I can’t remember the last time I read Dear Abby, besides about six months ago at my mom’s cardiologist’s office, and I can’t even remember what the matter was about. But this, ahem, Dear Amy caught my eye because, well: cheating husband and father, who’s cheating with the husband of his wife’s good friend. Now this is my kind of advice column!
After 20 years of marriage and three children, it turns out that my alcoholic husband is gay. He has been with literally dozens of men over the course of two decades. In the meantime, I have been a dutiful wife and good mother who never saw it coming. I have divorced this man, and I am picking up the pieces of my shattered life. My oldest child (18) knows the truth; the two younger ones, ages 9 and 12 do not. Currently my “ex” is sleeping with a married man who also has children. The wife of the man he is involved with is a close friend of mine. Should I tell her? Also, when, if ever, should I tell my younger kids the truth about their dad? He will not tell them, and so I have to decide what to do.
So what advice does Amy have? Tell the friend. Then go get tested for STDs. Well, the response is a bit lengthier than that, but it does include the suggestion the woman “should disclose [to her kids] their dad’s sexuality when you think they’re old enough to understand it. They may hear about this and figure it out, so it’s best if you truthfully answer all of their questions and then do your best to be honest, calm and reasonable when you are with them.”
Hmmm, I dunno. What should Kelly Preston do?