The trail began this week for a U.K. man accused of pinning down and raping a student he met online earlier this year.
24-year-old Ibrar Ahmed first connected with the 18-year-old victim, whose name has not been released, on Grindr back in February. According to the victim, he was only looking for friends at the time. The two exchanged messages for a while before Ahmed invited him over to his place in Middlesbrough. Shortly after he got there, he claims Ahmed started coming onto him.
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“I told him I didn’t want to have sex,” the victim said during a police interview, which was played before the Teesside Crown Court this week. “I told him I didn’t want to do that. He told me that wasn’t going to happen. I’m not that type of person. I never want to give someone the wrong idea.”
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Ahmed respected his wishes and backed off. Until the next day, when the victim went over to visit him again.
“He asked if we could have sex,” he told police. “I said ‘no.’ I told him I didn’t want to have sex.”
This time, Ahmed didn’t listen.
“He started to remove my clothes,” the victim alleged. “Initially, I thought he was just joking. Then he got more forceful. He was a lot stronger than me. I was trying to push him away. He held my hands over my head so I couldn’t do anything.”
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The victim told police that Ahmed overpowered him, tearing off his clothing before proceeding to have sex with him against his will.
“He kept saying, ‘Are you OK? Is this OK?’” the victim said. “I kept telling him, ‘No. I don’t want to do this. This isn’t OK. You need to stop.”
“He was saying, ‘This is OK. This is OK.’ It was as if he couldn’t hear me.”
Afterwards, the victim asked to leave but Ahmed allegedly refused to unlock the bedroom door, demanding the teenager “must stay with me.”
The victim begged and eventually Ahmed let him go. A few days later, he sent him a text message apologizing for what happened.
“It didn’t feel real,” the victim explained. “I didn’t understand what happened. It was overwhelming.”
The victim decided to contact police and Ahmed was arrested a few days later. He denied raping the teenager, claiming the sex has been consensual, though he did admit that he “sometimes had problems controlling himself.”
The trial continues.
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h/t: Gazette Live
Ladbrook
Good. More men (and women) should come forward like this brave young man did.
To the accused: Enjoy prison, you animal. Unfortunately we all have a pretty clear understanding of what’s going to happen in there. Karma sucks, doesn’t it?
NoCagada
“He held my hands over my head so I couldn’t do anything.”
I’m not saying it did or didn’t happen but how many arms and hands did the perpetrator have???
sportyguy1983
Why the heck did the 18Yr old go back after that first night. Massive red flags were being waved.
Glücklich
“trAIL” or “trIAL”?
Sand Nierenberg
Seems a bit fishy to me
Sand Nierenberg
Why meet on grinder which is for sex and then go back the next day more to the story than meets the eye
Homo Erectus
“‘I never want to give someone the wrong idea.’ … Until the next day, when the victim went over to visit him again.”
Oh please. Go join ISIS, you’ll be much less of a danger to civilization.
@Glücklich: They did it not once but twice! “The trail began this week…” “The trail continues.”
Hit the dusty trail!
Captain Obvious
Nothing about this “story” makes sense. You meet on Grindr to have a tea party, guy wants to have sex, and you don’t. Logically it makes sense to return for another tea party and refuse sex again so you can both go back to sticking your thumb up your butt.
Anyone who believes this crap is a tool. And this 18 year old adult being referred to as a child to make the story scandalous when the other guy is only 24 is disgusting. If one was female no one would be trying to make the male sound like a pedophile.
No one was lured, this idiot came over to someone’s house twice of his own free will, despite not knowing anything about him.
If you really thought Grindr was for dating why wouldn’t you meet in a public place? No one under 50 thinks Grindr is for anything but hookups. The majority of the freaks using it are married.
Billy Budd
The rapist deserves to be imprisoned. What an idiot.
Ladbrook
So… 9 comments thus far and only 2 support the victim.
No wonder people don’t report rape… and no wonder people keep getting away with it.
Jeffrey Morgan
The “teen” in the headline, while technically accurate, is misleading.
Ron Loftus
the name is quite disturbing
dubstepskater
Something about this story is odd. (1) The last time I checked 18 is considered an adult. (2) Grindr is a hook up site (anyone who thinks it’s a “dating site” is out of their mind… (3) The “victim” refused sex the 1st time and went back the next day? If he’s telling the truth about the 24 y/o trying to force him to have sex once, why would he not expect it the second time? (4) Why would you wait close to a week to report rape (unless he was too busy trying to find Mr Right on Grindr… Lol). I’m not saying this didn’t happen the way he said it did, it just adds up like 2 and 2 and getting 5…
Chris
There’s more than meets the eye here. But if the text message is anywhere near as incriminating as it might be, then it probably was rape.
And for the record, even if someone is lubed up to the point where he is sliding off the sheets and his legs are up in the air to where they are interfering with the ceiling fan, but he says “no,” then it’s “no.” And if the other guy continues with the sex, then it’s rape.
So that the 18 year old came back a second does not mean that he consented to sex.
Mamba
@NoCagada: if a man is stronger than an 28 year old, yes, he could easily hold both his hands with one hand. Duh.
Mamba
@dubstepskater: Your ignorant comments are the reason rape victims will refuse to come forward. You sound just like those nasty Herero pigs defending their own rape crime.
Mamba
@Mamba: I meant *18 year old
Mamba
@Captain Obvious: You know, you kinda sound like a rapist yourself. All of what you just said has been said by rapists before. “Well, if she didn’t wanna have sex with me, why’d she come to my house? ” Sorry, but going to someone’s house DOESNT GIVE THEM THE RIGHT TO RAPE. “Even though she told me she didn’t want to have sex, I knew she didn’t mean it”. Same shit straight rapists say. He convinced this young man that he would “respect” his body, at 18 one is seriously gullible. Stop trying to blame the victim here, it just shows how sick you are.
youarekiddingme
@Captain Obvious:
“Obviously” you can’t read! NO WHERE in that article does it call the victim a “CHILD”! The article refers to him as an 18 year old and a student. YOU used the word CHILD, which is perhaps your comprehension level?
Are you a writer for the Enquirer or one of those other “rag” magazines? Your flair for bullshit really proceeds you! “Tea Party”…”sticking your thumb up your butt”…”Grindr…hookups…majority straight guys…”
Wow! Don’t be a victim somewhere. We won’t believe you either…
Jameselliott123
I can’t believe in this day we believe everything in newspapers for a start I was lead to believe it was reported the very same night this happened. In this world of our laws. NO MEANS NO in any friendship for a chat girlfriend. Fiancé. Husband or wife this case is no different. All the doubters out there let’s hope this never happens to you. And you don’t need someone to believe you It obviously took a lot of courage to come forward to the police and go through the horrors of numerous medical examinations and giving the story over and over again let alone a bunch of strangers you should all be ashamed. To those who are supporting this student you all still believe in the word of the law and I’m sure he would thank you for all your support. It takes a lot of courage and strength to do what this person is doing young or old. NO MEANS NO we should all not forget this.
Jameselliott123
Not only did he get away with rape but he’s illegally in this country I bet they didn’t know that
Jameselliott123
No body talking now eh
youarekiddingme
@Jameselliott123:
Yep, nobody talkin now. Funny how the idiots disappear when their missing facts are brought forward and the case is brought to trial huh? Where is “Captain Obvious” now?
Jameselliott123
@youarekiddingme:
Yep I totally agree with you. IDIOTS!