Who Was Your First Gay Crush?

The creator of the Born This Way— a blog that features pictures of “fabulous” kids and stories from their adult selves about their childhood identity—has just started a new blog called My First Gay Crush where you can read true confessions of people’s first entertainment crush. Apparently folks had the hots for The Bionic Woman, Buddy Blue from Rainbow Brite, and the Big Jim action figure. Ken ain’t got nothin’ on Big Jim.

Who was your first gay crush? Mine was a pair of twin brothers in kindergarten. I just thought I really really liked them, but now I realize that I had a mega-crush on them both. We used to spend most of our time talking on the playground instead of beating the crap out of each other like the other dumb boys. They were so preppy and clean cut. They basically set the template for the sort of guy I would be attracted to for the next twenty years of my life. Thank Gob (yes, Gob) I outgrew that. Now I like scruffy guys… go figure.

Get Queerty Daily

Subscribe to Queerty for a daily dose of #blogs #myfirstgaycrush #websites stories and more


  • shle896

    My first gay crush was definitely Michael Landon (Pa on Little House On The Prairie). I also thought young Albert had it going on, too!

  • mike

    Aaron, Randy, Paul, and other fellow high school sports teammates. Thank God for jocks and wetsuits and cold water, good ways to get your young woodies under control.

  • Latin America

    Ricky Martin

  • inoits2

    My first gay crush was the Fonz (Arthur Fonzarelli from Happy Days). Don’t laugh. He was all man in my eyes.

  • Ed

    Showing my age here. Robert Stack as Eliot Ness on the Untouchables. I think alot had to do with the 1930s fashions.

  • Qwerty

    Cubby from the Mickey Mouse Club (dating myself)…

  • Q

    Jordan Catalano (Jared Leto) from “My So-Called Life” – I was so emo in middle school.

  • Aunt Sharon

    @Ed I’ll go you one better (or at least older.) Tony Curtis as Harry Houdini in 1953. I was mad for him.

  • Michael

    Peter, in the 7th grade. He was a swimmer. Even in high school he was lithe. Then he bulked up in college, and that died quickly.

    But from 7th grade to the end of high school, I wad a huge crush on him.

  • Fitz

    As a kid, Sal Mineo. I just wanted to fuck him until his ears bled. I still twitch down there when I see his pics.

    As a pre-teen…. sigh… Sean Cassidy.

  • Hikigaeru

    Noah Hathaway from The Neverending Story. When I was five, I thought he was such a dreamy older boy.

    Now it just makes that movie creepy to watch.

  • JH

    Todd Martinez – He was a senior when I was a freshman. He was valedictorian, won a full-ride scholarship to college, a great actor, and a runner. He was brilliant and had a beautiful body. I thought at the time I just wanted to be like him – in retrospect, pretty sure I just wanted him!

  • Terry

    I definitely had the hots for a lot of guys in school, but outside of school I had the hots for my age equal Sandy Ricks (Luke Halpin) from Flipper. Always only in a pair of cutoff shorts, he was my dream lover.

  • Daez

    I have no clue how you guys even remember this stuff. I’m 32 and I can’t even think who my very first crush was.

  • Erik

    Way, way back, Prince Eric of the Little Mermaid (I was 4). But more realistically, and cliche-ly, J.T.T. Still do.

  • Sebastian

    It was a saturday morning and I was 7 when on my 13 inch colour tv was Yul Brynner in the King and I. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him!

  • Brett

    Jesse McCartney was my first crush. However @Erik just reminded me of J.T.T.

  • Phil

    David Cassidy. I was 4 and I would run up to kiss the TV screen when his face came up in the opening credits of The Partridge Family…in front of my entire family. I didn’t remember doing this until I was in my 20s.

  • Fitz

    @Sebastian– Jesus, you are right. That was amazing. And Bowzer from Sha Na na. lol!! I am over it now, but at 6 I was a size queen, and that guy was packing.

    Daez: older folks had less access to gayness as kids.. so these crushes might have meant more. also, with senile dementia you can remember your early memories much better than your recent ones. !!!! :)

  • paul f

    Magnum P.I. Ahhh Tom when he was young hot and italian before the both of us got mugged by that guy with the ‘ol fart bat. Something about mediterranean men with facial hair that still floats my boat.

