WATCH: SF Couple Bob And Fred Discuss Their 35-Year Relationship

As we all come down from the collective high that was Pride—with all the dancing boys, dykes on bikes and drag queens—it’s important to remember the folks we don’t see leading contingents at parades: The everyday couples setting an example just by living out and proud, and inhabiting the revolutionary idea that same-sex couples can endure decades of enmity, hardships and even an epidemic.

Long-term partners Fred and Bob both volunteer at the Asian Art Museum in  San Francisco—Fred is a storyteller and Bob is a docent. Above, the guys share their story of meeting 35 years ago at UC Berkeley and how their work enriches their lives and others. As curator Forrest McGill, who sent us this clip, says, “[it’s] nothing flashy—just real gay people following a shared interest, performing a public service, and finding their lives enhanced.”


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  • Jaroslaw

    Bob & Fred say they met (literally, that is it) and other 95% of the film is discussion about their volunteer activities at the the museum. I would have liked to hear a lot more about their lives together.

  • Steve Hughes

    My partner Jerry and I will be together 36yrs on August 7th 2012. We lived in San Francisco for 25yrs and now reside in Sacramento. We would love to share our feelings about the world, and the change in the cultural climate towards gays.

  • Steve Hughes

    Would love to hear from all of you…

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