“What we really have to do is stop the adjective before the job title—whether it’s ‘black actor,’ ‘gay actor’ or ‘anything actor,'” says Bomer. “Everybody thinks that equality comes from identifying people, and that’s not where equality comes from. Equality comes from treating everybody the same regardless of who they are. I hope the media catches on to that because it’s time to move out of 1992.”
Until February, when Bomer acknowledged his partner, Simon Halls, and their three children while accepting the Desert AIDS Project’s Steve Chase Humanitarian Award, his sexuality was the subject of much debate.
“I’d really especially like to thank my beautiful family: Simon, Kit, Walker, Henry,” Bomer said at the Palm Springs gala. Thank you for teaching me what unconditional love is. You will always be my proudest accomplishment.”
That’s not exactly a “Yep, I’m Gay” announcement—and it was at a private event just captured on someone’s cell-phone.
Till recently, Bomer used the standard “my private life is private” stance that many closeted celebrities maintain before eventually coming out. “I never really endeavored to hide anything,” he says, “But there were times I chose not to relegate my history to the back page of a magazine, which to me is sort of akin to putting your biography on a bathroom wall.”
But just a moment later, Bomer underscored the importance of celebrities being open and honest about their sexuality: “I had somebody from the military approach me a few weeks ago just saying how this helps people, affects people,” he said. “It brought me to tears.”
So sharing your personal life is like scrawling your name above a glory hole—until it helps save someone’s life?
Did we mention Bomer’s husband is a superstar publicist? Maybe that’s where he learned to talk out of both sides of his mouth.