  • patrick L

    Dating myself here, but Carl Betz as Dr. Alex Stone on the Donna Reed Show. God was he goodlooking! Then Chad Everett on Medical Center, Jack Lord on Hawaii Five-O, and a certain gym teacher in grade school with the beefiest legs and hairy barrel chest……

  • Bobby In Seattle

    Though I’m 40, and was rather young, my first gay crush was Harry Hamlin, when he was in LA Law.

    I watched it, just to see him. I think it was a combination of the high priced suits, the hair and his hot body.

  • christopher di spirito


    In 1984, when “Pride (In the Name of Love)” album came out, Bono looked so damned hot. His muscular thighs wrapped tightly in jeans, his powerful voice, his swagger, the whole rock star God thing just made me sweat.

    Today, 27 years later, Bono has become an important philanthropist helping spearhead cheap HIV drugs for Africa and he still rocks.

  • Draskle

    Sean Astin in Goonies. I think my first real life crush though, was my best friend Danny in the 4th grade. I met up with him to walk to school every day, and his mom would leave the front door unlocked so I could get in if Danny wasn’t out of bed yet. Every time I had to get him out of bed he was wearing nothing but his tighty whities.
    To this day they are still my fav type of underwear on a guy. :o)

  • David C

    @Bobby In Seattle: Harry Hamlin made his indelible mark on gay kids everywhere with “Making Love.”

  • meego

    Tony DeFranco when he was a teenager.

  • t2


  • DM73

    Well, mine was Simon LeBon of Duran Duran. With all those videos in the early to mid-80’s, I was smitten as an 8-10 year old. Though I didn’t think of it as a crush at the time. I was just had to know EVERYTHING about him. Wild Boys indeed.

  • Mike in Asheville

    Tony Dow — older brother Wally on “Leave it to Beaver”

    Ricky Nelson — “The Adventures of Ozzie and Harriet”

  • Chase

    Jonathan Brandis from SeaQuest. Absolutely loved him! I cried when he passed away my freshman year of college. Funny thing my first real life love was similarly named, Jonathon.

  • MBear

    Steve Reeeves. Esp “Hercules Unchained”
    Although now I prefer my muscle guys ‘chained’. ;)

  • Joe

    Clint Walker, Lee Majors, Paul Michael Glaser and John Schneider.
    I dreamt that they each could take turns having their own way with me.

  • James

    @patrick L

    Yes, the Donna Reed Show, but not the doctor. It was Jeff. He was so cute and all boy!

    But even before that, the cowboy shows almost always had cute boys who would tag along. I think my first crush was the boy on The Rifleman (or one of those shows).

    And yes, Cubby of the Mousketeers was cute, too.

    Later, Michael Landon on Bonanza. What a nice tight ass in those jeans!!

  • patrick L

    @James: I guess I always have, and always will go after the daddies!

  • Dick

    Leonard Whiting from Romeo and Juliet, the Zefferelli version

  • Mike

    Peter Reckell, who plays Bo Brady on Days of our Lives. When they replaced him for a few years with Robert Kelker-Kelly (who was honestly a lot hotter when he played Sam Fowler on Another World), it was just a pale imitation. Peter’s in his mid-50s now and STILL works it. I can be your Hope anyday, Bo!

  • Red Meat

    Ryan Phillippe in White Squall, I was 8 years old.

    The scene when he is in his underwear and gets all wet and you can see his ass through the underwear… yeah he dies a horrible death right after but.. LOL

  • Hal Shipman

    James Garner on “The Rockford Files.” Had I been old enough for “Maverick,” that would have been it, I’m sure.

  • red phone

    @DM73: Mine was John Taylor. : )

  • Cam

    Very young, snuck up to see “The Last American Virgin” on HBO, Steve Antin had his shirt off a LOT. Oh, and the dark haired guy from “30 Something” I was a little kid and my parents couldn’t understand why I would watch a show that I had no understanding of. lol

  • [email protected]

    As a kid it was definitely Fred Savage from The Wonder Years.

  • xander

    I’m going to go with Ryan Phillippe & Harry Hamlin….Anthony Delon, son of French actor Alain Delon, also gave me a rise!

