Someone just messaged me to say I am a role model to them, and that excites me and scares me at the same time. I did porn to rebel and not be normal, but even in rebelling, you gotta keep boundaries.
Safe sex is a must. For those of you who don’t know, I did a bareback movie in 2008. I’m not gonna even mention the studio or the title, because I DO NOT want anyone to purchase it, and I don’t want to promote it. At the time I choose to do it, I had just lost my mother and my dog to cancer, within a year of each other. I used hard drugs to dull the pain. I became an addict, and did self destructive things because I no longer cared. Not that this is an excuse, but drugs really screw up your sense of right and wrong. I was offered more than double what I used to make doing scenes in porn to do bareback. Many thousands of dollars for a two hour scene. It was a top scene, but one can still contract HIV through topping. It’s less of a risk, but still a big risk.
I was and by some miracle, I am still HIV-Negative. I have had the blood test for it many times since doing the scene, as recently as last month, and I am still HIV-Negative and free of all STDs. But when I choose to do the scene back in 2008, I knew I could only convince my close friends that it was ok if they thought I was HIV+. So I lied and told people I was so I could do it. Shameful and sad.
I haven’t done a movie since that one in 2008 by choice. It freaked me out that I did it, and I fell deeper into my drug haze, hating myself for doing something I never, ever thought I would. I had a contract with the bareback company for 12 scenes but I pulled out after the first movie. It would have been enough money that I wouldn’t have had to work for a year, or two if I was frugal. But my damn morals came up and I couldn’t do another one. I scared myself. The message I just got via Facebook about being a role model solidifies why I couldn’t do it again. Had I contracted HIV that would have hurt myself, my family and my friends. But promoting bareback, which throughout my porn career I was outspoken against, could have possibly caused one gay man to replicate my behavior on screen, and they themselves contract HIV.
I do fear that my one bareback movie may have done this. Shown to some impressionable gay man, that it’s ok. It’s not, but actions speak louder than words, so did someone watch the scene and try it? I get a deep sense of shame and sadness when I think what my careless actions could have, and maybe have done. I cannot change the past, none of us can. But I can also choose to not repeat it, and to learn from my mistakes. I have survivors guilt too, that I should have, but didn’t contract HIV like so many of my friends did.
HIV shouldn’t exist, but it does and we must do all we can to prevent the spread of the disease. You are not a bad person if you have it, no, no, no you are not. But you are also not becoming part of a club if you do get it. Seroconversion isn’t something you want to willingly do.
I still hear of the “gift giving” parties where guys willingly try to seroconvert, so they don’t have to use condoms anymore. This makes my heart ache. Because while HIV meds have come a long way, they still have side effects and are very, very expensive. On average they cost $4,000/month. And while their are programs like ADAP to help with the costs, the current budget crisis is causing those programs to be cut.
You wouldn’t choose to give yourself cancer, or even a cold, so why choose to get HIV?
A prominent HIV/AIDS Activist who has been a mentor of mine for years has the same fear I do. That we will again need to see a wave of deaths when the virus mutates into a drug-resistant form that spreads and kills fast. Then will will play safe, and not purchase or watch bareback? I’m not gonna lie, it feels better without a condom. But sex also is better when you are in love. You gotta save something for that right man that you will eventually meet. If you can say that you have never had bareback sex with anyone, and then once tested and in a committed monogamous relationship you can share that experience with your man. What a great thing to save for the man you marry.
I don’t want to be all Bristol Palin, “do as I say, not as I do”, but I needed to say something and disavow my terrible choice I made. Please everyone, support safe sex movies. You could be saving a life. Those are real people performing, and they deserve respect and the demand and financial incentive for them to stay safe.
Mason Wyler whom I worked with in a safe movie for Suite 703, has now gone bareback, saying that he wanted to keep doing porn but the offers weren’t coming in for safe stuff. I find his excuse very disturbing personally. As porn stars were are teachers. Younger kids look to your movies as educational, and emulate what we do. We have a responsibility to teach behavior that is very fun, very hot, very sexy, and VERY SAFE. It can’t be all about the money. Making porn is such a small part of our lives, but the scenes will be around for years and years, even when I’m old and gray, people will get off to them. I love this. I love porn myself, it’s a great thing.
On a Falcon Studios shoot for Big Timber years ago in Russian River, a very old man who was at the location said to us, “You guys don’t know the kind of joy you bring to an 80 year old man, thank you”. He wasn’t being creepy, he was being honest that the way he got off in his 80’s was living vicariously through us. What porn stars do isn’t dirty or bad, it’s a beautiful thing to perform so others can safely get off while watching us. But when the porn stars put themselves in danger to do this, is destroys the whole cycle.
I stopped the cycle for myself. I first and foremost got sober, and realized I need to love myself and deal with life’s up’s and down’s the same way I had before, with exercise, and being social. Good friends are better than any drug. The drugs will separate you from everyone you love and everything you care about. Drug addiction is a disease of the mind. The drugs will tell you that you need them. It’s like having a plastic bag over your head and wanting air, that’s what the drugs feel like. I credit Dr. H in Beverly Hills for getting me on the Prometa treatment plan, my family, and my friends for getting me off the drugs and back to a healthy and fun life. I’ve been sober for over a year now, and everyday keeps getting better.
Play safe guys, love yourselves, and each other.
[photo: Suite703.com, Raging Stallion]
EdWoody
Now this is someone I can agree with and stand behind fully. He says exactly what I think. Porn stars ARE teachers, for those kids who have no other way to learn. Well done Jack Ryan.
People like Mason Wyler and all those others I’ve become obligated to hate after their stupid on-screen decisions… they are contributing to the spread of HIV. They are killers-by-proxy.
Jonathan
G-d bless you.
Hyhybt
The whole idea of it being OK so long as you’re positive is sickeningly backwards. If you’re negative, you’re putting only yourself at risk; not smart, but it’s your choice. Whereas if you’re positive, you’re risking who knows how many other people.
Brandon H
We all pontificate on the morality of safe sex, but while we do check out AEBN.com’s main page. Bareback, Bareback, Bareback.
Something has changed as far as the porn producers and consumers are concerned regarding barebacking, and its scary.
Daez
@Brandon H: Maybe they just realized that it sells better because bareback sex is hotter and feels better. If you are only with on partner and you both know your status, bareback sex is no more unsafe then using a condom and hooking up randomly. Condoms are still only 90% effective, so the only true safe sex is abstinence. After that, I would take being with only one partner and knowing each others status and not using a condom to be safer than using a condom with a different guy each night of the week.
What is really immoral is this, “Oh I used a condom, there is no way I can have HIV because I always practice ‘safe sex’ and always use protection,” bull shit that some people espouse.
