Two of the world’s worst parents have been caught on camera physically assaulting their gay son, just moments after banishing him from their home over what they believe to be his “chosen” and “ungodly” sexuality.
The video below was taken candidly during the altercation between Daniel, a 19-year-old gay man, his mother and father, and a third unidentified female living in their house. It doesn’t capture any faces or clear shots of the assault, but the disgusting, homophobic god-fearing hate speech is crystal clear.
Daniel’s mother explains to her son that “you can deny it all you want to, but I believe in the word of god and god creates nobody that way. It’s a path that you have chosen to choose.”
Daniel’s parents abrasively tell him that they can no longer support his “habit,” and that he will need to leave the house that week:
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“Since you have chosen that path, we will not support you any longer. You will need to move out and find wherever you can to live, and do whatever you want to. I will not let people believe that I condone what you do.”
Toward the end of the video, Daniel’s father calls him a “disgrace” while pinning him down and physically assaulting him. “You’re a damn queer, you fucking [unintelligible]!”
The video, which has received over 500,000 views on YouTube since being uploaded Wednesday, was originally posted to Reddit’s gaybros thread by a user who claims to be Daniel’s boyfriend. He writes:
Bros, my boyfriend got kicked out of his home and disowned yesterday. It’s been a really traumatic experience for him, and I feel so terrible and angry that this happened.
Fortunately, he’s living with a friend for now. Seems like he can be there long-term until he’s able to support himself.
I’m so sad that so many people have to go something like this. For any of you that have, what’s the best way I can support him?
Check out the video below:
http://youtu.be/1df_i26wh-w
Update: The teen in the video has raised over $90,000 in three days and is now sharing his story with NBC.
[Photo by Kat N.L.M., Flickr]
Aromaeus
1 Timothy 5:8 KJV
“But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
But they don’t care about parts like that.
barkomatic
Sad that young gay people still have to put up with this garbage in 2014. As painful as this is, he’ll likely be better off in the long run getting away from these ignorant people.
Stache99
“I have allot of friends who are gay.” Ha. I doubt that’s true. Usually the favorite argument of someone bigoted though.
Wherever he’s going it’s better then living in that freak show. The only thing missing is a banjo playing.
DarkZephyr
This is why I am no longer a Christian and never will be again.
AndrewKzn
I would make sure that he fully understands just how valuable he is. His is an important part of this wonderful planet. His contribution to humanity is vital and will continue to grow each and every moment of each and every day! Give him a hug and a kiss from me.
gskorich
why did he record this? just to put it on social media? he obviously knew how his parents would react. as soon as she started talking about choice and God he should have shut his mouth. you can’t argue with these people. she even said she knew he was gay when he was a child and then to say it was his choice, makes no sense. he is better off without these people.
fagburn
Awful (that’s assuming this doesn’t turn out to be yet another hoax).
AJAnders
I don’t have the strength to click on that video.
AtticusBennett
awful awful awful. to any of you who ever face something like this, take this advice from my family: OUT your parents. Trust – your family won’t be expecting you to do that. OUT them, to everyone. Entire extended family, all your parent’s neighbours – EVERYONE. what this will do is two things: it lets everyone know you may need shelter and help – it also blows “The Secret” out of the water; meaning your family can’t hide it anymore. It’ll also mean that they’ll have to deal with that other aspect of Peer Pressure: the realization that their entire community now knows that they disowned their kid. TRUST – it works.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gDORM_aStOk
Paul Nadolski
It’s such a shame that there are so-called “Christians” who behave this way. That’s not what Jesus taught. Read your fucking Bible. It’s mostly about love and taking care of the less fortunate. Of course there is no god anyway…
Behaviour like this is a BIG part of why I left the Christian religion.
hepaistion
If I were the kid that was kicked out, go to the library to use a self help book and sue my parents for child support. They are legally required to take care of him till he reaches 18
onthemark
@hepaistion: He’s already 20. Read the article.
Although I’m sympathetic, there’s no particular reason why any parents (lousy or good) have to support you at “home” when you’re already 20. I don’t get why this ADULT, who must have already known that his parents were sh*tbirds, gets all weepy about it. Just grow the fvck up and leave, you’re 20!