  • JR

    Ok definatley showinfg my age here, but Guy Williams, the daddy, on “Lost in Space”. I’ve had a thing for daddies ever since. Woof !!!

  • Rolando

    My first gay crush was when I was like 9 and I was watching Kratt’s creatures and completely infatuated with Chris Kratt. That guy was such a hunk and he was good with animals so totally the perfect man. Around the same time I was crushing on Jason, the Red Ranger.

  • Mr. Enemabag Jones

    Stephen Collins as Jake Cutter from “Tales Of The Gold Monkey”. I was eight years old, and God I loved him.

    My sister’s friend had some teen magazine with a picture spread of him, and one day while at her house I stole the magazine, and hid it in my room. I’d just stare at his pictures for hours. I had no idea why I was so obsessed with him, but it was painful waiting each week for a new episode to begin. I cried when it was cancelled.

    In high school, it was John B. who actually turned out to be gay, and currently lives in California, teaching science at an alternative school. That crush bordered on obsession. John, if you’re reading this, sorry for all the pranks I pulled on you.

  • Dallas David

    @JR: Hunkarama for sure. Wasn’t he Zorro from the 1950’s series too? Hmmm . . .

  • Queer Supremacist

    Thanks a lot guys, I will now feel creepy watching TV Land for the rest of my days.

  • randy

    Parker Stevenson from the Hardy Boys, of course!

  • Nick

    I remember yahoo-ing (or was it altavista?) for Ricky Martin nude shots in the 90s. And finding Brad Pitt’s ones instead… Well, my gaydar was still in training.

    At some point I also liked Will Wheaton (Wesley Crusher from Star Trek TNG), but only just saw current photos of him and go “meh”.

  • Ernest

    My first crush was in second grade i used to chase him on the playground trying to kiss him ( I thought it was normal, until I got the “talk”). Then in fourth grade my teacher geez here I am taking my spelling test and thinking what he looks like naked he was a JCrew kinda guy. Then in fifth grade this boy Chris who moved from Indiana, fuck he was so hot and smelled so good! Then in sixth my lacrosse coach I would have let him fucked me. In seventh I feel back in love with my second grade crush. I then moved out to the country and hid for a while it wasn’t until my junior year I had such strong feelings for a guy, I was so sure he was gay so in my senior year towards graduation I came out and he stopped talking to me. I was never the type to want celebs, looks are nice but it’s personality for me. My family had no clue cuz I had so many girlfriends and dated every popular girl in three different towns. I was cool I guess and girls loved me, but WTF I wanted the boys to love me! In the future i hope it’s normal for a young boy to hold hands with another young boy and skate around the rink, during couples skate and I’m 28 btw!

  • Sebastian

    Second Crush, Christopher Atkins in the blue lagoon and male frontal nudity to boot…I was in love, and that jerking off scene……ahhh the memories

  • Yoinks!

    Les from The Bay City Rollers.

  • rascal

    Adam West on Batman! I always wished when he was captured by the Riddler and tied down that the Riddler would pull his tights off!

  • AlphaOmega

    Ash Catchem from pokemon.

  • divkid

    jesus (in loincloth); tarzan (in loincloth)…hmm, ye-es, pattern emerging here…
    (i draw the line at ghandi).

  • Joe

    1980 US olympic gold medal speed skater Eric Heiden. I was 16 and spent better than 50% of my awake time locked in the bathroom during the games.

  • macmantoo

    Toss up between Johnny Crawford-The Rifleman or Ricky Nelson. But I had a crush on Ricky all the way up till the day he died.

  • Ruhlmann

    Mr. Italian (being discreet) my grade five teacher. He had a crew cut, wore white T.K.’s with black piping on the front pockets and when he smiled I swear I heard a harp being plucked. He lived down the highway about a mile from me and one day told me that his kitten had gone missing. There was a depot where farmers would bring milk about a quarter mile up the road from him and I figured any kitten worth his salt would sniff it out. There he was and I was so excited to be going to his house and I was so proud I had found his kitten.