Adam
Thank you sir!
rich
It has to be said. Magic condoms are a poor substitute for sex education. For the past couple of decades most porn videos feature condoms that magically appear without explanation right before the penetration shot. And they usually disappear right before the cum shot. The reason we have so many idiots on AIDS awareness is because nobody’s telling them why the condoms need to be there.
Joetx
I don’t ever watch bareback videos. It sickens me that these guys not only put themselves in such danger, but also that they practice the risky behaviors which brought so much devastation upon our community. Unlike the ’80s, we know what causes HIV/AIDS. There’s no excuse for such ignorance.
vinnie
Good messege…but I gotta say…a porn actor is someone’s role model? I’m not knocking porn, believe me, it serves a purpose. But are gays so in need of role models that we’re going to hold porn actors up to high regard. And notice, I didn’t say porn star. There are no porn stars anymore. Anyone with a video camera and a web connection can make porn..and they do. If you wanna make porn, feel free, someone has to do it, but I honestly have more respect for a guy that goes out an flips burgers for a living than one that doesn’t mind the world seeing him get objects shoved up his butt. That said, I thank porn guy for his safe sex message.
Bill
Another. Gay. Cliché.
Tony
I used to work in a bar that was frequented by gay porn actors (thanks vinnie). Don’t be fooled by how good they may look, talk or smell…these are some f’d up individuals. And I get tired of gay porners bragging about how much money they supposedly make. If you know anything about porn (especially gay porn), you know that the internet is destoying the profitability of the industry. Performers are not being paid much anymore. It’s so easy to make porn and get it online now, I’m sure some guys are almost doing it for free. I’ve yet to meet a rich or even well off gay porn performer. They’re usually one step away from homelessness.
Dali
Well, since he won’t say it, the studio is SX Video and the title is “Raw”.
Why this guy thinks no one can find this information by simply googling him really shows how dumb he is!
Ed
I give Mr. Ryan credit for coming clean. (no pun intended)He didn’t have to say anything. He got sober and turned over a new leaf. I have not seen a Jack Ryan movie that I didn’t like. and now I have a new found respect for him. Thanks Jack.
Emerson
@vinnie:
It might not be a role model in a typical sense, but there is an element of that kind of relationship between porn star and viewer. Porn stars create an idealized version of sex – a fantasy. When the porno (remember: idealized version of sex) is bareback, it says “ideally, sex is bareback”. The more people fantasize about bareback sex, the more likely they are to do it. Any person who has potential to influence another’s opinions on bareback sex is a role model, in a sense, and has an obligation to promote SAFE sex.
I’m completely in line with you Jack! Good article!
– Emerson
Samuel
Role model might be a poor choice of words – no one in porn is a “role model,” but to say they aren’t a model of something would be lying. We all learn a little about porn – if nothing else, what we want to do or get into. So he’s got a point. Showing people something that yeah, looks fun and hot, but ultimately could give you a disease, is irresponsible.
I think keeping the stigma on bareback sex and avoiding it’s glorification is a good thing.
jason
These porn performers are paid professional prostitutes. They are not role models in any sense of the word. They do what they do in order to make money and, in many cases, feed a drug habit. I don’t want people like this representing the gay concept.
As for bareback, why should it be sullied by the promiscuous set? It’s perfectly healthy depending on the person. If you stick with one healthy partner, you don’t risk catching anything from performing bareback sex.
The people who have demonized bareback sex are scapegoating the bareback sex act because they can’t face the truth about themselves – ie that they are promiscuous whores who risk catching and spreading an untold number of venereal diseases.
Frankly, I’m sick of the promiscuous gay man setting the agenda in this country. If you want to be a whore, go right ahead. Just stop passing judgement on the rest of us who are chaste and/or monogamous with other healthy people.
Adonis-of-Fire
He is fucking ugly, he should not be doing any kind of porn, he shouldn’t be on camera AT ALL.
justiceontherocks
1) Congratulations to the writer for seemingly getting his life turned around. Keep with it and make it stick.
2) Porn actor as a role model?? That’s sad.
merkin
I commend Ryan for coming to his senses and quitting bareback porn. I don’t think its porn actors job to educate anyone, just like its not a cook’s job to educate diners about healthy eating. It’s our job to educate ourselves.
My concern in bareback porn is the spread of the disease among the performers and the people they sleep with. I dont want ANYONE getting HIV/AIDS. Maybe Im weird, but when i see bareback porn my mind immediately starts thinking about AIDS, which as you can guess is a buzzkill when yr trying to jack off. I guess I grew up square in the crosshairs of AIDS panic.
lastly, if porn is about fantasy–and we can fantasize that we’re the person getting fucked (or blown, or rimmed, etc)–why is it so hard to fantasize that there’s no condom in the scene? I mean, seriously–its bad enough people bareback with strangers in real life. They have to see actual barebacking in movies!? Do we insist action-movie stars ACTUALLY get shot and bleed REAL blood? Use some imagination people.
greenmanTN
Reply 14 has the best take on it.
Porn “stars” aren’t role models in the traditional sense but they do ‘model’ sexual behavior and influence what others think is ‘hot.’ Porn creates fantasies for its viewers and safe or unsafe sex is part of that.
Many of the ‘actors’ have substance abuse and self-esteem issues and it’s good this guy (who I’ve never heard of before) got some control before he became HIV positive.
Fitz
I really do admire what he’s done for himself. That said, I don’t watch wrapped up porn. Porn is fantasy. Watching safe sex is about as exciting as watching someone do their taxes.
It’s not my job to look out for the health of the porn actors. It’s each of your own responsibility to take care of yourself. If you feel ok doing BB porn, then rock-on. If you don’t, then don’t.
And BTW, with rapid oral’s, there is no reason you couldn’t have people test on the set, have a cup of coffee for 20 minutes, and THEN get on with it.
My own solution (as an older, and neg. person) has been to stay monogamous. If I were still single, I have no idea how I would cope.
True Words
Hey guys, if you want to watch bareback porn get some from the 70s and just remember that these guys are mostly all dead from complications to the disease.
So many people pushing this bareback agenda because it is “HOT” is ridiculous and backwards.
Condoms should be required in ALL porn because no matter how much “testing” is done; the porn industry is NOT monitoring these men and women day and night.
What may come up negative one month; can come up positive the next month…has the gay community forgotten that it is can take up to 3-6 months before the body starts producing anti-bodies that will show up on a test.
The gay community and especially the gay porn companies are really backwards: obsessing with “straight” guys and wanting to see “unsafe” sex.
Such a sad statement: is this prevalent voice out there?
