Adult film star Max Konnor recently had an “honestly moment” with his 48,000 Twitter followers:
Honesty moment:
I hate when guys refer to my dick as BBC or anything along those lines. You don’t specify the color of a white dick….. I am not a fetish. I am a human being.
— MAX KONNOR (@maxkonnorxxx) January 17, 2018
So far, the tweet has received over 70 comments, 125 retweets, and 730 likes. It’s also sparked quite a bit of dialogue.
Some agreed with Konnor’s point:
Honestly I feel that I get looked over cuz I’m black. I talk to these other models kinda and respectful, seeing if we can hang shoot a scene and it’s like I get looked over. I kno I’m kno ugly dude but damn can I get a lil respect or support from my so called brothers??
— Avatar Akyia (@AvatarAkyiaXXX) January 17, 2018
AMEN MAX!!! your a human just like us and a beautiful one doing fab work. if they see only that they are blind n ignorant i love you as you are your 1 of my favs!
KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK— Terry W Peters (@TerryWPeters) January 17, 2018
It’s a reality not just in that industry, men of color are consistently used as a fetish. Don’t get me wrong we can lay it the fuck down, but why all the BBC talk? I’m into kinks but I’ll never be someone’s fetish.
— The Makings Of… (@AfroRicanSzn) January 17, 2018
Others pushed back:
Two sides…a lot of us white bois are conditioned into it by black men. “once you go black”/”the darker the berry”/mandingo. Dated quite a few black guys who use this kind of shit as their pickup lines, called me “white boy” all the time, ask me how i “like that bbc?!”
— ummm weird (@Indrewscretion) January 21, 2018
I admit I over use the term BBC, but I also see BWC (Big White Cock) used as well. Sure there isn’t a BWC category on porn sites, but I think that’s more to do with the fact that “Default Porn” is White Male / White Female…then it’s breaks into categories after that
— Secret Bi Guy (@SecretBiGuy89) January 17, 2018
have you ever used the word twink? cos thats making someone a fetish
— Joshua (@CoyoteDork) January 17, 2018
But this isn’t the first time adult film performers have raised issue with the fetishization of race within their industry.
Last November, performers Hugh Hunter, Dolf Dietrich, Sean Devran, and Armond Rizzo boycotted the GayVN Awards (a.k.a. the “Oscars of gay porn”) over the way the awards segregated performers of color from caucasians (i.e. an “Ethnic scene” as opposed to just a “scene,” or a “big black c*ck” as opposed just a “big c*ck”).
The @gayvn awards announce nominations including a BEST ETHNIC SCENE category for black, Latin, and Asian models. Meanwhile none are nominated as best actor or supporting actor.
My response, “…I am respectfully declining my nominations in all categories…”
Full letter here. pic.twitter.com/CQPxZFRuZ6
— Hugh Hunter (@theHughHunter) November 25, 2017
In a 2017 op-ed, Jeremy Helligar, author of the book Is It True What They Say About Black Men?, puts it best:
With the acronym for “big black”… – well, if you’ve read this far you probably get the XXX picture – I haven’t figured out if the gay white men who use it do so because it’s easier to write, or if it’s just too embarrassing to spell out “big black blank”. Whatever the reason, the implication is the same: I’m no longer a three-dimensional person. I am my big black blank.
Helligar continues:
[BBC] the new bane of my gay existence, and when I object to the racist objectification (because it’s basically saying that as a black man, that is my primary value), I ask them this: Would you want your sister to get involved with a guy who refers to her as “BB” for “big breasts”?
Related: Gay men, please stop using the term “BBC,” It’s racist, blogger says
h/t: New Now Next
Apolodorus
Let the racist comentary fest begin! 😀
Frank
Dear Queerty…
What I find very telling is that instead of showcasing a handsome black man in full dress (say a suit or nice ensemble) for this article….
Queerty uses a shirtless greased up buff black man with no head…to stop fetishizing black men.
OH THE IRONY
Notright
There’s a website dedicated to uplifting black men. https://gayblackproud.org
ChrisK
Metoo!!. I mean I just hate it when people talking about my BWC. I feel so objectified.
Heywood Jablowme
But I’m guessing your c0ck isn’t white – it’s blue? lol
ChrisK
Ha. I thought of that 5 min after. No way to edit:(
Kangol
Yes, it’s a tired, offensive term, but seriously, Queerty, profile some Black and other POC men for a change. It’s not that hard to do.
am_psi
The #1 group using the term BBC is Black men, so are they objectifying themselves?
Apolodorus
Your data obviously comes from the database that contains the opinions and experiences of all black people living and breathing at the moment, under the sub section: what black men think about the use of BBC…
ChrisK
@am_psi. One minor edit. “The #1 group using the term BBC is Black men with big co*ks”.
Like every other situation you just know where and who this outrage is coming from. Those with the … Just picture me using my pinky finger.
DCguy
Please provide a link to any site that confirms your comment.
If you can’t that just means that you’re doing your usual trolling.
CastleSF
It is just one of those silly things some folks say in the heat of the moment. Why do people get so easily offended these days? It may not sound tasteful but I don’t sense there is any disrespect for anyone.
OrchidIslander
@am_psi, so you make a definitive and all-encompassing statement and offer absolutely no proof to back it up. Probably because you can’t.
demetreus
Usual trolling from am_psi and it’s pathetic and boring, as usual. Big man hides behind his tracfone.
Paco
BWC is an acronym I have seen… NEVER!