    I walked up the driveway and knocked on the door, my heart pounding. The door opens and there stood a really beautiful woman. I was disappointed, not because she was a woman but because I realised that he was married. Of course he would be, he was so handsome. She was so happy to see her kitten and she asked me in for home made peanut butter cookies and milk. She was a very sweet woman and told me Mr. Italian was on his way home. I stayed until he came home and lingered a bit and talked.

    The next day at school in front of the whole class he told them about how I had found his kitten. He said that thinking that a kitten might be attracted to the smell of milk was very clever. I blushed and felt all funny for a minute.

    A couple of months later I was kept after class for talking with my best friend. I was so disapointed and felt rejected. He had me wipe the slates and straighten up things. I missed the bus and had to walk home which was two and a half miles up the highway. I had walked to town on my own to the library many times before but I would be late and would have to explain to my mom and I didn’t want to disappoint her.

    I had walked a few hundred feet when Mr. Italian’s car slowed next to me and he asked me if I wanted a ride home. I stubbornly and firmly said “no”! He said “okay” and drove off. I thought “that was stupid” and kept walking. He drove up a bit and circled round and slowed next to me again and asked “are you sure”? So I said “okay” and got in. He drove slowly and explained that he wasn’t angry with me and that HE LIKED ME but he couldn’t teach class with people talking etc..

    We pull up to my house and my mother came out and asked if I had caused any trouble. He smiled that harp plucking smile at her and me and said “not at all, Ruhlmann stayed after class to help me straighten up the classroom”. Jesus I could have jumped on him and kissed him right then and there. Years later I still think of that handsome devil.

  • GayGOP

    Fellow guys on sports teams.

  • Nemo


    Oh god me too! I was embarassed to show my youth (I just turned 24), but yes. This. Absolutely.

  • Anonymous

    Huckleberry Finn.

  • zrocqs

    @David C… Yup! Bobby Sherman all the way. Anyone remember TV show “Here Come the Brides”? Three brothers: Jason, Joshua and Jeremy. Bobby Sherman played Jeremy. He sported a perfect Hollywood shag cut, even tho the show was a Western (of sorts). Also, the show was rather spicy in the inuendo dept. Mail-order bride asks: “Would you like a comforter?” Horny young deckhand grins broadly. Mail-order bride (aghast): “I meant a blanket!” Okay. Spicy for 40 yrs ago. Except I also recall oldest brother Jason telling someone that he slept “In the raw.” That got my pre-pubescent imagination going.

  • iDavid

    Robert Redford in his younger years. Soo hot in The Way We Were. Made my knees wabble.

  • Rainfish

    Hmmmmm…crushes (aka romantic fantasies) I had?

    As a Child it was:

    “Bud” – Billy Grey on “Father Knows Best”; Tony Dow, “Leave it Beaver”; Tab Hunter; James Dean; Paul Newman


    As a Teen:

    Gary Lockhart and Keir Dullea (2001: A Space Odyssey); “Robin” – Burt Ward on “Batman”; Van Williams on The Green Hornet; Sajid Khan from “Maya”; also, Darryl C. – my best friend in H.S.

  • Sebizzar

    I can’t exactly remember but i guess it was the boy in my 5th grade class haha. But before that, i remember thinking Jack from Titanic was cute, & i was only 5 or 6 xD

  • shle896

    @Ruhlmann: Your first crush story made my day! LOVE it!

  • driouxcipher

    Mine was hands down Mark Hamill in the first Star Wars movie. I thought I wanted to be him. Later I realized I wanted to do him. He also set the template for the rest of my life. I think I transitioned to Danny Pintauro on Who’s The Boss?.

  • Elloreigh

    The Professor Roy Hinkly, on Gilligans Island (played by Russell Johnson, deceased).

    In real time, a boy with auburn hair and almond shaped eyes, somewhat pointy ears and great teeth. That was probably in 2nd grade.

    But my first really deep crush was the high school quarterback. Very ‘boy next door’.

  • Elloreigh

    @Elloreigh: Hmm, come to think of it, I still go for the science nerds, like the Professor.

  • Rainfish

    From #72. Oops! I meant Tony Dow from “Leave to the Beaver”…

    By the way, I saw him (Tony Dow) in the late 1980s at a Health Club in KC. I used to swim about 100 lengths in their Olympic size swimming pool several times a week and Tony was there at the club. Tiffany’s Attic(a dinner playhouse) was next door.

