Robert Brown III married Nathanael Gay, a member of the traditionally African-American fraternity Kappa Alpha Psi, on September 8th in Lexington, KY. Their wedding video has gone viral with over 340,000 views on YouTube and more than 1,400 comments, congratulating…and criticizing the couple on their nuptials.
One particularly bitter user wrote, “If you’re gay, then do you… But please!!!! Leave Kappa Alpha Psi out of your bullshit!” to which Brown responded:
would you leave your fraternity out of your wedding? why would you expect my husband to exclude his? in any case, we didn’t bring KAPsi into our wedding. to suggest that i would plan my wedding around a fraternity is insulting. he simply posed for a picture with his sands at the reception. i’ve seen that done at strip clubs, parties, everywhere. not sure why it’s a problem in this case. get over yourself.
Here’s to the light of love cutting through the shade from all the haters.
Fidelio
Beautiful video capturing beautiful ceremony. Have to say kinda got verklempt. Mazel!
niles
So that’s the real reason hets are against gay marriage: their gaudy and vulgar weddings will be put to shame by exquisite and loving spectacles such as this.
sfbeast
ok, that made me cry. how beautiful. congrats to the happy couple. great vid, love the bridesmaids, oops, groomsmaids, and the dogs in tuxes, and the great table, and everything. and this from a confirmed bachelor.
KDub
Awwww! Wish them the best.
Mjl-428
I hope their marriage lasts forever.
Cam
Thank you for posting this and crongratulations to this couple!!!
iBLOW
I heard the Guy is doing it to get famous he sent the video to Oprah TMZ and the View and Anderson Cooper
Jake the libertarian
That’s great to see. With the extra hostility toward gays present with African Americans in our country, it is extra inspiring to see a beautiful black couple getting married among supportive friends and family! Good luck guys!
Black Pegasus
Mmmm so Queerty finally recognizes what the rest of the world has been talking for weeks.
You only posted this because you were criticized for ignoring it…And the write up is a copy and paste job…
FAIL
Eban
@Jake the libertarian: “With the extra hostility toward gays present with African Americans in our country…” Can you please cite where you are getting this information from?
James from chicago
I love this video.
KARUADAM
Ho baby! that is, just to good to be tru!. Good for you guys you really make my day love you from me AdamHomo and my six children.
Jake the libertarian
@Jake the libertarian: oh come on…. You and I both know that the black church and many African Americans have been slower to accept gays than other segments of our population. Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, the NAACP, and tons of other civil rights groups openly objected to gay rights even being called civil rights for many years. It has only been since Obama has been such a supporter of gay rights that African American groups have really gotten on board. I’m really not trying to criticize this though. I think this is an example of how WE are progressing. It’s a good thing…, but don’t lie and say that black culture in the US has been a supporter of gays…. It very simply has not. Google any civil rights leader plus the term “gay rights” and you will see it first hand. Almost no quotes exist prior to 2010 of a black leader supporting gay rights.
Jake the libertarian
Above comment was for @Eban:
Eban
@Jake the libertarian: I did a lil Google search and found this: “Sharpton is a supporter of equal rights for gays and lesbians, including same-sex marriage. During his presidential campaign in 2003, Sharpton said he thought it was insulting to be asked to discuss the issue of gay marriage. “It’s like asking do I support black marriage or white marriage…. The inference of the question is that gays are not like other human beings.” That’s from his Wikipedia page and wayyyyy before 2010. Cite sourcing and fact checking can really help you break down these ridiculous stereotypes that you hold against others.
You still do not point out how African Americans have “extra hostility” as opposed to the regular hostility that GLBTs face from society in general. According to the 2010 Hate Crimes Statistics found on the FBI website (another source cited) over 2000 hate crimes committed against Black people in 2009 alone. Gay men only accounted for a little over 500 incidents. It also said that the majority of people who commit hate crimes were white males. Very interesting because it seems like the “extra hostility” is coming from another direction.
northwest
Beautiful! The love and support in this video for the happy couple is palpable – I hope they have a long and happy life together.
erics
@Jake the libertarian: In addition to what Eban said, during Jesse Jackson’s campaign for the 1984 and 1988 Democratic nominations for president, his “Rainbow Coalition” explicitly included LGBT folks. Coretta Scott King, in 1998, called on civil rights organizations to denounce homophobia, saying, “Homophobia is like racism and anti-Semitism and other forms of bigotry in that it seeks to dehumanize a large group of people, to deny their humanity, their dignity and personhood.”