KiwiJello
I thought the second B was for “beautiful”. Sad that it isn’t. Maybe I am too sheltered 🙁
I get it though, my body type is fetishsized, which makes it difficult to know if a guy is into me or just my body. Most of the time, it’s the latter. I refuse to be someone’s fetish, so I am alone a lot. Sorry people are so into their own attractions that they treat other humans like a piece of meat.
Ummmm Yeah
Another article from Queerty’s own Rachel Dolezal. I guess she forgot the hundred articles she’s written about how all white men are racists because they won’t screw black guys.
Kangol
No, but you’re racist and it doesn’t depend on the fact that you “won’t screw black guys” and they won’t touch you either.
demetreus
@kangol I agree with you and I am guessing no man would want to
Ummmm Yeah
You don’t see me or any other white men writing novels about how they aren’t getting any do you?
Danny595
lol. Graham Gremore has no problem whatsoever decoupling of sex from relationships and from love, reducing gay sex to an acquisitive transaction on a commercial app, and having gay men select their partners from a digital menu of human torsos. But saying “BBC” upsets him greatly.
Kangol
For a fuller take on the topic with some history on the fetishization of black men’s genitalia, slavery, and the ideological hypersexualization of black people, check out New York Times’ Wesley Morris’s 2016 article, “Last Taboo: Why Pop Culture Can’t Deal with Black Male Sexuality.” Too bad he didn’t include Queerty in his discussion.
AndThenTheresMax
It’s my BBC attached my body and if I want to call it my “BBC” I will. Or if I want to call it my Big Chocolate Love Pole or my Dark Candy Ew Hoo Dilly. I damn well will. Don’t tell me what I do with my c__k. Thank you!
Xzamilloh
BBC in’t going anywhere… unfortunately, gay porn has a huge hold on gay culture and it infects the way we interact with one another. And BBC and white twinks are a huge porn fetish, and you know we love treating sex like we’re in our own little movie.
Xzamilloh
Also, is there a name attached to those sexy ass nipple in the stock photo?
Kangol
@Xzamilloh, nipples = BBN (beautiful brown nipples) LOL
Bob LaBlah
As to the title of this article and what it suggests I say “in YOUR dreams honey.” Been in to them since I was nineteen (this year will be the forty-first year) and look back with NO regrets. People are going to have their fantasies regardless of political correctness about what they love and how they refer to it and not only that I wish you geniuses would quit rocking the damn boat. If it aint broke, don’t fix it (just relax and let it flow). lol
Too bad you guys are too young to know what song that contains that last sentence. lol lol
Apolodorus
We are about the same age. I would honestly like to know how in hell you think the world we live in isn’t broken, and doesn’t need fixing.
We have nazis literally running in the streets.
What is political correctness? Do you have a definition for it? Because it’s like this amorphous blob that can be thrown at any argument, to mean anything you want it to mean.
And people’s fantasies change with time. Look at the standards of beauty and how they have changed.
Bob LaBlah
As one old frustrated queen to another I say to each his own version of how the world is. Maybe this will calm you down.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DUbxBSL6TXs
Heywood Jablowme
You can have sex with someone, for whatever reason, and still get to know them later. At that point it’s not fetishizing anymore.
But yes, I think white guys should stop asking “BBC?” in texts. Rude or not, there’s simply no reason to ask. Black guys are all hung!
Another Queerty article that’s all over the map. There’s a difference between porn and real life, and there’s a difference between casual sex sites/apps and serious dating. The first 3/4 of the article is all about the porn industry, but then tacked onto the end is the unrelated experience of Jeremy Helligar (who apparently doesn’t work in porn) who reports that fetishizing of black men is far worse in Latin America than it is in the US. (The link is worth clicking on and it’s quite amusing.)
Porn? Good luck with solving the BBC problem in porn. The guys quoted here can let us know how well that goes. That’s quite a task, to rearrange the entire porn industry so it doesn’t “fetishize” anyone! Why not try something a little easier, like… emptying Lake Michigan with a coffee cup? 🙂
ShowMeGuy
If you find a particular Black man at the club to be very attractive…you are fetishizing his race. If you find another particular Black man at the club to be very unattractive….you are a racist.
Kangol
Speak for yourself, Mo-Brody/ShowMeGuy. That “you” applies to you, but not the rest of us.
Apolodorus
Small correction: if you see a lady Edson in the club who just happens to be black and go up to him and say that you have the jungle fever at this moment and want some bbc, but could he please meet you after your friends left, then you are fetishing him.
If you say that you are not attracted to black people because they are all disgusting looking monkeys then you are being a racist.
And also, for farther advice : if you see an attraction be black guy in the club and go up to him and say: and I’m not attracted to black men but you are the exception, you are still being a racist.
surreal33
White men objectify everything and everyone. It is what they do best.
SiamSam
As a GWM, I object!
PinkoOfTheGange
No problem.
Your tla to use.
I have to stop and think why someone is looking for some British TV “in them right now!!!” when perusing M4M personal adds anyway.
demetreus
Loves it!
andreleneal
Some of you are correct. There are plenty of Black Men who are into the use of that term. Use it with them. Find out who they are and forget there’s a person attached to the big dick you want to sit on.
Use it with me and don’t wonder why I stop answering.
o.codone
I just popped one thinking about ChrisK’s blue peen.
o.codone
A fetish is the association of sexual thoughts and feelings with an object that ordinarily is not considered sexual. Foot fetish. Black dick is usually considered a sexual object. Because it’s DICK. Unless it’s shorter than 8 inches. Then, IDK what it is.