A U.K. woman was completely thrown for a loop when her date started cruising for sex on Grindr in the middle of dinner.
“About six months ago, I went out with a man who started cruising a popular hook-up app for gay men… in the middle of our date,” she writes in an anonymously penned essay published by Refinery 29.
The woman describes the guy as “hot in a 2D, poster-on-your-wall kind of way” with “solid shoulders” and “an authoritarian dad vibe.” In other words, totally average, but still sorta cute.
“As the night wore on, the cheap wine started to taste better and my date began to loosen up,” she continues.
How about we take this to the next level?
Our newsletter is like a refreshing cocktail (or mocktail) of LGBTQ+ entertainment and pop culture, served up with a side of eye-candy.
That’s when she learned her date was a Tory, which is more or less the British equivalent of a Republican. Not only that, but one his favorite pastimes, aside from embracing conservative political platforms, is hooking up with dudes on the DL.
“He started telling me about how he likes to meet men on hook-up apps for blow jobs,” she writes. When she asked, “So you’re bi?” her date replied by saying “he absolutely was not bisexual, it was just ‘a joke, a bit of naughty fun–not something I’d tell my mates.'”
Then he told her guys gave better blowjobs than girls.
She continues: “When I asked more about his secret habit, he said: ‘It’s so easy with men, look…’ He started cruising and matching with nearby guys. At first it was kind of interesting, until I realized he seemed more into the app guys than me.”
“I had to draw the line when he said: ‘I bet I could get a guy to come here right now.’ I said: ‘Please don’t.’ He replied: ‘See, I imagine that you’d find it a massive turn-on to watch a guy suck me off but then, maybe not… Dating is such a learning curve.'”
After the night ended, the woman says the guy suggested they meet up for a second date.
“I said we’d probably be better as friends,” she writes, adding, “I still think about him sometimes and wonder whether he’s any closer to owning his sexuality, whatever that may be.”
Related: Women concerned all the men she’s dating have “effeminate” voices and “sound completely gay”
djmcgamester
Friends? Not even. He thinks of guys as throwaways and tells his female date that she won’t give him a blowjob as good as a gay guy. No, he’s trash. Block him from your phone.
Donston
It’s impossible to know how many of these anonymous stories are legit. This one sounds particularly ridiculous. If there is some truth to it then it’s both incredibly hilarious and disturbing. And I guess a lot of folks start revealing certain truths when they get alcohol in them. Wanting to keep it real with your date when it comes to your behaviors, orientation, kinks, paraphilias, confusions, whatever is one thing. But no matter if he’s “closeted” or where he may fit within the romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum- this is the most utmost douchey behavior. He sounds like a complete megalomaniacal brute who gets off on using people, which frankly seems to be what a lot of people who use these apps are into.
winemaker
What a total waste of this young lady’s time and how rude of this guy The moment this guy started doing this or when things went south, .I’d have told him to F**K himself, or if she’s the polite type, ‘go fly a kite’. Oh and by the way, we’re done! As for a second date?, really some people are so clueless.,
Donston
I’ve somewhat been in this situation before. I went out on a date with a guy who claimed to be “open-minded”. But so much of the date he talked about women, us having threesome with women, his past girlfriends. He was cute and somewhat funny, but it was apparent to me that he might not be hetero, but he wasn’t all that into dudes either. I made sure that was our last date. A lot of guys just don’t know how to maturely express their dimensions or their fluidity because so many men are driven by ego and social perception above all else. Him painting hooking up with guys as a “joke” reveals how desperate he is. If you’re communicating with guys and trying to hook up with guys during your first date with a female then you’re probably just not that into women. A lot of dudes also don’t understand having some type of attractions towards one gender but preferring the persistent attentions and affections from another, especially when it’s having some attractions towards women but preferring the persistent affections, praise, attention, love from males. However, no matter who this dude dates they will probably end up regretting it.
Kangol2
If you are a male, female, nonbinary, whatever you may be; and you are not seeking a threesome; and your date starts openly cruising other people online or even people around you, you probably should ask for the bill and pay, and leave as soon as humanly possible.
Cam
Typical right wing self hating closet case.
Doug
“I said we’d probably be better as friends.” She needs to move on, hard to believe this creep would be much of a buddy.