There have been multiple studies in recent years indicating that straight men are a lot gayer than people used to think. For instance, a survey published earlier this year looked at over 24,000 hetero-identifying guys and found that roughly 1 in 8 had engaged in gay sex at least once in their lives. 1 in 8!
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Our friends over at Guy Counseling have just done the world a favor by rounding up what they claim are 25 true, first-hand stories of mostly straight-identifying men sharing their first gay experiences.
We have no idea how these stories were vetted, but that’s OK. Scroll down for a small sampling from the article…
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Rick, 32, had his first gay experience at Marine boot camp:
I’ve always been attracted to women never had an experience with another guy–although I had thought about it. But that changed during my time in boot camp after joining the Marines.
There was a guy who was about my age (22) who I was strangely attracted to. Not sure if it was his build or what but I just I just know that I liked him.
Just before graduation, we ended up hooking up off-base. Not sure how to explain the dynamics. Yeah, we had been drinking but we weren’t sloshed. What’s weird is that we ended up doing it two more times. I’m married now and so is he. We’re still friends on Facebook.
Mitch, 36, had his one and only gay encounter in a steam room at the gym:
There was only one time where I ever got it on with another dude and that happened at my gym, around 10-years ago. The truth is, I had always wanted to know what it was like so not going to lie.
I guess that is why I let this random guy do his thing on me. Yeah, it was cool. Not sure I would do it again but at least I can say I had a first gay experience.
Frank, 28, hooked up with his high school girlfriend’s brother:
When I was back in high school, I dated this girl from my neighborhood. She had a brother who was the same age as me and we became friends.
One time while we were hanging out, he shared with me that he was bi. He asked me if I had ever been with another guy and I told him the truth–never.
Don’t ask me why but we started fooling around. I guess there was a part of me that was curious. The weird thing is the girl and I never messed around–not even once.
I don’t consider myself gay or even bi. Back then, I think I was just figuring things out and he was somebody to do that with.
Ricky, 40, went gay for pay while working as a cab driver in Chicago:
I used to drive a Checker cab in Chicago back in the early 2000’s, when I was in my 20’s. Everyone knew the money was good in Boystown so most of the cabbies tried to grab fares on weekends by the bars.
One time, I picked up a ride by a guy who wanted a lift downtown. On the way, he offered me $300.00 to watch me j-rk. When I told him no, he upped it to $350, I told him I was down.
Quickest money I ever made. Don’t regret it either.
Nick, 33, had several gay experiences while employed as a bellhop at a swanky hotel:
When I was 19-years old, I worked at a hotel as a bellman. Frequently, male guests had me bring up their luggage.
At least five times, I ended up staying a little extra. It was always for a big tip. The best part was I didn’t have to do anything except pull my pants down and let them do their thing.
When you are young and broke, you’ll do anything for money. I’m married now with kids and don’t consider myself gay.
Read more steamy first gay experience stories as told by straight-identifying men over at Guy Counseling.
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PoetDaddy
That works out to be 12.5 percent of all males have had a least one sexual encounter with another man as an adult. That’s more than Kinsey’s 10 percent back in the ’50s, which has been disputed as an overstatement ever since. Kinsey also noted that sexuality is a sliding scale and that people settle in at once place or move back and forth. It’s all very interesting. I’ve had sex with more than a few men who were married to women, or eventually married women, over the years. Were they “straight” or “bi” or something else? I don’t know. That’s up to them to decide.
QueerTruth
ACK!!!! The worst title ever. You’re not helping the community with these bogus stories of “straight” men having gay sex. Grow up!!!
Bytemenow
Yeah. In my opinion, none of these men qualify as being “straight”.
Sex in the armed forces, with a girlfriend’s brother, in a gym steam room, with a taxi driver, and with a bellhop at a hotel….really? These sound like searches on porn websites.
Mainere
What more can you expect from Graham? ?
Hermes
You know – people like you fascinate me. You are as active keeping people quiet about their lives as anyone on the other side. And I don’t get why. I have never wanted for sex in my life, and I have NEVER picked anyone up from a gay club or any other gay venue. My long time partner I met across the gaming table (D and D). However, when I was young and out (never very flamey to be fair and was popular at school – won most popular male in my class) straight friends did in fact come to me regularly. Likewise in college and beyond. I can honestly say that of the 18 males I’ve had sex with – none of them one time affairs, only one of them qualifies as gay, and maybe 3 as bisexual at some levels. Yet the others always came back and I NEVER went running after straight men, I became friends with them, cared about them, was there for them, and ultimately – they came to me. I don’t get why some of us have so much problem with that.
Donston
A lot of people have experiences that steer away from their orientation/majority orientation. And fluidity has some legitimacy. While there’s a lot of straight-identifying people who are not completely heterosexual. And there’s a lot of gay-identifying people who aren’t completely homosexual. This stuff isn’t all that sensational any longer. Besides, half of these stories seem like basic gay for pay.
