It’s good to know someone else feels our pain.
Meet Ollie Lucks, the bisexual, polyamorous director of the new HBO documentary There is No “I” in Threesome. The film arrives on HBO Max February 11.
There is No “I” in Threesome documents Ollie’s exploration of his bisexual, polyamorous identity alongside his girlfriend Zoe. Just before the two get married, they decide to open up their relationship to others in hopes of expanding their sexual horizons. Of course, things get a bit complicated for the couple as the flood of new faces creates no shortage of distractions…and raises a few questions about their feelings for each other.
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In this exclusive clip, Ollie and Zoe chat about their newfound sexual conquests. Ollie also documents a rather awkward Grindr date in which his male companion has some mixed feelings about being filmed for a documentary.
Have a look and ask: what would you do?
There is No “I” in Threesome arrives on HBO Max February 11.
Monkey1
Opening a relationship just before a marriage just means they’re at the end of the relationship and grasping at straws to desperately try and keep it going.
CityguyUSA
Agreed!
chappy51
I’ve never ben on Grindr
Donston
It is a very weird time to try an “open” relationship. And then you decide to make a documentary about it before you indulge the “openness”? However, there’s a chance a lot of the timing and motivations in this are manipulated for sake of the doc.
I do wonder what’s the obsession so many have with being viewed as “polyamorous”. Is it because it sounds more official and less “skanky”? Because only a small percentage of people who take on the poly “labels” nowadays actually have relationships/commitments that feature three plus parties. It’s often threesomes, side-chicks, side-dudes, a bunch of casual friends randomly hooking up with each other, I’m not ready to break up with the other person yet kind of thing, or just regular casual dating. Not everything has to be “poly”.
The media has always been obsessed with guys in hetero commitments who indulge homo behaviors. That would be fine if every male-male commitment we see wasn’t presented so basic or pathetic or tragic.
Jack Meoff
That looks like it would actually be kind of dull.
Donston
The selling point is “Oh my god, he has a girlfriend”. Otherwise, it’s a doc about searching through a hook-up app and meeting a few dudes. If he was single or in a homo commitment, there’d be nothing there to sell.
darkanser
Other than my finding the guy somewhat cute, there’s little to attract me to this film.
Raphael
I’m, literally, “RME” to this BS. Here, we have the perfect example. In their own words, they always “see themselves settling down with someone from the opposite sex and having a family”. As if it was something unthinkable or unfeasible to same-sex partners… They don’t see or want a future with gay people, and then act shocked and wonder why most gay people avoid seeking relationships with them.
Donston
Once you accept how individual sexuality is, how individual psychology, ego, ethnics, motivations are, that some people experience and contradictions and mental health struggles, that the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, emotional investment, commitment spectrum is so varied- it becomes hard to be upset with how people decide to live their lives. It’s not really worth being mad about.
I do think some of these “queers” in hetero commitments are a bit too desperate for attention and validation. The contrived concept of this documentary is a perfect example of that. A lot seem to want “queer acknowledgement”and “queer support” while being in hetero relationships (and sometimes only indulging hetero commitments their whole lives). Many make their “queerness” less about being honest and living the lives you want to live and more about sociology and validation and self-exploitation. That’s where a lot of people trip up.
Cam
Wait, so Monkey1, Donston, and I agree on something?
Weird time to open a relationship, right before a wedding. Sounds like an excuse to make the film.
RFD
That clip does not make me want to see it or interested at all. Why do so many people feel their lives are interesting enough to make a movie or TV show? Not always the case. Some are.
BoomerMyles
Bisexuality is so fashionable!
Donston
It’s always been “fashionable” and “subversive” to some extent or another. While more people experience degrees of fluidity, contradictions, bisexuality in their lives than there are people who are truly and thoroughly homosexual for their entire lives.
That’s why I emphasize how individual sexuality is, why I emphasize how individual psychology and motivations are, why I emphasize how varied the gender, romantic, sexual, emotional investment, commitment spectrum is. If we accept his varied people are rather being identity and sexual behavior dependent, it can help stuff out contrived, exploitative and basic stuff like this documentary from getting hype. At this point “bi” is basic, which to me is progressive. Yet, there are people and things like this doc that keep trying to use it for sensationalism and ego.