WATCH: Modern Gay Vernacular Explained By Reluctant Queer Dude

If you’re one of the few gay people who don’t watch RuPaul‘s Drag Race and have no idea why someone just called you “hunty,” you’re in luck. Eliot Glazer is here to set you straight, so to speak. Ahead of the premiere of HBO’s much-anticipated gay-themed Looking later this month, the comic and self-proclaimed reluctant gay dude wants to help acquaint viewers with any unfamiliar lingo. Be warned, people are still using “kiki” but we had no idea “Bruce Vilanch” is now an adjective.

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  • ncman

    That was not “gay” vernacular. That was “queen” vernacular. And, why did he introduce himself as a comedienne instead of a comedian?


    Dude is naturally funny and charismatic. Perfectly judged level of camp without it being too much. Testicles weren’t sucked into my abdomen through embarrassment as per..


    That said why is there never any comedy or lighter non news or “issue pieces” featuring masc gay/bi guys? if I mean other than to lust at in their skivvies, and those are not even always gay. Why does it ALWAYS have to default to fem or queeny shit? Not that camp and fem shouldn’t have a place but it shouldn’t monopolise virtually the whole space either. If Aaron Rodgers story has taught us anything is that there’s a hunger for more masculine representation. But do you trawling Youtube for that? The community deserves to be reflected in its sexy assed diversity and that means including more masculine gay men and their interests; black masc who are particularly under served.That is all.

  • Miss Understood

    @PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Are we talking about YouTube videos? Because if we were talking about television then there is an industry you can complain about. If we are talking about YouTube, well that’s just who decided to make videos. Or which ones people enjoyed enough to pass around. If you think something is lacking then consider making a video and post it to YouTube.

  • QJ201

    Missing: Don’t get it twisted. When someone misinterprets a situation or what someone said.

    Yes it’s drag/camp slang. And Yes I hear NON DRAG QUEENS use it every so often.

  • Bee Gaga

    The entirety (nearly) of this video and what is being hailed as “gay lingo/slang” is really BLACK gay slang from the ballroom seen that has been misappropriated by white drag queens then deluded into the mainstream gay culture and nowadays you get even heterosexual women using these phrases thinking of bunch of white bar kids made it up. Girl BYE! Give credit where its due and that appropriating our S#!T!

  • queertv

    @Bee Gaga: SECONDED. This is BLACK GAY slang, all of it. But of course HBO’s white marketing and development team would not know of such things.

  • robirob

    Personally I prefer the Homewerq guys Mike Diamond and Matinga and their clips about gay or queen lingo.

  • Jonty Coppersmith

    To each his own I suppose, but perhaps I’m one of the few who do not watch RuPaul. I prefer men who look like men. Why in the world would I want to watch a bunch of men with dresses on? I guess the drag queen thing is just one of the facets of LGBT culture that I’ve never understood.

  • morlexx

    @Jonty Coppersmith:
    So you only watch tv shows where you find the cast sexually stimulating?
    I think drag is fun to look at and so is rupauls drag race there is nothing more to it.

  • B Damion

    @PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID …I am more on the femm side, but I do somewhat agree with your statement. However, I think both sides of the “gay spectrum” should be equally explored and think we will see more of what your looking for with the new HBO show “Looking”.

    Now, that being said. I don’t think it’s right to perpetuate the idea that one type of gay man is far superior to that of another. This kind of thinking mirrors the same conflicts that I see within the black community when it pertains to lighter vs darker skin tone. This kind of thinking is just bonkers as far as I’m concerned.

  • Bee Gaga

    @Jonty Coppersmith: It’s simple, because A) what you denote is “look like men” is relative, there isn’t one set look of how men are supposed to look. And B) The vast majority of people gay/straight don’t watch things for sexual stimulation, if that’s your whole reason of watching television then you should stick to porn its much easier. I watch Real Housewives of Atlanta and there is nothing sexually stimulating to me and I imagine the millions of straight women/gay men who watch it about 6 other women.

  • Bee Gaga

    @B Damion: But there are TONS of those kind of gay men. In fact the one’s he is pushing for are the MAJORITY of gays shown on television. The femme, queen, effeminate types are generally shown as gossipy, bitchy, rude, materialistic, evil, etc. But the masculine gay/bi conservatively dressed “normal’ guy is always in the main character role or the played out “gay hero role” trope in gay movies/shows and mainstream movies/shows with gay characters. If anything or more tired of seeing the upper middle class cis-gender gay white male in the “hero”/leading role because that ALWAYS happens.

  • Jonty Coppersmith

    @Bee Gaga:

    Both you and morlexx have accused me of saying or implying that I choose what TV to watch based on what I find sexually stimulating. I never said that, and I don’t do that even though it doesn’t hurt if there’s some eye candy along the way.

    “Look like men” may be a phrase you consider relative, but where it relates to me it doesn’t include men dressed up as women.

    Please note that I prefaced my remarks with “to each his own.” I don’t care what you or others watch, and I don’t condemn you for what you watch. I was only expressing my own preferences which don’t include drag and my wonder at why so many gay men seem so fascinated by it. I’ve just never understood the appeal is all.

  • Persa

    If you REALLY wanna give credit where it’s due you’d credit working class Southern and Urban Black WOMEN because that is where most of the drag ball lingo is derived from (with a smattering of modeling lingo and various infusions of the cultures of the queens themselves. The mannerisms, the swagger, it’s all stereotypical old skool Black women style. Good Times, What’s Happening, 227, pick your sassy Black woman. Hell. This stuff is not new. Flip Wilson aka Geraldine was serving this in the 60s and 70s long before drag balls.

  • Mars414

    Where I’m from (New York), “kiki” means giggling or cackling, especially at someone else’s expense (usually after someone has thrown shade).

  • B Damion

    @Bee Gaga …I agree. You make some very good and insightful arguments.

    However, when all is said and done. I believe it’s best for folks to just be as authentic as possible. We all like different nouns and that is what is so great about the world we live in now.

    Look, rascism isn’t going away and homophobia is here to stay. So look, we just have to get over ourselves and try to love each other for betta or worse. Cause if you can’t love ourself. How the hell you gonna love somebody else.


  • Bee Gaga

    @B Damion: Exactly lol part of my point. Some people fit stereotypes, big whoop!

  • Bee Gaga

    @Persa: It is DERIVED from that, but it is NOT that. Of course, that’s where it comes from the lingo was/is made up by black gay men and of course they’re going to go off of what they know “sisters, aunts, grandmas, mothers, etc.” so they take some (not even most) things said by them and change them up or in most cases create their own words which was then (mis)appropriated by white drag queens and then appropriated by gay white males and now its mainstream within gay-friendly heterosexual women on tv and in real life. So lets give credit where it due black people in general, if you want to get specific we can take about the basis of the lingo black women and the creators of the ling gay black men.

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