If you’ve never had a crush on a guy who turned out to be straight, you’re a rare breed.
And it isn’t some wild phenomenon at play where gay guys are being intoxicated by straight dudes’ pheromones or anything, it’s just simple math.
Most men on this blue marble of ours self-identify as straight. It’s just bound to happen — in high school, college, even later (but really, get it together if it keeps happening post-college age).
Below, we hear from guys on Whisper who are wading waist-deep in a pool of unrequited love with a straight guy.
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PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
How is it substantially different from falling for *anybody* ( gay, bi or straight) who thinks you’re an old, imbecilic, ugly leaky receptacle of piss, shit and putrefaction..I’m sure my fellow commenters know exactly how that feels
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
…I don’t. But I’m just curios.
PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID
*curious
Paco
Nothing wrong with falling for a guy that just happens to be straight. The problem with it begins when you can’t acknowledge that he will never be into you and then become that creepy, emotional wreck of a person that can’t move on to other men that may be available. Seen it happen too many times and it is sad.
Tobi
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Yup, you’re definitely a curio. 😉
Josh447
It’s like when girls fall for gay guys, my unfated fate. It’s not good if I know about it, if I do I cut them loose. If I don’t it’s fine. If they can shift it’s cool then too.
It all mmakes sense. We’re going to fall for the gender were attracted to, gay or straight.
n900mixalot
@Paco: the worst part is when you decide to work on detaching yourself from the situation and they keep pulling you back in.
Tobi
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qGakV9vqnZQ
MikeE
@PRINCE OF SNARKNESS aka DIVKID: Bitter much?
DCguy
Another straight guy article? …..
AxelDC
The cure for an unrequited love is to fall for someone who loves you back. Go date gay guys and eventually you’ll find a real relationship.
AxelDC
@Tobi:
This is a a great insight into a serial killer’s mindset.
jdboston617
What’s the point of this?
winemaker
WOW, THIS ARTICLE DESCRIBES MY SITUATION A BIT. ABOUT 15 MONTHS AGO, I MET A TRAINER AT MY GYM AND I CASUALLY ASKED HIM FOR A BIT OF ADVICE, AND IT TURNS OUT WE’VE A FEW THINGS IN COMMON. AT THE TIME, I WAS LOOKING TO GET A PERSONAL TRAINER AND I’M STILL IN THE PROCESS OF GETTING A FEW THINGS TAKEN CARE OF BEFORE I MAKE THIS COMMITMENT. I WANT HIM AS MY TRAINER, WHAT AN AWESOME PERSONALITY! I LIVE IN SAN FRANCISCO AND THIS IS A GAY – LESBIAN GYM. HE TOLD ME HE’S STRAIGHT, I JOKINGLY MENTIONED THAT THIS IS A GAY GYM AND YOU’RE NOT GOING TO MEET A NICE STRAIGHT GIRL IN THIS ATMOSPHERE. IT TURNS OUT, I’VE GOTTEN TO LIKE HIM A LOT. HE’S NICE LOOKING, SMART, FUNNY, HAS TIME TO TALK TO ME AND HAS A FANTASTIC PERSONALITY TO BOOT! I’VE BEEN IN SAN FRANCISCO FOR YEARS AND ‘AM TIRED OF STUCK UP, RUDE AND ARROGANT MEN THAT GIVE OUT ATTITUDE AND TREAT EACH OTHER DISRESPECTFULLY, EG, DRAMA QUEENS. SEVERAL MONTHS AGO, HE MET A GORGEOUS GIRL AND THEY HAVE BEEN TOGETHER EVER SINCE. WHENEVER I’M AT THE GYM, HE HAS TIME TO TALK TO ME, GEE, WHY CAN’T MORE MEN BE NICE AND MORE OPEN INSTEAD OF STUCK UP AND ALOOF? HE KNOWS I’M GAY AND DOESN’T HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THIS AS HIS TRAINEES ARE GAY. AFTER MANY MONTHS OF TALKING, I TOLD HIM “HE’S ONE OF THE BEST THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED TO ME IN A LONG TIME”. I’M IN THE FINAL STAGES OF RECOVERING FROM BACK SURGERY AND LAST YEAR, I RETURNED TO THE GYM AFTER A 2 1/2 YEAR ABSENCE DUE TO POST SURGICAL RECOVERY AND I NEED TO TUNE UP THE BOD, AS OVER MANY YEARS, I’VE LOST ALMOST 200 LBS. I ALSO SAID THAT I RESPECT THE FACT HE’S STRAIGHT AND WON’T CROSS THAT LINE. WE’RE ADULTS AND REAL ADULTS KNOW LIMITS AND DON’T CROSS THE LINE. HE RECENTLY TURNED 25 AND WHEN I TOLD HIM I’M OVER 55 , HE SAID I WAS IN GREAT SHAPE, AND I DID’NT NEED A LOT OF WORK, WE THEN HUGGED, AND HAD A LAUGH. I’M VERY CLOSE TO HIM, AND APPRECIATE HIM VERY MUCH. I’M SURE I’M NOT THE ONLY GAY MAN THAT THIS HAS HAPPENED TO AND THIS WILL HAPPEN TO MANY GAY MEN IN THE FUTURE. JUST THOUGHT I’D GET THIS OFF MY CHEST.
robho3
OMG are you kidding me with this crap?
LuckyAlex
Falling for straight guys is story of my life…it’s sick and I am sick. It’s about wanting things you can’t have…and at a deeper level it helps me avoid dealing with my sexuality and any serious relationship. This has left my heart very lonely.
The worst part is I have been used and abused by several of these straight guys. They see the vulnerability in me and can’t help taking advantage of me. And when they do, I fall out of love with them and move away. As we are speaking this is happening to me.
equalityboy81
There have been straight women who have fallen for gay men so it’s not unusual or anything to be ashamed of. People just have to keep in mind that unless the person they love is on a bisexual spectrum there is not chance that their feelings will be returned. A straight woman cannot make a gay man turn straight or bi nor can a gay man turn a straight man gay or bi.
The comments in the memes in the article appear to expressions by individuals who are victims of unrequited love. Unrequited love can be hard but at least they haven’t lost anything because they never gained anything nor had that love returned. This is my opinion of course, but I truly feel that being a victim of unrequited love is preferable to becoming a victim of something that BECOMES unrequited love. It’s much, much harder being an estrangee and to deal with the loss of love/attraction that was once requited/reciprocated but becomes unrequited or that person hates you or holds a grudge. At least with unrequited love it is not truly a loss when it is something you never had to begin with. Losing something you once had and will never regain is much harder.
Masc Pride
The overwhelming majority of men identify as heterosexual, so obviously gay guys (even the super militant “heteros are all that’s wrong with the world” types) will be occasionally attracted to straight men.
@Paco: Totally agree it’s important to not invest too much into these hetero crushes, but that can be really hard at times. It’s also really easy to idealize what can never have. Like once you know he’s something you can’t have, he somehow becomes the perfect man (in your mind). lol