AtticusBennett
@onthemark: perhaps you could share your own video with your parents online, or document your own journey. since you’re apparently immune to pain.
siflwr
Not everyone that calls themselves a Christian is following their faith and teachings. What most are following is the dogma of “Organized Religion” or a faith as is “politically correct”. there is nothing of faith nor political correctness when a parent turns their back or raises a hand on their children.
luigibleu
The “parents” on this video are not Christian. They are hateful, violent, sadistic bastards using The Bible as an excuse to physically and verbally assault their son.
It’s just a shame that their names and addresses are not listed on the video so that they can be publically shamed.
One thing is for damned sure. They’re Republicans.
luigibleu
P. S. I just loved the part where the hateful woman in the video tells her son that she has gay friends.
ynottonycom
“Everyone deserves to be respected for who they are…”
I pledge to spread this message to my friends, family and neighbors. I’ll speak up against hate and intolerance whenever I see it, at school and at work.
I’ll provide hope for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and other bullied teens by letting them know that it gets better.” – Yoga Teacher, Tony Eason – San Francisco
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNYKNxY8omM
TampaBayTed
@fagburn: If it isn’t a hoax it’s reprehensible; if it is a hoax it is twice as reprehensible.
luigibleu
@AtticusBennett: You are absolutely correct. That’s why I mentioned in my comment that the names, address, and employers of these hateful bigots should have been in the news article here, and especially in the description on the video on You Tube.
Maude
I was there when My best friend, at 16 was told to get out of his fathers sight, “…because you disgust me.”
I was an orphan living with a gay man, and because of my best friends age, he too wouldn’t take my friend in, but on his own, he found a gay man who said he would let him stay over night that lasted much longer than just overnight…it lasted for 5 years, when the man died and left a sizable inheritance.
And THAT more than anything else, is Gods will…….If there is a God.
luigibleu
@ynottonycom: No, bigots do not deserve to be respected or tolerated. Throw them out of your house. Expose them to the world. Fire them from their jobs. Make them pay for their bigotry.
NiceNCool1
There is no god. They’ve thrown their son away for nothing.
onthemark
@AtticusBennett: At age 20 I had already been in the military for two years. And I wouldn’t see my parents again for another couple of years. So yeah, I don’t really know what you’re talking about.
Another way of looking at is, if you’re an ADULT and another ADULT is literally, physically assaulting you, you have the right the press legal charges. I don’t get why the default “response” is to make a video of it. (Which the parents presumably knew was happening? Weird.) But maybe that will help, if he wants to press charges regarding the assault. My point to the previous poster (who’s low on reading comprehension) was that he can’t complain about child support since he is over 18.
mcflyer54
@AtticusBennett: Excellent advice. Do not hide in shame. Shame those who are using their religion to justify their hatred and bigotry. Don’t get mad, get even. Expose them for the religious hypocrites they are and don’t look back. You can, and will, create your own better family and you will do it knowing that you have surrounded yourself with better people who will love un unconditionally.
Mykaels
I want to say this moved me, but it didn’t. This is quite common where I am from in West Texas. This is why I waited to come out at 21, when paying my own bills and completely self reliant.
Fly away Daniel. Never look back.
Bulls Eye
That poor young man. I hate to say this, but he’s better getting away from such toxic people. They will go about their pitiful lives thinking they did the right thing until that one day when it finally hits them that they failed their son when he needed them the most.
And just why does such anti-gay hatred and ignorance so often have a southern drawwwwwl attached?
Atldeuce
Ugh! I missed that episode of Duck Dynasty. When Honey Boo Boo makes you look backward in terms of family and unquestioning glbtq acceptance, that has got to make you cringe. There’s gonna be some snake handlin’ at prayer meeting tonight!
mattyg
Wether one believes in god or not its not up to that individual to judge and punish someone for being different. Its easy to cherrypick phrases from any scripure to validate whatever point one cares to make.This is more about the selfishness of his parents and their inability to deal with their bigotry.These people are hypocrites from the start since the bible teaches that we should love one another and that we should not hurt eachother. As forhow to treat Daniel,show unconditional love and whatever you do nobody should take advantage of him in any way. He has been betrayed by the very people who are suppose to show unconditional love.
magicfeather
I would take him in if i knw him and was local. this hurts at any age. i was disowned by my mother and never went back, she came around but remained ashamed of me the rest of her life. I came out at the early age of 8 and I new that I was never part of the family from that time on. It was my secret that i knew would one day come out and separate me from them so i never became part of them again. we have come a very long way but there is still a long way to go while there are people like this. I have made more than one extended family over the years that I was much closer to them than any of my blood relatives. some have lasted decades. tell your friend “It does get better”, and there is no cure for stupidity.
