FINDERS & PEEPERS — Boys Cuddling is a tumblr devoted to pictures of boys cuddling. It is adorbs-ville and you will feel inclined to submit a picture because– OMG, did you see this one??
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fredo777
love stuff like this. very much into male intimacy that isn’t necessarily sexual.
Joe
Most humans are tactile creatures. We crave contact with other living things…mainly other humans. It’s natural to want to sleep together like this. Brings us back to something primal when we used to roam in packs and sleep tight together for safety and security. Sleeping together, or cuddling, is natural…society makes it seem gay if it’s two men.
Fitz
SO reminds me of college. Those were great times, where straight and gay men really enjoyed the intimacy of an afternoon nap together without the expectation of sex.
delurker again
Cuddling always leads to humping with me. I don’t believe this platonic bullshit about it.
fredo777
@delurker again: Well, that’s kind of sad.
delurker again
@fredo777: wtf? what’s so sad about it? the only time i’ve cuddled like those two in the second pic is after i came.
jason
I think it’s great that men can be physical and cuddly with each other without it leading to sex. Women have been allowed this privilege for years, so I don’t see why men can’t. Does anyone think that women will now be jealous?
I say this because I’ve maintained for a while now that women are secretly jealous of male-male intimacy because it diverts attention away from their female egos.
fredo777
@delurker again: It’s not sad that you like sex. More power to you. But it’s sad to think that guys can’t have a close moment like sleeping near each other without it needing to lead to sex. That said, I don’t think any straight/platonic friends would be intertwined like the two in the latter photo. That’s a bit much.
layla
Actually Jason, sorry to interrupt your misogyny, but most women I know love to see men being affectionate with each other. We think it’s adorable and endearing, and we wish men were more affectionate in general. Yes, even us lesbians.
This is because women, and some enlightened men, know that affection is healthy and incredibly vital for the mind, body and soul. And it is a truly sad state of affairs that society has conditioned boys to believe that it is somehow a detractor from their manhood.
I also don’t buy into the bullshit that men are inherently different from women in regards to emotion and affection. The sad truth is boys have been lied to and society pushes them through these filters again and again, to weed out all that is considered “weak” (to express deep emotion, to weep freely, to to live outside the norms of socially constructed masculinity) It’s damage that we must work hard as hell to reverse, and which we must figure out how to stop in it’s tracks from the outset.
I read a study recently which stated that when studying the actual brain patterns of men, they found men had just as strong emotional responses to situations and events as women, but within 2.5 seconds, their faces hide their emotions and they put on a mask. I think this is heart-breaking, I truly do. That men feel they must hide what they feel because of how they fear society may perceive them. Don’t accuse women of being a negative force on this issue, because one of the most important things feminism did, was push issues like this, and other gender issues into the mainstream.
As an aside, I have an avid interest in primatology and primatologists observing groups of apes have noted that some groups of great ape who live in societal structures that promote affection and love/sex as a way to dissolve conflict live in a very peaceful existence, and are less prone to violence as a whole. (I am of course talking about the Bonobos, who incidentally also like to engage in a lot of homosex)
I think affection is vital to our evolution from a species most prone to self-destruction, to one living in the type of society many of us only dreamed possible.
hf2hvit
I always thought it would be really neat if people did this like my cats…
jason
Layla,
My view is that the female ego likes to distinguish itself from males. This is evident in the fact that women’s level of dress modesty is often quite different from a man’s. Consider the often-seen scenario where a woman dresses in a mini-skirt and low top while her boyfriend dresses conservatively. This scenario is quite common.
You also see it in the bisexual double standard wherein women exploit the “bi women are hot” notion for their own personal benefit.
There’s also the other scenario where you see one male-female couple farewelling another male-female couple. The women will hug and kiss on the cheek but the men will usually exchange merely a stiff hand-shake.
Women exploit double standards. This can’t be denied.
Ogre Magi
So are these guy straight?
Michael
Hi guys! Admin of Boys Cuddling here. I started it when I realized that all the tumblrs were either naked guys or just dicks, and guys cuddling are adorable!
I’m really glad that everyone’s been such a fan of it so far!
If you want to share your pics, just click my website URL or email me at [email protected] and I’ll put them into the queue; I think I have it set to post four new pics a day. Still new to this.
