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WATCH: Challenge What You Think You Know About Tops Vs. Bottoms

Behold the trailer for Squared, a short film by Hieu Tran that was inspired by racism and sexism and … er … would “positionism” be the right word?

The premise is simple enough: “A one night stand gets competitive when two guys find out they are both tops.” Okay! That is some Game-of-Thones-level conflict right there.

But from there, the issues get more complex. One of the boys, played by Ethan Le Phong, is Asian, and is the victim of some unfair assumptions. (“What kind of top is ‘cuteaznboi?'” demands the other.)

“From my dating experiences, I was bothered when guys called me their ‘Geisha’ and other derogatory terms,” writes Tran about his inspiration. (Oh God no, who does that?) “I also often hear people ask gay couples, ‘Who’s the woman in the relationship?’ and point to the Asian guy. Society often objectifies Asians, especially gay Asians, and view them as submissive, feminine, and passive.”

Well, clearly society hasn’t met Noodles and Beef. But setting that aside, this certainly seems like a valuable line in inquiry. How much of your identity is tied up in, well, getting tied up? Is sucking necessarily a bottoms-only act? Can you be a receptive partner and still be a top? Can’t submission be an act of power in itself? Leave your answers in the comments, and remember, penmanship counts.

Squared is currently flirting with some LGBT film festivals, so you may catch it in one of those. Or you can act it out yourself by popping on to Grindr and calling the first Asian you see your “Geisha.” (No do not do that.)

By:           matt baume
On:           Nov 12, 2013
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  • 16 Comments
    • MikeE
      MikeE

      any guy who gives himself the sobriquet “-boi” should automatically assume that other guys are going to see him as a bottom.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 3:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • dvlaries
      dvlaries

      I guess I’m a militant versatile: all of me for all of you, or don’t demand my loyalty, because I am gonna get somewhere else anything you’re refusing.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 4:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Charles175
      Charles175

      @dvlaries: I agree. I had a person that had great interest in me. I let him top me three times. Because he was so determined to be rigidly a top, I determined him to be too selfish.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 6:26 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Fitz
      Fitz

      Anyone who is a decent Fbud, let alone partner, knows that it’d a dyad that has to be changeable. That being said, Mike is right. If you call yourself Boi, I’ll either leave or I will plow into you without bothering to get you ready.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 7:37 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • lovetennis
      lovetennis

      If, as I read on another site, this movie is about creating a long term relationship, then anyone who isn’t willing to give 100% of himself (and that goes for both) isn’t ready for a relationship of any kind. Building a relationship / life together means putting yourself in the other person’s position and if you can’t or won’t do that, don’t complain when the love of your life leaves you.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 7:42 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      Funny how some people think they deserve praise for being versatile, as if it makes them somehow better. By that logic bisexual people would be the best of all. Some people are just tops or just bottoms, and there’s nothing wrong with it.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 7:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      And a long term relationship between two tops or two bottoms is called sisterhood. Or lesbian bed death. :)

      Nov 12, 2013 at 7:53 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sportsguy1983
      sportsguy1983

      Um, who reads a profile/screenname that has the word “top” in it and doesn’t realize the guy is a top? Cute premise for a short, but you could have used a screenname NOT obviously for a top.

      Nov 12, 2013 at 8:28 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • MK Ultra
      MK Ultra

      I can’t believe I have to say this on a gay site, but
      Some men are pure bottoms and some are pure tops. Get over it!

      Nov 12, 2013 at 9:29 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • sourwolf
      sourwolf

      This looks rather silly. You don’t need to justify your preferences. I’m surprised the gay community needs to be educated on that.

      Nov 13, 2013 at 3:59 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • tdx3fan
      tdx3fan

      If this is typical of the “in crowd” in the gay world, this will be nothing more than a bunch of insults and stereotypes at the expense of bottoms so that tops can have a good laugh. I swear, bottoms really are TREATED like females in the gay world (assuming females are treated like crap by straight men, which is common).

      Nov 13, 2013 at 9:27 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ncman
      ncman

      Aren’t most gay men versatile anyway?

      Nov 13, 2013 at 10:50 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • ncman
      ncman

      isn’t it a small percentage of gay men who are total tops or total bottoms?

      Nov 13, 2013 at 10:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • viveutvivas
      viveutvivas

      Well, ncman, if you have to ask these questions here then you obviously haven’t yet done enough “research.” Go and get at it. :)

      Nov 13, 2013 at 12:44 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • bottom72
      bottom72

      Sweethearts relax the gay community is so wide and varied lets accept all. I happen to be effeminate and a bottom. I am your stereotypical gay person and unapologetic about it. Lets embrace the variety that is the gay community.

      Nov 16, 2013 at 8:12 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • athlete4gay
      athlete4gay

      The movie looks awful. Sorry, not sorry.

      Nov 19, 2013 at 3:06 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

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