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VIDEO: Grandma is Too Busy Being Ignorant to Come to My Wedding


This is Randi’s second video she’s ever made. The first video was for the It Gets Better Project. We applaud her strength, her courage, and even her light hearted humor as she deals with her Grandmother’s ignorant behavior. Too ignorant, it seems, to attend to her granddaughter’s wedding. So very sad. But growing up in a different time and learning to believe a different set of social standards, can we blame her?

On a personal note, I have a strong relationship with my Grandmother who emailed me in response to a plea I sent to vote “No on Proposition 8” back in 2008. She tried to explain that marriage was for people who can have babies. She wrote from her heart and not with hate or anger. I know that she loves me. She tried to explain how she felt and what she believed. She said, with honest thought, that perhaps we just need to wait for her generation to die off.

I told her (among many other things) that it was a shame she felt that way because I would give anything to have her at my wedding someday. I said, “I respect how you have seen the world and continue to see it… But my world is different and I see it differently… and in the end, this vote affects my world and not yours. I love you very much and will always love you no matter how different our worlds are or become.”

She spent some time on her own, researching and thinking on her own and a day before the vote I received this email:

I just wanted you to know that I am going to vote No on Prop. 8.  The more I read about it, the more I realize that it is a very prejudice inititative. It bothers me that Prop. 8 discriminates against people who are gay, and that is not acceptable to me. Good luck, honey.

So can we expect an older generation to change? Do we really need to wait for them to die off?

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