Your rhetoric and complete lack of facts tells me you have no interest in supporting queer black folks in their struggle for acceptance in their communities. Instead, you’re just interested in using their situations to buttress your own racism.
Jake the libertarian
: look asshole, I’m not going to get backed into a racist argument with an over sensitive black guy who can’t take accurate criticism. I think this is a WONDERFUL video that shows two people in love making a commitment to each other. I simply pointed out that its great to see that couple and their supportive family be of color…. It’s has been a little rare….. The fact that this video went viral in the first place is evidence of that……. For fuck sakes, even the writer of the article pointed out the crap the couple has gotten from their traditionally black fraternity. So find someone else to call a racist, I’m not one.
alterego1980
@Eban: You can cite the Jesse Jackson’s and the Scott King’s and you are right about them. But do not sweep the homophobia of the African American Community under the rug. Jake is right in that many religious leaders in the black community are anti marriage equality. Look at the bottom of the page on this very website to get some names of influential leaders against gay marriage.
The Christian Post published an article yesterday detailing how black faith leaders are launching an anti-Obama, campaign to get 25 percent of blacks to not vote for him on account of his stance on gay marriage. These are not just perceptions of one person. these are truths and you would do well not to ignore them. Many in the black community are coming around on this but many more are not and still are culturally conservative.
And by the way, your hate crime stats are a sign of your ignorance. Even if those numbers are true, that would be approx 25 percent of hate crimes are gay related. Gays are only approx 10-12 percent of the population. also, many gay hate crimes go unreported. You have a lot more research to do before convincing me.
But overall, don’t ignore the gay prejudice in the non-white populations. The same problems exist with latino’s and asians.
alterego1980
@Jake the libertarian: I understand what you’re saying and your point is right on. As culturally conservative as many in the african american community are, it’s amazing what President Obama has done for gay marriage in just six months. He is a true leader. Not to take anything away from others who have supported the gays, but they never had the same impact as he has. Though there is still a long way to go on all fronts
Jake the libertarian
Thanks. I’ve responded twice but the moderators apparently need to approve my self defense. All I’m saying is that it’s good to see a beautiful couple, in love, with a supportive group of black friends and family…. It’s a good thing. But we’ll see if the moderators have the honesty to approve my earlier comment and post it.
Papi Balenciaga
@alterego1980: Many religious leaders are anti- gay marriage not just the BLACK ones. Yes there are some in the black community who are homophobic but you can say that about any community, not just the black one. If black homohobia was wiped out today LGBT people would still face the same discrimination we faced yesterday because FOF, NOM, or Westboro baptist Church ARE NOT exclusively black.. Just sayin.
Eban
@Papi Balenciaga: A to the Men! The discrimination runs to the very foundation of America. Look at who makes up these laws, what skin color and gender are the majority of them?
@alterego1980: Maybe you should do your own research. please visit the fbi website and stats on hate crimes. thats fbi.gov honey. i never said that there isn’t homophobia in the black community. i was commenting about where is the information on this “extra hostility” coming from in the black community. and oh yeah, religious leaders do NOT speak for everyone in the Black community. You have to remember that we are as diverse as any other community in the world
Ed
Love this – looks like a fun time was had by all 🙂
Sebizzar
This is so touching to see :’) I don’t wana make this about race but I think we all know it’s especially tough for black gay men to be out and about with their sexuality, so watching a black gay male couple getting married with family, children, friends, and relatives around being all happy and supportive, is truly amazing!
Stefano Gant
Libin Mao. Did u attend this wedding ?
Bill Crossfield
wow what a great looking couple all the best 🙂
Libin Mao
Lol. I did
Stan Wisilosky
Have a wonderful life you too! Enjoy your love!
Edgar Dominguez
So nice!!! Can’t wait for my wedding!
Russ Carpenter
Very nice !!
Bob Pattinson
Congratulations! I wish them a long and happy married life together.