American Idiot

“Ex-Gay Bisexual” Robert Oscar Lopez Thinks Gay Surrogacy Is Just Like Slavery


Queerty’s favorite “ex-gay bisexual” Robert Oscar Lopez is being awful again, this time comparing the practice of same-sex parents who choose to use surrogates to slavery.


Lopez was raised by a lesbian mother and has openly called the process “child abuse.” When he’s not self-publishing gay novels, he’s railing against any and all things to do with gay parenting at every turn, and has even previously compared gay parents to human traffickers.

In his new piece for American Thinker, Lopez outdoes himself and goes full-on cray cray, cherry-picking from a documentary about surrogates called Breeders and using his “points” to compare the practice of surrogacy to slavery.

After he focuses strictly on the legalities of surrogacy and depicts both straight and gay couples alike as child-hungry monsters who seek to do nothing more than purchase children from their birth mothers, he twists even that into a metaphor for slavery that is as shocking as it is wrong.

But we have to take surrogacy seriously, because this could escalate into what we saw between the 1400s and 1800s.  Human beings have blind spots.  Systems that begin on a small scale have a habit of growing rapidly, turning far more monstrous than people would have predicted, and then becoming world-historical atrocities solvable only by traumas like the American Civil War. The Guardian reported in 2012 that over a period of 35 years, 5 million children were born through in vitro technology.  Hence, we are outpacing the African slave trade in terms of how many children are being brought into the world under the oppressive aegis of a contract – bought and sold.

Well, just, no.

We won’t even go into how dreadful or offensive or just plain wrong this is, but it’s a slap in the face to all the LGBT people out there that have to face discrimination and hateful crap like this just to be parents. If you haven’t eaten recently, feel free to read the piece in its entirety.

Spoiler alert: it’s all atrocious.

We suggest that Lopez gives up writing for American Thinker and writes another “terrible” and “improbable” gay novel.

He seems equally talented at both.

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  • Dakotahgeo

    Lo Piss Lopez = Idiot!

  • Cam

    Funny how he only centers on the “Lesbian” aspect of his childhood.

    Somebody in his state of hatred could also make up a ridiculous claim that his childhood was horrible because his mother was Latino, or Single, or a blonde etc…

    The fact is, the guy is just another in a long line of sad fools who think that the rest of us should have to deal with his baggage.

  • redcarpet

    Hot messes don’t talk so STFU Robert.

  • viveutvivas

    Surrogacy is not slavery. However, let’s not pretend that surrogacy isn’t ethically very questionable. Women who often have few other options for making much of a living being used as incubators by rich people to make little mini-mes, when there are other options like adoption? You would have to be blind not to see the problems with this.

  • Cam


    Then again if you look at it that way any employment is ethically very questionable.

    People who have few other options taking a job doing (Insert demeaning job) for the rich executives etc…..

  • Kangol

    This creature is so conflicted he doesn’t know what to do with himself. Homophobia and self-loathing are slowly filling him like radioactive gas.

  • Elloreigh

    What the heck is an “ex-gay bisexual”? Shouldn’t that just be an “ex-bisexual”? Either way, it’s still a lie.

  • passingthru

    Wow – that is interesting. Have you ever met someone who is/was a surrogate? I have known several and have had two kids through surrogacy. I can tell you that our surrogate actually has a very comfortable life. She said that she became a surrogate because she enjoys having children, enjoys bringing life into the world and loves to help other people. Also, I’m far from rich. As a matter of fact, she told me that if I wanted to have a third child, she would be happy to have another for no fee. I think that you might want to look deeper before making such harsh and misguided statements.

  • Bob LaBlah

    I do hope he gets help. He needs it badly. I hope he does not choose to medicate himself with drugs prescribed by the best drug dealer in town, his doctor. He has some serious talking to do with a professional and DOES NOT need to be put to sleep by so called “help” drugs (which sleep is all they are good for).

  • Tackle

    @viveutvivas: I think you are way off, and definately wronge. Many use surrogates because the female in the relationship is not able to carry the baby to full term. Not to mention a female in a relationship who just cannot conceive period. Or the gay couple, who may want a child to atleast be “part” biologically theirs.

  • Harley

    What is slavery is being gay but getting married to the opposite sex because it is what society expects from you, living a lie your entire life, having no fulfillment, and dying miserable and unfulfilled. That is slavery.

  • MK Ultra

    He looks like a mental patient, and that is just the first in a long line of things that discredit this fool.

  • jar

    @Cam: You gild the lily in your response. The ethical implications of surrogacy are better analogized to someone working in an unsafe environment because they have no other options (eg, asbestos removal without proper safeguards, not being paid for all time worked, being charged for work gear in excess of labor law allowances, etc.). Breeding and purchasing babies for profit does raise ethical concerns. It is illegal to charge a fee for surrogacy for this reason (I can attest it is illegal in my state at least). One can receive remuneration for expenses, medical care, etc., but not for the actual service being provided.

  • jar

    @Tackle: Although you are correct, that does not address the primary point that surrogacy raises ethical concerns, especially when there are children available for adoption.

  • JennyFromdabloc

    Obviously has self image issues. Poor guy.

  • passingthru

    @jar: Your analogies are WAY off. I’m pretty sure that you haven’t spent any time speaking with women who have been surrogates. It’s very easy to make assumptions and judgements. It takes more time and consideration to really look into truths and realities. Also, although there are children available for adoption, it isn’t always possible to adopt. We looked into adoption and for us in our state it was illegal. Even foreign adoption was very costly and difficult.

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