    As my partner and I were hitting the showers on the way out of the club, I saw Tony in all of his…ummmm..shall we say, naked glory. Even though he was probably about six years older or so than I was at the time, I must say oooooo…daddy! He was fit. Bubble-butt and very well “en-Dow-ed” (lol, couldn’t resist). I almost wanted to go over to him and tell him how he inspired a little ‘mo to grow up to be a big ‘mo. Well, I would have been a ‘mo anyway, but at least I got my big wish granted to see Tony the way I had always fantasized about him when I was a younger kid.

    He smiled back at me; knowing that I had recognized him, and not feeling the least bit self-conscious. I left with something better than an overrated autograph — great sex with my partner for about three months, until I said something to him in a heated moment of passion like “golly Wally” and the jig was up. ///(grin!)///

    Shirtless photo of him can be found at link below:

  • Opheliac

    Hermione Granger from Harry Potter. I feel incredibly young.

  • iDavid


    What is KC? Funny story. He was a hottie all the way. Was he better looking in person?

    I have a friend in Hollywood tell me only about 5% of the stars he’s seen look as good as their pix. Got a feeling Tony may b in that 5%.

  • Scott

    Major Don West (Mark Goddard) from Lost in Space. When I was in my mid-20’s he appeared at a local comic book store. I was excited to go see him but then I got horrible cold feet. I couldn’t think what I would say to him so I didn’t go.

  • Scott

    @No. 7 · Qwerty
    @No. 25 · patrick L

    If you won’t date yourself then why should anyone else date you? ;-)

  • Rainfish

    @iDavid: Yes, David, it was quite a surprise. I didn’t expect him to be so athletic looking. When I did some background research on him recently, I found out that he was a junior Olympics diving champion. I guess that explains why he was in the Club pool area with me.

    He may be a silver fox now, but he still has a handsome face and I bet he’s kept his body up. He is a professional bronze sculptor as well and that is physically demanding — I know, I am one too.

  • iDavid


    Please don’t tell me he was in speedos.


    Amazing. Looks like all his teammates had a crush on him too. And all those guys kissing on the lips, Russia is an interesting mix. Thx for that bit of entertainment.

  • Rainfish

    @iDavid: RE: Tony Dow…Nope, he was as nekkid as the day he was born. Like I said, he was sporting a very impressive en-Dow-ment (pun intented) and the cutest little semi-circular bubble-butt I’ve ever seen.

  • Rainfish

    @Rainfish: @iDavid: Oh…by the way (since you asked) KC is short for Kansas City — like NYC is an abbreviation for New York City. Also, to be more distinctive, KCMO and KCK…Kansas City, Missouri and Kansas City, Kansas — they are twin cities just across the state line from one another.

    Tiffany’s Attic Dinner Playhouse use to be on Main St. a few blocks from the Country Club Plaza (the first, and oldest, outdoor shopping mall in the US). Tony Dow and Jerry Mathers used to tour the country in the 1980s doing the Dinner Theater Circuit.

    ——For Your Information about the area mentioned, see below——

    Country Club Plaza

    “Kansas City’s Country Club Plaza. The Country Club Plaza (often referred to as The Plaza) is an upscale shopping district and residential neighborhood in Kansas City, Missouri, USA. It was the first shopping center in the world designed to accommodate shoppers arriving by automobile. The 55 acre (223,000 m²) site is about four miles (6.44 km) south of downtown, between 45th and 51st streets to the north and south and between Broadway and Madison Street to the east and west. The Kansas state line is one mile (1.6 km) to the west.

    Established in 1922 by J. C. Nichols and designed architecturally after Seville, Spain, the Plaza comprises high-end retail establishments, restaurants, and entertainment venues, as well as offices.The neighborhoods surrounding the Plaza consist of apartment buildings and upscale houses, especially those of the Country Club District built along Ward Parkway on the Plaza’s southern and southwestern side. The Country Club Plaza is named in the Project for Public Spaces’ list 60 of the World’s Great Places.”