Dxley
Everything just seems to find a way to the Internet these days. He should have trodden lightly and not have left any trails that could have led to his parents discovering the truth about his sexuality. He lived with those people, so he should know what kind of people they are!
Poor boy is practically homeless (probably) because of a weak “love” affair with another boy who’s also completely financially dependent on Mom and Dad, or maybe porn on his computer. Parents have the right to tell their children anything they don’t personally approve of — anything. Their house, their rules.
Anyway, good luck to both these boys.
Black Pegasus
I’ve seen and heard a lot of heartless pathetic things in my life, but to hear what these so called “parents” did to their son is beyond sickening! Please tell me this young man found some refuge from that hell hole.
Charli Girl
DOES ANYONE KNOW WHERE THEY ARE FROM? Al or Bigotssisppi?
Ogre Magi
Another gay teen mistreated because of Christianity,THANKS JESUS!!!
john.k
I always wonder how people who think being gay is a choice can explain why anyone in Iran, Iraq, Uganda, Nigeria and other similar places would choose to be gay when that choice could cost them their very lives.
jimstoic
You can help him land on his feet here:
http://www.gofundme.com/dnoqgg
chuck
I’m writing this through tears. I went through a similar situation over 40 years ago. I thought things had changed after all this time. My advice for this man is to GET AS FAR AWAY FROM THESE PEOPLE AS YOU CAN. I joined American Atheist as a reaction to my personal experiences. Twisted Christianity distroyed my family. Love yourself and try to find happiness as you define it yourself.
Quincy
This makes me more proud to be an Atheist. It just proves what ultra hypocrites most Christians are. They do not practice God’s word. Makes me sick.
Cagnazzo82
I disagree with people who claim there is no God.
The fact that this video exists and is put on blast for the whole world to see and shame these parents actually leads me to suspect there might be a God after all.
This is beautiful justice right here.
This entire incident took place because they wanted to avoid the shame of their community. Now look what happened…
enlightenone
“Two of the world’s worst parents…” Hardly! Seems like this 20 year old is going to be just fine with $34,000.00 already raised for “living expenses!” That’s twice as much for many families who are working with 2 children in this country.
Personally, I think the money raised should be for the actual homeless gay teens in his city/town. Am I empathetic to his family drama, sure. I just hope this wasn’t a slick come on. And the police should have been called for domestic violence no matter what we may think of the police. Sorry guys, I’m the odd one here! Viewing this video from YouTube, you may has a different reaction/response.
nature boy
uggh. she says “I always knew you were gay since you were a little boy” and then follows that up with insisting it’s a choice he apparently just made recently and he should unmake that choice.
Then she says something like “I’m not interested in all your science, I believe in the word of God.” ugggh again.
Get out! Good riddance! Find your own new family! And bravo for standing up for yourself. Also, if you are Christian and want to continue with that, find a smarter denomination to join, I would suggest looking at United Church of Christ, ELCA Lutheran (not Missouri Synod Lutheran!) or Episcopalian.
LadyL
@AtticusBennett: YES! BRILLIANT!
DickieJohnson
@Ogre Magi: U stupid d*ck; Jesus had nothing to do with it. The organization is to blame.
@Quincy: So, U became an atheist because other people don’t practice God’s word? Great thinking there, genius!
@DarkZephyr: You don’t have to give up something because others are morons. Keep the worthwhile teachings & toss the BS; sure works for me.
Liam
@gskorich: Since I grew up in the Deep South in a similar family of nutters, I can tell you why he recorded: so that when they bold face lie to everyone else, he’ll have proof of what liars they are.
This kind of shit is why I left Christianity 40 years ago.
As for the kid, he needs to get out, and get himself to a city where gay kids have access to resources.
Liam
@DickieJohnson: The whole batch of Abrahamic faiths is the worst thing ever to happen to the world.
Wooly
Wow what drama. Where’s the sequel?
