WATCH: Stephen Fry Explains How To Be A Decent Human Being

Here’s something to bookmark: the dulcet tones of noted homosexual Stephen Fry, patiently expounding on the things he wishes he knew when he was 18.

Among his life lessons: Don’t expect technology to solve your problems, don’t set goals for yourself, listen to other people instead of just to yourself, travel and read, ask questions, and make a fuss when liberty is threatened.

Skip to 24:45 to hear him talk about growing up gay, a good point for anyone who’s felt different: “On one hand, you want to belong… and another part of one wants to stand alone.”