WATCH: Dan Savage Explains How His Son “Came Out As Straight”

Screen shot 2013-05-28 at 2.54.33 PMCanadian news source Xtra! has released the rest of the footage from that teaser interview with Dan Savage we showed you earlier this month. From his husband’s rump to his 15-year-old son’s sexuality, no topic is off limits while on tour promoting his latest book, American Savage: Insights, Slights, and Fights on Faith, Sex, Love, and Politics.

When asked what advice he could give to gay couples yearning for parenthood, Savage says “remember when you have a baby or adopt a baby that one day that baby will be 15 years old.”

He even shared the adorable details of his son’s “coming out” as a straight man:

“My son had to come out to us as straight, and he was worried what we might think… Even with all the support we gave him to be whatever he wants to be, he felt allegiance to us and allegiance to his family, and thought we would be disappointed that he wouldn’t be gay like us. He felt awkward coming out to us as straight, and it kinda broke our hearts.”

Kids say the darndest things!

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  • tdx3fan

    Dan is becoming (or maybe I’m just starting to notice that he has always been) ONE hot DADDY. He is very genuine and sweet in this video as well!

  • Dixie Rect

    This guy reminds me of that Reichen loser. Desperately trying to be famous, but its just not working.

  • tookietookie

    Dan Savage in print talks a good game, but seeing him on Drag Race left a bad impression. That he was actually stilted and lacked a sense of humor or joy about life. Which was odd, because I read his article because I enjoyed a sense of thinking critically about sex and sexuality. But…something is “off”. He doesn’t give off a has-it-together vibe. Maybe a sense of putting the cart before the horse, or trying to be larger than life? Oftentimes, those who preach to us have their own demons to hide. I’m often left wondering what’s the rest of the story. He feels the need to tell us all ours. What’s his? (This would actually give him more credibility).

    I don’t think he needs to vaunt himself as some paragon of insight, unless we’re just talking a monetary thing here. Love the It”s Get Betters campaign (sort of…not really because it’s sort of zeitgeist celebrity/better than nothing, it’s played into some broader social change, but not reliably effective), but I think he pigeonholed himself into a corner with his career. You want to take real sex advice from a drinking buddy, not some neo-Larry Kramer (and dont get me wrong, I <3 Larry Kramer, I just don't think Dan Savage is that standard).

    So, in conclusion, what is this my son came out as straight stuff? Is that a thing? Is that a "cute" thing, cause it matters if someone "declares" they are the social norm? Oh, thank you Dan Savage, another non-story for us to dither about.


  • tookietookie

    RuPaul gives people real advice. There’s a “holding” energy…but lightly. RuPaul is very actualized, and “meta”. Just enough to let the advicee knows it’s there, but not too much. Through the boob tube, RuPaul makes me go…wow! Savage is overtly political, but not in a real way, sort of in a potshot way. He brings heat to the political issue of the day, but unlike Ru, if you want to delve into sex proper, you better have your deep-diving bodysuit on [email protected]#*h. Yeah, tyou have a kid, Dan. Bring a better game.

  • Kieran

    Bravo to Dan and his husband for showing such wonderful tolerance, love and support for their son who came out as heterosexual. It’s heartwarming to see such enlightened parents as these who accept and love their son regardless of his sexual orientation.

  • tookietookie

    @Kieran: Really with you? *snicker*

  • Caleb in SC

    Wow, it looks like some people cannot grasp the term “satire.”

  • miagoodguy

    Another fame seeking whore. I find it especially creepy that a married man (that makes me laugh) is blatantly flirting with a much younger guy and talking about people masturbating to pics of his husband. Dirty old man comes to mind. Stop trying to act like you are still in your 20’s.

  • Cam

    Oh Blah Blah Blah Blah, yes we get it some of you hate Dan Savage.

    The guy is an advice columnist. My FAVORITE accusation is the “Fame Whore” label. Funny, that is what the bigots down in places like Mississippi use to attack the gay kids that demand rights. The guy makes money by people reading his column, of COURSE he is going to do interviews.

    As far as I’m concerned the fact that he was basically banned from CNN for a long time, for calling them out on their own network for having people like Maggie Gallagher and those bigots from the Family Research Council on was fantastic.

    They asked him what could be done to reduce anti-gay bigotry or something like that and Savage said that a good start would be their own network, he then said that CNN invites people like Maggie Gallagher on as one side of a panel whenever they discuss gay issues, and he asked if they would have a member of the KKK on when debating civil rights.

    We need people willing to say things like that once in a while.

  • Niall

    I can’t make up my mind on him.

  • Caleb in SC

    @Cam: You are spot on.

  • viveutvivas

    @niall, same here. I like his column, and some of his views, but this recent involvement of the whole family in a bunch of publicity stunts feels off to me.

  • Niall

    @viveutvivas: THANK YOU! When I was writing that, I actually still hadn’t figured out what exactly I didn’t like about it, but I think you nailed with your comment. I like his views too, but the whole thing with his husband lately, just feels errrr…..

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