People cannot stop talking about âdude sexâ and/or âbud sexâ and/or âbro jobs.â
The term âbud sexâ was coined by Tony Silva, a researcher at University of Oregon, whose new study, Bud-Sex: Constructing Normative Masculinity Among Rural Straight Men That Have Sex With Men, is the talk of the world wide web at the moment.
Related:Â More and more straight guys are giving up âbro jobsâ and engaging in âdude sexâ
According to Silva, bud sex (aka dude sex) is when two men who identify as straight hook up together in a discreet, NSA sort of way. They have wives. They have kids. They consider themselves to be heterosexual. But theyâre able to compartmentalize sex in a way that allows them to occasionally get intimate with other guys without complicating anything.
Related:Â âBro-Jobsâ Author Talks Straight Man-On-Man Sex And âRepressed Homosexual Desireâ
Apparently not everyone else is able to compartmentalize these guysâ sexualities so easily, however.
Check out what folks on Twitter have been sayingâŚ
So apparently there is this term as "Bud-sex"
Interesting! Human behaviour is really fascinating!
â JonG (@theJonnny) December 21, 2016
Cannot believe I was never invited to any of this "Dudesex" straight men are apparently having.
â Tired Meerkat (@cannibal_queer) December 20, 2016
GUYS DO "BRO-JOBS" AND "BUD-SEX" BUT STILL CALL THEMSELVES STRAIGHT *PTERODACTYL SCREACH*
â Evan DuhÂŽ (@evan_duh) December 21, 2016
Isn't "bud sex" just white dudes columbusing being on the DL?
â Lux Alptraum (@LuxAlptraum) December 20, 2016
Also interestingly I think "dudesex" and the explanation of it COULD apply to men who are incarcerated for extended times
â Mrs. Grotke (@__BHB__) December 20, 2016
someome bud-fuck me https://t.co/eIUAkpQXGo
â ? (@papermassacred) December 21, 2016
Straight men have 'bro-jobs' & now 'bud-sex'. They want to enjoy gay sex but don't want to associate with the 'gays'. #MasculinityIsFragile https://t.co/MVLjtPt71G
â Closeted Gay Guy (@CGGuy44) December 20, 2016
Shout outs to the straight guys I went to high school with who spoke on their experiences with dudesex last night that was wild
â I am Delibirdt ?? (@josketh) December 21, 2016
@Tesseraconteur âŚbut like actually, what's bud sex
â Solstice Werefox (@CoronaCoreanici) December 21, 2016
Paco
I was hoping more mainstream news sites would cover this “study”, but sadly that hasn’t happened yet. I really wanted to read comments from actual straight men on the subject. As usual, we only get the gay male opinion on this subject.
Kangol
I.e., white DL rural guys? And this is news?
KiwiJello
I would need to observe this for myself in order to make an informed opinion. Are there videos? đ
XzamilIoh
Every time I throw myself at white guys for dude sex they don’t seem interested.
Terrycloth
Once is curiosity. .twice is more exploring to be sure 3 times or more you’re either very gay or totally bi…or you are in denial
jestgr
I’m curious what were the conclusions of the study. I mean, did the researcher come to the conclusion that this was, indeed, a thing or was this another example of repressed homosexuality/bisexuality? Or, perhaps, we, as a society, are coming to a point where identifying ourselves based on sexual preference will become a thing of the past?
Jack Meoff
More waste of time studies and new terminology for something that has been going on for centuries. At least with more people talking about it it may take some of the stigma away.
Chris
Same behaviors: self-identifying straight men have sex with other self-identifying straight men.
Do a deep dive into rural white enclaves, and it’s called dude sex.
Do a deep dive into frats, and it’s called experimenting.
Do a deep dive into ethnic neighborhoods, and it’s called being on the down-low.
Do a deep dive…….and ultimately, it’s all the same behavior, whatever you call it.
Evji108
@Chris: It’s called guys are horny and will get sucked by a calf in the barn or a dude as long as nobody finds out. This is not new, but it isn’t something straight guys want to talk about, nor are they likely to.
Low Country Boy
@Kangol: Thank you!
Brian
I’m all for widespread homosexual desires in all men but I have to draw the line at living out these desires if one is married to another individual. It’s just not right.
Maybe these men could cuddle but I draw the line at coitus.
michel_banen
So “Bud sex” is the straight version of the gay “Butt sex” ?
QJ201
it’s aint gay if you don’t kiss
DMRX
@Paco: Mainstream media will not pick this up because they know that a second-year doctoral student with a master’s degree from a no-name university interviewing 19 hillbillies doesn’t make for a good story, much less an academic “study.”
Paco
@DMRX: yes. It seems to have been a study based solely on conjecture, with a “draw your own conclusion” ending. Not very newsworthy.
Baba Booey Fafa Fooey
@Paco: I know! Ha.