When the clock strikes midnight on New Year’s Eve, it’s never fun to be the guy awkwardly darting his eyes around the room in search of a smooch. It’s even less fun to get a “courtesy smooch” from a close friend after they plant a passionate kiss on their lover’s lips.
Finding dates is hard enough as it is, but NYE adds on extra pressure for single folk.
We teamed up with our friends at Compatible Partners to offer these tips:
1. Become the confident person you’d want to date
A whole new year quickly approaches. It’s a time to change, to grow, and to cast off fears. Get a head start on the new year by getting brave in December. Break out of your comfort zone by shaking things up. Sign up for a cooking class, get a new haircut — doesn’t have to be revolutionary. Confidence is an attractive quality in anyone, and even if you feel shaky, fake it ’til you make it. Life’s too short to play it safe, and guess what? Another year just went by in the blink of an eye and you aren’t getting any younger!
2. Review your online dating profiles
It’s super uncomfortable to look at your own profiles, but now’s a good time to revisit how you’re presenting yourself. Shuffle things up and write something that reflect the now you, not the then you. Also, updating your online profile photos will help you attract more matches. If you’ve had the same 5 selfies up for the last two years, it’s no wonder why you aren’t getting messages like you used to. Give your online dating presence a spruce-up and you might be surprised what happens.
3. Enlist the help of others
What if we were to tell you that there are people out there that know your strengths and have access to vast networks of other singles? They’re called your friends, and don’t be embarrassed to be set up by one of them. Your friends (hopefully) have your best interests at heart, so trust their judgment and take a chance on someone.
4. Focus on where you are, not where you want to be going
Ambition is great. It drives us to go after the things we want. Maybe you’re obsessed with getting that promotion soon, or perhaps you desperately think you need to drop 10 pounds. Don’t stop striving, but realize that dating is all about meeting someone on the ground you currently stand on. The more you realize you’re good enough just the way you are, the easier it will be for others to see it too.
5. Host your own party
This one is pure common sense. If you host your own New Year’s party, some extra attention will naturally be focused on you. It’s the perfect opportunity to invite over that guy you’ve been crushing on, and you’ll feel comfortable making the first move when you’re in your own house. An added bonus is that if you’re the one throwing the party, it’s basically fair game to kiss whoever you want at midnight.
@barbarara: Who’s Tammy?
With never ending social anxiety and depression, who knows if that could ever happen.
So… you need to “realize you’re good enough just the way you are,” but at the same time you need to “fake” being confident.
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