Depending on your mood when you watch Christopher Dallman’s video for “Over My Head,” you’ll either deem it ridiculously sappy or uniquely touching. Us? We’re just enjoying the shots of Dallman’s wedding band and bedroom scenes with his real-life husband. But: No shirtless models running down the beach behind him? Hrmph.
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twstone
I am going to go with sappy…
elliot
Chris chose to pursue his career as an openly gay man – I am overwhelmed by the authenticity and courage of this video – what it may lack in sophistication it more than makes up for with heart.
John K.
That was a stunningly beautiful video. Its nice to see a gay musician in a video not exploit his sexuality, but sing from his heart about love and his search for equality.
AlwaysGay
I have to agree with John K. It is nice to see a gay man express his sexuality in a sweet, sublime manner. Usually we either see gay male singers not express their sexuality or exert a very powerful sexuality (which I don’t mind). Gay men need to see all avenues of how to express their sexuality. Great job, Christopher!
Mike
I’m a huge fan of Christopher. I own his CD. It’s surprisingly fantastic. It gets a lot of airplay on my iPod.
Tallskin
It’s nice to have a gay singer-songwriter singing gay themes. But I have to confess if this wasn’t gay I wouldn’t give it five seconds before I turned it off
It’s inconsequential, lightweight pap.
LandscapeJupiter
Absolutely agree that just because someone is gay doesn’t mean they have to have half-naked men and sex references in everything! It doesn’t help to end the stereotyping to play right into it every freaking time! GREAT job Christopher!
schlukitz
Perhaps, if there were more displays of “sappiness” in the world…there would be less violence?
Danny
A little sappy, yes… but the kind that is very needed in our community. Way to go!
M Shane
No. 8 · schlukitz On the other hand maybe if people realized that sex was an act of agression and worked at not being so sweet, there would be less sexual energy sublimated into violence.
If the idea is to get us apeing heterosexual nomality, instead of being authentically gay, then it’s just what the minister ordered and mom and dad would approve of.
Makes me go limp ion the spot personally! Then I did hear someone talking about meeting his true love, perfect mate.
Their sex amounted to a kiss! But to each his own. He thought that’s what sex was suposed to be.
schlukitz
@M Shane:
Sex is an act of agrression?
I see. First you club the victim over the head and then you drag them by the hair to your cave.
Think I’ll cast my lot with Mongo…even if he is straight!
galefan2004
Dude seems really cool. This is totally not my type of music. I grew up on country twang and I’ll die on country twang. However, for what this is its pretty freaking awesome, and I’m proud that he decided to come out and then pursue his career not the other way around.
galefan2004
@LandscapeJupiter: My friend used to DESPISE the opening part of QAF because he would always say that it doesn’t help when American thinks that every time they look at us. You seem like you would be from the same school of thought. Of course, me and him were younger then and perhaps more naive because in this day and age I realize that they think what they want regardless of how we put ourselves out there.
galefan2004
@M Shane: I seriously feel for you that you actually believe that sex should be “an act of aggression.” I’m assuming you discount love in that whole equation period. Sex should be between two people that honestly love each other and have actual feelings for each other. Quick romps in the back room of a bar or in a bath house really don’t equate to making love to someone you have real feelings for. I feel bad for you if you never got the chance to experience making love with anyone. Also, sexual frustration does not lead to physical aggression or violence. You are warped if you believe that.
galefan2004
@schlukitz: See, you can be funny and you said I have no sense of humor.
jason
Will the supposedly gay-friendly MTV play this video? I doubt it.
Danny
@M Shane:
I don’t think there are ‘supposed to be’s’ with sex.
I think that we have a lot of aggressively sexual material out there and it leaves plenty of room for more videos like this one.
I can’t stop watching it 🙂
M Shane
No. 14 · galefan2004 That’s the way it goes in the movies! I think that if people like passionless, nice events and can keep it up, fine. If people want to fit into the heterosexual steriotype of nice love that’s great. But even women prefer aggression really, if they know what sex is. The romantic love routine is a Christian nicefication of sex. You are the one who said that violence was part of sex, not I . i sometimes have like an edge of S/M i sex as dop many people. But not everyone is very sexually sophsticated.
Nonetheless, there are different psychologists who attribute violence to a lack of sufficient satsfactory sex.
schlukitz
@M Shane:
The concept of romantic love existed long before the Christians ever came onto the scene. Read up on your history.
And even within the bounds of S/M sex, it is not all about whips and chains and if you truly believe that, then you need to do a little research in that area as well.
Indulging in kinky sex does not mean that one must give up the need for human warmth and intimacy or the need to be held, fondled, kissed and made love to. These are universal desires that need to be fulfilled by all humans, regardless of their sexual bent. No one is a stone without feelings, not even the heaviest bottom or masochist.
Making such sweeping generalizations serves no one and only fuels the misconceptions that so many people, including yourself, seem to have about human sexuality.
Danny
@schlukitz:
Very well said!
And I don’t think that sex is the point of this video!
Phoenix (Plotting The Overthrow Of The Christian Reich From My Mom's Basement)
I think you’re allowed to be sappy on your wedding day with your husband. I think you get a special dispensation when you pick up the marriage licence.
Casper O
wow that is very very very bad…
fitz
How did this conversation get to be about some sad sack’s self esteem and intimacy issues? Back to the video: It’s beautiful and authentic- for those of us capable of appreciating authentic connection.
Brad
This video, like the song it seeks to give light to, is simple, tasteful, and beautiful. A good pairing of director and artist. Christopher’s musical style is exactly what appeals to me with singer/songwriters. I stopped listening to the radio and industry-created, cheesy artists years ago – thanks to listener-supported radio in Philadelphia. I’ll have more of what Christopher is serving, please.
schlukitz
@Brad:
listener-supported radio
The way to go! ;o)
If I wanna get “screamed at” by the industry-created, cheesy artists, I’ll invite my mother to come back from the grave. LOL
Rob Moore
I think it was a sweet video. The first half presented imagery that bespoke a troubled relationship with one sleeping while the other seemed restless and sleepless; been there, done that, have the t-shirt, but the song indicates that was not the intent of the imagery.