I know some people say it is a choice but too many gay men DO LEARN their sexual behaviors from porn (yes just like straight men) but the difference is the GREATER risk of HIV and other diseases for gay men!
The number #1 reasons someone is HIV+ is a deadly combination of trust and ignorance.
jeff4justice
Bravo to Ryan for coming out against BB porn. Maybe one day the fan who thinks he’s a role model will feel the same about an activist.
Sites like Xtube and Adam4Adam profit more from endangering gays than closeted gays being used by anti-gay folk.
How absurd is it to glorify BB sex while claiming to be outraged by HIV. If you watch it, you contribute to it. If you make a homemade vid with your BF and you post your BB sex for others to see, you give young dumb gays (whose relationship lifespans are much shorter) the idea that it’s ok to have BB sex with your BF. Sure it is… but after 2 HIV tests and even then you best hope he’s not cheating. Also, some HIV testers won’t even let couples test together (even if they agree to) so you’ll have to take your partner for their word.
Young gays don’t get inclusive sex ed that educates them about their sexuality then the see all the popular BB vids on the hook up sites.
Next, indeed topping BB is dangerous too and it validates the bottom’s choice to BB which makes it more likely they’ll keep doing it until they finally become poz.
Ryan was right to point out that the economic depression endangers HIV+ all the more.
I’ll stick with oral or anal with condom sex vids thanks. We have enough to deal with from anti-gays. We shouldn’t empower and glorify those engendering us.
-Jeff jeff4justice.com
Alex
Wow, he was in an SX film and didn’t seroconvert? That’s a stroke of incredible luck. Reminds me of how a couple of months ago I saw on the TIM website that Brad McGuire isn’t pos. Except in Brad’s case, I suspect that was a bald-faced lie.
Eric
I’m real sick of all this anti bareback bullshit. Being a person who practiced safe sex and was a safe sex advocate for a long time I find it hilarious that people treat each and every gay man with HIV like he’s a leper. You know how I got HIV? The guy I was with cut the condom and purposely infected me 6 months later I tested positive. I have never felt more lonely and alone having HIV. I never understood Bareback before but I do now guys are willing to take extra risks that they might not ever have taken before just to feel a personal and intimate connection with someone else. If you stop treating gay men like they are garbage because they have HIV maybe the younger generation will stop thinking it’s cool to have it. I don’t know how many Disease free statements I’ve seen in profile even before I was positive. A disease isn’t a person it’s not a reflection of them it’s something that happened to them. What this trend is doing is making A section of gay men villains to another section it’s wrong. So Jack Ryan went into a depression and barebacked on film. SO. I’ve gone into depression and wanted to kill myself. Pornstars are not role models in any shape form or fashion. They are in the business of pleasure. Invoking Pleasure that’s all nothing more nothing less. They get paid to have sex. If teaching sex is the new thing then how about some lessons on how to douche before sex or being able to teach muscle control to take a large penis. Because none of those things are sexy topics. Just like the Magic condom. If you can’t make it sexy and not cheesy then don’t try and film it. And if you are an HIV performer You shouldn’t be shunned like your trash. As a man with HIV I’m quite pleased to know that there are performers out there like me and that they too are having sex be it safe or bb.
If they Porn industry wants to make a difference have them support a cure and funding for a cure through our government. All these fundraisers for all these years and the only cure for HIV requires you to nearly die if you just so happen to survive the process. How about you give them some healthy insurance and some stock options. For years porn has been about money. Hell even regular films have a bargain rack after a couple of years, so why are these companies still getting me for for 60 to 75 bucks a pop for material that would be in the bargain bin everywhere else. Because they can and only because we allow it. Also your right young kids do emulate what you do right down to the racism in online profiles. YOU ARE NOT ROLE MODELS. A role model is the person who finds the cure for AIDS and HIV. Glad your sober but I never needed drugs to discovery how to love myself. But I can promise you that people who want to ram their beliefs on something they know nothing or very little about almost made me want to kill myself. So for all you Safe Sex advocates enjoy it. Cause it’s wonderful. But BB ain’t all bad either so I’m told. Enjoy what you do and who you do it with.
JT
@Tony: How are people who do porn fcuked up?
I know that there’s not any money in porn even if when I was younger I did think about doing all types of it. I’m glad I did not do any porn.
The documentary titled “Sex/Life in L.A. Cycles of porn 2”
see here: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0445949/
Does show lots of gay men doing porn and barebacking off set, abusing alcohol/meth, and there was one porn guy in the documentary who was once a “star” but was now living in his car and homeless.
Sam
Anyone find it hypocritical that this porn guy that did bareback porn and probably barebacked off the porn set in his private life with sexual partners is having a “Do as I say, not as I do” hypocritical moment? Who can take him seriously? Or then he’s shown with bug chaser Mason Wyler who became Poz/HIV+ from doing bareback porn.
I do not bareback or do it raw.
When I watch porn I don’t even really like to watch bareback porn as men who are HIV+ being self destructive and getting other strains of HIV, Hepatitis C, and other STDs is not a turn on.
I do think it is crazy how there are HIV+ men who are in complete denial about how you can get other strains of HIV and get reinfected with HIV. Or how there are lots of men who think that because they are raw/bareback tops that there’s no risk at all from this.
Sam
Then again with Heterosexuals both straight men and women, they think that they don’t have to use condoms, don’t have to get tested, hetero women think it’s 1,000% safe to swallow anyone, and many heterosexual men and women like to think that they’re somehow not at risk for HIV because they are not gay or bisexual men or IV drug users.
Sam
I don’t like Treasure Island Media and how they have guys like Dawson brag about taking 50 loads in a weekend at Fire Island. No I didn’t watch the porn but everyone knows about it from the title.
I’ve been watching porn for a long time. I do not think that porn “stars” are role models. I saw an interview with Cole Tucker where he said how doing porn is not a fulltime job and it’s not a “normal” way to make money.
I’ve seen guys who started out young in their 20s do porn that was with condoms and then they “retire” from porn and then come back doing raw/bareback porn Eric Evans did this and there are other guys in porn who only do raw/bareback videos now.
Most people by now know that most porn “stars” are into prostitution/escorting on the side because they have to sell an image and you don’t make lots of money at all doing porn videos.
It is someone’s personal responsibility to have safer sex. Many porn “stars” do keep it wrapped on camera for some studios that require it, but then they’ll do it bareback/raw while escorting or when they have sex off camera. Rusty McMann who is in bear porns is like this but he’s been in bareback porn.
There are some men who do porn who are very safe and do not bareback at all in their private life or do any sort of bareback porn at all.
sidewalk
My boyfriend lost his mother and didn’t do drugs or bareback.
Be strong boys, not limp and weak!