    (really nice photos of it can be found at the link below:

    “The Country Club Plaza has had the longest life of any planned shopping center in the history of the world.”


    It used to be the hottest gay cruising area in Kansas City when I was a teen. We’d often hang out in groups near some of the beautiful fountains (outside of Rome, Kansas City has more fountains than any other world city). After 11pm, especially on weekends, an endless parade of gay people (some in cars, some on foot) would pull over or just walk up to talk with you. Usually, I would start out with my own little clique of friends but then other groups would merge with ours and we’d all mingle by the fountains in the Summertime. Some would pair off for the night, while others would just acquire new acquaintances. I have some very lovely memories of that place when I was coming out, when I was seventeen.

  • Rainfish

    Oops! I accidentally @ed myself. My last post was meant for iDavid and for those others who might also be interested in TD and/or KC.

  • iDavid


    I know you saw him in the showers, i was wondering what he was wearing at the pool. Kansas City, never been but may enjoy it. After all. Dorothy made it famous, good reason to at least stop by.

  • iDavid


    I meant @ibsf on that post above. Auto correct is really sensitive on this phone. sorry there.

  • Rainfish

    @iDavid: Who asked: “…i was wondering what he was wearing at the pool?”


    My face in place of his athletic cup. No, actually, if I remember correctly, I believe they were red speedos. You said earlier: “Please don’t tell me they were speedos”.

    Hmmmm…my take on it is this: If you’re fit, speedos look hot. I prefer them over those grandpa’s knickers young guys wear nowadays at the beach or at public pools. Board Shorts were invented for straight guys with flat asses and no package so they wouldn’t have to compete like women believe they have to in the butt and other erogenous areas, that and also so they wouldn’t have to “accidentally” look at another straight guy’s butt or box and pop a woody “involuntarily”.

  • shle896

    @Rainfish: I always thought Tony Dow was hot, even when I was a kid watching the old black and white reruns. He only got hotter with each passing year! Jerry Mathers, on the other hand, not so much.

  • iDavid


    Red speedos. Ok biting knuckles here. What a treat.

    I’d opt to “be” the speedos for the more wrap around effect. :)~ He would def wonder WTF is go’in on. (?)

    What a great memory. Can’t match it, at least not celebrity style.

    I like board shorts if the guy “wears” the shorts and not the other way around. A flat ass and no package, talk about be’n in the wrong line. Eeeks.

    Some gifted guys can wear just about anything and there’s no deny’n, they might leave ya cry’n. But then that’s a gay country blues song wait’n to be written.

  • Rainfish

    @shle896: Yep, Tony didn’t fade away into a drug or crime-riddled life — like some kid stars of the recent past have. Tony is actually a very gifted sculptor — I’d pose for him but he does abstract sculpture so he’d have to catch me early in the morning with bed-head and a pillow creased face. …lol

    Tony kept busy over the years. He studied journalism and film-making in the 1970s.

    According to your friendly neighborhood Wikipedia:

    “In 1989, he made his directorial debut with an episode of The New Lassie, followed by episodes of Get a Life, Harry and the Hendersons, Swamp Thing, Coach, Babylon 5, Crusade, and Star Trek: Deep Space Nine.

    Dow also served as the visual effects supervisor for Babylon 5. In 1996, he provided visual effects for the Fox TVM Doctor Who.”



    @iDavid: Yeah, I agree with you, some dudes just look hot in anything — preferable “without anything” (such as just wearing a smile to work) but we’d have to change the laws for that to catch on as everyday attire. Plus, it could get a tad painful if your’e a beekeeper or a firefighter.

    …Just saying. :)

  • iDavid


    Haha true.

  • fsbc

    @Terry: Hahahaha Sandy Ricks YES!

  • Derek

    Christopher Atkins.Playgirl.Rubbed myself raw to that cute little ass!

  • Anonymous

    Tim Capuano *sigh* the most christiany, god-fearing boy in school of course.

  • Roger Muno

    Anthony Perkins! Not cuz of his creepy “Psycho” role, but because of what I’ve learned about him as a gay man and celebrity in a time when Hollywood, and the world, were very conservative concerning the portrayal of alternative orientations in the media. Extremely handsome and a gentleman:)

Comments are closed.