A UK man living with HIV recently shared the vile messages he received from another user on Grindr.
Tim G is a 29-year-old man from Lancaster. In his Twitter bio, he says he is an HIV-positive marathon runner. Many of the topics discussed on his page relate to HIV and LGBTQ issues.
Last week, he shared screen shots of the conversation he had with an anonymous Grindr user along with the caption: “Well sadly this is still a thing. Why on earth this person has so much hate in their life? I simply said ‘thankyou’ and got ‘you’re welcome you c**t’ before being blocked.”
The conversation opened with a blank profile (of course!) bluntly asking Tim: “How did you get HIV?”
To which, Tim politely replied: “Most people diagnosed with HIV in the UK acquire the virus through unprotected vaginal or anal sex.”
“How did you get it,” the user pressed, “from f*cking around or did your boyfriend give it to you?”
“Why does this matter to you?” Tim asked.
Well sadly this is still a thing. Why on earth this person has so much hate in their life? I simply said "thankyou" and got "you're welcome you c**t" before being blocked. #hiv #gay #lgbt #undetectable pic.twitter.com/FYpOmzvNtT
— Tim G (@Timmy_G123) September 29, 2019
Then Tim explained: “Why would you ask such personal questions. Like most people in the UK, I acquired it via sex, who that was from or how that happened has nothing to do with you, especially as a blank profile.”
He added, “If you’d like to know more, you can look at the NHS website or search for Terrence Higgins Trust.”
This didn’t sit well with the other user, who quipped, “Lmao still an arrogant c*nt I see.”
“Funny isn’t it how the shallow arrogant pricks end up catching HIV.”
“Serves you right.”
But Tim didn’t take the bait. Instead, he politely replied, “Thank you.” To which the user responded with a catty, “You’re welcome, you c*nt,” and then blocked him.
After sharing the conversation on Twitter, Tim was met with an outpouring of support from both friends and strangers.
What a horrible person such a big man hiding behind a faceless profile and has nothing better to do with his life. Ignore him you are a beautiful and lovely guy who I am proud to call a friend
— Matthew Foster (@MatthewFoster20) September 29, 2019
This just makes my blood boil. Sorry you had to deal with this.
— Pete (@Kibbled) September 29, 2019
That’s awful, sorry to see someone did this yo you. Completely cowardly to do it hiding behind a blank profile too.
— Aly (@mr_aly) September 29, 2019
Funny thing is that he is the arrogant one believing he is entitled to that personal information from you. The fact that he’s a blank profile and talks in such a foul way just proves he’s no more than shit off a shoe. Looks like someone with a preexisting grudge against you too.
— Dale Matthew Hudson (@LycoApollo) September 29, 2019
Oh Tim that’s just awful. Nothing gives him the right to speak to you like that, let alone behind the shield of an anonymity. He’s obviously got some very serious issues with his life, and is jealous of your confidence and openness to be who you are, and not shy away from it.
— Sam Ellis (@SamCEllis) September 29, 2019
HIV/AIDS activist Matthew Hodson tells PinkNews, “There’s still a lot of stigma attached to living with HIV. When someone is cruel or abusive in return, it only makes it harder for people to disclose in future.”
“When someone is on effective treatment they can’t pass it on to their sexual partners (often referred to as ‘Undetectable = Untransmittable’).”
He adds, “Rejecting sexual partners because they’ve told you that they are living with HIV is not an effective prevention strategy.”