GetBalance
I don’t think porn stars are role models. I see them as porn models. I might find them inspiring to get more ripped at the gym, but that is not a traditional role model.
But I do see this guy has role model qualities. He surmounted his demons and won, now that is a good true role model to take after.
Bravo for you Jack on your victories. I will take your overcoming pain and addiction as a true veteran of overcoming one of mans biggest human “conditions”. There is always something more in life to strive for. Your story can be used to make those leaps we so often push to the side thinking they are too difficult.
Daniel M
You don’t see people running around trying to be superheros because they see a fantasy movie. It is just fantasy and people should realize that there is a difference. Unless there is a lesson at the beginning or end of each scene it is not a lesson. The idea of the freedom and taboo is appealing to a lot of people, but as fantasy not as reality. Also if safety is an actual goal they should make putting on a condom a part of the scene so that if for some strange reason people look to porn for direction they can give these morons some ideas on how to make that part of sex (putting on a condom) fun or at least normal too.
Porn actors as role models, now that is the problem.
Doug Noble
Wow you have certainly come a long way “Jack”! When I met you years ago (we were both high) and even then we talked about wanting to clean up (I have been meth free for over a year now myself!) I contracted HIV while using and wish I could take that back. I can’t believe some of the choices I made during that time (scary) I certainly agree that you are a role model, not as a porn “star” but as a man…a man that has helped put into perspective just how dangerous meth use is. I love your “bag over your head and wanting air” example…that’s exactly what it feels like. As another friend of mine said, “There is nothing good that comes out of using that drug.”
I’m SO proud of you for succeeding in your recovery and for writing this article, it is therapeutic for you if it helps ONE person decide not to use or have unsafe sex it’s worth it!
HUGS~
-Doug Noble
San Diego, CA
Bill
Role model? Oh Pulleaze! I hired Jack Ryan to do a shoot, he showed up 3 hours late, and when I explained the shoot was over he still demanded to be paid. He’s the biggest fucking primadonna the gay porn world has ever known. Boo hoo Jack, nobody wants your tired old ass anyway.
I make both safe sex and condom porn, and bareback outsells condom 10 to 1. Just like Jack, one model told me I shouldn’t make bareback movies, and then asked me for free samples!
Oh and Mason Wyler, he’s been HIV+ for a lot longer than he’s admitting to, like 3 years longer. I have an email from him saying so, when he agreed to work for me, and then never showed up because he went off on some drug binge.
The dirty little secret in gay porn is that 80% of the models are HIV+. The other dirty little secret is that many condom shoots are really bareback, since Directors cut the bottom ring off off the rubber and just slide that on. Look closely at some of those scenes and you’ll see it.
Gay porn actors as role models? If that’s who your role models are you need to see a psychiatrist.
justiceontherocks
@Bill: Interesting post. I’m curious. Why would the director make a video that appeared to be using a condom when actually the condom has been “emasculated”? If bareback outsells “safe” 10:1 – and I absolutely believe that – why would the director want the audience to think a condom was involved? Legal and/or insurance reasons is all I can think of.
Soupy
I have seen the quick cut to condom penetration. And I don’t know why they don’t include scenes of putting the condom on. It can be very erotic and wouldn’t turn me off in the least.
Jigae
@34: Exactly… that seems completely unbelievable. Wouldn’t it make more sense the other way — pretending condoms weren’t there for fake bareback?
@33: What studio/site are you affiliated with?
Cyberpanda
I have always liked Jack Ryan and now like him even more. He is scorching, sexy and smart: a great combination.
Dave
Porn isn’t there to model reality; it is a fantasy. I never fantasize about putting a condom on; it’s all about being caught up in the energy and who you’re with. I’ve never had any STD because I only bareback when I’ve been with someone for a while and completely trust them. If you’re absolutely sure that your partner is clean, there is nothing wrong with barebacking.
jason
In certain circumstances, bareback sex is perfectly healthy. In other circumstances, it isn’t. It all depends on whom you’re doing it with.
If you’re out on the scene picking up unhealthy people then, yes, you are putting yourself at some form of risk if you have any form of sexual contact with them.
However, if you are having sexual activity (including bareback sex) with a healthy person, you are not putting yourself at risk. If there is no pathogen in either of you, you won’t catch anything.
No pathogen, no risk.
MMDD
@vinnie: I applaud you for your post. Very well stated!
Sam
Jack Ryan probably is HIV+ despite claiming that he’s not.
Why did he pretend to be HIV+ just to do a bareback scene in a porn?
He’s not really my type but I’m fine if other people like him.
Bill-what other porn guys are HIV+? Or how are they messed up?
Devon Hunter
There’s a staggering amount of inaccurate/anecdotal “evidence” in the conversation here. Jack Ryan is an example of someone who is (like everyone OUGHT to be) trying to evolve and become wiser and happier. Did he make mistakes? Yes. And now he’s owning them. That’s the part that is brave and commendable. I would invite those of you who are being so viciously critical to re-examine your own skeletons before you pick over Jack’s bones.
TJ
He’s the Norma Rae of gay porn.
Judd
I am a high school teacher. You, the author, are not an educator. You are an actor who has so few talents you are reduced to taking off your clothes and having sex for pay. If you want to be a role model, stop doing porn and promoting the idea that all gay men are whores.
justiceontherocks
@Judd: A little shrill for so early in the morning, guy. How do you know what talents “Ryan” has? What makes you think porn promotes the idea that all gay men are whores? No other group gets painted with that group on account of porn – why us? So many illogical and unfounded conclusions from an educator.
GetBalance
Judd,
As an educator i find you controlling demeaning and irrational. I.e.”promotes the idea that all gay men are whores”. I’d probably sit on thy hands until you get a grip their teacher boy, You way off base with the angry Dr Laura style comment. Pay cuts maybe?
True Words
There are three things I don’t want to see in gay porn ANYMORE:
1. bareback especially making a fetish out of cum and the careless exchange of body fluids
2. excessive tattoos: this does not make one more masculine, it is a just a sad use of money…please fund an Roth IRA instead of painting your body
3. gay for pay: nuff said!
MMDD
@True Words: If you really don’t want to see gay for pay anymore, then you need to stop watching gay porn altogether. ALL the performers in this business are gay for pay. That’s what they’re being paid to do, you know: perform gay sex acts for a paycheck. In fact, it really shouldn’t even be called gay porn in the first place….probably all-male porn is a much more accurate way to describe it.
GetBalance
@True Words
To those things you don’t want to see “ANYMORE”.
Yeh and I don’t wanna see POPE RATS-ASS, JOHN HAGEE OR SARAH PALIN’S face EVER AGAIN. Like that’s gonna happen.
Best defense True?