NoCagada
RELIGION KILLS
nowliveit
First, my heart, love and strength reach out to him in support. I support him in seeing the ultimate gift these hate-filled people have given him. It’s their own hate that hides behind a convenient selective perception of the bible. After all the pair and grief I trust he’ll see that he has been spared their hateful influence from this point forward. He is free
Second, the bible is NOT the word of god. The books were written 80+ years after his death. And throughout history was selected and edited by people in power who wanted to control the masses. God did not write it. Man did.
jaleoman
OMG I just saw the video, my heart is on pain.
His father is very ignorant, and his mother is
A monster, hateful, ignorant, mean spirit, violent person.
A kind person will never do that to his own child.
I can’t believe that his mother is so blind, that prefer
To believe in a book written hundred of years ago,
Than in her own son. She will regret someday
Behaving like this, but it would probably be too late. ;(
JimboinLA
I am in tears right now. Not because of the stupid homophobic parents, that’s the bible belt. In one day this young man has received $46,000 in go fund me donations (I gave him $20). IN YOUR FACE HOMOPHOBIC PARENTS!!!! YOU KID CAN BUY HIS OWN HOUSE NOW!! I love how this is turning out.
JimboinLA
Here’s where you can donate. I hope it hits 100k!!
JimboinLA
http://www.gofundme.com/dnoqgg
stranded
The title of the article is very misleading
There were 5 people in the room
1. The guy coming out.
2. The mother – calm and cold
3. The aunt(?) – she’s the one who turned violent.
4. The angry male (father) who yelled and go violent
5. Another male, older and calmer. He’s at the very end saying “Listen, listen, cut this out”
The initial reaction by the mother was very homophobic, cruel, cold and sad, but this argument escalated based on a lot of different things, not just because the guy is gay. There’s some serious father/son problems and the assault sounded more as if it was about the son’s disrespect/ungratefulness than a reaction to the son’s coming out. Him yelling queer is standard homophobia, but again, i wouldn’t say the violence was caused by homophobia.
Larry Algood Jr.
I know I’m Gay But if I Choose to be straight and get married have kids, you think I will be happy and true to myself trying to hide who I really am?????
michael mellor
There is nothing in the Bible which bans homosexual feelings.
esemple
God fearing and child abusing.
Maude
@jimstoic:
Jim Stoic………..
I was afraid of this.
An email friend in Washington State says that this “may very well be a sympthy con-job for donations.”
and the more I think about it, the more I think he is right.
Read all the unanswered questions asked in the ‘comments’.
erich40
Watching the video, I do feel bad for the young man. But I have to agree with some of the other posts. One he is an adult, and as an adult if someone knocked me around, or assaulted me I would press charges no matter who they were. Two, he is 20 yes, but at that age you really need to start getting your act together and get out of mommy and daddies house even more so if you are aware of how the other members in the house feel about you. Conduct yourself in a manner that is better then theirs. They are claiming to be “Christians” well that is great, but do not lower yourself to that level. Just walk away, cut your loss and move on. Look at them with pity, and just remember you are better then that. They are the ones that have to live with themselves. He is the lucky one, he moved out, and I hope he gets the help from the community he needs, to rally around him, get him on his feet and then out on his own. I wish him well, the most important thing is he is out of that toxic environment.
waybig
No racial comments? That’s odd.
greybat
@onthemark: He is enrolled in a Business Colledge is he can indeed be a self-supporting adult.
Responsible parents tend to support their adult children by allowing them to live at home for a few more years while doing this, so that they may get their career started.
queenrosered
I have a very sweet, dear gay male friend who at a very young age (apx 8) was sexually abused by his step-father and 2 step brothers. His own mother did nothing to protect him from the abuse. One night,at the age of 21,in 1977 in a gay nightclub, his dark, sad eyes locked onto a pair of bright, beautiful blue ones and a loving trusting, monogamous, SAFE relationship was born. Last year, in March they were legally wed in Palm Springs! His husband is 7 years older and they have traveled and lived all over the world. This once abused man has never contacted his family since he met his husband 37 years ago and doesn’t even know if they’re dead or alive. And doesn’t care. Thankfully he was able to forge a new and better life for himself. I’m so happy for him/them I could shout! It really DOES get better when you free yourself from a toxic environment and truly believe that you deserve much better!
mallncox
Wow, Momma really sounded like a Christian. Trash trash trash.
BlogShag
Christianity condones rape, murder, slavery, subjugation, child exploitation… Wow, wonderful religion