Thanks Queerty! đ
jeffree
Cuddle versus touch: Some gay men are now afraid to hug straight men here in the US. myself included.
My str8 male relatives/friends here hug me & I get all awkward.
I don’t know how long 2 hug or whether that hug is waist up or not, just arms or how close we should be be. I’m afraid to cross some boundry w/ them. They’re confident in their straightness & not afraid of me & my gayness, so why the HEcK am I afraid to return some brotherly nonsexual affection ??
They laugh @ me: “i won’t turn u str8, promise ! ”
When I spent my summer in Italy, my str8 male distant relatives had no problem with physical contact: we hugged, we sat side by side @ the cinema, we sat thigh 2 thigh on trains running from city to city.
If I’m in the US & seated @ a small table with str8 guy cousins, & if our knees actually *touch* by accident, then that is immediatly apologized for. With the dutch & italian friends /relatives, nothing is said because nothing needs tp be said.
when will we realize here that a man who hugs another guy isn’t trying to “do” him necessarilly?
jason
Jeffree,
Have you ever considered that perhaps the gay male mindset is at fault? I mean, it seems to me that gay men base their lives on a sex act. Is it fair for me to compare the awkwardness you suggested to straight guys who visit titty bars every weekend and then have problems hugging women? Their mindset is so fixated on sex, it rarely deviates from it, and hence affects their functioning.
Do you think I’m correct or wrong in this comparison? I’m not being nasty here, I’m simply suggesting that a mind that is fixated on sex often has problems functioning outside of this narrow focus. It applies to anyone and everyone who bases their life on a very narrow paradigm.
I’m of the view that the gay male community has taken a disastrous turn in its social development, and has become a sex scene rather than an integrated part of society. It’s both a physical (as in segregated ghettos) and conceptual (as in over-zealous adherence to “pride” and “vanity” notions) problem. There is so much vanity on the gay male scene, it’s quite concerning.
Anyway, I appreciate your comments about your experiences. They’re very interesting and refreshingly honest.
nikko
I highly value male nonsexual and sexual affection-just beautiful and necessary. I agree with JASON that gay too often sexualizes everything, causing emptiness and despair in one’s inner life rather than love and joy. Porn both straight and gay, reflects this.
Marcus
Most adorable thing I’ve seen all night. Classic.
Samwise
Awwwww! I am so bookmarking this. “Adorable” doesn’t even BEGIN to cover it.
MuscleBoy
I just want to have sex man! wtf is all this other crap?
Austin77
I’ve got a couple straight guy friends who are pretty comfortable getting touchy. I have to admit that, after years (decades?) of having to be “careful” around straight guys who weren’t really comfortable with affection, it’s taken me a while to be able to relax around them and reciprocate. It has nothing to do with sexual obsession and everything to do with conditioned response.
I love this tumblr, though. Bookmarked it, and I’ll definitely check it regularly. It’d be nice to have someone to get photographed cuddling with, but alas… *sigh*
Henry Holland
Those pictures kind of make me sad. I love cuddling but as soon as I fall asleep, I toss and turn constantly. My last boyfriend and I had a huge bed and I’d have to sleep on one side and him on the other so I didn’t accidentally hit him during the night. đ
Peter
@fredo777:
“…not sexual” ????? Wrong. At this age, it’s ALL sexual. They just aren’t doing it here at the party.
ossurworld
Once upon a time, this was foreplay.
David
1976- I was a cop in the USAF. First job was at Lackland AFB where I directed traffic at the main gate (awful job). But also went on patrol answering calls on base.
One thing I noticed was all the Iranians (before the Shah was overthrown) who were on base for flying instruction were very intimate. Was called to answer a number of complaints in the Iranian housing section, and was surprised to see how frequently the beds were all pushed together in their dorms (almost all of ’em). More often than not, you’d see the Iranian guys walking hand-in-hand on base.
We-the new recruits- were told not to hassle the hand-holding Iranians because it was just a cultural thing, and didn’t necessarily mean they were gay.
So, I’m guessing from the prevalance of male-male closeness among those guys, that they have a much greater freedom for male-male intimacy in their culture than we do in ours. But then again, they still enforce the death penalty for gay sex.
It’s an odd planet that we’re on.