It is strange how much the “gay media” (and in this case in particular Graham Gremore) stay obsessed with “straight guys experimenting”. Yet, if you’re a gay identifying person you have to say you have no attractions beyond your gender and have never and could never enjoy any sexual experiences beyond your gender. Otherwise, you’re considered queer/bi. Gay identifying people aren’t even allowed to be “bi-curious”. This reflects how hetero-centric things still are, how much we still look to accommodate and hyper focus on hetero-leaning people and how persistent hetero worship still is.
Besides maybe the first story, I don’t really even see any of these things as equating to “gay experiences”. They all look back at these instances as a mere dalliance or detour or a way to make a quick buck. None of them seemed to have had any real passion or romantic feelings or relationship instincts towards guys. So, they’re more like homosexual experiences rather than gay. At the end of the day I do feel letting people keep it real about their experiences, attractions, desires, sexual fulfillment, romantic fulfillment, relationship contentment, etc. while also letting them be whatever they want to be and embrace whatever identity they wish is important.
rogue4gay
Exactly, I know as a gay man that the gay community has gotten “there” when I see the headline “true confessions: gay dudes share honest accounts first str8 experiences”
Hermes
@rogue4gay — isn’t that what every basic coming out story is? Start with “Our God Too” by Thomas Swicegood. The book may have saved lives when I was a kid. If that isn’t the confessions of a gay man having straight sex – I can’t imagine what is.
Wicked Dickie
My very first gay encounter was with my friend (we were both around 16 or 17). This was back when WWF was entertaining. We were horseplaying and wrestling around and next thing we both had erections in our shorts. We didn’t penetrate each other that day, but both being young, hung, and full of c u m, it made for a good year of exploration.
skylone1010
LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR! LAIR!
STRAIGHT MEN WILL NEVER SEX GAY MEN! STRAIGHT MEN ATTRACTING ONLY WOMEN!
Donston
Well, everyone has their own definition of all this different stuff. To some people “straight” is not heterosexual but is more about relationships and sustained passions, interests and romantic contentment. Just like “gay” isn’t homosexual for many. Fluidity does have some legitimacy. And most of these stories seem to be about getting blowjobs not indulging sex. I’m also certain there are men who are entirely heterosexual or homosexual but can manage to sexually engage with different genders. You can never say what the make up of someone’s mind, orientation and motivations are.
Ultimately, we really need to get to the point of letting people be whatever the hell they want to be. However, less gay men indulging hetero worship and being less obsessed with what hetero/hetero-leaning men are doing with their lives would be nice.
Toofie
Lair?
rbernard
Dude, that is not the way to spell liar.
To correct your misconceptions, there are bastions of straight horny men who will accept a blow job under the right circumstances. I have had several friends who would routinely to stand on the docks in San Diego, waiting for the Pacific Fleet to come in after being at sea for months at a time and you would be surprised what the offer of a couple of beers will accomplish with a horny straight sailor with no money in his pocket.
As they say “a mouth is a mouth”.
Lacuevaman
too much coffee?
BGinBigD
Honey, if you’re going to comment, proofread it first (especially when you repeat the same misspelled word). Bless your heart. The word is spelled L-I-A-R!
Hermes
That’s false – outright – you are trying too hard to be binary. Also, lad, I’m sure there are many people in the Lair, but I’m not at sure that is what you mean to talk about. 🙂
GetOffMyInternets
How many times have you covered this subject, Graham? Obsessed much?
Me2
This theme is getting to be redundant. Surely there’s other gay related material to write about.
tennman
Many of us have had experiences with women but we are still gay. People experiment but it does not change their sexuality. Many friends I know played around with guys who identify as straight during our teens.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Key to a straight guys cck?
Coke (not the stuff in the cooler at the store).
I’ve had ongoing sexual relationships with multiple hot guys who would never consider any sexual acts any time at all unless they indulge..
gaym50ish
I don’t consider accepting an offer of a blow job from a gay man to be a “gay experience.” I also think that’s what most sexual “abuse” by priests amounts to — oral sex with a horny and willing teenager. The guys who come forward years later to accuse priests are the ones who were actually raped as small children, but my instinct tells me they’re in the minority.
Paco
If you want to nitpick terms, it is still a homosexual experience.
Lacuevaman
thank God there are str8 men who will play for pay or just out of curiosity. If i had to depend on M4M sex with all the limped-wristed, vapid, self-obsessed sissies that are around, i’d be celibate. I suck the man not the dick.
Paco
So you can only find “straight guys” that aren’t “limp-wristed, vapid, self-obsessed sissies”? I’m guessing you consider yourself to be the one exception. What a joke.
Robothedestroyer
WTF dude!? I don’t like jumping on the internalized homophobia train but could you post anything more venomous? Be you gay or not that was uncalled for.