A woman in Cape Town, South Africa, attempted to sue her husband for R9million (approx. $600,000) after discovering he is gay. The pair had been married for just under six years when he came out to her.
Times Live reports the unnamed woman applied to the Cape Town High Court for R5million ($331,000) to compensate for her emotional pain and psychological trauma. She wanted a further R4million ($266,000) for loss of income and “financial prejudice.”
To back up her claim, her attorney, Fareed Moosa, submitted a 368-page Rule 43 application. This is a legal attempt to obtain money for maintenance ahead of a divorce settlement being agreed upon.
The lengthy document explained the husband’s coming out process, “in the finest and most intimate detail” according to judge Mark Sher – who no doubt had to read the entire 368 pages.
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It included reports of his private internet browsing history and private communications with others – including WhatsApp messages with a local priest.
The judge criticized the document, which he said had included everything but “the proverbial kitchen sink” and, in his eyes, constituted an abuse of process.
“The basis for the damages claim and the extraordinary sums which are sought … is that the [husband] is alleged to have ‘misrepresented’ to her, prior to their marriage, that he was a heterosexual male who wished to marry her so that they could have children in a heterosexual, monogamous marriage,” said judge Sher in his judgment on Wednesday.
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However, the judge was left unimpressed. Not only did he dismiss the case, but he ordered the woman’s attorney to forfeit his fees and pay the husband’s costs.
He blasted the attorney for including so much personal information in the application.
“Publication of this material could be said to constitute an unjustified breach of [the husband’s] right to privacy, if not that of [the wife] herself … All of this material is clearly devoid of relevance.”
The attorney, Moosa, says he is applying for leave to appeal the judgment.
Matthewnow
Who got the shoes?
Diplomat-G
Why did you see a pair you liked on ebay?
wellinmysoul
I smell a book deal coming
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Obsessive bitch sought to get her “revenge” in court Instead she got bitch slapped by the Judge
JaredMacBride
She turned him gay – next case.
winemaker
My partner’s an attorney and when we read this article we couldn’t stop laughing. Bottom, line, this bitch hasn’t got a case, period. She made the mistake of marrying a gay guy. Move on, get a divorce and find a straight guy and make sure he’s straight before tying the knot. She’s suing for so called ’emotional duress’ , wow is she in for a rude surprise here, this isn’t compensable in a case like this. if the judge grants her claim, he or she needs to be removed from the bench, period. Ridiculous.
Donston
If she genuinely didn’t know and is heartbroken you have to feel for her. It is someone’s responsibility to let a partner know what’s up. Therefore, if ambitions change or folks get exposed there won’t be so much shock and devastation, and people won’t feel “tricked”. If he knew that he was homosexual or had overall homo-leaning romantic, sexual, emotional, relationship passions and contentment when he married her then that’s bad on him. I don’t know about getting over a half million dollars though.
BillyElliotwannabe
Many gay men marry a woman in the genuine and yet deluded notion that it will fix them.
While I realise that this is traumatising to the unsuspecting wife, it is no less horrible for the husband who realise he is in a loveless marriage and that it didn’t work out as he thought it would.
We do not know the pressures brought to bear on the man to get married by family or the community.
Wicked Dickie
I highly doubt the couple are the same race as the ones in the model photo, lol.
controversial2019
Why?
There are plenty of white individuals in South Africa and nothing about the article hints at a race…
mountainmaat
That’s clearly a stock photo people.
loren_1955
Sometimes there are forces in our lives that tell us to lie. Case in point…too many years ago I knew I had feelings for men. At the same time I was engaged to a woman. Going to the local Mormon Bishop I was counseled to proceed with marriage and never tell the wife about it. By doing so, those feelings would go away. Yea, right?!?!?!? Ultimately I entered into marriage as a lie and deception. Not a basis for a good relationship.
Kangol2
But you were brainwashed by religion into believing that bishop, who clearly had no clue about human sexuality based on science or psychology. So you get a pass, like most people under the spell of religion.
Christopher
There must have been clues from husband that he wasn’t into women but she just didn’t want to accept it. He was probably lousy sex and not affectionate towards her. She should be happy to find out now and not after a long marriage that included children. She is dreaming to think that she is entitled to a half a million dollars. She should be glad to learn about him now and not after a long marriage. Good for him to come out now so they can both get on with their lives.
iron
Gold digger
batesmotel
Most of the similar stories I’ve heard about these situations the wife is supportive and understands. Usually had suspected as well. This woman sounds like a witch. My favorite part of this story is the stock photo used with the bad acting. Her ragging on him and him being annoyed. I doubt the real situation was that playful.
GayEGO
Well! It is that purple sweater she is wearing that turned him gay! Harumph! :>)
This is as good of an excuse as any, she just wants money!
richard 14
Is he possibly bi but calls himself gay to rationalize his turning away from her?
Donston
It’s virtually impossible to know this stuff. We don’t know this couple. We barely get any info from the article. Yes, there are still people who are entirely homosexual in every way but end up marrying their opposite cis gender for whatever reasons. We don’t know if religion played into things (signs point to “yes” considering his communications with a priest). Fluidity is a thing. So, there’s a chance he was more into women/less into men when he started dating her. And even if he is inherently bi, many people don’t equate “gay” to homosexual but see it as more about overall preferences, passions, romantic love, emotional fulfillment and relationship contentment. “Gay” is an identity and has always been up to individual interpretation. We simply can’t pinpoint his dimensions, sense of self, journey or motivations based off the info we’re given. We do know that he likely kept some very important things about himself from her and only was willing to be honest when he wanted to leave.