and you people should just understand that it’s for your own good too.” It’s typical for whites to say, “You have a chip on your should,” or “You’re bitter and unprofessional” when we challenge the status quo. That’s what happens to us marginalized and oppressed minorities, especially within the LGBT community, we resort to shouting in order to get through to the thick skulls of the white gay LGBT population.
Another example of the not-so-subtle racism is from a Facebook user who responded to my post about how unfair it is that charismatic and impassioned Mario Nguyen lost the Equality Idol contest to his heterosexual counterpart Sam Sussman, who is less inspiring. The user said, “Democracy isn’t perfect — can you spell Clay and Reuben — but it’s the best we got. Congrats to Julie and Sam. We love you Toby.” This is the straw that broke the camel’s back for me.
As such, I am washing my hands from the LGBT movement because I no longer believe in this fight for equality. I am resigning as director of the Gays United Network and will dissolve the organization if no one steps up to take my place. I am cancelling my volunteer vacation to Maine in October. I’m really done!
When I embarked on my journey into activism as a response to Join the Impact founder Amy Balliett’s call-to-action last November, I wanted to affect change. Along the way, I’ve come to find that the thing that needs to be changed the most in this movement is the LGBT community itself.
I am throwing in the towel because I don’t believe I can affect that change within this community. The Anglo LGBT community refuses to listen to any of the concerns of the people of color within this movement and it will do what it pleases regardless of the consequences.
The National Equality March has largely turned out to be about LGBT white people and I can’t and won’t support it. Once again, this is going to be another event where the rest of America will see that it’s all about white people. I predict that the majority of the attendees will be white because they are the ones that can afford to go to this March. I officially am condemning the March as of now. I wish the Anglo LGBT community luck with its fight for equality–alone!
UPDATE: Nakhone has rescinded his decision. He explains on the next page.