Change the channel.
justin kelly
@Bill: hey bill i would like to work for you
Sam
@TrueWords-If a guy is doing all male/gay porn or even bisexual porn he’s not Heterosexual/straight at all.
All the guys you see on sites like Sean Cody and other sites that are marketed as “Straight” are all bisexual or gay and if they were really hetero/straight they wouldn’t be doing any sort of porn where they have sex with men.
Some of the solo jack off guys that just blow their load on camera and don’t have any sex at all with men at all ever, those men can be hetero.
MMDD
@Sam: Oh, please…these guys are paid to perform sex acts with men. Their orientation outside that arena has nothing to do with what they are paid to do on camera, and the reality is that the vast majority of them are straight. I guess by your standard, any man who’s had sex with women must be either hetero or bi, eh?
Oprah
OMG….could all this ‘positive’ comments have something to do with Jack Ryan being a ‘top’? Could all these queen above me be any more pathetic and sad? LOL (as opposed to numerous comments left for another porn star, Mason Wyler, is a bottom. lol)
I find it hard to believe Jack Ryan is HIV “Negative” given that he couldnt even accept his supposed fellow porn star Mason Wyler is HIV posisive.In the article above, Jack couldnt even whisper the three letter words out loud. He claims that Mason performs bareback because ” that he wanted to keep doing porn but the offers weren’t coming in for safe stuff.”
Yes, that is correct, but did Ryan dig deeper and ask why the offer were not coming for Mr. Wyler?Perhaps even read Mason Wylers article where he states his HIV status is causing him to be sort of Black listed in the porn industry? Could Jack be dreading the same consequences that Wyler faced?
To be fair, Jack is doing a great public service by preaching ‘sex teacher’ role model, and the promotion of ‘safe sex’ but is he being completely honest with us?Should we expect him to be completely forth coming in his HIV status or should we not care? That is the question, isnt it? LOL
JT
Jack Ryan is another hypocrite who barebacks and then says how it’s wrong despite doing bareback porn and I’m sure he fucks raw off camera as well.
Devon Hunter also does this since my friend fucked him and he took my friend’s load in his ass even if he claims he’s always safe.
I’m not sure why in gay porn they like to pretend that the men in it are somehow really “straight”. If you’re having sex with men and do porn where you do this you’re not hetero/straight.
I got over the idea/fantasy of seeing straight men as sex objects or wanting sex with them decades ago as a teenager. If they’re really hetero/straight and not bisexual or gay and closeted yet calling themselves “straight” it’s never gonna happen.
Jack Ryan isn’t a sex educator, he’s a hypocrite. If I want to talk to a sex educator I’ll talk to actual medical professionals who know what they’re talking about unlike washed up ex tweaker porn stars who are craving attention. Nobody takes porn “stars” seriously since there’s no point in doing this.
Accidental Bear
Honesty wins above all and it seems like he has worked through some demons. I applaud you for that. Gays a viscous and insecure is a lethal combo. I say look out for #1.
XOXO
Str8Edge
Who pretends to be HIV+? Says he did it to convince his close friends that it was okay to do bareback porn? I smell bullshit. I simply am not an idiot to believe such nonsense. Dude is a habitual liar.
JC
Jack Ryan = moron! There, I said it!
He’s a self-righteous idiot.
He should have been more concerned with contracting HIV from being a scuzzy junkie than from ONE (that he’s admitted to) bareback sex scene.
What a jackass!
Labi Ajeti
another reason to move to chi-town
Devon Hunter
@Judd: I am a former educator. I was a high school teacher and a college professor. Come down off your high horse. Being an educator doesn’t automatically make you a role model, and Jack’s being a porn model doesn’t automatically disqualify him. Having worked on both sides of this point, both as a porn model and an educator, I am officially telling you that you would do better to model the behavior you prefer, rather than troll around on gay porn blogs publicly humiliating people (or have you forgotten everything you were taught as an educator?).
Devon Hunter
@JT: That is a very easy accusation to make from behind your curtain of anonymity. “Your friend” can say whatever he likes, can’t he? And I’m automatically suspect, because of my career? Well, isn’t that convenient for you? I guess that proves your point, huh? Whatever.
At any rate, if you would like to look it up on my blog, I have never claimed to be perfect in terms of safe sex practices – I made a very public conversation out of my quest for finding a brand of condom I like. So no, I haven’t had safe sex 100% of the time throughout my life, and anyone who says he has is probably lying.
As for “your friend” putting his load in my ass: This is some kind of bullshit lie. I’ve not had anyone cum in my ass bareback since I left my last boyfriend in October of 2006.
Don’t go out of your way to be such a fucking douche, you fucking douche.
Dennis
Anyone who takes anything a porn “star” says or claims seriously just shows how little intelligence they have. This includes safer sex as most men who do gay porn or all male porn are already HIV+ or will become HIV+ through barebacking or if they get into IV drugs or the trashy lifestyle like Jack Ryan did where he used lots of meth and barebacked a lot and probably wound up HIV+ either from bareback sex or using meth if he slammed it and shared rigs despite his claims of being neg.
People who do porn are not role models, they’re not true educators, and I’m not inclined to believe that Jack Ryan or Devon Hunter are really HIV neg and claim that they don’t bareback at all or have safer sex off camera while escorting or just having sex with other people.
Just look at how Mason Wyler claimed he was HIV neg even though he did bareback videos and then he wound up poz and claiming that being HIV+ is not a big deal since you can just go on medications.
Yeah whatever Mason it’s clear you don’t know anyone who is living with HIV/AIDS and that you’re in denial about how the meds are very expensive and have not so fun side effects.
I agree that if you think that someone who does porn is a “role model” that you need to see a psychiatrist.
Yes these people are hypocrites and morons when it comes to safer sex and educating people about safer sex.
I came out long after HIV/AIDS hit and I’ve been having sex with men for decades and I’ve never barebacked. It’s called using condoms and having safer sex.
Devon Hunter
Dennis, at this moment you are modeling behavior that contributes to the willfully acidic hysteria of this “conversation,” the overarching message of which is, “There is no redemption.”
Based on what many of you are saying, the implication is that there is never any chance of anyone, ever, at any time or place becoming better. And you know what? That world view is nihilistic and sad, especially when expressed by people in this thread who purport themselves to be teachers. If you believe that people cannot learn, change, and grow… well… then I don’t know how you call yourself an educator, regardless of how little you get paid to be a punching bag in a class room. It sounds like you need to follow my lead (as a role model) and leave education before your jaded self-importance continues dragging the system down to its grave.
