After Susan Sarandon made a comment about her son Miles and gender norms at TrevorLIVE recently, the internet went nuts over the idea that he sometimes wears dresses.
His gender identity became a topic of conversation as people were apparently baffled that a man would ever slip into a dress unless he’s a drag queen or trans.
In a recent first-person reaction posted on HuffPo, Miles sets the record straight (so to speak), offering an evolved and forward-thinking take on the gender binary.
In short: we all need to chill out. But that’s hardly news.
Here are a few highlights:
On clothing choice:
I wear dresses to embrace femininity (adjective) but not to re-assign my gender to female (noun). I think that it is absurd to think that there is a rigidity to the identity of CIS and Heterosexual males and females — that for a man to wear a dress or for a woman to wear pants must mean that they are LGBTQ.
On identity vs. fluidity:
Isn’t it possible to distinguish between the adjectives of “feminine” and “masculine” and the nouns “female” and “male”? Is it not reasonable for a female to embrace masculinity (like female athletes) or for males to embrace femininity (like male jewelry designers)?
On living an authentic life:
I am not LGBTQ, but I do identify with the concept of allowing yourself to be interested in the things that you are interested in, despite what the external influence of the world around you encourages you to pursue.
We say yes to the dress, or whatever else anyone feels like draping over themselves.