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Travon Free Is An Actor, Athlete, Comedian, Brother, Frat Boy. Oh, And Bisexual

My sexuality has always been on a need to know basis and for the larger part of my life, since I’ve come to understand who I am, I learned that most people don’t or didn’t need to know. It just provides another reason to cast judgment. I’ve listened to the things some people in my family have said as it relates to the issue, so it didn’t really help with the coming out process. There have been times when I heard Christian family members say some pretty “un-Christian” things about gay people.

If I did want to marry a man, they don’t think I should be able to that’s for sure. They say once you find out there’s a gay, lesbian, or bisexual person in your family everything changes. But I’ve learned through research for my book that sometimes that change is for the worse. There have been times on holidays where I would want to just do there stereotypical thing and tell everyone. Part of me wouldn’t care what anyone thought but a part of me still would. This past Thanksgiving, listening to a lengthy dinner table conversation, it was very close to being that day.

You always curse the process while you’re going through it but you’re so thankful for it when you feel you’ve reached the lesson. My adolescence was no walk in the park but I made it. I figured out who I was and I’m very comfortable with it. The French author Anais Nin said, “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”. That day has come for me and I can no longer remain bundled up. I’ve wanted to do this for a long time, I just didn’t know how.

I firmly believe that the Bible was not meant to be taken literally it was meant to teach lessons and be taken seriously

Now I can truly say I’m in a place of spiritual liberation. I think it’s no coincidence that my name translates into “free love”. I’ve always lived my life in a loving care free manner and people have always tended to liked me, almost with little effort on my part. It wasn’t forced or strategically planned; it was just me being me. Loving people and living my life freely.

My favorite quote is by Voltaire, when he said “God is a comedian, playing to an audience too afraid to laugh”. The reason I love this quote so much is because it speaks volumes about the people in society. We’ve done nothing but label and separate each other throughout history and used God as reason or evidence for justification but what most people don’t realize is God has made it very simple while man has made it very complicated. People have used God to do all kinds of destructive and hurtful things to other people when the message is simple, love each other. But because religion and the Bible have been so terribly abused, people like me have to go through life feeling like our existence is a mistake. I just wish all the people who killed themselves before they got a chance to see the process through to the end had another chance.

I believe in a universal power and religion but it’s nothing like the traditional. It’s not based on any man written book or some collection of rules or guidelines. Because the “God” I know is love and that love is unconditional and my religion is just that, mine. It’s not based on a verse in the old testament in a book of laws to which no one today still follows any of, yet the only one of those laws people insist we still obey is the one that promotes exclusion and hate. I’m willing to assume you’ve eaten shrimp or lobster in your lifetime; worn clothing made of multiple fabrics, touched or eaten pork, or done at least one of the many things Leviticus calls an abomination and is punishable by death. Call me an Atheist with an asterisk if you want, but I’m not on board for many reasons.

But there’s a reason we don’t kill people as they walk out of red lobster or murder the NFL players as the leave the field on Sundays. It’s because we are modern individuals in modern times and the laws of the land shift with the time as knowledge is gained by the masses. I can assure you that you won’t find a single mention of Jesus Christ denouncing being gay in the New Testament. But you will find him teaching love, compassion, charity, peace, and many other positive equality based teachings.

It’s not until we decide to become educated beyond the Bible that we learn that homosexuality has occurred in nature as far back as recorded natural history. I firmly believe that the Bible was not meant to be taken literally it was meant to teach lessons and be taken seriously; otherwise I think we need to revisit my Red Lobster idea. If you believe with all your heart that God pretty much detests gays, can you prove to me he does? Can you prove to me that God even exists? Can you prove to me that the Bible is really the actual true word of God? No one alive today was there when it was first written. But the difference is faith. We believe because we choose to. Religion is a choice, being gay isn’t.