Jack Ryan doesn’t need to defend himself against you faceless, hateful rumor mongers. I know I don’t need to acknowledge your baseless comments concerning my sex practices and HIV status (which may border on libel, Queerty, so I caution you to take care with how much further you allow these types of comments to be published without moderation on your site). But I am going to respond, because I am a real person, and I want you to know that I have thoughts and feelings, despite your attempts at reducing me to pixels on a monitor:
I keep my HIV status posted and updated on my blog, and I have done this for almost two years. I advocate safer sex videos and activities. I have never claimed or even implied I am perfect in this regard (and I don’t understand, Dennis, how you as a man who has had sex with men for decades can make your “100% safe” assertion with such sanctimonious grace, but you do it with such skill that I can only imagine that you’ve been practicing your lines in a mirror for years). I am a person, and, although I am not perfect, I am not going to sit by and be a piñata for a bunch of poisonous trolls.
Go choke on your bile somewhere else. This is a space for redemption, not damnation. If your own self-hatred consumes you this much, then perhaps you need to do what Jack has done (as a role model) and apply some meditation to your life and realize how your bitterness can be exchanged for happiness.
JusticeontheRocks
@Devon Hunter: A hooker calling himself a role model. That’s hilarious.
Dennis
Devon just because you choose to bareback does not mean that every single other gay man out there has or frequently does even when in a relationship.
I’m close to 50 and I have never barebacked. I don’t care if you do not believe me or not.
I came out and became sexually active after HIV/AIDS was known about and safer sex was ubiquitous.
I have lots of friends who either died of AIDS or are living with HIV and I want to make sure I do not become poz.
You’re a lot younger than I am so you would not remember when HIV/AIDS came out of nowhere and lots of bisexual and gay men started dying and getting very sick even if they were in a monogamous or supposed “monogamous” relationship with a partner.
Now you have other “role models” like Mason Wyler claiming that being HIV+ is no big deal and that after you become Poz life is just dandy and you go on medications which are not a big deal to take and I’m sure he’ll falsely claim that being HIV+ is like diabetes. Just watch I’ll bet he’ll wind up in a Treasure Island video.
Doing sex for pay, barebacking, and making porn is not a step up in the world and it does not make the people who do these things somehow “Better”, role models, or educators, or any way improved unless they were once homeless.
Devon it’s not my problem or fault that you couldn’t handle teaching at all, or your students so you dropped out and decided to do porn and sex for pay instead. Now nobody will take you seriously since they never did in the first place.
True Words
it is obvious that PORN does matter in the gay world because look at the HIGH number of responses here vs say something less sexual…so while I will not say anyone is a role model; I will make the assumption that many gay men are learning their sexual behaviors from porn…
Avenger
@MMDD:
Spare the PC/neutral/”just a job” act. All that is is an attempt to blur the lines between straight and gay. There are no heterosexual men in gay porn; any man who performs sex acts with other men are at the very least bisexual. I don’t care how much money he is being offered, if you’ve had another mans dick inside you, you ain’t straight.
MMDD
@Avenger: “PC/neutral” has nothing to do with it. Tons of people do jobs they don’t like (or even detest) strictly for a paycheck or for quick money. Does a prostitute have to be attracted to the person he or she is performing a sex act on? Of course not. Porn sex is NOT an act based on genuine passion. Heck, I’ve never in my life had sex with a woman nor had any desire to whatsoever, but if I were in completely different circumstances and had a different set of standards, I could probably perform a sex act on one for a monetary amount. There would be no passion behind it, but I could probably do the act nonetheless. Does that make me bisexual? Not on your life.
But hey, if you want to continue subscribing to your delusional, strict black-and-white way of thinking, go right ahead. Call me when your spaceship lands.
Sam
That’s nice MMDD but how many gay men actually wind up doing any sort of Hetero porn just for the money?
No amount of money being offered would make me have sex with a woman. I’d be useless, unable to get/stay hard, and I’d find the entire experience to be nasty since I don’t want to have any sort of sex with a woman at all or see a woman naked in front of me.
You don’t make ANY sort of money at all in porn even if you do gay porn.
I get what Avenger is saying, I’ve seen lots of men billed as “straight” or marketed as “straight” in porn but they all wind up being bisexual or gay even if the studios want to market them as being “hetero” or “straight”. Who do the porn guys and producers think they’re fooling?
Even in amateur porn like Corbin Fischer or Sean Cody guys will start out being marketed as “straight” and then do a solo j/o scene, then get sucked off by a man, then suck a man the next filmed scene, and then fuck a man, and get fucked. It’s all rather scripted boring and these men are not “straight” at all since they’re having sex with men and if they were really straight/hetero they wouldn’t have sex with men or do gay porn.
MMDD
@Sam: “but how many gay men actually wind up doing any sort of Hetero porn just for the money?”
Jack Wrangler, Blake Harper, Blake Riley, Arpad Miklos, Steven Daigle…and those are just the ones I can rattle off the top of my head. These guys identified or were marketed as gay but have done straight porn.
“No amount of money being offered would make me have sex with a woman. I’d be useless, unable to get/stay hard, and I’d find the entire experience to be nasty since I don’t want to have any sort of sex with a woman at all or see a woman naked in front of me.”
So I guess because YOU couldn’t do it, that’s supposed to apply to every other man on the planet, right? Geez.
“I’ve seen lots of men billed as ‘straight’ or marketed as ‘straight’ in porn but they all wind up being bisexual or gay even if the studios want to market them as being ‘hetero’ or ‘straight’. Who do the porn guys and producers think they’re fooling?”
They aren’t fooling anybody. They’re selling a product and marketing it to the huge number of men who get off on the “I’m really straight but you’re convincing me to have gay sex” fantasy. That doesn’t mean those guys are really gay or bi in real life.
“These men are not ‘straight’ at all since they’re having sex with men and if they were really straight/hetero they wouldn’t have sex with men or do gay porn.”
Good grief. Are you people really that incapable of separating a performance on screen–something actors do all the time for a living– with what an actor actually does in his personal life? I guess you think Jake and Heath really were in love, eh?
Sam
Jack Wrangler was not gay he’s at least bisexual since he was sexually attracted to women.
No my inability to have any sort of sexual attraction with a woman does not apply to every single other man on the planet, just gay men since if you’re gay and not bisexual you’re not going to have any sort of sexual attraction to women at all.
I know some gay men who did have sex with women they were married to but they said how it was nasty and they had to think about men the entire time in order to get hard and almost sort of disassociate from the sex/reality, and didn’t enjoy it at all.
People who do porn are not actors or the same as actors in regular movies. The guys in porn who claim to be “straight” are all just gay or bisexual and if you’re having sex with men in porn or whoring on the side or in your private life even if you are married to a woman, you are not straight/hetero.
Gay Inc. wants to pretend that men can only be heterosexual or gay and wants to pretend that men can’t be bisexual.
Jeffree
@Sam: how do you know that wrangler wasnt gay did you know him and did you see him have sex with women or did you just hear something about him doing/ not doing that? Yes you are right that there are many bisexual men and that we forget that sometimes and that was a good point you made. Too many gay men deny that there are bisexual men out there too and that sex is not binary but multidimensional. Writing like you is sort of fun so I may stop trying to make sentences or using punctuation have a good day ok.
MMDD
@Sam: So now you’ve changed the subject from sex acts being performed for money to genuine sexual attraction and sex in a person’s private life. Those are two completely different things.
If you watched the movie about Jack Wrangler that came out a few years back, Jack (may he rest in peace) identified as gay, not bisexual. One could argue that he was technically bisexual, but the fact is he had relationship issues with men, so that’s why he ended up in a basically sexless relationship with a much older woman (may she also rest in peace). He performed in straight porn to expand his career and because back then, it paid better than gay porn. That’s right: he was doing it for the money (sound familiar?).
And of course bisexuality exists. Many performers in all-male porn are bisexual to a greater or lesser degree, but the fact is the majority of them are straight. Only an extremely small handful are exclusively gay. This is why I believe calling it “gay porn” is misleading because there’s very little “gay” about it.
But hey, you believe what you want to believe. I’m done going back and forth with you about this.
Orly?!?
oh yeah porn star as an example. /sarcasm
He has sex for money, Prostitute with mommy issues and an admitted drug addict. Yeah this is the kind of guy we want as an example for young gay males.
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JT
The majority of guys in bisexual and gay porn are not hetero/straight. They’re bisexual and gay men. The “gay” porn guy Bo Dixon is bisexual. If you’re having sex with men in porn or whoring on the side with men you’re not hetero/straight you’re bisexual or gay.
I met Jack Wrangler when he was alive and he told me that he was bisexual and I read interviews in magazines where he came out as bisexual.
BlogShag
@Brandon H: What’s changed is the porn producers realize bareback sex sells better. They don’t care about ethics. Please. It’s the porn industry. It is disgusting how much of a resurgence bareback sex has enjoyed in the community, considering the kind of risks that people are putting themselves at. But they don’t care. They don’t have any respect for themselves or others.
Blogshag
Duh, hmm let’s see. He pretended he was HIV poz to get hired for a fuck flick. How do you spell C H E A P? Now for him it’s, “Oh Madge, what did I do?” Stupid cheap ass queen. He’s not even sexy. He looks like an effeminate primadonna to me
Art Smith
What a tool!
He’s typical of the “I do porn and even bareback porn, and probably bareback in my private life too…” hypocrites that then turn around and say “Don’t bareback and always use a condom!” even though by barebacking in their private life with their tricks (by this I mean both their hook ups and actual tricks since these guys do sex for pay too), and with whatever partners they unfortunately con and lure into a “relationship”, and doing BAREBACK PORN they totally negate everything they’ve ever said or endorsed about how you shouldn’t bareback at all.
It’s 2011, you should know by now to use a condom and have safer sex if you don’t want to become HIV+.
Even kids in elementary school taking abstinence based Sex education know this! My nephew happens to be bisexual and has never been around before HIV was discovered as he was born in the early 80s and grew up during the mid/late 80s and was in elementary school in the very early 90s and even he grew up knowing about condom use during sex with whoever your partner is-both men and women, and that if you want to become HIV+ or get other STDs this will happen if you don’t practice safer sex and don’t use condoms.
I’m sick and tired of preaching about HIV/STDs and safer sex with condom use when you have idiots like Jack Ryan saying one thing and doing another and people who lie about their HIV status and clearly just bareback anyway and don’t give a F____K about their health or their sexual partners’ health at all.
There are also older gay men like myself who know better than to bareback and we survived the HIV/AIDS Pandemic when it was thought to be a “cancer” and then you have people my age who are in their 50s barebacking and acting like it’s still the 70s and they were naive to think that even back in the day before HIV was discovered that barebacking was safe.
Eric
First of all no porn star is a role model!! Thats a total joke. Personally I think Mr Ryan couldn’t be any more off on this topic. The spread of HIV is due to the lack of education in this country. We follow the same horrid Bush policy of abstinence is the best policy when in reality that only makes the issue worse. Secondly to say that only bareback porn spreads STDS, any sexual contact can spread a variety of STDS. nobody is exempt whether using a condom or not!!
Furthermore I think maybe Mr Ryan needs to just shut his mouth. Considering he is a former meth addict I don’t think he has much ground to stand on and go around preaching to others. Sexual behavior is a right just like any other. People have the right to choose what they do. Bareback porn does not influence people to have bareback sex and spread HIV. Just using it as another scapegoat to blame for the spread. Porn is a fantasy not reality and people should be smart enough to know that.
Making articles like this only spreads ignorance and hate. It doesn’t make the issue any better but rather makes things worse.
Lance
Reads more like an ad for after Christmas sales on safe sex porn. I don’t doubt money exchanged hands.
Seaguy
All these anti bareback zealots should move to North Korea then they could have it their way. But last I checked this was the USA and a free country. So if you do not like bareback then do not do it, or view/purchase it. But stop telling others what to do!
jason
Jack Ryan,
There is no need to use condoms if both people are healthy. It’s a proven fact. Stop trying to use your own poor choices to justify foisting condoms on those of us who are healthy and who have sex with healthy people only. We are not part of your professional victimhood group.
Of course, if you’re going to do porn and have sex with complete strangers on a porn set, you’d be wise to use condoms. If I were to go out to a park at midnight and have sex with a complete stranger, I’d be wise to use condoms too. But this is NOT the definition of gay sex.
Rob Moore
I would read all these posts, but I have to continue sewing a prominent H+ on all my clothes so all you sanctimonious twats will know to avoid someone like me. I think we should also be required by law to cry out “UNCLEAN” repeatedly so you can pretend we do not exist or can cross the street. If I have learned anything in the nearly 18 years of knowing my status, it is that those who condemn the loudest are often hiding their own dirty little secrets.
I have stated it before, but I will state it, again. I AM NOT YOUR FATHER NOR YOUR PROTECTOR. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY. IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO BAREBACK, DON’T BAREBACK. It’s that simple. Really.
What others do or do not do is neither your business nor is it your concern. If someone chooses to make bareback porn, it is entirely voluntary. If someone chooses to buy or watch bareback porn, it is entirely voluntary. If someone chooses to party like it’s 1979, that is also entirely voluntary. Trust me. Those who are having bareback sex at a party, a sex club, a bathhouse, or simply with a different stranger every night know exactly what they are doing and what might happen. Has anyone walked up to you and stated, “I did not know that I might be infected from fucking without a condom”?
All these people who were supposedly infected by men who did not disclose their status ought to be in jail for sheer stupidity. They knew the possibilities and did it anyway. It is a bit like having sex in the backseat of a car then when one comes up with clap claiming rape. They do not have my sympathy unless it really was rape. The rapist should be prosecuted for rape with special circumstance and severely punished; however, we are not talking about rape. Jack Ryan can hide behind addiction as an excuse all he wants, but just as he chose to remain an addict, he chose to fuck without a condom. He is heroic for getting clean not for renouncing bareback porn. I will guarantee he had bareback sex during his active addiction other than the one time.
Mason Wyler did not contract HIV from doing bareback porn. He did it by having bareback sex in his personal life just as did I. He did bareback porn after his diagnosis and did it with other positive performers. No one was forced into it. He did not spread the virus, and I will be willing to bet that he probably couldn’t have on his cocktail. It continues to piss me off the way he was condemned and reviled by arsehole like some who have commented here.
There are two types of bareback porn. There is the porn done by men who are negative and are tested to confirm it prior to having sex on camera. Then there is bareback porn that is done by men who either admit they are positive joined by others who are positive or by men who don’t care that their partners are positive.
You purport to dread a return to the bad days of the epidemic. Well, the fact is that we will not, and barring some complete breakdown of our society and civilisation, we cannot. In the bad days, it was a death sentence generally carried out within two or three years although some lasted much longer. Today, it is not the same as it was in 1980 through 1996. The meds are expensive without a doubt. Mine would cost nearly $5000 per month out-of-pocket. Very, very few Westerners have to pay anything close to that, now. Drug addicts are the ones who have the most problems due to bad mental and physical health stemming from drug abuse. For those of us who are on meds and have undetectable viral loads, the risk to another is only a tiny bit higher than if we were HIV-.
Another thing to keep in mind is that a person who is HIV+ is positive for antibodies to HIV not the virus itself. I am HIV+ and would test HIV+ on another test, but no one can find the virus because the particles are too rare to count even in my semen. Perhaps, you are aware that there is one person who appears to have been cured of HIV. It is a cure that is difficult to replicate because it requires a bone marrow transplant from someone who is immune and they are rather rare. That said, it means that the virus can be cured, and one day, a cure will be developed that will not be as difficult as the one produced so far.
Do any of you understand what I am telling you? This is not the plague years. I am no more likely to die of AIDS than I am anything else. There are some who appear not to tolerate HIV drugs well, but many of those individuals either need a more experienced doctor or a different cocktail or both.
Stop acting as if someone who has bareback sex is tantamount to a murderer. We are not. I have not had bareback sex with anyone since I was diagnosed who was not fully informed of my status. Once informed, it is largely that person’s responsibility to make a decision although if I suspect he is too inexperienced or ignorant to understand the implications of what I told him, I will steer him to something nonsexual and safe. That is the only exception I will make. If he chooses not to have sex with me and tells me in a respectful manner, I will not take offence and might seek to continue the conversation. If he reacts as if I have just invited him to join me to rape and to pillage a boys orphanage, I will probably be rude in response.
You are free to continue fearing and hating people who are HIV+, but that is a problem for you to resolve.
Jonathan
While I applaud Jack Ryan for getting his life together, and getting off drugs, I’m uncomfortable with the notion people are necessarily going to imitate what they see on the TV. People bareback for a lot of reasons that are much more significant than having seen a Treasure Island video. Either it’s because they have already seroconverted, and they judge that there is little additional risk for them to bareback, or because they have made a conscious decision to accept these risks, or sometimes because their judgement is impaired.
I think, in the context of the actual gay sexual landscape, it’s more realistic and more effective to talk about how we manage our risks, than to prescribe that everyone should live by a particular standard of sexual practice, but it’s not clear to me how to do this in porn. Unless a video were to depict serodiscordant partners negotiating safer sex, it wouldn’t be providing a realistic template for an actual sexual encounter. But who would watch such a thing anyway? I am not looking to porn for my role models.
As a negative guy, when a poz guy discloses to me, I find it really comforting to have that conversation. It wasn’t an easy conversation for me when I was younger, or with the first poz guy who disclosed to me, but I am really thankful for him and for the others who taught me how to discuss status and sexual health. They cared enough to not want to expose me, and it’s those guys who were my role models.
Mike
@jason: Wow Jason. Apparently the hypocrisy of calling people whores while ordering them not to judge you is lost on you
joe
HELLOOO JACK! its Patrick here, you and me and Jacques and Steve did the gay avn few years back in LA. i loved your article and so glad to hear you beat the demons! i had such a great time with you guys and will always remember how swell you were to me! i was such a HUGE porn star wanna be ! (still am!) take care …i’d love to chat sometime…and would love to have you respond here too! xxoo patrick [email protected]
Mykey
@Samuel: Is it only in the gay community where porn stars are role models? Barebacking or not is upon someone’s choice, trying to vilify it won’t help at all! Whether you watch bareback or “safe” porn doesn’t mean that it will help you make the choices based on weather they used a condom or not! This mentality of blaming everything on the media has to stop, it’s up to you!!!
Although not talked about as much, straight porn is mostly bareback porn and people in this day and age still act like it is just a gay disease, a gay problem!!!
musclemutt
@Adonis-of-Fire: Glad you told us Jack Ryan is ugly, because I’m feeling a little attraction based on the obvious integrity of his heartfelt amends for a big stupid mistake. Foolishly I’m thinking that’s a guy you could count yourself lucky to know.
Your cogent, well-spoken, and extremely relevant shade thrown on Jack Ryan clearly expresses your disgust at learning that sex appeal is more than just a pretty face, Adonis. What a blow to discover that people who attract others and make you feel close are often funny, upbeat, caring, giving, and exciting, but not necessarily rich, hung, or beautifully well made.
He BGB
What gets me is that right when they stick it in there is an edit and all of a sudden they have a condom on. Of course putting one on is going to have to be made sexy and trendy or it will never look cool.
RocketBear
@Rob Moore: Well said
frankcar1965
@Sam: You are seriously in need of HIV education. You can’t get reinfected, it is extremely rare only a few cases in Africa have been documented and that was a very unique situation. If you are talking about superinfection that has been ruled impossible, it has been speculated but never proven. And most people who are infected have different “strains” already.
I really get pissed when gay guys constantly breate each other about BB when we don’t see it with straight people. They are just as at risk as gays, but you don’t hear the nasty things like people are saying on here right now. Gays are their worst enemies, the self loathing is engrained by society. Remember your mother was a barebacker.